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Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 92
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TV & Movies are influential. We all make our own choices at the end it right on. Problem is with young people today is that there are very little boundries. Heck they are trying to outlaw spanking. What is up with that??
The lable "bisexual" has changed throughout history because the rulers who did partake in this behavior would have had you killed for questioning it. Homosexual is common throughout nature as well as human nature. We have just learned how to be discreet because of changing religion and cultural believes.
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 93
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Female Bisexuality
Posted: 12/26/2007 7:14:59 PM
I believe you are correct. Being gay is "in". Life styles should be up to the people involved. Our desensitizing of the subjest will hopefully be positive and not a bad thing. Hopefully things will even out and in 10 years we will be discussing the next "in" thing.
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 94
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Female Bisexuality
Posted: 12/26/2007 7:20:14 PM
Maybe by discussing issues like this we can all learn a little something. I enjoy hearing what other people think and open my mind to other's opinions. You are a little off by the term "sexual deviant" this turn describes people who get sexual pleasure at the expense of another. Such as child molester, rapists, and people who abuse dead bodies. They are often associated with violence.
Bi-sexual is a term that loosly describes people who find both men and women sexually appealing. Falling in love doesn't really play a part in it. Hopefully when they decide what they want from a partner they make a choice and stick with it.
Joined: 11/9/2007
Msg: 95
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 12/27/2007 2:43:12 PM
Big Bear 72 said

[I have heard that its now trendy for women to be bisexual.]

ONE CAN ONLY HOPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 103
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:12:04 AM

Most bisexuals that I've met are unhappy people w/ a number of issues.
You really have to choose one side of the fence or the other.
It's doubtful that your partners are going to indulge your "preferences" as much as you'd like them to.,if you are bisexual.

First comment. Completely false.
Second comment. No.. actually.. you don't HAVE TO CHOOSE.
Third comment. I'd never ask someone within a relationship to share me. Whomever I happen to be dating at the time is my "preference".
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 105
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Female Bisexuality
Posted: 1/3/2008 4:38:15 PM
RE: First post.

Women are sleek and sexy and lithe and just built to be appealing. Men are bulky, hairy, and sweaty. Women only love are bodies cause genetics tells them to. Taking those two things into consideration, its quite logical and normal for women to be straight and still see a woman as attractive. Hetero men on the otherhand liking other men... doesnt quite work out according to that logic.
Joined: 8/9/2007
Msg: 106
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:37:19 PM
I have to say its not trendy...nowadays people are more open about sexuality!
women ARE beautiful, its impossible to not be bisexual when you are a woman, I love men, dont take me wrong, I would not be able to be all the way lesbian, but theres some women out there that are just hot, pretty legs, full breasts, beautiful face... cant say no to that!
my eyes do wonder in a store...usually they wonder more to women than men.
Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 110
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 2/11/2008 2:35:38 AM
Bi girls/women .. DISGUSTING and take this from a guy who had a relationship (if I could call it that) with one. A very attratvie women but treated me so badly that I got rid of her in the worst way.

First off if it's genetic, why would any man want a women to bare him defective children, I'm not against Gay People but I sure as heck don't want one as my offspring if I can avoid it.

Our society is overly feminized and has created a Female Patriacrchy. It's gotten way outtah hand. Now women are acting more an more like men, I constantly see lesbianism EVERYWHERE and in the worst places, all those girls at the car shows, playboy magazine, Lesbian, Lesbian, Lesbian.

Here's what irritates my nerves the most, when a Women looks at a man as a potential mate, she's either

1. Looking for broke ass abusive dumb as shit THUG
2. Wuss with a good bank account to take care of her now that the Thugs don't want her anymore, aka used up with kids in tow!

but with a women all she needs is attraction. That's unfair.
Women put a lot more "demands" if the sex partner is going to be a male.

I can' t count how many times a women was clawing all over me but the second I didn't answer her "interrogation" correctly I got the "raped her sister/**** shield" treatment.

Also if you've been with women SO much, most don't have a friggin clue on how to please a man.

Being a single guy in A Feminazi'd society is living hell. Most women treat you like utter Shit just for being a decent human being and only respond to you if your a hard ass d*ck.

whenever I meet a Western women PERIOD, she's no go, she's either a thug luver, gold digger, entitlement queen, or so Lesbianized to the point where she's damaged goods.

