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 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 51
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^^^^ true....but then there are people who are the SAME age that grow apart after eight or nine years or sooner.... everyone's experience is unique and anecdotal.....


NO ONE can say with certanty how things will turn out....so why discourage someone from having their little bit of happiness while it lasts....

I think too many people think that because they can't do something that it's therefore universally undoable!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 52
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/19/2011 8:40:08 AM
I am 38 and I have dated and would gladly date a 22 year old woman!!!
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 53
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/20/2011 2:39:18 AM
^^^^^Care to back up your insult with fact or evidence?
I'm 22 years older than my girlfriend.... so far she seems to be the most stable and self confident woman I've met.

I would say that a 27 year old that hasn't been in a relationship longer than one year has issues if he thinks he knows everything about relationships...
 AtheistScholar
Joined: 6/18/2011
Msg: 54
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/23/2011 7:18:17 PM
That's because it IS creepy.

As a 36 year old woman I could never toy with a barely legal age boy - what would we possibly have in common? Is he going to watch my kids while I do his homework for him? Gee - maybe my son and he can play video games together! I suppose that's all right, I'll keep myself busy with washing the puke off his jersey from a night of frat partying, maybe will he take me to the delta - beta dance as a reward!

Age may "be a number" but it's also an allotment of time in which we have had to accrue life experience. Who the hell would want to date someone who has had profoundly less life experience them? I'll tell ya who: shallow people. Most folks want someone they can share interests with, unless of course, their interest is mainly sexual because they don't have the brains to put as much stock into anything else....

It makes me quite sad - I was raised with the ethic that part of being an adult meant shepherding those younger than I, not preying on them, but apparently many of my peers care more about their genitalia than being mature - and I have to pick a mate amongst these clowns!

As a mother myself - why would I engage in behavior I wouldn't want someone doing to my own child? Why would I want to date a man who would be willing to date someone only a few years older than my own child? A man like that can't even be trusted to build anything with - he could be making advances towards my daughter or her friends the second my head is turned. No thanks! Many folks may think it makes them look tolerant or attractive to be open to younger relationships - I think it makes them look like unethical perverts as to most people who actually grew up....
 UnixGrand
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 55
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Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/23/2011 7:30:32 PM
Wow.... I think I better stop dating the 36 year old I'm with.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 56
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/23/2011 8:32:52 PM
Y'all do know...the whole half your age plus seven only works out once right? For instance when I'm 59 my girlfriend will be half my age plus seven...
 Selfawareness
Joined: 12/28/2010
Msg: 57
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/24/2011 11:54:48 AM
The first thing you need to do is finishing your high school. If the guy is overweight, he's not too useful for your needs.
 JRodriguez81
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 58
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/24/2011 5:14:15 PM

I very encouraged by the mature responders here. I met and fell in love with a man 20 years ago. He was 22 yrs my senior. We would connect here and there thru the years, each time, he was wrapped up in something or I was. Today, we reconnected again. The fire is still there, the trust is stronger than before. I want to be his one and only, no man could ever compare to him for me. He had me at Hello when I was 20, a mess and full of ambition. Now I'm 41 and ready to be a wife. He's 62 and I think he's sexy, he treats me like a queen, what more could I want?
In regards to what family says, my mother will be worried, but she has always known how I felt about this man, so she will support me. My true friends and brothers and daughters family will be supportive. Even if it caused them discomfort, why would it matter, its my happiness that matters and I am ready to live my life without apology's and explanations. Being honest with your feelings will make you happier, I believe. I'd say go for it! Love is deeper than physicallity, and visual, its trust and unconditional love and chemistry that matters.
As far as his family, we shall see, but I don't expect anything huge. I know his son and daughter and we have always been on good terms. So I hide my profile today and I hope the next update is a testimony to love outside the box! Namaste





Yawn.



If it was so magical, then why havent you two connected for KEEPS in the 20 years you've known him?


To be honest, that all sounds like a Hallmark card to me.
 JRodriguez81
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 59
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/24/2011 5:17:22 PM
And im sorry, but even at my age now, as a 30 year old male, I COULD NOT see myself being with a 20 year old, or whatever have you.


WTF do you even talk about with someone that is 20 years younger than you? Look, if you have that much of a connection with a kid that is 20 years younger than you....then something is up with you.


Christ, even trying to conversate with women that are a mere 10 years younger than me is PAINFUL.




