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 lordrimz
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 54
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IF I LOVE THEM ,I KNOW IT COULD CHANGE,IF I LOVED, I WOULD WORK ON IT, IF ITS LOVE.
 lordrimz
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 55
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:50:51 AM
I THINK WITH THE TOY THING,WICH I DON,T LIKE TOYS,THAT WOMEN DON,T ASK FOR SEXUAL INCOUNTER WHEN THEY IN THE MOOD, OR EVEN AS WHEN THEY FEEL IT,WHEN THEU SHOULD,YOU WOULD GO TO THE TOY, NOWONDER,THERE ARE PROMBLEMS, BE CAUSE YOU WOULD GO TO THE TOY,SELFISH,AND MAYBE THATS THE PROBLEM WITH ARE LOVELIFE,BECAUSE YOU WOMEN DON,T ASK,AND ANOTHER THING A WOMEN SEXAULITY IS ALWAYS READY,MEANING,TO BE TALK TO AS YOU FEEL THE LOVE FROM HER, THE FLOW OF BLOOD, AND AROUSEL,OF A PRESSURE OF THE OUTSIDE WORLD, OF DAY WORLD, YOUR LOVE FOR US GET IT UP, TO COME HOME AND THE TOY PLEASE YOU ,OR YOU SELF GRATIFEIED,YOUR SELF, AND PLAYED WITH THE TOY, MAYBE ALL DAY, WE WERE GONE, NOW WHEN WE COME HOME ATTITUDE, WITH OUT THE LOVING AWAITING FOR US,TO ENTER HOME, NO THE TOY,LEAVES YOU SATISTFIED, NOW LOOKING AT THE PASS MISTAKES WHAT WE DONE WRONG IN THE PASS,THE TOY @,PLEASED YOU @ SO AND OLD ATTITUDE,OF THE PAST, AND THE GULIT OF PLAYING WITH THE @ TOY,THE TOY, THE TOY,NOW YOU MIGHT CHEAT,MAYBENOT,
IF YOU JUST DON,T LAY THERE AFTER ARE FRIST,OR SECOND ONE, TOUCHING ,KISSING US,TALKING THAT LOVE,YOU SUPPOSE TO HAVE FOR US, YOU MIGHT GET 5 OR7 OUT OF A MAN,BUT THE TOY, THE TOY,I HATE TOYS, AND A GIRL THAT AROUSE,ONE MALE ORGASM, AFTER THE FIRST ONE YOU WOMEN,DON,T KNOW WHAT TO DO,MAYBE,SOMEOFYO, OH I SEE NOW NO AFFECTION,OH U THE TOY ALLDAY "KNOW WONDER ,YOU RATHER MASTERBATE THE ASK, YOU PRIDE huh??????????????????
 darkmascara
Joined: 1/26/2013
Msg: 56
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/16/2013 5:42:00 AM
This has happened to me before and I ran away, FAR FAR away. Sometimes my partner asked me "was it bad sex? now that you're not seeing me anymore." I don't know how to explain the situation because I don't want to hurt their feelings..
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 57
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/16/2013 7:32:56 PM
Um, I don't think this is going to be fixable. If the guy can't even conceive that sex is something you do together, than that is a big problem right there. This guy sounds sexually obtuse.
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
Msg: 58
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:12:44 PM
I have walked away from an otherwise good relationship. Suggestions feel as if being judged, you resent how one sided it makes you feel, which makes the entire relationship feel awkward. Move on. Compatibility in that area is crucial for every other area in the relationship to function.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 59
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:24:15 PM
You should tell him that he is very selfish in bed and tell him to please you in bed, just as much as you please him. I would not walk away, I would tell my wife how I feel but be firm about it. Work and improve on the situation. If they are still being selfish and nothing changes, then I would walk away.
 Yesready
Joined: 11/24/2012
Msg: 60
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/16/2013 9:02:25 PM
I should not have read this thread. Hits too close to home.

Thirsty for a beer! Or a bailey's!
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 61
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/16/2013 10:43:52 PM
If sex is bad and after trying to talk to her it won't get better. There got to be something extrodnry (sp) about her or I'm out of there. One of the reason you want to know if the two are same about sex sooner then later.
 LucidTheory
Joined: 5/29/2012
Msg: 62
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What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/16/2013 11:00:59 PM
bad sex... what's that?

Didn't yall talk about what you like and expect about sex before you had sex?
I guess not.
 yerkiddinrite
Joined: 12/19/2012
Msg: 63
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/17/2013 6:45:41 AM
Life is too short to deal with bad sex.........dump him and say "NEXT!!"
 curviest
Joined: 5/28/2010
Msg: 64
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What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/17/2013 2:52:17 PM

You are just servicing him hon...when you say.."seeing this guy occasionally "..he is using you for HIS own self gratification..if you don't enjoy it..it's easy...you answered your own question..tell him the truth..he is boring in bed and your not satisfied.


