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 WaywardWynde
Joined: 5/19/2007
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Men over 55!Page 6 of 23    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23)

Do you know any women with grey hair?


Yes, quite a few. I find it looks better than artificially colored hair, unless the woman spends major bux each much with a hairstylist.


Then again, women are always more mature than men, right?


Haven't noticed that in the day-to-day world.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 349
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Posted: 2/20/2010 1:13:07 AM
@curious8687: you wrote that just to me, didn't ya? No, really. No boots, tho.

Well, yanno, I went to Vancouver back around my B'day in 2008 to meet a woman. No sparks, but it was OK (had a cottage on the beach Roberts Creek on the Sunchine Coast). Alberta's a bit closer. Waaaay too cold for these old bones tho, with or without fireplace, bearskin rug, bareskinned woman. Bummer.
 almondeyes88
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 3/6/2010 3:36:34 PM
I totally agree with you!!
 Blue-Eyes-Shine
Joined: 11/26/2008
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Posted: 3/16/2010 9:15:30 PM
Well I have a new one. I was chatting with a man, getting to know one another, until he saw a photo of me wearing a t-shirt that had a cat on it. "I don't do cats!" Dumped! Hmmmm RED Flags flying!

Oh I guess it meant I'm too independent. So now I'm thinking of wearing that shirt for my profile photo.
 Smarts and Heart
Joined: 12/15/2009
Msg: 373
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Posted: 3/22/2010 10:10:41 AM
I think many men in this age range, tend to over promise and over represent themselves on their profiles and then are afraid of what reality will present if they actual reach the point of meeting a woman. Many will contact a woman and message back and forth slowly leading the conversation towards a sexual vein, so that they can satisfy themselves solo, don't have to live up to anything that way. When you halt the conversation and tell them that there are paying online sex sites for that, they play the offronted card saying they were only kidding.

I've experienced it time and time again, and perhaps have become too wary. So for the ones who are genuine, have patience, if you're genuine and we actually get to the meeting point, you may find I'm worth it! Lol.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 3/22/2010 10:56:35 PM
kidro - msg 385

Have I gotten an email from you??? What's wrong with me???? Too fat??? There's alot of older women out there, but what are you looking for???

Don't dispair. Could be that they are allergic to cats, dogs, or fish.
Or when they read the sentence in your profile where you say you don't know what kind of man are you looking for, they may get really confused and start looking for someone who knows what she is looking for.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 3/26/2010 7:03:21 AM

And if they were really any good, wouldn't they already be taken?


Some are taken, of course, and some may feel that in the spirit of altruism and pubic service that they should remain unattached so they can spread Joy as widely as possible.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2010 9:08:10 AM
No doubt about it. Once you get used to living alone and the fact that there is an unlimited supply of available and interesting women out there with which to have good relationships with, the idea of narrowing down to a one on one thing tends to fade into the background.

Of course there is a downside to the single life, but I can't quite think of what it is at the moment....
 JeepHammer
Joined: 5/16/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2010 9:14:14 AM
I just hit 50, and I like sex as much as I ever did, just not into 'Marathon' sessions anymore...
My stamina just isn't what it was when I was 25 and running 5 miles a day!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 3/26/2010 9:31:57 AM

I'm coming to this late but in one of the earlier post I saw something that struck a chord; the idea that the longer a man is single, the more set in his ways, etc. I'm very much in agreement with that. I was divorced 10 years ago and I've had women in my life, one for several years, since but I have never wanted to actually live in the same home with someone else. I'll come over, she can come over, we can do things together, but as far moving in or tying the knot, I'm far too comfortable as I am to want to change for what, in this thread, at least, might be called a fantasy.
LOL! ya know...that's really funny!!! I seem to have become just the opposite! Things that I USED to stress out about...I now find really trivial, and have adopted a more....."yeah, whatever...it's all good" attitude! I.E. I figured...might as well throw away the "rule books" that DIDN'T work the first 55 years...why should I expect them to work any better the next 55?

