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 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
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I'm not paranoid, most show themselves to be golddiggers soon enough. When they are panning for gold and not finding the mother load they go prospecting elsewhere.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/3/2007 4:46:33 PM
isn't "poor and sexy" sort of what a "bad boy" is? One of the reasons he's a "bad boy" is because he isn't a "good man"?
 countrypicker
Joined: 7/5/2005
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Posted: 12/3/2007 5:24:54 PM
I have found that in the beginning 95% of the time its the money.
When I get 101 questions in the beginning its easy to see what they are looking for.
Its really rough being born so good looking instead of rich.

__-A business that makes nothing but money is a poor business.
Henry Ford


 exrescue
Joined: 10/24/2007
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Posted: 12/3/2007 6:02:29 PM
Um is that a contradiction in terms want you to look after them,but dont want your money?
 countrypicker
Joined: 7/5/2005
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Posted: 12/4/2007 7:17:38 PM
all feedback excepet and respected. good look friends.
 supragurl
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 50
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Posted: 12/5/2007 12:20:53 AM
OP....

I don't think money has everything to do with what a woman wants... :)

I've dated guys who were well off and guys were were not so well off...i've had well off men pursue me to no avail because of their personalities.....

point blank...in the long run money doesn't matter in choosing who you WANT to spend the rest of your life with. Then again, money really does bring a sense of security, which women innately desire....

Personally, I'm headed in the right direction, I make enough for myself at the moment, and only plan on making more with my education and my future career....I'm not looking for a rich man but i'm looking for a man on the same track......I cannot see myself marrying a man making 20 or 30 grand less than myself....

but then again some of those guys with thick ass wallets really piss me off (AM I THE ONLY LADY OUT HERE WHO THINKS IT SHOWS A LACK OF CLASS TO FLAUNT THE DESIGNER LABEL AND SALARY?) Gold diggers should be alone at least until they realise money does NOT make the man.
 TitusBreast
Joined: 3/18/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 12/5/2007 1:00:44 AM
Yes, because you can't help who you fall in love with when you fall hard. Love, Titus
 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 54
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Posted: 12/5/2007 1:49:40 AM
The simple answer...absolutely...but that's just me. The quality of the person is far more important then what they got. I actually rather have the simple life and less drama...then the life with all the glory and glamour. When friends tell me they want to marry rich...I ask them...have you met one!?!? From my experience...they're not the best people.
 mimosa
Joined: 4/5/2005
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Posted: 12/5/2007 3:03:41 AM
I always ask what do you do.......the sub question is
Do you like what you do?
Is your work interesting?
Maybe we start a conversation on one aspect of who you are.

I have just recently been brushed off because of that very question.......paranoia is unbecoming........makes me think the person is very arrogant to presume I care what's in his wallet.

I will pass, I don't have any time to waste with anyone who can't be natural and will continually try to second guess the least of my questions.
 LunaChik
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 69
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Posted: 12/5/2007 1:50:20 PM
Unfortunately there are gold diggers out there and rich men more than willing to pay for the trophy. I live in Phoenix which is close to Scottsdale. I call it Snotsdale. My point is that Scottsdale is known for gold diggers who have artificial looks. They look like they just stepped off of a magazine cover. And they (and their parents in a lot of cases) don't invest all that money on their bodies for their own gratification. They do it to attract rich men: some are professionals and some are pro athletes.

Here's the kicker....I know two woman who are actually raising their daughters to be "pretty". They are not sending them to school. One is counting on her daughter's modeling talent and the other is counting on her daughter hooking up with a son of a rich professional that the parents are aquainted with.

Then there is the bling factor that popular culture tells us we MUST have. You can only own the best of the best to be accepted. Otherwise you're a poser.

So we have this:
1. Bling is in.
2. It takes cash to get bling.
3. It takes looks (ie rich husband) or an education to get cash.

People's priorities are all messed up and in the end we will have a generation of people who don't know what love means and are suing each other for half of the cash in order to fulfill their self absorbed lives. The women will be uneducated bimbos and the men will be out buying the red corvette at age 50 and buying mass quantities of "Just for Men" hair color so they can go pick up another trophy for the mantle.

