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 jasperjohn
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 84
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needed time to myself, figure things out, get things out of my system... was sick of dealing with other peoples BS!
 Americanlove
Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 85
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 1/8/2007 3:18:31 AM
Dating? Isn't that where a man is SUPPOSED to ask a woman out and pick her up and take her say for dinner or a few drinks and HIM pay.....I thought that was what it was....
Yeah, I have a few dates occasionally...may sound old fashioned but..if a man can not do the above...There are plenty who will...........That is a date in my opinion.....Not meeting someone in a bar and buying my own drinks!!!!!
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 87
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 1/9/2007 4:00:01 AM
personally, all i can say dating is not really on my priorities list very expensive, I have a long journey ahead stranger and i have to stay focused when i get out of college, besides I'm a cynic, sarcastic and pessimistic I wouldn't be much of a date anyway. lol<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
 jeweles
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 88
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 1/9/2007 7:28:56 AM
I really dont know what I want , so till I can say for sure I think it's best if I dont drag anyone else into the picture.
Plus I just dont put myself out there. I hate first dates!
Guess I'm just waiting for it to fall in my lap
 sdliebchen
Joined: 6/23/2006
Msg: 89
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 1/12/2007 12:43:04 PM
I'm with purpleflipflops "I want to be selfish for a change. I just want to focus on school, work, and myself" -- And some guy would have to be super-special for me to put my carreer goals second.
 Champuli Nam Pakanli
Joined: 2/5/2007
Msg: 90
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 1:52:18 PM
I didn't date for 3 1/2 years because I went through a really horrible divorce, and I wanted to make sure I was completely over the mess before committing myself to someone. I didn't want to be the crazy head case...
 subhacker
Joined: 11/30/2006
Msg: 91
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 4:10:04 PM
I live in area with a major gender imbalance. My occupation and interests compound the problem further. It takes a lot of luck, savvy, or heroics to overcome the problem. I've never had much luck or savvy. Times when I could afford heroics have been few.
 Karrpilot
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 92
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 4:28:11 PM
Mine is a combination of things. I just bought a new car, i just signed up for a flying club, so money is really tight right now. And since snow plow season ended, i no longer get over time. But another BIG reason is the women on this site who have given me photos, e-mail address, and even phone numbers, seem to dissappear after a few contacts. And to top it off, they approached me. I do not understand that. They approached me, gave me all that info, we get to chatting, and then gone. No date, no meeting, no nothing. Sometimes not even a reply as to thanks but no thanks. I find that quite rude. Even though i am a little tapped out cash wise right about now, i think i could scrape togeather enough money to go out on a date. And i would not even think of asking a lady to help pitch in. I just get tired of playing mind games.
 Realityissubjective
Joined: 9/24/2006
Msg: 94
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 6:53:18 PM
Im to ugly to date...
Im Broke...
Im comfortable in my situation...
Im content with my relationship solitude...
Im emotionally unavailable...
Im to Lazy to spend my time *chasing* a relationship...
Im Complicated and High Maintenance...
Im a Virgo.... most women cant deal with our *unemotional logic and reasoning*...
Im a philosopher and most women cant handle the fact that there is no *Right/Wrong* answer...
Im a Biker and would rather ride alone than carry the extra weight...
Im a Social liberal and Fiscal conservative...
Im a belcher and a spitter.... and I fart in my sleep...

Other than that I really dont have any reason.
 Karrpilot
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 95
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 7:21:47 PM
ibechuck, that post was too funny. But if you actually posted that to your profile, you would not have to worry about dating anyone. Keep up the good work. Honesty is the best policy, correct?
 Realityissubjective
Joined: 9/24/2006
Msg: 96
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 7:36:07 PM

ibechuck, that post was too funny. But if you actually posted that to your profile, you would not have to worry about dating anyone. Keep up the good work. Honesty is the best policy, correct?

Actually Karrpilot,
I do have a slightly *modified* version posted on another site... and yes, Honesty IS the best policy. Figured I'd throw the Truth out there and let the ladies decided. Problem is most of the responders think Im JOKING....
....so just goes to show, most people read what they want and believe what they want no matter HOW open and obvious you are
 geekybroad
Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 97
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 10:23:50 PM
I go through phases of dating and not wanting to date.

The phases happen because I date for a while, and then want a break from thinking about dating people.

Sometimes I don't date because I am very busy and content with where I am. When I'm like this, I do still get that feeling that it would be nice to be dating/have a boyfriend.

Part of what causes this is I've acquired more friends in the last couple years that are good for me. Almost all of my relationships now are give and take (instead of just give). So now I have a network of people who really care about me (and people I care about). I've never been a serial dater or a needy person... I'm just saying I'm more fulfilled than I used to be, on many levels.

