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 nomenome
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 76
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yes. i actually have given it a rest, at least for now. i just cannot find who i am looking for, and i am not fitting anyone else's needs either. so, i am just here mainly to talk to friends and participate in the forums. when my private life settles down enough for me to spend quality time looking with my eyes open, maybe i'll change my profile again. but it does'nt mean i can't bump into 'the one' out on the street. just tired of the whole shabang.
 ange2284
Joined: 9/15/2006
Msg: 77
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 2:45:53 PM
Hey sweet guy wake up just read your profile you are only 26 years old. Instead of wasting your time on here get a life. Some sweet young girl will spot you and want you i'm sure. Look for the eye contact, body language etc you are probably just not looking in the right place xxxx good luck with whatever you do and enjoy your life you only get one chance so live it have fun and remember a smile gets noticed and if you are still on your own at 50 i will come back from wherever i am and kiss you lol
 xamo
Joined: 3/24/2006
Msg: 78
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 3:03:26 PM
personally, I think "looking" only gets in the way of being, that is to say that looking,questoining,guessing only leads to closing you up instead of opening yourself up and enjoying life. If you can't enjoy life without someone else, you probably won't have much to offer a person, and in a way rely on them for happiness instead of sharing it. Love is a worthy dream definately, but I see it as an ongoing changing thing (this dream relationship) and not something to acquire then lock away. It seems to me that some people can get into that and when they do have an opportunity it can become a little one sided in that one person has expectations based on their own pre concieved ideas of the other person, who she should be, who she was etc etc. that can get in the way.
 skyflute
Joined: 9/17/2006
Msg: 79
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 5:49:16 PM
I think i am going to give up and get off these sites my heart has been walked on so much that i am thinking of putting out a wipe feet here sign
 +bRyAn+
Joined: 7/16/2006
Msg: 80
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 6:55:22 PM
don't feel to bad i gave up years ago
just go numb..it worked for me
 Steel Phoenix
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 81
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 9:15:19 PM
"don't feel to bad i gave up years ago
just go numb..it worked for me"


That sounds like part of a song that eerily seems to fit this very situation for me..........."When I was a child, I caught a fleeting glimpse out of the corner of my eye. I turned to look but it was gone, I cannot put my finger on it now. The child is grown, the dream is gone...........and I have become comfortably numb."

The "dream" of a true loving and giving relationship indeed is gone, only a dream it ever was..........
 cyberfriend 51
Joined: 9/21/2006
Msg: 82
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 9:37:43 PM
I know what your talking about ,I decided that my children our the best thing in my life.
They don,t care what you look like or how much you weigh, Or if you got dinner fixed or
if the bill our paid. All they care about is that you love them. And they love you back no matter
what. From Tn the smokey mountains.
 BORN SOUTHERN
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 83
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 9:41:06 PM
yeah i know what u mean its like the women on hear r scared to email u or when they do u talk to them a few times then u dont hear nothing from them agian or i guess cause i dont look like fabio or im not rich so they r not interested they dont understand guys like us r the ones that r faithful to them but they wont give us a chance so yes i have thought of givening up many times thats all i got
 LGY
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 84
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 9:44:20 PM
I give up at least twice a week
 plumn4u
Joined: 5/22/2004
Msg: 85
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 9:46:15 PM
nope not me !!
i'm to stuborn.lol

i have given up on looking for love . but i'm still hopefull that love hasn't given up on finding me . i guess in other words i have given up on sending out e-mails . i put alot of thought into each e-mail that i send out . some i have even spent a whole day earaseing and rewriteing and walking away come back and add more . just to make sure i write it the best i possibly can so the recipiant knows that i am cincere and very interested in chatting and hopefully meeting . only to check progress of the sent e-mail and see "unread deleted"..either they not like my pic or the fact that i'm a plumber.lol. it sure isn't what i said in my e-mail . they not take the five minutes out of thier time to read something that it took me all day to write. lol. but. being stuborn . i will probably see another profile . and take the long journy to disapointment