How sad.
 supragurl
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Posted: 12/5/2007 5:52:01 PM
Bikerscum

you apparently didn't read what i wrote, because i never once said anything of the sort (WANTING MONEY? what?)
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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Posted: 4/22/2008 10:12:25 AM
I don't know... If I don't find a man hot, all the money in the world isn't going to change that.. and if I do find a guy hot.. I doesn't matter if he's poor.

But... he'd better not be lazy. 'Cause that's not hot.
 countrypicker
Joined: 7/5/2005
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Posted: 4/22/2008 12:27:14 PM
That all sounds good to me. I`ll remember the fine dinning part.
They say all successful men have a woman behind them. I will guess the money don`t come to some guys before the woman is there first.
I`ve also noticed that when thier fist question is what do you do, and you tell the truth the chatting ends from the golddiggers.
The foolish man seeks happiness from a distance: The wise grows it under his feet.

Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, something to hope for.

Countrypicker -- aka -- Midntcowboy
 sillygoose
Joined: 3/4/2006
Msg: 85
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Posted: 4/22/2008 5:51:25 PM
Well a man I dated one time wanted me to keep dating him. I wasn't attracted to him at all and pretty much told him so after that he said he would buy me a house and I would have everything a women could want ( a doctor ). Well that wanted me to get away from him even more. I hate it when men think you will be all over them just because they have money Yuck.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 98
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Posted: 4/27/2008 2:31:32 PM
First of all we all know whatever is said in cosmo is totally right on.

Looks matter #1 I think; even to todays women. If someone is attracted to you they are like little children reading a book; they dont read the words they just look at the pictures.

There are many women with good looking player type bad boys that they support so they can show them off to their friends. Just read the posts.

Many poorer people are sexy and can be sexy; But lets face it, there aren't a whole lot of rich men with ugly women next to them. Women love money and power. Do you think Donald Trump and Hugh Hefner would have these women without the millions in the bank? come on. Trump was given 800 Million from his Daddy and after that he had tons of women.

And stop reading cosmo; just look at the pictures;)
 beautifuldancer400
Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 100
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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:11:57 PM

These guys run by their own set of rules.


Many guys (poor and middle class) do many of the things you stated with the exception of maybe having homes in different places. The only difference is the women with the rich guys can walk away with something to show for their time...or stay and at least have some security.

If nothing else they can at least know their children will have the benefits of not being poor.
 beautifuldancer400
Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 105
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Posted: 5/5/2008 5:43:12 PM

I find it funny that so many of the men that worry about golddiggers don't have any gold to dig.


My guess for this is because they are annoyed that the women they want don't or won't want them. It's like overweight girls complaining about guys only wanting thin girls.

"You can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes ...you just might find...you get what you need."
Rolling Stones




 sably
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 106
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Posted: 5/5/2008 7:49:16 PM
Sure it is. I'm looking for a guy who can make my eyes light up when he walks in the room and who can crank my tractor once he gets there. He doesn't need a wallet in his pants pocket for that; or even pants for that matter.As for the rest, I can take care of myself.
 Invictus01
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 107
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Posted: 5/5/2008 9:35:19 PM
Maybe off topic, but some time in the very near past I was straight up asked how much I was making and whether I got stock options when I switched companies. The question was asked in a bar... by a nurse... not that far into our conversation. The way it was posted, I'd think I was talking to my financial advisor or something. Funny how some people feel the need to worry about stuff that should only concern one person... and that person would be ME.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 5/6/2008 11:57:16 AM
Maybe off topic, but some time in the very near past I was straight up asked how much I was making and whether I got stock options when I switched companies. The question was asked in a bar... by a nurse... not that far into our conversation. The way it was posted, I'd think I was talking to my financial advisor or something. Funny how some people feel the need to worry about stuff that should only concern one person... and that person would be ME.


Perhaps she was trying to make a point and was being sarcastic. How old was this woman? Trust me when I say, that women know that men like to "buy" company, its not a big secret and we are aware that many men think that most women are easily bought. The funny thing about this is that many men think that it is OK to use their money to get a "trophy" but when they get called on it, all of a sudden its the women that are the ones with a character defect......
 Anokagrassland
Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 110
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Posted: 5/6/2008 1:04:20 PM
I haven't met anyone, other then my ex, that I would classify as a "golddigger". However I have observed that women over 30 are much more concerned with income then women under 30. Level of wealth doesn't seem to concern them. Only income. I've had 3 different women in their 30's tell me I didn't make enough for them. I've never had a woman in her 20's suggest anything like that.

