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 Wyldefyre
Joined: 4/11/2006
Msg: 26
How to play a player?Page 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Playing him...you do realize that to play him you can't have feelings for him
or admit to them anyway?
Treat him as he treats you...exactly the way he treats you.
If he is busy, so are you...but keep in contact.
Do not waste your time on this guy...live, have fun!
Once he sees you enjoying yourself you'll be tripping over him.


and if this isn't the case and he doesn't show anymore interest..
His Loss.........MOVE ON



Wylde
 iedog
Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 29
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How to play a player?
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:49:49 AM
Ohhh Dear! "We have had some involvment but mostly just hanky panky." Did he touch the cookies? Did he grace those chesty girls with the gentileness of his hands? You wanna be a player whose going after another player, if the answer is yes to either of the these questions then you should know that you might be setting yourself up for some hurt! Then on a slight of the hand, ....you might get lucky but if he's a real player, at best you might succeed in getting laid - do you like being used? or is it the case that you think you might rock his world and then cut'em off? If he's any kind of a player, I think you're gonna come up on the short end of it all. Food for thought sweetie.
 MDNinja
Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 30
How to play a player?
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:03:19 PM
I haven't read anything or know what the topic is about. Just cook him a good meal, let him watch the game and get naked for him. That should work.
 BrownEyedLeo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 31
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How to play a player?
Posted: 9/11/2006 9:13:35 AM
Are you asking how to become a Player also? If that is the case, stick around myspace long enough and you will figure it out.
 yes7
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 32
How to play a player?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:38:18 PM
Deliciously twisted good pointers!!! I actually messed up with #1 and ****ed up and boosted this guys ego (whom im really into). I can tell that he feels like the big dog and now wont even call me, we just talk online and i really dont know where its going, i think he just wants to keep me "there". But from now on i wont be so nice and give compliments to a man 24/7. Im ready!!!
 bolotye
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 34
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/14/2006 7:48:06 AM
ugh...why would you take the time and energy to try to play a player?

You know him...he is what he is. Feel blessed you know this about him from the get go and avoid it.

Your post seems to concentrate on how to *snag* this guy.

Im curious with all the great men in this world your energies would be focussed on him?

If you are looking for a different sort of relationship and you want to break away from the sandra dee image...then do some looking around.

Why settle for a proverbial player?

you are on a dating site for heaven sakes. There is a plethora of men on here who would fit what you are looking for.
 Huggablehottie
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 35
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:13:32 AM
Quit focusing all your energy into this guy,
you called him a playa, well you better not play.
Stay away from men like this.
You won't have any future with this man.
So what if you call him on it? It won't
make him change!

Girl move on!!!! geeeeeeeez
 Jackie1954
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 36
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/14/2006 3:12:40 PM
Sometimes winning means you walk away... alone and go on with your life without them and their games. If you have any respect for yourself, why would you even want to play the game?
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 10/14/2006 3:20:03 PM
I don't believe in this myself....but since you asked.
He's already a player, therefore experienced and likely good at it. You're an amateur, likely you will lose.
 DulceLaChica
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 38
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/21/2010 5:40:41 AM
You can't play a player...and why would you want to? I can think of a million better things to do with your time...like find a good one! Players have something you cannot control and that is****power~if you haven't gone down the road yet I suggest stearing clear of these guys...you will never come out on top! If you are a nice girl, you can't change that...be proud you are and WALK away...
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 39
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/23/2010 4:06:47 PM
leave your panties at home.
he will get the notion you want to hit it
he will be gone in a week

you 'played' the playa
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 40
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/27/2010 7:57:39 PM
^^^^^ --> That's not a player -- that's not playing it the way they do.