I DO agree however with the exchange of visits and not tying any knots (around your neck)...and am quite comfortable with my life just as it is....but what the he11....if someone wanted to change that, I'm adventurous enough to give it a whirl! LOL! I may even try out one of those under 35s myself who think I'm one "hawt" granny!!!! LOL! I'm just waiting for one who has a note from his Mother saying she won't shoot me! Have long ago accepted the fact that men my age consider women their own age too old to date; but then again, I find it to be rather the reverse.....LOL! they keep telling me to get in my damned rocking chair and sit there!

I think both sexes have a predilection toward thinking certainly things about each other. LOL! Me? I've always loved busting up those stereotypes...shocking and offending people!
 cupani67
Joined: 12/29/2009
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Posted: 3/26/2010 9:55:08 AM

Once you get used to living alone and the fact that there is an unlimited supply of available and interesting women out there with which to have good relationships with ...
I have a feeling that translates into "sleep around".

I hope the ladies will take note that there are men out there that make those of us who do not sleep around look bad.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2010 11:05:17 AM

I have a feeling that translates into "sleep around".


It could mean that to some people. It could also mean that the world is full of opportunities, and there is no urgent need to limit oneself. It could also mean that some people like their lifestyle as a single person for any number of reasons.

As for making those who do not sleep around look bad, the only person who can make people look bad are those people themselves. Hard as it may be to believe, most people don't spend any time thinking about whether others look bad. They typically worry about whether they themselves make themselves look bad......
 Space Cowboy 53
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 390
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Posted: 3/31/2010 6:26:49 PM
I am 56, and I am most definitely looking to settle down with someone my own age. I think I am a good man, and I think there are lots more like me out there. To say that all men over 55 want is younger women or don't want to settle down with one woman because there are too many choices is absurd. There are an awful lot of losers out there, male and female, so when you find a keeper, you want to think long and hard before you let them go. Love is the most beautiful thing that life has to offer, when it is not returned, it is one of the worst. Sure there are those that get a thrill from going from partner to partner, or the ego boost they get from younger women showing an interest, or those that prefer the single life for various other reasons, but when the potential for a life partner/soul mate and the love that goes with that presents itself, I believe that the majority of people out there would not say, yes, I love you with all my heart, but I'm going to walk away anyways. I think anyone wondering why no one wants to get involved with them should look first in the mirror for answers.
 TryAgan
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Posted: 4/13/2010 6:21:55 PM

I have a feeling that translates into "sleep around"

I'm sure people who sleep around, have feelings, too.
 Brownlady1953
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 392
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Posted: 4/15/2010 10:06:51 AM
Men over 55 watch too damn much porn, and they expect every date to end like the last nasty porn video they watched......
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 4/19/2010 5:54:15 AM
I find it truly hilarious the apparent rejection of the basic idea that men view their dating partners in a sexual context. Indeed, I don't date women who do not evoke a sexual response in me. I know quite a few, and have fine relationships with them, but I don't date them.

I seriously doubt that there are any men who date women for whom they lack a sexual interest, and I would be amazed if the same is not true for women as wall. The entire point of dating is, to my mind, to develop a sexual relationship. I have lots of friends to play sports with, etc......

Of course when a man is sitting across the table from you he is evaluating your potential as a sexual partner, along with all kinds of other thoughts on a relationship potential. If a woman does not want that, Oprah is on at 4:30, followed by Dr. Phil. No need to waste your time meeting and greeting.....or his either.....
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 4/19/2010 8:06:16 AM
^^^^^ Again, if not for the sexual lust/hunger, you would not be sitting there suffering. Its the way things are, and while I do appreciate that many men never develop the social skills needed to evoke the kind of responses they seek from the opposite sex, pouring the medicine into a spoon of honey does not change the fact that its getting the medicine down the throat that is the point of the exercise.