+ 1

You should NEVER have had sex with him more than that first time.

I wish you had been more specific in your OP about what exactly he does and what he won't do.
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 65
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/17/2013 3:00:13 PM
Are u saying that every single time u guys have had sex he's never taken care of U and always taken care of his needs?

If everytime he has taken care of his needs than I think u need to either talk to him and see if he makes any changes thereafter and if it still continues u need to break up with him.

A real man would like to take care of his woman's needs b4 his!

My ex always did! And i mean ALWAYS!!!
 ub6ib94u
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 66
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/18/2013 5:06:43 PM
I have been married 15 yrs, to a wonderful womwn, great mother of our kids, SEX terrible. she is the one whom gets all of her needs met, and done very very well, but when it comes to my needs, it is not good..
SO hear I am, on POF.
SO people it all depends, if you have bad sex, partner wont change for you, But everything else is fine, give it alot of thought. Weight it all out before you go fishing, I am still struggling with it all too.
 nicole76598
Joined: 3/9/2011
Msg: 67
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/18/2013 5:15:31 PM
no evere.. let it g0.....g0..... goo, sorry
 nicole76598
Joined: 3/9/2011
Msg: 68
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/18/2013 5:18:45 PM
no talking let it goooooo........ not for u
 MsMaggieMay
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 69
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/18/2013 5:33:15 PM
Compatible always struck me as a funny thing when people talk about being sexually incompatible. You can learn to become compatible with a park bench,your kitchen chair and even your hand if you are determined enough. So unless one of you is a silver back gorilla and the other is a dolphin then you can have good sex together.Compatibility,whatever that means,is learned. If he is unwilling to learn or even try to sexually excite you,and no men most of the time penis in vagina is just not enough,then he should be left alone to play with himself in the corner.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 70
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What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/18/2013 6:32:16 PM
Teach sex, interesting thought...is that the same as get them some porn, instruct them to watch it and you will be back in a month to test them? Pass or fail the choice is yours.
 TPG1956
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 71
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/18/2013 7:48:44 PM
Talk to him, if he doesnt get it, adios.
 12thour
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 72
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/18/2013 9:15:31 PM
Some men and women just don't get how giving pleasure to your partner is just as pleasing.

Intimacy is a gift you both receive and give.

Some men and women don't know how to give it. It has to be learned. They have to trust you enough to teach them what you enjoy.

Some men and women have no clue how their own bodies function and the pleasures they can enjoy from their own bodies.

Some people are selfish.

I learned many moons ago that I knew nothing about a mans body. Not really. So I investigated, learned and taught myself through books, videos and talking to men. None by the way, were porn instructed. That isn't intimacy. That is just sex. There is a HUGE difference.

The most interesting thing I learned was that many men had no clue as to their own abilities to enjoy different kinds of pleasure. They thought like I did. Touch, suck, enter, ejaculate and that was about it. But honestly, there is so much more...

Intimacy can be a highly spiritual connection with your partner if you are willing and open to learn and be taught.

BUT NEVER EVER make him feel like he is ignorant or get aggravated with him OP. He is a human being and ones sexual ego is very sensitive.

If you care enough about him...communicate your desires to him and both of you join in a quest to understand your own sexuality as well as the others.

Good luck.
 safaa30
Joined: 3/1/2012
Msg: 73
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What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/19/2013 6:35:51 AM
By 'bad sex' some people mean sexually incompatibility. For example some people want to make slow sensual love while others want to make a rough sex porn video.

Others by 'bad sex' mean some people want to just continue where they left off with their exes instead of learning about this new person and have a new, different sexual relationship with this new person.

These days everytime I hear 'Well my ex used to do that!' I reply 'Well you can go and have sex with your ex!'
and am outta there...
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 2/19/2013 9:31:51 AM


These days everytime I hear 'Well my ex used to do that!'


Really? A guy said that? Take some time and look for sharper tools.
 yffat
Joined: 2/12/2011
Msg: 75
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Posted: 2/20/2013 9:02:48 AM
no sex is way better than bad sex
 Stubidooo
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 76
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/20/2013 9:19:06 AM

no sex is way better than bad sex

I'll take "things a man never said" for $100 Alex....
 Consensuality
Joined: 7/26/2007
Msg: 77
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/20/2013 11:23:56 AM
After making it tactfully clear that my needs weren't being met and having her respond with ambivolence I would leave. I agree with yffat, I would rather have no sex than disappointing sex with a bad or incompatible partner.
 Smurfhawk
Joined: 1/19/2013
Msg: 78
What would you do if the sex was really bad!
Posted: 2/20/2013 11:43:19 AM
Run like the wind.....>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
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