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 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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i'm perfectly capable of feeding myself. anyone who wanted to do this beyond offering me a taste of something i'm not having would creep me out immensely.

It's not the ordinary meals, it's the strawberries dipped in chocolate. Some things are meant to be shared - and sometimes you can return the favor, works just fine either way.
 DivineBovine
Joined: 5/13/2005
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Posted: 1/14/2010 3:10:46 PM
^^^that is something that has NEVER happened to me in my entire life...

*sigh*
 julyn10
Joined: 4/25/2009
Msg: 172
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Posted: 1/14/2010 3:24:13 PM
I find that older men are more likely to have good manners and sweet civility than younger men. The only exception would be my sons who were trained well (usually with ear pinching) !! to open doors for others, men or women.

As for rudeness and thoughtlessness, the male gender has no monopoly. I see and hear mean spirited, cranky old women and men all the time!!! lol
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 173
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Posted: 1/14/2010 3:37:43 PM
Don't know about the "over 55" crowd, but I'm here to tell ya that the over 64 crew is astonishing!! (so far). . . .

Perhaps the wimmins is turning off romantic before it starts? E.g., I don't especially find getting flowers, chocolate, cards on Valentine's romantic (only the Madison Avenue directive. . . ). But last year ma hunny put together an WMV -- a song he loved, and pictures -- that *still* melts my heart. The year before, he printed all the poems from my blog since I met him; the love poems and all the rest, too (my printer's broken). He worries when I forget my pills, and reminds me; he helps me on and off big curbs; he gathers goosefeathers for me. Part of it is that we do like many of the same things, so he doesn't have to work hard at knowing what I'm going to like; but more importantly, he simply remembers to do them. As do I. Or at least I try. . . .

And the one before him, who died, was very like that, too, despite being very different in other ways -- an actor vs a plant scientist. Plus many of the men I met between them. And I don't think there's a whole lot in my profile that demands romance of the fella. In fact, lol!, not a lot of demands for anything at all.

May be that we DO get what we most wish?

 Notdesper8atall
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 174
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Posted: 1/14/2010 3:45:39 PM
After reading most all of this thread I seriously hope that by the time I reach the age to which this thread is about I have found the love of my life or I have given up entirelly..

From what I have read so far its seems some who have reached this point in life ( both genders included) have so much disdain for the opposite sex that odds are far and away against them ever finding relationship bliss.

The people we have met in the past influence us in many ways... some good, some bad. The trick is in not choosing to dwell on the bad ones but rather keep looking for the good ones. In all honesty there are still more good ones than bad out there but if you keep going on about the bad they ( the good ) will pass you by like a flash of light.

Best of luck to all
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:49:11 PM
Great post, Notdesper8atall. Don't conclude too much from the bitter and twisted part of the forum crowd. The world is full of nice people with good attitudes and happy lives. Personally, I love the opposite sex and know a good many fine women who don't go on about how bad men are, and aside from the forums, I don't know any men who go on about how bad women are.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 176
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Posted: 1/14/2010 5:05:52 PM


I don't know any men who go on about how bad women are.


^^^^^^ Im only bad if you are lucky :P

I dont think men over 55 or any different from those under 55...each individual stands on their own merits in my eyes.
 Notdesper8atall
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 178
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Posted: 1/14/2010 5:32:55 PM
"Don't conclude too much from the bitter and twisted part of the forum crowd."

I always try to look at both sides of a given situation and make my calls from there.

"The world is full of nice people with good attitudes and happy lives."

True .. I know the angry ones yell the loudest because they feel they need to be heard and want the attention they are missing.
 sparklespice
Joined: 2/24/2009
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Posted: 1/14/2010 5:34:32 PM
I like your good old fashion ideas on dating and matching a partner in life.
I am glad there are still some great 55's out there.LOL!
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 1/15/2010 2:22:39 AM

Personally, I love the opposite sex and know a good many fine women who don't go on about how bad men are, and aside from the forums, I don't know any men who go on about how bad women are.


Who said they were bad.. I just like to be pampered and kept warm and well fed..

thecatsmeoww
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 185
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Posted: 1/15/2010 4:31:09 AM
Am I “set in my ways”?

there's no such thing as "set in one's ways." it's actually knowing what you like and dislike, and finally having the cajones to act upon it. actually, it seems more like a thinly-veiled "put down" phrase designed as a weapon to use against those "old" men who don't like "old" women. granted, i'm not into older men, but i don't particularly go for catty put downs from men or women of any age. if you want to spill the vitriol, have the balls and confidence to do right up front.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 186
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Posted: 1/15/2010 4:37:09 AM
the lack of physical activity after 55-60.


i have hated sports and outdoorsy activities my whole life...and i'm sure to still feel that way when i hit my 50's, 60's, and beyond! why is it so many people put such an emphasis on these activities? i fail to see the draw. to me, it's pure drudgery. (strikes me as another of those "put down" phrases aimed at the "hot babe" seekers! why do i read people so well?)
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 1/15/2010 6:41:39 AM

I just like to be pampered and kept warm and well fed..