I encounter a lot of stigma because of my sex and my degree (female computer scientist). At the same time, I both like and dislike the attention. The thing I dislike is that I often get attention from nerd-type men close to my age (fine) who don't consider if we are actually compatible (not fine!) This treatment automatically puts me "on-guard" when I meet nerdy men my own age. It's unfortunate... I've noticed that and am trying to get over it!

I belong to more groups and organizations now. I don't do it to find dates, but I do realize it will increase my chances of happening to meet someone who I might want to date.

I used to be pretty assertive about asking men out, but it's always bitten me in the ass Though recently I've starting thinking about asking men out again.

So I guess the attitude right now is "meh... if I find someone interesting, I'll date them".
 Sarafina_01
Joined: 5/2/2006
Msg: 98
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/13/2007 10:32:22 PM
I'm looking, I'm emailing, I'm out and about at many community events from the sublime to the ridiculous...plain and simple I'm not dating because noone is asking or really taking me up on my offers :(
 upstream
Joined: 1/21/2007
Msg: 99
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/14/2007 2:18:49 AM
I'm not dating right now because of a loss that is still a bit too fresh. I'm not finding myself overly interested in dating just yet. Instead, I'm here to meet some new people. I've met quite a few PoFers in person so far (definitely more than 4/year), but I don't consider it dating. Some have clicked, some haven't. I figure that when someone comes along who really knocks my socks off, I'll probably find myself interested in dating again. Or maybe someday I'll suddenly be on the prowl again. Until then, I'm willing to enjoy being who I am, where I'm at in my life and to make new friends. Besides, PoF is a good place to network for someone who's new to town.
 Karrpilot
Joined: 1/26/2007
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/15/2007 5:55:03 PM
I should update my reasons. I can't find a lady willing to support my flying habit, i bathe once a week weather i need it or not, my cat is the most important thing in my life right now, the voices in my head tell me to stay home and clean my guns, i am waiting for my check from publishers clearing house, the monastary wants me to keep my vow of celibicy, i have too much money invested in porno, my mother does not like it when i come in late at night smelling like cheap perfume, and the perfume is mine, and i failed 3rd grade twice. Pick a reason.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 101
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:21:45 AM
I am very fair minded and kindhearted, and since I have SO MANY handsome,educated and wealthy men clamoring to date me, I can't bring myself to choose just one and break the hearts of at least 350 other worthy men.


To speak the truth, I'm not quite sure. Some possible factors; tough demographic, high standards( about the quality of the attraction, NOT looks/money/prestige) and probably a fair helping of pure cussedness on my part?
Bottom line?
Beats the hell out of me. I promise to lose about 5 minutes of sleep over it tonight.
Cindy O
 missskinnypinny
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 102
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/17/2007 2:51:30 PM
for me , i decided to take time out to get to know me , and work out what i want , found id rather be happy single then sad in a couple , but if mr right came along im prepared
 sexygreeneyess7
Joined: 12/6/2004
Msg: 103
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/17/2007 2:58:38 PM
I feel ya this is really true
 lmrk32
Joined: 1/15/2007
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/17/2007 2:59:42 PM
The reason I am not dating is because I'm punch drunk. Took one too many hits to the head........really, the heart. Tired of getting my hopes up only to be disappointed. Really don't want to be alone the rest of my life but am tired of always getting hurt. Each one seems harder to recover from than the last.
 lifesshort03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 105
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:40:07 PM
Just tired of the BS, lies, rejection, hypocrisy, drama, psycho ****es................did I leave anything out?
 2findU
Joined: 11/19/2005
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/24/2007 8:42:02 AM
Its hard to find anyone to have a date with. The women at this site typically resond with a "deleted unread". And I haven't even come across to many anymore to write to. But since they don't read the e-mail, what is the point of writing anyway?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 108
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:06:45 PM
OP 50% date less than 5 times a year? Once a quarter? Then the other fifty percent are more often? Hey sounds like a lotta action to me.

Interesting post. If I could go through all the posters and put them in my own personal list of "not single/not looking" I could save a lot of time on a dating site looking for a date, now couldn't I?
 CoolBreezez
Joined: 8/20/2006
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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:09:13 PM
Because I haven't found the right one yet.

I keep running across the same ones in my area on different dating sites. We are a group of chronic site visitors that seem to never find the "one".

But we keep soldiering on in hope that one day - it will happen.

Tried changing my standards, taking chances on iffy ones- leads to the same place- back here. Sometimes I just take a break and hang out in the forms and save my energy for the next good one. Maybe met a few nice people to hang with in the mean time.

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