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 Vale-Of-Tears
Joined: 8/1/2005
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Being 7 months pregnant ya'll scare the crap outta me! I've had some bad things happen to me but from what all the ladies are saying its almost unbearable! I might take drugs after all for the labor! - but men handling it ... yeah i believe they could ... ask me again in a few months

**for those that actually looked at my profile (if you are this type) to save you from posting "your too young" and yadda yadda I know this! I know im too young. That is where the whole You play You Pay phrase comes in. I dont believe in abortion and im not going to give it up to someone and worry about him for the rest of his life so I chose to keep him young or not hes my responsibility - and putting it nicely for those that have to read this that arent the type to fuss about "young kids having kids" - I chose to give up my "partying years" for this baby and I refuse to let it grow up and be anything like me. Okay im done ranting lol

 campgurl
Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 6/11/2006 8:08:55 AM
Vale of tears Congrats gurl and good for you! And it's a doable pain since you know millions have done it before you and will follow you. Enjoy your pregnancy and the naps right now cause you will need them! It's truly a miracle and you are blessed to become a mom! Best of luck and practice your kegals it does help!
 MelissaMelissa
Joined: 4/2/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 6/11/2006 11:27:09 AM
This is a ridiculous thread. When will people learn that gender has nothing to do with personal ability. Some people are more able and some less. In this case, I'd say absolutely... if they had to do it they could.
 missmom781
Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 6/11/2006 3:10:23 PM
if a mans body was designed to have a baby then yes he can handle it. Just as well as any woman could. Shoot from what I have read and seen most women get epidurals which leaves them feeling fine and dandy anyway, so no doubt a man could do it too.
 misskittee
Joined: 8/26/2005
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Posted: 6/14/2006 1:16:39 AM
There are a lot of jokes and not-so joking lines that people say "if men had to give birth...." The truth is...Men and women are built differently. I don't mean just the physical ability to have a child (uterus etc). Pain thresholds are different, tolerances are different and the mental "off switch" that makes us forget a traumatic even is a little different as well. In my opinion? Sure, if men were capable of giving birth they could do it. If someone just installed the equipment on a man without changing anything else? I don't think so. There are reasons why people are built the way they are my friends. Having had a baby (reallllllllly rough delivery) I can assure you...there are some very definite biological aids that are hard wired into a woman's body to make it easier. Vale of Tears, honey I hear you (I was barely 21 when my daughter was born) you can do this, and it's so worth it. If you need someone to talk to, go ahead and email me.
 jodie1985
Joined: 4/14/2006
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Posted: 6/14/2006 3:33:48 AM
i had a natural birth no drugs no oxygen nothing !!!!! that pain i wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy!!! but i lived if a man was created to give birth i think ya why wouldnt they handle it . it would be the same as women now some r sucks and go 4 the drugs others r troopers and take the pain like a champ it all depends on the person and their pain tolerance
 sirtigger35
Joined: 12/3/2004
Msg: 25
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Posted: 6/14/2006 4:08:29 PM
no we cant
and dont want to
you woman can have it
:D
 nashawn
Joined: 1/18/2006
Msg: 26
would men beable to handle haveing a baby
Posted: 6/14/2006 5:02:06 PM
I agree. I once had a kidney stone pass. painful.
 whodeletedme
Joined: 11/26/2005
Msg: 27
would men beable to handle haveing a baby
Posted: 6/14/2006 11:28:22 PM
OK I am going to go out on a limb here as a WOMAN and say that labour wasn't that bad,. geeeees,.. of course EVERYONE's pain threshold is different so NO ONE can tell someone else how much it will hurt or not nor what to expect. THANK GOD we instantly forget that pain and no matter what, we can't recreate it in our minds. ( labour, torture, amputations etc)

I have three sons,. last one in 16 minutes,.. sure that was a fast furious hairy ride but not nearly as bad as the longer labours ( ok still only 4 max for me) I think it is sheer exhaustion that makes it so much harder to handle. I had a gall bladder attack and a carefully located tattoo and HOLY HELL I'd have three more kids before ever going through THAT again.