Every guy who posts threads like this is bitter about it in the back of his mind, don't waste your time trying to understand it, just move on to Foreign women who haven't been Brainwashed by the Anti-Male agenda.
Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 112
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 2/11/2008 3:30:13 AM
But your forgetting that just because the parents are ok, doesn't mean a defective genome can't resurface

For example there are genetic diseases that only surface under certain conditions. and your also assuming just because the parents say they're straight, doesn't actually mean they are straight, ever hear of the term "denial" if you live in a society that demonizes Homosexuality, everyone will deny being gay and only the hard core /purest gay people will come out. Look back in time, there wasn't any "Bi-trend" going on.
Joined: 9/6/2007
Msg: 116
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Female Bisexuality
Posted: 3/9/2008 12:12:37 PM
well me personally, watching chicks kiss is a turn on, but i wouldnt date a bisexual period.
im not ashamed to be turned on sexually but not date one, i think its kinda nasty for a chick to actually like or one to be with another women, so naw i wouldnt even date one that has or wants to do one.i guess ive got some nasty turns ons lol. of course i think its a new trend, and there are alot of followers out there who cant get enough attention just being straight. i think a female who considers herself straight but still sleeps with another girl is wrong. if im a guy and i did do that i wouldnt be considered straight, so how does that make u straight if u do? and then most of em are hipporcrits, wouldnt date a guy who has does, or want to experiment ha.
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 119
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Female Bisexuality
Posted: 3/9/2008 3:22:40 PM
Sorry, but I don't share.
 labyrinths end
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 121
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:35:48 AM
how can it be a trend? dont get that bit
its been around forever hasnt it?
maybe the young girls go around holding hands because they perceive it to be a turnon for the boys.thats annoying
but as far as being a trend? dont know
if youre truly bi sexual then thats a need as strong as it is to blow your nose or cough or scratch
if youre bi curious thats one step down and that need may or may not arise again
we cant help our needs and urges. we can choose to act on them or to leave them dormant
maybe what we are seeing is the more permissive modern society is allowing people to come forward and experiment and be more public about it
i am not bisexual at all
i do not enjoy a womans touch
but i do fantasize
put in my a situation with a woman -id run but i dont at all mind if someone found me attractive
( afterall, how could they not? lol jk)
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 122
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:18:28 PM

Female Bisexuality ~ just check out any night club.

The women grind on themselves while the men stare while holding a beer.

That ain't actual bisexuality, that's nothing more complicated than a couple of dumba$$es looking for.. no.. SCREAMING for male attention. ANY male attention.

Real live gay people or bi people or even straight people, for that matter are gonna do whoever it is they prefer in private. The exceptions to that being porn stars.
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 123
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:42:30 PM
I'm bisexual and young...been messing with woman now since i was 13...i believe every female thought about it some actually doing it..u cant knock it until u try it right? now as far as men, i cant say..i have a gay guy friend back in SC he told me he knew u like guys when he was in the 3rd grade, he dated girls even slept with 2 and still couldn't get stri8 lol
Joined: 10/2/2005
Msg: 126
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/4/2008 8:19:14 PM
If a woman is open to being with a female, she's not "normally heterosexual."
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 129
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/5/2008 4:44:04 PM

I second that LOL. And I rarely use LOLs.

I guess all of the freaks and sex-feigns left myspace and hopped onto 360. Has bisexuality become a fashion statement or what? Surely not. Lord have mercy, all of these dumb-ass skillet lickers saying they are proud of it. Jesus! Um, FYI, wtf is up with your minds? I mean, I'm all about kinky sex, but not with another woman?!! I'm enough woman for myself any day of the week. I guess I'm just too damn jealous to have another chick in bed with my man. I wouldn't know whether to watch or jump up and kick her ass. LOL. Crazy day. Going to sneak down to the end of the holler and sup around. LOL. Have a great day.

Good Lord.

I guess yours is the ONLY proper opinion, right?

If I'm reading this right.. anyone who is bi or gay is stupid, far as you're concerned. How charming.

The stuff I read here never EVER ceases to amaze me. The idiocy, the close-mindedness, the folks so SURE that their opinions are gospel, the sub-moronic hate that spews freely...

Boggles the mind, it does.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 131
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/5/2008 9:21:40 PM

If I take this post above and the previous one.. the difference is like night and day.

One's repugnant and the other has an almost "live and let live" quality to it.