so i guess i not realy given up . i still believe in "hopefullness" (cool!!. another word i can add to my personal dictionary). lol.
 punky52
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 86
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 9:49:59 PM
I know just how you feel. You chat with someone who has peaked your interest, someone you think you have alot in common with, someone who even looks appealing to you. Then when you finally meet them, go out with them, and maybe even enjoy their company they still manage to let you down somehow. It's almost like they have faked it or something. So I gave up on even meeting someone, on the internet that is. If I happen to be so fortunate as to meet someone in person and it works out, then fine. But never again will I even try to get to know someone online. Because it's phoney. People lie too much. They tell you what they think you want to hear,which is not neccesarily a good thing. So I hav given up on it. It's just not worth the let down in the end.
 Fran47
Joined: 10/4/2006
Msg: 87
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 9:56:58 PM
Wow.... this is so amazing... I didn't dream there were so many people feeling this way... Some times you feel like the lone ranger....Lol Yes... I was about to give up until I discovered the forums.... Now... forget trying to meet anyone.... I just come here to read the forums..... they are pretty cool...and most of all...even though the cool people are always so far away....you start to look for certain ones in the forum.....

P.S. Has anyone ever noticed the ones that you seem to hit it off with...are usually the ones way to far away? Hmmm... not fair!!! Lol
 plumn4u
Joined: 5/22/2004
Msg: 88
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 10:07:40 PM
[P.S. Has anyone ever noticed the ones that you seem to hit it off with...are usually the ones way to far away? Hmmm... not fair!!! Lol]

yes fran you are so right .. i always feel i'm liveing in the wrong city .lol everyone outside of kitchener,ontario thinks i'm awsome! lol
 shakdicaprio
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 89
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 10:08:42 PM
mmmm i have never given that though I have to be crazy. every mornng that I wake up is a new day. and every new day I see beautiful womens going by. so sure im single but thats the best part ya get to look at everyone of them.why?? cause im single no old lady beside me to tell me whats wrong or right. so cheer up guys why were single ahhhhhhh we get to look,talk and enjoy .so smile while you can because one day you will have one of then ladys and you wont be able to look anymore or date. so have fun while you can. beside the more you look the better they get.so be your self and stop thinging if you should give up.or slow down or wait.
 Fran47
Joined: 10/4/2006
Msg: 90
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/7/2006 10:25:42 PM
You know something... you are so right!! When I stop and think about it... I am blessed!! I would so rather be single and lonely...(at times only!!!) than married and lonely for life!! Lol You really did help me.... Cause really at this moment in my life... I love being single....just wish there was someone to date close by that was fun to be with!! But...as I mentioned earlier.... it seems all the cool ones to date are in the next city or state.....
 browneyesami
Joined: 9/26/2006
Msg: 91
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 1:39:36 AM
you know, I think that by giving up you could lose something precious even a frienship, I think that everyone has someone and they just have to find them, I know will get slammed for this BUT I will say that there are good people out there and that you will find it even if you are not looking!!! Don't listen to the bad just go for the good, just listen to people and listen to what they have to say!! sometimes the ones that want to talk are the ones you want to talk to, just think, "they'ver heard its all up hill but all they knw is how they feel " so people just feel for a bit, don't worry about pictures or anything if you connect because you can talk that IS a start just keep faith, Our genertaion is the one that will decidee a lot, and if you listen to the song " 2 sparrrows in a hurricane" blah blah blah it is country it says alot, don't worry, we are all meant for something!!!!!
 Yahh ROO Giddy Up
Joined: 9/1/2006
Msg: 92
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 3:45:31 AM
Yep I gave up fully

just couldnt be farked anymore -- just when you think you have whats desired they move the goalposts

Plus the fact at my age I just sick of the kiddie games people play --- grow up for goodness sake -- be realistic people
 extrememale2004
Joined: 11/1/2005
Msg: 93
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:23:29 AM
I think about it all the time I mean the women I chat with who live in the same city as me make an excuse and it seems the women I connect with are in the next city near me or in another state and older than me. I mean I had a women on myspace email me on there and told me she wanted to get to know me and it is interesting how the out of state women give me more love than those in my city and state.
 Steel Phoenix
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 94
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:39:10 AM
"after reading these forums I strongly beleive we should all keep going. I am going to now."