And here I had the impression you were one of the "I don't need a man to keep me warm and well fed!" types......
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 1/15/2010 6:42:02 AM
It is not about sports or outdoorsy activities but the physical exercise of the body which keeps it in good shape and increase the chance you will have a long, healthy life. Some prefer to hike, play golf, dance, or go to the gym. All provide that exercise the body needs. Believe me, it gets harder and harder with each year we age.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 1/15/2010 6:55:24 AM
Careful, dancecard, you are running dangerously close to the idea that people are responsible for their own situations, something that is viewed as a heresy by many here on the forums. The golden rule here is its always somebody else's fault!
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 1/15/2010 7:26:57 AM

And here I had the impression you were one of the "I don't need a man to keep me warm and well fed!" types......


At first glance most people certainly would most certainly not think so.. Does that count for anything?

thecatsmeoww
 Marc IA
Joined: 11/28/2009
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Posted: 1/16/2010 1:16:33 PM
Gee and I thought age was just a number. lol
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 1/16/2010 1:21:31 PM

First glance tells me you were built to run and made for speed.

I like that is a woman.


Thanks Dance,

But really it was born out of necessity.. I always meet online men with my running shoes on just in case.. After all I have been in training for this moment for nearly 2 decades now!!!

thecatsmeoww
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 198
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Posted: 1/16/2010 1:25:48 PM

Your 'thoughts' are NOT as big of a secret as you might think, so clean them up.


Can't a women have some kind of privacy around here?

thecatsmeoww
 One flew west
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 201
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Posted: 1/16/2010 10:11:21 PM
I find the controversy over men over 55 quite interesting. First, I am over 55, I am 66. And as far as fantasy goes, I heve experienced that for as long as I can remember, possibly since I was 11 years old. However, I'm not here on the internet to fantisize. I'm looking for the real thing. If you examine my profile you will find that I have suggested an age range of 48 to 58 as a range that best fits my energy and enthusiasm level. That doesn't come from wishful thinking, but from actual experience. And, it is a suggested range. I certainly wouldn't reject a potential mate strictly on age. But, if you read my profile you will discover a lifestyle that I enjoy even at my "old age of 66". If that lifestyle agrees with you, then please contact me. However, I have no plans to slow down,let up or sit on the front porch in a rocking chair simply because of a number. Someday, I will be there. But I'm not there yet, and I have no plans in the immediate future to be there. I had a patient in my private practice that was 90 years young. She didn't look that age , didn't act that age, and certainly was not interested in most men tht age. God Bless Her. When you are over the age of 50, the numbers are no longer relevant. My philosophy is "you are only as old as the person you feel".
 lynntoo
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 202
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Posted: 1/17/2010 4:31:19 AM
Have been following this forum for some time now. What I find amusing is that we all seem to think we act younger than our age. Not true.....we act our age. I tell friends all the time, this is how 65 looks.(and acts) I have been on many dates with men who seem to think they look better than they actually look. (don't we all?) Many who seem to think because they are active they need a younger woman. It seems to be to be a popular misconception that we.....older women.....just want to 'sit on the front porch in a rocking chair'. That's wrong!

There is a Ying for every Yang. Most of the time to make it work, there is also a need for some commonality. Too much of an age gap lowers that commonality. I have been there - I like younger men for the same reason many older men like younger women. Or....maybe not! I am looking for long term with the love of my life. Intimacy seems to become more difficult for some men after a time. I worry about that because, like One Flew West's patient, I'm good to go to at least age 90. I agree on the part, you're only as old as your feel.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 1/17/2010 7:51:31 AM
As I read through 9 pages of this topic and many other pages of posts, I try to remember that the opinions and experiences discussed reflect our own personal observations. That those feelings are the culmination of the experiences we have had or observed and reflect our circle of acquaintences and our geographic area. With that in mind, let me tell you about last night's experience:

We went to a company Christmas party of around 200 people. Social hour, sit down dinner, the usual gifts/drawings, and band for the evening. Of that group, there were maybe 20 men and 20 women that presented an image that was of any interest. The vast majority of those in the 50 - 60 range where significantly overweight. One guy looked like he was going to birth triplets at any moment; women who couldn't really walk but had to waddle from side to side as there more than adequate postiers jiggled. Typical attire for young men: old jeans and a Tshirt; for women: sweat pants or elastic waist pants with a smock type top. Three young men at our table wore there baseball caps all evening.