So I'm wondering which is the real opinion.
Joined: 6/25/2008
Msg: 132
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/5/2008 9:52:22 PM
i went through a 15 year period of flirting with bisexuality , and loved it, I always called myself a Try-sexual, I'd try anything more than once , made me happy so why not, I got into some very erotic encouters back in the day with woman , sometimes with men watching, the kind people wank to on the web lol , but I've since lost interest in toying with girls , now its just men...
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 136
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Posted: 8/8/2008 9:53:49 AM
Okay, I gotta speak up here. There is way too much ignorance expressed in these posts, not that I think that I'm going to change that.

I am a 55 year old bisexual woman. I first realized I was bi during high school, while I had a boyfriend, when I developed a crush on a girlfriend of mine. I never pursued that one but a few years later my first lover was a woman 15 years older than myself.

I was married for a number of years, divorced, and after that lived with a woman as her lover for six years. During that time I decided I must be a lesbian and presumed that some of the problems I'd had with my husband must have stemmed from that. When I later fell in love with a man, something I didn't think I'd do again, I had to accept that, indeed, I was completely bisexual. That last "coming out" was difficult because, at the time, most of my friends were gay or lesbian and I feared their rejection. Fortunately, I had found some wonderful, tolerant, accepting friends whose reaction was, "We don't care who you sleep with, we just want you to be happy." These are the kind of people I want to have in my life.

Since that time I've dated men for a variety of reasons. I've met one woman who I'd love to be with but she's straight. Dating men is socially more convenient and I don't fit well into the lesbian scene, but I'm still quite capable of loving someone of either sex. For people like myself, it's about the person and not their equipment.

There are a lot of misconceptions about bisexuals among both straight and gay folks. Gay folks distrust us and think we're afraid of being completely gay or "on the fence." There's also resentment that we can easily be perceived as straight and therefore take advantage of the privileges that society affords heterosexuals. Straight people think we're incapable of being monogamous and the (annoying to many of us) reaction of many straight men is immediately, "Oh, boy! A three-way with two women!"

For the record: most of the bisexuals I know are not interested in three-ways. For some folks it *is* a transition phase to being completely gay, but for many of us it is who we truly are.

I won't go into why it seems more acceptable for women than men, but in my and many others' experience it seems more prevalent among women than men. Some psychologists posit that it may be because our first love object in infancy is our mother and that makes it easier for a woman to love another woman. I don't know and I don't care.

Our sexual orientation is not a choice. How we respond to it is our choice, but that orientation is a part of us that we did not sit down one afternoon and make. If you are heterosexual and think that it is, look at yourself honestly and tell me the day you sat down, weighed all the possibilities, and made a decision to be a heterosexual. Silly notion, isn't it?

Why the trendiness among young women these days? I don't know. As society becomes more lenient around sex I suppose it's not surprising. For some it is a passing "experiment." However, it is also allowing expression to something that has been there all along, though repressed. As for who is a bisexual? Are you bi if you have fantasies but don't act on them? Well, are you still heterosexual if you are celibate? I think people get to decide for themselves and their sense of who they are may change over the course of their lives. Observation of human beings will make it obvious that sexuality can be fluid. Heterosexuality may be what is dominant, but variants can and do exist and always have.

I do not advertise my orientation, though my closest friends know. I do not hide it from my lovers. I don't mention it when I meet a man but if the relationship continues and I think I might get involved, I tell them. None of them have cared and if they did, they wouldn't be the kind of person I'd be interested in anyway. I haven't brought it out in the open in POF forums until now precisely for the same reason I generally don't mention it to casual acquaintances. Once that information about you is out there, you have no control over where it goes. People, unfortunately, may judge you or come to have preconceived ideas about you based on that information. I'd rather have people know me for who I actually am rather than who they think I may be based on who I have or haven't slept with. I consider that information private anyway.

In the discussions where sexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc., have come up in these forums I have to say I've been a little disappointed in the ignorance that still persists. I would hope that some thoughtfulness, tolerance, and sensitivity would prevail. For those of you who understand: Thank you.
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 139
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Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/8/2008 10:59:23 AM

I'm just pointing out that there is no set answer to how someone comes to identify themself sexually. I'm convinced that life experiences and environment play as large a roll as biology.

I've heard this kind of story before and, while I will not dispute that person's experience, I will also point out that a number of young men are molested by older men and do not turn out gay. Whether the experience "turns" someone gay or not, or just introduces them to the idea sooner, or whether young men who seem like they might be gay are more often targeted, cannot be really answered. However, I've known a number of men in my life who were molested by relatives, priests, and in the boy scouts, who were completely heterosexual adults, so the experience does not turn *most* men gay. A counselor I know who works with men who were sexually abused as children confirms this.