And I wish you the best of luck in doing so. For me though, I simply cannot arouse enough interest to even bother anymore. These forums are cool and there are a lot of great people here, but as far as looking for a possible relationship, what reason is there? I'm not a Brad Pitt or a Scott Peterson. I'm just flat fed up with a lot of women's ridiculously high standards (or inexplicably low ones). Let them find their movie star or sociopath. Good luck to them with that. I've already found myself some new things to keep me occupied where hey, at the very least I get some return and enjoyment from. Anything's better than beating one's head against a wall.
 suzanne36_lkn
Joined: 4/14/2006
Msg: 95
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:57:35 AM
Out of curiosity, what is it about the people who showed an interest in you that made you not become interested in them? Do you feel they are 'beneath' you somehow? Not that you are better looking, or a 'better catch' than anyone else, but seriously, why havent you shown interested in them?

I read thru most of the posts on this thread, and eveyrone sounds so negative. 'I've been alone too long', 'I've been hurt too much to try', 'I cant find anybody interested'. The reasons for not being interested in you are the same as the reasons you werent interested in others that were attracted to you. Whoa, I just confused myself, on some karmic level.... Head rush
 Kenp3
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 96
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:15:19 AM
I've considered giving up too. It seems woman don't know what they want. They want the nice guy to take them out and treat them well, they want the bad boy to excite them. I'll keep looking but maybe be more picky as well, which probably means that I'll be alone much longer. Oh well what'r goin to do?
 Fran47
Joined: 10/4/2006
Msg: 97
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:20:15 AM
**suzanne36_lkn ** You have just hit on something that I discovered yesterday. I was becoming too negative about people. You see, I would get iritated when I would write someone and they would never respond. Or lets just say, I would tell someone they were attractive and they never would respond. I thought wow, couldn't they at least write back and say "Thank You". But...then I started looking inward and realized....I do the same thing. I don't always respond to everyone that writes me. We all have our reasons for which I won't delvulge, but..we get back what we give a lot of the time. I am speaking only to myself.... So many times it easier to be hard on the other person, and easy on ourselves. Wow.... just my two cents.....
 yankeebackinthe north
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 98
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:31:56 AM
I think everyone has, but I refuse to. I must of sent 20 or more emails out and got zip. Then I got more selective in who I contacted (makes for less rejection), and continued to write people just as a friend as well, throwing in my two cents. I also changed my attitude to be more positive and above all, I realized that you can not make ANY ASSUMPTIONs about what the person you are contacting is looking for. That was my downfall in the beginning. I have now had reasonable success, 2 good dates, and a third that may end up being my permanent match. In between I tried hooking up with someone not met on-line and it was a disaster to the point where I decided to stick to POF. Also, I went thru numerous sites, paid and free, and the only one that got any results at all is good 'ol POF.
 Kickinback
Joined: 6/10/2006
Msg: 99
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Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:39:08 AM
I am not giving up but just put my anchor in the water and hanging the poles over the side... Drinking a beer.... If I catch a fish that will be great but if not, I am still going to enjoy the waters, wind and the sky......
 Stargazer46
Joined: 1/18/2006
Msg: 100
Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 9:00:20 AM
Of course i've thought of giving up. But i've had what i've had. So thinking about it is one thing, and actually giving up? Never. I know what i'm missing as a single woman. And what happiness lies ahead when i find Him. Or He finds me:)
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