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 Blown383
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 19
Why so hostile in SoCalPage 4 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
Your approach is probably off..... Lets say I email 10 women on this site. Its guaranteed that I get at LEAST 8 responses. I pick and choose the women I message and so far Ive been pretty successful with getting numbers from here. I just don't have the time to follow up with them because I am so busy.

Give me an example of what you're sending out and maybe I can help you if buy me a dinner a few drinks.

-B
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 28
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/12/2006 7:37:05 PM
I am 4th generation southern cali native, yes the women are horrible here, I travel in my job all over the usa and other countries , saouthern cali has to have the meanest most materialist women I have ever know, it has ben a year since I had a date and 3 years since I had a girlfriend. I am not ugly , I have a very good job that makes pretty good money, I am moral and respectful but women do not like that , not the kind of guy I am until they are ugly and old , then they get it , I see it here and in real life.

I have been on this site for 2 years I never have gotten any e-mails from anyone close to my region and I have sent over 200 e-mails.

Dude at least you get any form of mail , I wish I gotten one of an interested lady in my region . In life it is just as difficult anywhere I go , the women are sooooo soooo horrible here , a little more meaner , they will spray me with mace then beat me with a club just for saying hello. I have been mocked and tripped before just for asking a girl to dance, I will never forget that.
 sleeplessinsacramento
Joined: 12/7/2005
Msg: 31
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/12/2006 11:05:46 PM
Don't be down about others issues that is there proble. I have noticed profiles on here of people I know are in a relationship maybe looking to upgrade ?
 WhereIsTheSuperNo
Joined: 2/16/2006
Msg: 33
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Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/12/2006 11:30:44 PM
Ugh! This and a few other threads makes me wonder why I bother with the internet. It's quite the insight into the internet dating pool. I've read posts that look like they were written by children, another whole thread dedicated to the self justification of cheating on your spouse, tales of gold diggery, topped off by the yarns of hostility. All from a site where people are supposedly trying to meet and flirt and all in lovely SoCal. Welcome to bitter king, can I take your order?

I find all this funny when you compare it to the real world, I see over and over and over women walking along with men who lack virtually every quality that women seem to ask for almost universally in their profiles. It's tragic comedy. Ladies I can almost guarantee you that you've ignored or rejected men on the internet that have more potential than anyone you've ever been with, and guys I'm sure you've Leykissed your way out of some women you'd die for.

It's becoming obvious to me that internet dating is a pair of blurry beer goggle glasses that men write to as an intermission between porn sites with emails composed by the brain in the little head. Women on the other hand view it as a place to fish for the ideals that wouldn't spark the littlest interest for them if it showed up at their front door, empty wish lists devoid of a shred of chemistry. You'd think the internet with it's ability to let a person open a small window into their being would maybe offer a better chance at finding ones elusive soulmate, but instead it seems to be yet another part of our dysfunctional culture that pushes us to isolationism entertained more by electronic gadgets than the company of the opposite gender.
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 35
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/13/2006 9:40:47 AM
Me face , yuo sound kind of tortured, I am on my fith stood up this year, I usually wait two hours before I call it a bad day and leave.

I get grilled too, how much money , my plans , my job, the size of my tool, sometimes what car I drive etc...

I have never gotten dates from any dating site but in some chat systems yes.

They always seem to tell me "Oh , I thought you were taller ?"

See you are not the only one , it has happened to me ever since I was 18 .

You are not a young little thing anymore , when you were younger , the things that happen to you now never happened before ? Right ? You had power , now you know what a guy faces now .

Women who become older, all of a sudden understand how it feels to be a guy, far less attention , no mail , getting stood up , bad comments about personal characteristics to one's face. They suddenly see the positive aspects to want a a nice, decent guy . They also now seem to be the ones that for once approach guys and initially contact guys .

Before when women are younger they have sooo much power , they can choose virtually any guy and usually went for the attraction instead of what was good for them .

All women in this situation , welcome to a guys world , it sucks right ?

I never had any power , I suck to most women because I am not tall.
 WhereIsTheSuperNo
Joined: 2/16/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/13/2006 3:06:36 PM
...and the funny thing is, I lived in Tampa, FL for a few years, after living in LA and before moving back, and Gulf Coast Florida is everything everyone is saying about LA but multiplied by an order of magnitude. I've lived all over this country and in Europe, and no place but Florida was I ever routinely cussed out for holding a door open or offering a light. In the time I've lived in LA, about 7 years total, I've only had this sort of thing happen once.
 beachgoers0235
Joined: 4/22/2006
Msg: 48
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/6/2006 11:07:09 PM
Dating in Southern CA is the worst. Trust me your much better off in AZ then So CA. Back East woman and people in general are much cooler and down to earth and dating is whole different experience. But since you are here you should make the most of it. There are a few good ones among the many many bad apples.
Good luck.
 redheadlady4
Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 55
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Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/11/2006 9:51:51 PM
DaveDave:...I tried to send u an email and it came back and said I was not the right gender and was 52...whats up with that...only wanted to give u a compliment.
 armyguy35
Joined: 10/5/2006
Msg: 67
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 1:59:08 AM
exactly megan...remember trying to deal with traffic on boulder highway?
 armyguy35
Joined: 10/5/2006
Msg: 68
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 2:10:02 AM
I know what you all mean about the snobs in So Cal. I put this pic up , to show my flaws.i dont have a nice body, Im not tanned and buffed, so I tend to weed out the superficial.But You should see some of the rude comments Im getting.Mostly from men though, suprisingly
 G.G.
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 75
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Posted: 10/25/2006 4:56:40 PM
I make it a rule not to boy bash but I am very careful with my heart because I must have an "I date jerks" logo plastered to my forehead.lol. Anyway girls can be just as much of a creep as boys can so dont give up. There are some nice ones out there if you're willing to fish.
-Gina
 armyguy35
Joined: 10/5/2006
Msg: 77
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/27/2006 3:33:14 AM
shondale thats not completely true...i messaged you. but I have talked to a few women from Southern calif, they seem interested we have nice conversations everything goes great...then suddenly out of the blue they stop tlaking to you, and your emails to them go "unread deleted" and you never have any idea why
 Wreckless1
Joined: 2/22/2007
Msg: 86
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 6/26/2007 5:49:51 PM
AMEN ..... NG Man.... Here! Here!
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 103
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/7/2007 5:05:04 PM
God Bless Cooky, my secret crush...