Of course men would be able to handle having a baby IF that were the way it was supposed to be,... therefore THEY'D have the hooters and the big butts hahahaha gotta love wider hips for "birthing them babies"
 Crane Man
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 28
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Posted: 6/15/2006 3:06:16 PM
Nope I wouldn't be able to handle it. Us men have the easier end of the deal and I am happy with it.
 Bk2
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 6/15/2006 7:47:22 PM
misskittee is on the right track.......

Now men give your heads a big shake.....think....passing kidney stones.....vs passing a baby.....you definitely would not be a guy after that one.......remind me not to eat donuts at timmies.....author could write and strum an old painful country tune on his guitar with this one.....lol

Women I thank you -great job, believe me I have participated in an emergency c-section, natural births, and 36 hour hard labors....I have seen the dedication of one's body for a special life.....

Guys, don't try to take this away from the ladies....appreciate it.......when your walking down a busy street -look around yourself...what a woman had to go through....

Have fun with it.....be nice....

0:)

PS can feel the love in this thread....
 Flyers_Phan
Joined: 1/16/2005
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Posted: 6/15/2006 10:55:30 PM
I'm sure some men could handle it, just as some women can handle it, not all can. This higher pain threshold thing is nonesense, i see women freak out about getting a needle, just as I;ve seen some guys do the same. Everyone has their own pain tolerance level, mine is quite high, i can boast that i could probably very well handle having a kid, as stupid as it sounds. Sure a lot of guys get sick and act like babies, but so do a lot of women and its interesting that that example is always brought up. Stereotyping is so passe
 kingstecgirl73
Joined: 2/19/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 6/16/2006 3:53:04 AM
Never....they often say tattoos hurt.... Really??????no they dont they tickle...LOL......

Childbirth (without epidural) is exceptionally painful.....I have been thru this three times, and as I say when asked about the "pain" of tattoos I always say with honesty that if you have had kids it is painless.

Also there is the not commomly discussed exaustion and pain afterward combined with the 6 weeks of bleeding. No....most men would be unable to even begin to get thru that :)
 onlylivewunce
Joined: 6/12/2006
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Posted: 6/16/2006 7:25:27 PM
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO ...who knows...but gosh i would pay anything to see it!!!
 Rooster Cogburn
Joined: 9/25/2005
Msg: 33
would men beable to handle haveing a baby
Posted: 6/19/2006 3:31:34 PM
my tattoo's enver hurt..well ok one did..but it';s on my inner right bicep =)x all the other 8 tat's didn't hurt =)x ut yea I agree men could handle the pain of having a child.
 WigglesInMyKinkiBoots
Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 6/20/2006 12:24:21 AM
If a man could go through pregnancy and child birth I would hand him an award.
My first daughter was induced well should say all my children were. But My first being 18 and had no clue what to expect in the pain area was a dry delivery. No drugs and 7 hours of hard labour. Now My husband at the time thought he was being sweet. Opened his mouth as her head is stuck and not moving and the doctors are trying to figure out what to do.

He turns around in his naive way and says" If I could go through the pain for You Baby I would" He went through some pain alright. enough to cause him to wear an ice bag in his pants for 5 days.

My second one was called a shooter baby. She would crown and next contraction would shoot back up. I swear they just knew what they were going to have to battle when they came out. 21 hours of hard induced labour drug free. And some very scared nurses when they heard Me screaming since I went in had My second daughter all alone. Me and My doctor and few student doctors.

My last was the kicker. She was trapped her desire t o come out after 21 1/2 hours of drug free hard labour was not enough for her. The male doctors around the L n D ward were begging My doctor to give Me drugs they were cringing at the sounds I was making with each minute long back to back contractions.

My Doctor's office had aposter on the wall that had alist of things Was t o make the moms there laugh I can only remember a few of them

If Men could get pregnant

Morning Sickness would be the number one disease
Maternity leave would start the moment they found out they were pregnant
labour would be pain free
stretch marks would be considered a sexy symbol

many other ones.