Comment then on the boorish men, do not lament their libido. If you go on a date at any age, he is looking for a sexual partner, and if you are not, you are simply being dishonest.
 prof48
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 399
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Posted: 4/19/2010 2:19:03 PM
I am always amused how someone can make generalizations from their own experience to "all men." You might consider that you are "choosing" men with fantasy preferences. To put it another way, perhaps that is your fantasy. Most people, in spite of the bitter complaints, select who they date. All men over 55 are not in a fantasy world. All women over 40 are not fat and ugly. If you are finding otherwise, perhaps you should quit looking in the mirror and get out into the real world.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 400
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Posted: 4/20/2010 1:20:41 AM
BrownLady: "Men over 55 watch too damn much porn, and they expect every date to end like the last nasty porn video they watched......"

Hmmm, well, I don't watch Pron at all, but I would as part of foreplay. I woudn't date anyone who has so many preconceptions, though. Hard Limit.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
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Posted: 4/20/2010 1:27:33 AM
Breath: "Ah.. so you (and most likely a lot of other men) don't "expect" it, but in the back of the mind there is still the young stud wishing for it... thinking it would truly be a cure... and so on?"

Hahahaha in the back of my mind is a young stud who wishes to keep on without falling over and breaking some bones.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
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Posted: 9/14/2010 9:25:34 PM

breath: Ah.. so you (and most likely a lot of other men) don't "expect" it, but in the back of the mind there is still the young stud wishing for it... thinking it would truly be a cure... and so on?

I'm realistic enough to know that there's no cure for aging, and the concurrent decline in "performance". I rarely watch porn at all anymore (used to when I was married, frequently with my ex), as there's really nothing new under the sun; the only things that change are the faces and genitalia. It seems like it's all getting more extreme, too, which I think can partially be attributed to the increasing isolation of people from other people because of technology. The stuff from the "Golden Age of Porn" in the 70s was more sensual, more realistic, with real people who weren't surgically enhanced, and the films usually had at least rudimentary plots and dialogue.

So I, personally, don't think that acting out a porn fantasy is all that enticing. I'm too much of a Romantic, and I value intimacy, the genuine sharing of sensual possibilites, much more than semi-anonymous monkey sex.
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 9/15/2010 7:06:40 AM

Comment then on the boorish men, do not lament their libido. If you go on a date at any age, he is looking for a sexual partner, and if you are not, you are simply being dishonest.

You have no idea of how sick I am of hearing women cut men down for having active libidos.
I don't run into these complaints personally, but I do hear of them here and elsewhere.
On another thread possibly, I read a woman's comment," Don't you know women make the rules around sex?" IMHO, that was a very revealing comment. Women would prefer to control all the dynamics of the M-F encounter AND in most cases they try to.
As well, I've noticed that a lot of women positively hate it when a man attempts to manage these things to his own advantage by becoming a serious student. I can't imagine why(or maybe I can)They'd object though, as there's lots in it for them too.
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 405
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Posted: 9/15/2010 8:58:03 PM
Some women may object simply because they haven't built a full trust with this man, or may not allow themselves to. Others may not have allowed themselves to just go with the flow and see where it may lead.
Men who feel this way, IMO, should simply take charge in a good way. It either works or it doesn't ( a relationship[ based on traditional M-F dynamics]).
Please don't lump all women together collectively when remarking about M-F dynamics. :)

To the OP- I don't date much older very much and recently decided to go out with a 54 year old - he tried to be all over me at the end of the date. I'm not saying that all 55ish year olds are like this at all but it was enough of a damper to simply want to stay strictly in my peer group. js
 christ on a crutch
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Posted: 10/1/2010 9:31:22 AM
^^^ i think it's more like we're 95 percent the same, and about 4 percent difference due to personality and about 1 percent due to gender. but we choose to block out the 95 percent and obsess over the other 5, further screwing up the understanding by trying to cram it into the box of right or wrong.

we all want love, we all want connection, we all want to be heard and understood, to give and accept.
 kangarucci
Joined: 5/24/2007
Msg: 410
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Posted: 10/16/2010 5:43:02 AM
I agree with the crutch
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