To get to this party, we had to walk through a stinky, smoke infested casino. Many people sitting there with their cig in the left hand, pushing buttons with the right. The majority: women, overweight, in their 50s and 60s.

While I understand this observation only reflects part of the population, the image it presents is not positive. I do realize there are both older men and women in this world that are in good health and not significantly overweight, but I believe they are a small minority. Add in the attitudes many have and the result is a significant older population that is of little interest to some of us. Maybe this is why a certain group of older men and women are looking for much younger companions.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 1/17/2010 4:59:30 PM

I do realize there are both older men and women in this world that are in good health and not significantly overweight, but I believe they are a small minority.


Well, I guess that you hang around with a different crowd of people than I do, or perhaps its a matter of being in the US where the news indicates an obesity problem of growing proportions.

In any event, be it because of lifestyle or social milieu, I am not particularly conscious of the paucity of lean, fit and healthy people in the world. Indeed, there are certainly not that many who can still wear their High School uniform with any comfort, but I would say that the number of overweight slovenly and out of shape people I personally know or associate with is a very small subset of my social contacts.

Now, it is also true that if I go to the local casino, something that interests me little, the place is not filled with Sean Connery look alikes and "Bond Girls" overflowing out of their dresses. Indeed, they are largely as you described the ones you encounter. Most of those in the casino up this way are desperate addicts squandering their welfare cheques and such in the hope of winning.

I suspect that if you changed your social milieu, you would not have the kind of opinion of the population of available dates that you share here.

In any event, the mathematics of the entire subject are enlightening. Presume you are a serious dater looking for a match, and you are 55 years of age. Now if you give each relationship 3 months to figure out whether its a go or not, then you can process 4 candidates per year. I am discounting the coffee meets that fizzle here.

So, between now and the time you are 75, you could run through 80 relationships. Are you trying to suggest that the number of acceptable candidates that you could count in a casino over a 20 year period would be less than 80? It must be a very small casino in a place that is very hard to get to.....
 flowrpowergal
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 207
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Posted: 1/17/2010 5:14:36 PM
I agree I am 51 and am enjoying dating. Fairly new at this but it is interesting even if i keep having 1st dates. But i haven't met anyone that I wanted a 2nd date. But it is still fun meeting new people.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 1/17/2010 6:25:33 PM
If you examine my profile you will find that I have suggested an age range of 48 to 58 as a range that best fits my energy and enthusiasm level. That doesn't come from wishful thinking, but from actual experience. And, it is a suggested range. I certainly wouldn't reject a potential mate strictly on age. But, if you read my profile you will discover a lifestyle that I enjoy even at my "old age of 66". If that lifestyle agrees with you, then please contact me. However, I have no plans to slow down,let up or sit on the front porch in a rocking chair simply because of a number. Someday, I will be there. But I'm not there yet, and I have no plans in the immediate future to be there.


does not matter what your lifestyle is...plenty of women your age with a lifestyle just like yours. this is just thinly-veiled wanting a physically younger woman. you want women 8-18 yrs your junior. i sure as heck hope you look, up close under a microscope 8-18 yrs younger than your stated age. 18 yrs older is an entire generation...literally her father's age. you can't really expect anyone other than perhaps gold diggers to go for someone that much older (and even the gold diggers have their limits). you're even pushing it with the 58 yr olds at your age. you might possibly get a 58 yr old, but that's right at the very lower age limit a 66 yr old could sort of expect to get (assuming you're 66 not really 76). you gotta remember that 58 yr old woman may well be looking at the 48 yr old guy...which is gonna make you look relatively even older. the only way you're gonna get by with this is if you look 10 yrs younger and look like brad pitt to boot. at your age, your realistic age range should be 58-72. i can guarantee you the 48 yr old women are looking at men 45 and younger...30's maybe even...no way you're gonna compete. i can't imagine looking at some guy 18 yrs older...that would put him almost 60, close to my uncle's age. don't think so! i couldn't even imaging looking at 8 yrs older. this thread just slays me. who would have ever thought this was even a concern to old people...hell, i'd prefer to think of old people as kindly and in their rockers rather than as dirty old men (and trust me, that's the image you're evoking...and the harder you try to come off as "young," the dirtier you seem...the only people that are gonna be impressed are women around your *own* age....it just comes off as repulsive to those of us who are younger).
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