Using that as a theory for someone becoming gay, it would not explain the number of lesbians I've known who were molested by men when they were young. Many of them point to it as an experience that turned them off to men. Did it? Then how would it explain the significant number of women who are heterosexual who were molested? In any individual's case this may be a factor, but the facts are that it does *not* appear to be a factor in the majority of cases.

The majority of us who are bisexual or gay do not point to some experience of childhood molestation as the cause of our orientation. We find that we are who we are in spite of society's reinforcement of something different. We do not feel a need to explain why we are the way we are any more than heterosexuals do. We merely would like to be able to love, or bed, those whom we wish without others insisting there is something wrong with us.

In another thread, a young woman asked about men who do not satisfy their lovers. I've known a number of frustrated "hetero" women who have seriously considered turning to other women precisely for this reason. This is rarely a problem between two women. However, for myself and most of the other bisexuals I've known, dissatisfaction was not what made us be who we are. We already knew who we are.
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 140
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Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/8/2008 11:04:21 AM
I'd also like to add that the children of gay & lesbian parents do not turn out gay or lesbian any more than other children, perhaps sometimes to their parents' dismay. Having gay parents does not make you gay. So much for being able to recruit people into the ranks. I don't think you can "convert" someone, much as some people would like to think. Look at yourself. If you consider yourself solidly hetero, doesn't the idea of "switching" seem weird and unnatural? Same for us. I could ignore & suppress my attraction for one sex or another, but I couldn't *make* myself be attracted to someone I wasn't.
 La Gioconda
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 145
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/9/2008 11:57:18 PM

Savage love sounds intriguing to me, I would like to find out more info about it but I was not able to contact you because you have e-mail restrictions. I need the title and the author.

To me, this is interesting thread because ever since I remember I was turned on by woman's body but I have no desire to be in a relationship with a woman. Being with a man is much more satisfying, but not just for the physical part. When I am with him in a bedroom, apart from physical part, the emotion also play important part. But with a woman, it is different for me (by the way, I have not experimented with any). Anyways, not sure how to put it, but would like to learn more about myself. The difference with me is that I love to kiss with him and get lost and fall onto him, but I have no desire to do this with a woman.
But occasionally I get fulfilled when I fantasize about her, but the satisfaction is only on the surface. This may not make sense. La Jaconde
 La Gioconda
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 146
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/10/2008 2:56:11 PM
I like what you said mick2521 about how bisexuality of women is exploited and man's preoccupation with this kind of fantasy. I have found out this particularly true in my younger years, when I was experimenting with men. There were those who encouraged me into 3 some, for example, or couples suggesting this to me. Not because I was appearing in any certain way, but because I was very sensual and they saw that in me. I felt this was not right. It was about their fantasy and also about exploitation, I would have simply been used. It wasn't intimate and it was about addiction, these are the words that would come out in my vocabulary, when I think about those situations.

I also like what one of the poster said earlier in the thread, she acknowledged that she can be turned on when she sees some nice, soft erotica watching two females playing with each other, I can relate to that. But this is where the question remains for me, would I want to explore that aspect of myself and why. For me personally, I feel it is OK to acknowledge that I am turned on by female body, supposedly I wanted to experience it, I don't think I would fall in love with any of those women, this is the difference for me, as I wouldn't be able to form the emotional bond with her. So, in a sense it would be all about objectifying, and I may even feel yak after the experience, it wouldn't be about the person but about their body parts. This is what is stopping me from going that route, because I won't create those emotional bonds with a woman, the way I am able to do with a man. Oh, muah... I can kiss him, but can't do this with her.

This is why for me I prefer to leave it right there, there is this fine line, and I don't see myself crossing it.

I like also that some posters are voicing their protest against labeling the person, I feel kind of the same. So, just writing this post made me aware we are all very different. Viva la difference!
 La Gioconda
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 150
Female Bisexuality
Posted: 8/10/2008 7:44:09 PM
Your last posts colecionistadecanciones ring the truth... I sense males are more paranoid about sexual orientation. I say that because lots of my males friends have hard time accepting gay men, and on the other hand I find it is easier for women to come to terms with their own sexuality and sexual orientation of others.

Also, I start to understand more about my own attraction towards female form and also start to understand my own barrier of exploring those relationships, too. There must be some good literature out there, I find forums are just eyes opening, but there is much more to explore. Thank you for being here. La Jaconde
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