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 classyexoticlady
Joined: 2/11/2006
Msg: 27
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Hi there,

Your story sounds a lot like mine. I seperated back in january of 06. My ex left me for another woman, younger and dumber I guess. It took me at least four months to heal, and realize that I was better off. He still bothers me and says he wants me back even though he has gotten his new girlfriend pregnant, (and they are supposedly seriouse,and planning to get married.) I sincerely wish he would put closure on our previouse relationship of five years and just let me be.. You just have to realize that your ex's negative actions, disrespect for your feelings, and obvious betrayal is enough closure..


Sincerely,

mary
 radiojim
Joined: 6/3/2005
Msg: 31
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i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:22:17 PM
your looking for closure. (a logical need) but you are seeking a logical need from an illogical person who is not well balanced and definitely not playing with a full deck....time to take the initiative and reach out to close the door on your own...... sorry for the pain my friend....Jim
 MarkCK
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 32
i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:24:30 PM
I think that when you say closure, you mean a.. sorry, and its cool lets just put it behind us view on both parts? without any hostility. Thats what I feel I need after a while anyway, well unless she was a right ****, even then I get pretty soft! can't be bothered with the worthless fighting!!

So maybe just help her out a little if it's possible, remember her birthday send her a card etc, send her an xmas card wishing her the best to show there's no hard feelings.

Then if she somehow manages to warm up a little - tell her listen, it didn't work - I'm sorry for that - hope we can still be decent to each other, I feel much better when that happens anyway.
 Bigger Guy
Joined: 10/3/2005
Msg: 34
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i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:24:28 PM
CLOSURE???????????????? You could not get any more closure than you got! >>>>>>>>THINK ABOUT IT! You got "right in your face" closure. I feel bad for the rough time you had, but I feel even better that you are not still involved with that .. and I do not qualify her as anything more than "THAT".
Things can only get better from here ... you have been given a reprieve from the devil and afforded the chance to move on with a fresh and great start. There are lots of realy GREAT ladies out there, and right on here,who would appreciate a devoted man ...... you ARE that man. Have Fun! (and thank God and/or your lucky stars for the reprieve!)
 1_smart_cookie
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 35
i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:38:02 PM
Wow...exactly what I was thinking......in your own words are all the closure that you'll ever need.

If you need to keep rereading your original post a hundred times until you've got it memorized, then do it!

In one fell swoop you've effectively unloaded everything bad and troublesome in your life. Stop looking back on all the drama and turn around and look at your future.....it should be easy to spot....the darkness is behind you...just start heading to the bright spot on the horizon.
 MarkCK
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 38
i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 7/3/2006 8:41:37 AM
sorry about that vinny some people arn't worth our time and emotion !!

if it doesn't feel better now it will in a little while usually does :)
 spencer66
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 43
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i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 7/4/2006 3:53:34 PM
My ex and i where married for 10 years we have now been divored for 3.5 she is now remarried and about to have a child with her new husband she's where she needs to be away from me but to this day i still dont know why every time i've asked i get a differant answer i guess the point is that sometimes the answer's dont come in a hurry, or at all but the need for them does lesson.
 LadyL1962
Joined: 5/14/2009
Msg: 46
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i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 5/19/2009 3:39:16 PM
I understand what you mean by closure. I was married 14 years. I do not have closure either. Not only that, my youngest daughter, 19 decided to stay with me ex. (her step-father). I haven't seen her is 10 months and she doesn't want anything to do with me. I never cheated on my husband and never would. I did however make another mistake and I guess it was just too much for them to forgive. You never really know someone until something happens..
 silentjudge
Joined: 5/14/2009
Msg: 49
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i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 5/21/2009 7:33:00 PM
hey i just finally got closure from my ex today we were together for 2 1/2 years she has been with this guy for 4 months we broke up 5months ago i was a horrible boyfriend to her im bi polar so i have my issues i still loved her with this closure im able to move on i see she is really happy with this new guy she told me there going to get married it hurt but i needed the closure all those feelings i had for her are gone within a hour i lingered on this for almost 6months. dont let it affect you like me if you didnt get an answer she is not worth it. i had to get the courage to finaly talk to my ex. if you need closure it is up to you. i hope the best to you
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 50
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i need closure and my x refuses to give it
Posted: 5/21/2009 8:56:43 PM
You're never going to get "closure" out of that whack-job. The truth is she's too whacked out to KNOW the truth. She doesn't know herself, man...how can YOU know her? Count your blessings she's moved on and do the same. She must be a great piece of ass for you to obsess about her like this.
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