Now I have to say giving birth was like taking My botton lip and wrapping it over My head but I can say without a doubt I would do it all over again in a heart beat.
3 wonderful daughters who remind me daily what a blessing they are and how the pain and medical problems were worth every second.
 im2big
Joined: 5/27/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/20/2006 5:42:51 AM
There's no way men could EVER give birth. If we had to it would be the end of Mankind.
 justjazz
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/20/2006 6:09:41 AM
Such a silly argument....Men are deprived the joys and pains of pregnancy. It is something that no man can ever have. Could a man "bear" the pain..dont be silly of course he could. The joy of bringing a life into this world is something a woman should cherish and not diminish by comparing it to anything else. Sounds insane but I would have loved to have been able to bring one of my children into the world.
 treemanbdj
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 6/20/2006 1:40:26 PM
Interesting question..OP

Have to agree with whodeletedme... Thereshold of pain is not a problem. I've had a few medivac rides, knocked down on the interstate on a bike, the last medivac ride 18 broken bones from a support cable that cut lose on a building, and 4 days out of the ICU driving a truck, and no 'scripts filled for the pain killers.

However, I'm 100% behind kinkiboots (no pun intended) give that MAN an award.

Cooking, cleaning, and changing a diaper is all fine and cool. Be that said, I'll work 80 hour weeks and to the grave years (statistically) before the women, just so I don't have to do the 3 things women do???

A: Carry child to term,delivery and the aftermath!
B: Their monthly friend!!
C: Their half of a 69!!!




"................ Sounds insane but I would have loved to have been able to bring one of my children into the world".

That's not insane for a MAN, that's down right to deep of a feminine conflictional issue.What's next......"Honey, can you put this strap-on on. I would love to be able to feel like you"??

No, I salute the women! (no pun intended).

Happy to be a MAN,

BDJ
 justjazz
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 38
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Posted: 6/20/2006 2:29:57 PM
Quite a neandarthal comparison... childbirth to sodomy....if the shoe fits....climb a tree! LOL..oh wait..Im sorry...I was supposed to do some "sole searching"....only thing...I looked all over the bottom of my feet and found nothing...couldnt find a fish either LMAO
 iprenegade
Joined: 6/10/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/1/2006 1:17:27 AM
all my ex's were complete babies themselves with just a cold, or flu, or when they got an 'owie' LOL




EXXXXXXXXXXXXCUUUUUUUUUSE ME . BABY. I DONT THINK SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Dont you even start
 cynderalla
Joined: 1/10/2006
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/1/2006 1:35:11 AM
Thank-you #34. I say bottom line is men can't have babies so why try and compare apples to oranges. We are blessed with a wonderful job in bring a special life into this world and without man this would not be possible.
 bulldog1966
Joined: 6/21/2006
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/1/2006 8:28:21 AM
If I could do it, I would, in a minute, no question. Pain doesn't last forever, and ladies...at the end of the day... was it worth it?
 Bryn69ca
Joined: 5/5/2005
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/1/2006 4:22:12 PM
I have had five children. 1st was a epidural /c-section. Never do that again. 2nd Epidural- no problems, 3rd Epidural-no problems, 4th no drugs no nothing lol no time. 5th no drugs, no nothing again. I would never take drugs or anything if I ever had a child again. After the first few kids im getting use to it and only the last five/ten minutes hurts but it goes away quick. I cant say whats it like for most women just myself but I would do it again if the circumstances were right.

I think there are a few men that could handle it.
 Man In New Hampshire
Joined: 9/23/2005
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Posted: 7/5/2006 11:02:23 PM
You really can't compare child birth to other tramas. After giving birth you have a child. After a trama you have pain for the rest of your life, scars from something you want to forget, and possibly some doctor bills, and nothing else.

If it were determined that it was up to me to give birth I would do it in a flash.
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