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 YingKissesYang
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 158
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I also lose my respect to people who plays mind games.
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Can you give me an example of "mindgames" that have been played on you?
 cutepoet
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 159
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:35:41 AM
I lose my respect when she start cheating on me. It shows that no matter what, she can never be satisfied with a guy.
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 163
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:23:40 PM
When they show up as human and begin to fail me as they, being human, inevitably will.
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 167
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:45:15 PM

I'd say that acting without thinking causes problems. But I'm just as guilty of that as anyone else.

uh huh, insightful .marc
shame that we're human, eh?
Respect has about as much to do with our own perceptions as it does with their humanity.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 173
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/5/2008 8:17:06 AM
In addition to the obvious things others have listed, I add:

Whining.

Not taking responsibility for one's actions in life and blaming other people. We are where we are because of our decisions.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 174
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/5/2008 11:07:20 AM
Blaming his parents.
 emarguy
Joined: 9/29/2006
Msg: 176
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/5/2008 9:04:45 PM
Before we went to bed my ex gf asked if she's respect me in the morning, I told her that I don't respect her now.
 phxnight
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 179
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/5/2008 9:34:40 PM
Respect is rooted in trust. No trust…No respect.
 akmusic
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 185
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:55:56 AM
1. Distrust
2. Disrespect
3. The way the other person treats those closest to them, friends, family, etc.
4. When the other person is resistant to any type of change even if its for their own good
5. When the other person is self centered....me...me...me...me...me
 youforme
Joined: 6/11/2008
Msg: 186
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Posted: 6/18/2008 12:39:15 PM
When Your Partner Does'nt Show You Respect.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 188
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 6/18/2008 12:59:57 PM
Everything she said...^^^so true!!!
 Gourmetchef50
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 193
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 7/20/2008 10:06:22 AM
when they cheat or lie..or both...lol..
 veggiechic05
Joined: 6/22/2008
Msg: 202
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 7/27/2008 12:58:47 PM
-dishonesty
-lack of respect and appreciation
-leading me on
-rudeness
-lies/mind games
-cheating
-abuse/potential abuse
-inability to empathize
-a seemingly endless criminal record
-emotional unavailability
-apathy towards himself, family, friends, and health (you don't have to be a health nut, but at least try to take care of yourself)
-clinginess/neediness (HUGE pet peeve of mine)
-arrogance
-obstreperousness (pleasing you is like pulling teeth if it is possible to please you - thanks, eHarmony, for broadening my vocabulary by one word!)

Yes, I do have quite a few turnoffs, but I promise I'm not obstreperous. =)
 veggiechic05
Joined: 6/22/2008
Msg: 203
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 7/30/2008 10:52:00 AM
Also, I want to add animal cruelty. Animal cruelty is a HUGE deal-breaker for me.
 Sherlock101
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 212
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 9/8/2008 2:42:00 PM
Infidelity is the worst for me. The lame excuses and darting around questions is something I refuse to listen to since I was in my 20s and makes me lose respect real quick. There's nothing worse than being perceptive and someone just constantly assures you other wise. Im not the questioning type but when you listen to a few stories that don't make sense you can't help but to scratch your head. By far if there's one thing I have learned in relationships, if there isnt communication your headed for disaster.
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 214
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Posted: 9/8/2008 3:29:33 PM
Weakness.

Instability.

Lack of character and integrity.

Lack of focus, drive, committment.

An inability to speak clearly or think about his actions and communicate them.

Any time or sign that he isn't a man, and is more or less waffling about who he is or what his role is.

An inability within himself to see what's necessary and to follow through with it. I think that's known in men's terms as "pulling the trigger".

Many men do not realize they have allowed the emasculation of their entire gender, by giving up the role of man in their previous relationships.

The ability to bash her (the ex) for all her wrong doings is NOT equal to being a man.

One sign that a man isn't a man - and I am NOT interested.
 ~Serendipity
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 218
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 9/11/2008 6:09:29 PM
One particular turn off (other than being judgmental and critical of others for being themselves) is lack of interest or respect for my opinions. Furthermore, it insults my intelligence when somebody tries to impose his views on me. I WANT my partner to share his thoughts with me. What I don't want is a pompous prick who have the balls to think his opinions matter more than mine does, and try to "convert" me instead of listening AND understanding where I'm coming from. Nothing turns me off faster.

That said, I expect to soon be single again if this "problem" cannot be resolved. Disloyalty is one thing, but there is no room for inattentiveness in my future
 Milk Shake 121
Joined: 8/22/2008
Msg: 223
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Posted: 9/12/2008 5:56:55 PM
Treating others badly. Not respecting others opinions.
 Milk Shake 121
Joined: 8/22/2008
Msg: 224
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Posted: 9/12/2008 5:57:16 PM
Treating others badly. Not respecting others opinions.
 anita.74
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 229
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Posted: 9/12/2008 7:18:19 PM
I would say dishonesty, lies, respect for me.
 outlawtomboy
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 235
what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:57:39 PM
poor judgment
denial and blaming others
the ever nasty act of betrayal
 nicoleny
Joined: 7/29/2008
Msg: 236
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 9/18/2008 7:00:47 PM
honestly? farting? guys fart...who cares, girls fart too. and its just a comfort thing. i think u should be as comfortable as possible around your partner.....taking a crap with the door open however...that kind of comfort is for marriage lol
 webweebil
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 239
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 9/18/2008 10:11:11 PM
Doesn't know his own mind. Lets others push him around. Lets me push him around. Has no center. Lack of principles. Lack of integrity. Lack of manners. Stupidity. Laziness. Weak-mindedness. Meanness. Overweening concern about what others think. Easily controlled. Over-conforming. Self-gratifying. Self-aggrandizing. Self-deceiving. Willful obtusiveness. Fussiness. Compulsiveness. Opportunistic. Meglomanical. Party-pooper. Sloppy.
 ericasdad
Joined: 7/20/2007
Msg: 245
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 9/19/2008 5:09:24 AM
when they continually bad mouth their ex..I know they're still not over it and ready to move on
 THE_ORB
Joined: 6/6/2008
Msg: 248
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what makes you lose respect for your partner?
Posted: 9/27/2008 5:32:04 AM
not only guys . females do cheat too,
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