Amen to that! I'd feel really bad for Californians who had to wear the tag that I've earned for them...
 Wreckless1
Joined: 2/22/2007
Msg: 106
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:49:42 PM
This seemed like a simple thread to remark on..... So where do we begin...

in the years of the baby boomers growin up, or even now with technology surpassin even the most simple novice.... what are we living with??

It was simple back when... the phone rang and if you were home you answered it....
if not, the new invention Answering machine would answer it, now we have cell phones and most will answer it no matter where they are, like if they do not catch it, they will miss something.
Hmmmmmmmm what will we miss? No one really ponders this fact, because they are too consumed with the idea of who is callin me now? Oh but some have special rings so they know who it is, before they even answer it, but they still have the urge to answer it. (Excuse me I gotta get this!)

How much can 1 human being handle? We have computers, DVD players. blackberries, Iphones, credit cards, atm cards, charge cards, gas pass items used instead of cards, stickers for this and stickers for that..... I remember the only sticker we had were on a 13 yr olds notebook...
We have cell plans with friends, family connections, and even more and better NOW connect with the internet anywhere and anytime... Just how much can 1 human being cram in a day, with activity?

The more we create the more we are expected to handle.... yeah expected.!!! We used to have jobs that did a few things to get paid for 8 hours of work..... not anymore... we have to be able to multi task to get paid for 9 or more hours of work....and some will even go further and take more work home to get the last bit of the energy into the work related project to impress our boss..... And maybe after so many years of this we might be able to retire at 40, if we are one of the fortunate ones.

We have deleveoped so much in such a short time, the relaxin event of just driving is no longer the case, as 7 out of 10 our on the cell phone as they do not know what to do with their time, if they are not talking, singing, smokin, eatin, are checkin their Ipod, or whatever while driving....
Hostility... hmmmm how much can we take? It ain't simple anymore unless you make a conscious choice to do so. Only in CAlif? maybe, but I doubt it!

Wonder if farmers have it easier... don't think so.
 blue70
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 111
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:11:26 AM
well looks like the OP left the building long ago- and I can only speak for myself....here goes:

it's too damn expensive, I have to work 3 job to barely get by, all the media hype on thinness and beauty and plastic fantastic [not being able to eat makes people cranky, as well as not being able to afford all of the PROCEDURES!]

Then there's SITTING all day working, sitting on the freeway getting to/from work and now I can't even talk on my cell phone........without possibly incurring a brain tumor.

Hostile, me? Nah.....
 MrS
Joined: 9/5/2004
Msg: 116
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:00:32 PM
Mr.P...

It is not you. It is the Lady's here in Calif. Stuck up, got there heads where the sun don't shine! and they all think they are hot shit. Ha! hA! 99% of them are not anything at all. Don't waste your time trying to put on a show for the lady's.. Just one big waste of time. And you know what is so sad about it. The dum brod will fall for some AH, and then get the shaft... I just get a big kick that them now. Who cares, just be cool and be happy and live your life... And maybe you will meet some good woman some day. But don't count on it from here!!!! And one more thing.. DON"T pay for any dating site. They are all over for free. Just need to look...
Be well.
Mr.S
 blue70
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 117
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:48:44 PM
oh, wait- My good friend above me, you are looking for a FWB/Intimate Encounter with a woman between 24 and 50......and you are HOW OLD???

And you don't pay- my, my, what a catch you must be!! I'm sure I'm too old and ugly for you [thank goodness!]

 SoCalSynergy
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 121
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Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/23/2008 11:17:02 AM

Posted By: blue70 on 7/6/2008 1044 PM
Subject: Why so hostile in SoCal
Message: oh, wait- My good friend above me, you are looking for a FWB/Intimate Encounter with a woman between 24 and 50......and you are HOW OLD???

And you don't pay- my, my, what a catch you must be!! I'm sure I'm too old and ugly for you [thank goodness!]


Well...Miss blue70 in Southern Orange County,

The power that women (even anonymous gals in cyber-space) wield over men never ceases to amaze me. It would appear Miss blue70, that after you called out the Mystery Man above you, your comments may have 'inspired' him to change his profile! Take a bow :-)

One more thing...you owe me a box of wet-wipes (to clean off my monitor) since I sprayed coffee all over the place, while reading those hilarious Stella Awards on your profile.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 123
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/24/2008 1:47:54 PM

Because Southern California women can, sometimes, be a bit snotty and stuck up. Not all, but some are.


Naw, those are the ones from out of state.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 125
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/24/2008 2:24:09 PM

Sounds like a happy one to me! Why would anyone even be on this site with such a negative attitude? Oh yeah, because it's free - cheapskate!


Christy2luv is officially my new secret crush


I live in Northern California (SF Bay Area) and one of the things that struck me the most when I was down in Southern California recently was how much more friendly people were in general everywhere I went.


Well, when you don't know if someone is packing heat... it pays to be friendly.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 128
Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:47:27 AM

he would only get craftier.


Is that even possible?
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