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 mystlw
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 222
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A hidden truth.. Depression...Page 15 of 15    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15)

Red Flags Avoid these people with these patterns: Abusive parents, abusive ex-husbands, abusive ex-boyfriends, alcoholism, drugs, talks about ex on first, second dates, negativity, disrespectful, confuses you, arrogance/condescending, Cheated in past, self-centered, Breaks Dates, Makes excuses, lies, cusses a lot, No Class, Inflexible, Distrusting, Bitter, Nags, gossips. Women who say something, but their actions and body language reflect different signals. Women with low self-esteem, fixated on money, or have psychological problems, or psychiatric problems.


So, just one girl somewhere in rural Iowa, then?

It's interesting that you're discounting any woman with abusive parents, ex-husbands, or boyfriends, in that you're blaming someone for the abuse of others. How many people, especially children, do you know that invite people to scar them emotionally?
 mystlw
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 226
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Posted: 9/22/2006 5:03:10 PM

Now, in-spite of all this, I still would not date a woman with psychological or psychiatric problems, which is what my original red flag statement was regarding.


Your original statement presupposes that someone with a history of abuse has psychological or psychiatric problems, which is not always the case.

I've found that people that have suffered or struggled oftentimes have a greater sense of compassion and empathy toward others who are suffering. That is in no way a bad thing.
 designingwoman
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 227
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:43:47 PM
I agree that people who have suffered have greater empathy and understanding toward those who have struggled.

I am going through a hard time right now, facing career disappointment in the electrical industry, and am now looking for a full time job. People can get depressed when they are dealing with life circumstances as well as from biochemical processes that go awry in the brain.

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 ace76
Joined: 11/13/2006
Msg: 234
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Posted: 11/21/2006 7:13:27 PM
No, because as long as they're taking it, they should be fine.

We all have our own issues, and i'm not going to "cast the first stone," so to speak.
 sam5286
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 237
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Posted: 6/16/2009 10:06:40 AM
id b curious what u say to me...im a mental health advocate (hav been 4 7 yrs)-my job is to make sure people wth mh probs know what their rigts are and i help achieve positive outcomes in homelessness, child protection etc . i had a breadown 19 yrs ago and have basically put my own mh on a shelf so to speak-busying myself helping others overcoming stigma has kept it at bay largely but i do get low when its quiet m kids have gone to their dads, im tired from a hectic career and i wonder why am i on my own- i then think ohh mayb ur depressed again-but my way of dealing with it is mind of matter if i dont think i am ill be fine- .for a porfessional to acknowledge they hav probs is prob even more of a stigma so im not 'out'.. but is that doin me more harm than good- i know the drugs i had nrly 2v yrs psyctherapy yrs ago so been there and not sure i need to go there again. occ when really stressed with life ill go on citalopram but it doesnt help-wonder if it doesnt cos i dont ned it...v confused!!!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 238
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Posted: 6/16/2009 10:54:25 AM
I 've talk to a few guy who suffer from depression ,their emotion are high and low , andthey pushed the of botton of your sympathy and when you are* in* with them everything you said is against them, and Iwas always trying to be understood that drags me to despair.1 to 3 dates is my limit to them To begin with,I am a happy person ,I will not take that kind of crumb in relationship just to be with someone .. Yes I will run as fast as I can out of their reach.
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