I'm not sure how they know how much I make! I think this is one of the tremendous disconnects between those of us who own our own businesses and the folks who work for others. Very few business owners I know take large incomes out of their businesses. We typically structure things so that our personal draw out of the business is only enough to cover basic living expenses. The rest we reinvest into the business. We avoid losing everything to taxes this way. In my case I farm and ranch. I live on the farm. I have one electric bill that covers both the farm and my house, same for property taxes, property insurance, and water. These bills are all business expenses. I can't deduct the house phone but I can deduct my internet connection and my cell phone.

Owning a farm tends to weed out the worst gold diggers. It sounds like too much work to them!
 newmexicoleo
Joined: 2/25/2009
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Posted: 6/15/2009 9:13:21 AM
If a significant bank account is required to secure dates that is just saying that you are insecure about dating someone who doesn't have a lot of money. The economy is tough right now and a lot of people have lost their jobs and/or seen their incomes cut in half in one day. Does that make you less desirable to men if you are a woman and vice versa? I think a lot of people who date for money are just looking for a way to ease the pain of trying to make it through tough times; however, me personally I would never date a man who could not hold a steady job and would rather sit around the house and be lazy. It is desirable to people to be financially secure, but it should not matter if the man or woman has money or not as long as that person holds a steady job. To me, that shows stability and that is more important than having a lot of money in the bank.
 DallasFan1960
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 115
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Posted: 6/15/2009 6:07:54 PM
JMO, The onlypercentage of woman who are true gold diggers are the one's whose daddy's spoiled them as little girls. They grew up with the preverbial Silver spoon in thier gerber food and never eccepted anything less than what they could charge on radeo drive.

The secondary percentage of true gold digger's are the most attractive or, " Hotties " who use thier good looks and physical attributes to attract the wealthiest men out there in any given city.

The Third and most redible gold digger's are the woman who marry for money, these are your mail order brides. Exclusive and regarded as the cream de le cream. the one's who know if they abuse the privelage provided for them thier out on the street, or sent back to thier native country to be recycled to the next top bidder.
 NYCman530
Joined: 7/6/2009
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Posted: 9/8/2009 6:02:30 PM
I can understand a woman wanting a guy who's not a bum and is working steady. But I don't understand these women who list $100,000 or $150,000 for they're salary requirements, which I've seen on match.com quite often. And some of these same women claim they're low maintenance! What a joke! Sounds very HIGH maintenance to me, very superficial and very shallow. Those are truly gold diggers. I suppose some men can be guilty of the same thing, but I'm sure there's guys who make $100,000 and up who are deep in debt yet guys like me who make half that get their bills paid every month. Women should look at it in that perspective as well.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 9/9/2009 11:14:39 AM
Money provides cush, comfort and freedom from bills, but it sure can't "buy" a personality or sexiness!!!

I dunno...a lot of women like cowboys. Unless they've hit Texas tea (oil), they're dirt-poor, but they sure are men's men who know how to tame wild stallions and ride bulls! There's something to be said for the tough, rugged type.

In the white-collar corporate world, though, gender roles have become convoluted and confused. Men have an innate desire to conquer, but in the white-collar workplace, even in upper management, it's very difficult to conquer a mountain of paperwork that, no matter how hard one works, it just keeps piling up and the mountain gets higher. And, since the white-collar workplace is increasingly dominated by women, men are frequently working UNDER their female bosses. I can see why so many men lose their way, get depressed, and sulk under our female mates. We need an arena of power to control, be it a person or situation.

This is why men like sports. They get to live vicariously through their idol athletes in an aggressive situation, conquering the other team, instead of the passive-aggressive situation they have to suck it up and deal with at work.

Being a golddigger, male or female, is bad, because the digger relinquishes control over their own life. Money (and working for money) enables us to be in control of our OWN lives. This economy sucks, but I don't want to be a "kept" man, so I think I just landed a new second job.
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