Sure, you'll get all of these airy fairy folks around here firing off about "true wuv" and how age is just a number, and yada yada, but the reality is....there are different emotional levels throughout your life, and your perspective changes along the years through aging, and your experiences.



I may catch flack for saying this, but MOST people my age and up, that "date younger" are generally big KIDS themselves. And not in a good way either.


Why on earth would I want a someone that young, unless its merely because they were "hot?"
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 60
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/24/2011 6:23:46 PM

I may catch flack for saying this, but MOST people my age and up, that "date younger" are generally big KIDS themselves. And not in a good way either.



....I refuse to grow up! Not gonna do it! Can't make me! Neener neener neener!
 UnixGrand
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 61
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Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/24/2011 7:41:06 PM
....I refuse to grow up! Not gonna do it! Can't make me! Neener neener neener!


Your too funny dude. Are you a Toys-R-Us kid?
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 62
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/25/2011 2:14:20 AM
^^^^ O M G! I totally AM a Toys-R Us kid!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 63
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Posted: 6/25/2011 9:19:38 AM

22 years older than you........he may as well be your father,youre disgusting,go get someone your age.


You have NO RIGHT TO TELL HER SHE is disgusting,YOU ARE NOT HER FATHER!!!!!!!

I was happily married to a 20 years my senior for more than 18 years until he passed away. Age is not a factor to two people in love and want to be together....
 RubyWaxxx
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 64
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/25/2011 5:03:55 PM
^^No one she liked as much as him, obviously.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 65
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/25/2011 5:28:40 PM
Those who can't get it won't ever get it!
 ocean_park
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 66
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/26/2011 12:52:04 PM
Date who you want to. Personally I wouldn't have any type of sexual or romantic relationship with a man who is 22 yrs older than me. A man is 22 yrs younger might be good for a FWB / casual relationship. But I wouldn't have a LTR with him.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 67
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/26/2011 2:14:38 PM

You don't wander up to them in clubs or single them out at the gym or latch on to them at speed dating events.


...Ummm, that's EXACTLY how they meet!
 tifftaurus1970
Joined: 11/24/2008
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Posted: 6/27/2011 5:35:30 PM
Hallmark card? Hilarious comment.
Neither one of us were ready to take the plunge. Simply put. We were going in different directions in our career. He went to war, I went to college. Two different places in our life. Love means letting go, and if it returns, it could be for KEEPS.

So far, it has been a dream, he's a gentleman, we are moving slowly down that road, because we both are mature enough to commit wholeheartedly. It doesn't have to be a fast hookup to be worthwhile, would you agree?
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 69
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/28/2011 11:34:07 AM
If the attraction and chemistry are there...Go For It..!! . .
I'd have No Problems woth a Lady of 34..!!
~ since I'm '35'...!! ~
 larissan04
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 70
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/2/2011 9:32:59 PM
older men dating women that much younger...i'd say he is just looking for sex or a trophy... if i were you i wouldn't do it...when i was in my 20s i had older men approach me and it was always rather disgusting...it was so obvious that they were looking for just sex...also, when the guys were married it was even worse...it made me sick to my stomach...the guy is probably a major creep and you would be wise to move on...
 larissan04
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 71
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/2/2011 9:34:51 PM
JOC ~

if the OP met the guy in a club then he's definitely the "old guy" in the club, which is always very pathetic...eeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwww
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 72
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/3/2011 2:16:52 AM

So JCO you're in a nightclub, standing at the bar or in a corner with your mates, i.e. the typical setup, and some old lady with visible wrinkles and aging walks by the bar.
Well...I don't know where you're coming from with THAT...and it's obvious you don't know where I'm coming from. I'm the guy with the girlfriend who is 22 years younger...
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 73
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:46:12 AM
^^^^ and your point was?

So going off your logic, couples...lets say skinny guys with fat chick, for example...
So because the skinny guy likes fat chicks and the fat chick likes skinny guys, YOUR logic indicatesthe fat chick should have to ALSO like fat guys and the skinny guy should have to also like skinny chick? .....What grade are we in?


How about this; people have their preferences and the universe is set up so that just because someone PREFERS something doesn't mean they also have to BE what they prefer...
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 74
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/3/2011 11:42:28 AM
^^^^ so you really have no point....just blabbering?
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 75
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/4/2011 6:58:39 AM
^^^^ Not the first time either.....I've dated and had FWB's with quite a few women 10, 15 and 20 years younger...
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