A guy is called a player far more commonly for being desired by many women, showing interest in the gal, then lacking interest (usually after sexual relations), and in the end, totally disappearing. No pampering and cooing, etc. If one were to play that game to a player that'd scare him OFF. A player especially doesn't like a gal who "Never finds fault with a single thing he does" or "Make him believe he is the most wonderful man you've ever known or ever will know", and at the same time "Don't put out". He'll run. :)

If you want to "play" a player -- do what they do:
#1 at first, lessen that later on but just be attentive
#2, #3, #5, #7, #8, #10, #11
#12 - Lies? Real players don't (have to) make things up really, they just avoid things. Like caring if you are seeing anyone else. A player doesn't CARE if you are or not. So yes, do #12, but with the mindset of not caring.
#14 - Don't apologize with all your heart, but give a genuine sorry.
#15 - True -- but you don't "lose" -- you just CAN'T do all of the above if you get emotionally involved... and it's silly to get emotionally involved with ANYONE too early anyway.

A player is someone who meshes great with you initially, and is genuinely charming, but they have other options, so when you're becoming old news, they become less available.

To garner the attention of anyone who seems to lack interest (and gals will call guys "players" just because they aren't that into them), have a player-like mentality: You don't care romantically about them that much. You're not going to be that available... you're going to have other options... you'll be charming and wanted and desired but not SO much into them, and you're not going to be able to be so readily available to them.

People want what they can't have. So they chase more, get exhausted and cry foul ('player!!'). Well, don't care as much and not on ready-5 for them. Congrats. You're a "player".
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 41
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/27/2010 8:05:17 PM
The only way to play a player is to play harder.

Just like any game.
 That Handy Man
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 42
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/28/2010 12:38:30 PM
Honest to a fault. What do you suppose that statement implies?

Actually, if someone proclaimed that, I would be compelled to get out my microscope!

Hey, call me a skeptic! Sometimes, making such announcments IS part of their game, designed to mislead you and catch you off guard.

Life IS a game! It's that simple! I'm not saying cheat, but showing your opponents your cards is kind of stupid, don't you think? Just as is, playing a game without knowing the rules, or maybe more importantly, informing yourself as to how your opponents (fellow humans) play their game.
 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 43
How to play a player?
Posted: 10/29/2010 9:53:46 PM
Why do you want a player? Why not just get someone who treats you well. You must love drama.
 The_Song
Joined: 5/21/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 7/18/2011 7:59:20 PM
All the players out there that i've know ended up getting played by some girl in the end. Think the way to do it is just to get them to care about you more then you care about them.

Aobut letting them know, probably should let him know, i dont really see the harm in it
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 45
How to play a player?
Posted: 7/18/2011 10:51:14 PM
I would think the best revenge....
Is to be insufferably and blissfully happy with someone who isn't a player.
and just leave the games to the kiddies.
 lydiaxxxraquel
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 46
How to play a player?
Posted: 7/19/2011 3:23:59 PM
Damn!!!! Thats good!
spoken like a true prophet!!
 merchantcarnival
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 47
How to play a player?
Posted: 7/19/2011 5:27:23 PM
I have to laugh at threads like this. Women complain "I can't find a good guy" or "Chivalry is dead" but then date douchebags. Some things will never change.

This is why I'm glad I will never give a girl my heart or full attention who truly hasn't earned it over a long period of time. Too many weak men that fall in love with women just because they look good or are nice to them occasionally.
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 48
How to play a player?
Posted: 7/20/2011 8:20:56 PM
Stop wasting your time.
 kailania
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 49
How to play a player?
Posted: 7/20/2011 9:39:10 PM
this is one of the worst posts i have read.
why would you want to play a player?
want him to love you or what?
he is a player. probably always will be.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 50
How to play a player?
Posted: 7/20/2011 9:59:27 PM
I do agree that we should wait at least a month before sex unless you are not serious about the person. If they want you they will wait and you have built up a relationship beforehand and it is all the more satisfying then to engage in intimacy later on.
If you want to just play and be casual then okay but that can be fraught with danger apart from the disease factor. Because when we have sex with others more than the physical is involved and alcohol can always bring down the barriers and make us forget all that.

Men will take easy sex but whether they respect you for it or want you for a serious partner is debatable. Always is the thought, if she does it with me so easily, who else???
That never changes despite feminism etc.
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