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 Dovestreasure
Joined: 1/19/2005
Msg: 14
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I do worry a bit about further damage she may cause. It is very important to her to maintain a certain image in the eyes of those who have yet to learn her short comings. She tries to portray that she is shy and a introvert , righteous and pure. These Mutual friends have not spent the time with her as I have. They live in the florida Panhandle. She is very different from the image she has protrayed to them. She is like a pirahanna where men are concerned. A man walks into a bar , she sees her prey , direct quote.. " Oh yummy I so want him" or "He so wants me" Then she sets out to get what she wants. She is good at what she does. On the rare nights where she does not get her prey she says " I think he must be gay" Or he has a girlfriend and if he didnt he would want me" Now that she has moved to Tallahassee she will get to see these friends more often then I. We use to travel together from Orlando to see them. Her true colors will show in time. I will just have to have faith that the friendships I have with our mutual friends are strong enough to sustain any damage she may try to do. Time will tell . I am going there again in two weeks.
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/1/2006 10:17:01 PM
I hate confrontations also. I had a very dear friend do the same thing to me at my birthday party and I haven't spoken to her since then.... She did other things that ticked me off and some others at my party. I've decided if she would do that to me.. .flirt with a guy she KNEW i was interested in (and she's married) just to make herself feel better about herself then I do not need her. I do not need friends who hurt me or make me feel bad. I've had friends for many years that have done things over and over.. and I always forgave them, until they went just one step too far then it was like.. BAM.. friendship over... I have enough going on in my life without some selfcentered "friend" taking advantage of me or embarrassing me. It shows no respect for you on her part. I demand respect if nothing else.
 pepperstrand
Joined: 1/25/2015
Msg: 16
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Posted: 6/1/2018 7:39:55 PM
My advice is to leave your friend out of the equation when it comes to your relationships. Don't allow her to be present with the guys you date as she cannot be trusted! I find it weird when I hear that many women say, "he left me for my best friend". A true friend would not do this to you. Dump the friend, then work on finding you a man sans the best friend. Have you heard the term "frenomie" ? I would run from her as fast as you can. Then run into the arms of a truly nice man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There is no helping her as she does not feel it is a problem. DO NOT give her any info about your dating life!
 MeramecRiverRat
Joined: 10/12/2017
Msg: 17
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Posted: 6/2/2018 11:59:52 AM
The betrayal was over 13 years ago.

What's most impressive is somebody still has the same account for 13+ years.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 18
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Posted: 6/2/2018 6:09:43 PM
Hope i'm not still on here in 13 years.

Sounds like her friend has Histrionic personality disorder.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 6/2/2018 7:54:39 PM
I know I still will be, because I'm not willing to give up my freedom. (well, perhaps with Raquel Welch, but even then, I may change my mind.) Selling out for someone never works.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 20
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Posted: 6/2/2018 8:20:32 PM
I probably will be as well tbh.
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
Msg: 21
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Posted: 6/3/2018 9:33:51 AM
Wow.. this thread got dug up!! 2005? I hope she dumped that monkey branching whore and found a real friend.
 ChorusAurora
Joined: 4/2/2018
Msg: 22
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Posted: 6/3/2018 9:57:17 AM
^^^
I hope she dumped that monkey branching whore and found a real friend.


Tell us how you REALLY feel, PennyAnte~

hahahaha

;-)
 flowersinthelake
Joined: 5/11/2018
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Posted: 6/3/2018 11:23:30 AM

I hope she dumped that monkey branching whore and found a real friend.


Me, too.


Selling out for someone never works.


Exactly. It doesn't work in friendships, intimate relationships, work relationships, and the like.
 L_LuuLuu
Joined: 8/2/2009
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Posted: 6/5/2018 3:21:00 PM
the OP's "Friend" has a mental health disorder that causes her to behave this way. She needs professional help, but will probably never acknowledge this fact, nor desire to seek counseling. Instead, she will only make excuses for herself and blame others for the consequences of her actions.

Everyone has met women like this. They all tell themselves that they are simply being charming and that men cannot resist them. They believe other women are "jealous" and "insecure" around them.

She is NOBDODY'S friend.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 6/5/2018 4:00:07 PM
LOL....the OP's friend could be dead by now....
why would someone dig up a thread that hasn't been posted in for 13 years????
 L_LuuLuu
Joined: 8/2/2009
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Posted: 6/8/2018 8:43:55 AM
^^^^^^^^^

I'm guessing because its a fairly common ongoing issue for many in similar circumstances. And this sort of situation keeps going on and on.

Same answer for everyone with "New" similar issues with "friend": Dump them. situation will only get worse. The more you let this type of woman know her behavior bothers you, the more she will do it.
 _Rise_Above_This_
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 6/8/2018 6:57:29 PM

why would someone dig up a thread that hasn't been posted in for 13 years????

Because none of you bothers to create any new threads. Quite a few smart people here but they spend their time rambling on about who pays for a date on so far 8 different threads.
 Azream
Joined: 12/30/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 6/17/2018 2:50:50 AM
lol. You'd be surprised how long some people keep their accounts. Hell, I'm almost reaching that example status lol.
 LucilleDixon
Joined: 12/18/2016
Msg: 29
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Posted: 6/28/2018 12:36:39 PM
This is so sad. I hope everything worked out for the best here.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 6/28/2018 8:16:56 PM

LOL....the OP's friend could be dead by now....


The OP hasn't posted since 2012. She could be deceased, too. I've often wondered how many older profiles here are inactive or the individual is deceaded.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 6/29/2018 3:51:27 AM
^^^ I used to work with a guy. He has a profile here. In fact I took the photo for the profile. He passed years ago. His profile is still here. I have reported it numerous times. I even had a bunch of friends block him hoping that would get it deleted. Back when there were mods I shared with one of them and he said he followed-up. I have no reason to believe he didn't.

So I know for a fact there is at least one profile that belongs to someone who has died. Given the tiny number of people who read these threads for you to have even one of us respond knowing of an example really makes you wonder what the statistic would be.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 32
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Posted: 6/29/2018 7:08:11 AM
The problem with reporting about someone who has died is, someone might report an ex or someone they had a bad date with as being deceased to get their profile pulled, even though the person is alive and well-as some sort of "get even" tactic by people with issues. So even if there were mods to report it to, how are they going to know if it's true or not? I'm sure there are a lot of profiles from people who have since met someone and is no longer looking, but haven't bothered deleting their profile or edited it to say they are no longer looking/just here for the forums.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 6/29/2018 7:17:50 AM
^^^
I attached a link to an imgur photo that was a screengrab from his mom's fb that showed condolences in regards to his passing using the same photo from his profile.

But yes, I absolutely agree with you that people could report profiles with nefarious intentions. I mean look at all the profiles that go *poof* and they aren't even having contact with people outside of the forums.
 vacuumanddusting
Joined: 6/29/2018
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/8/2018 6:23:22 PM
"frenemy" comes to mind. She is oblivious to your feelings. I'd dump her and take up dating alone no bars or clubs, keep your private live private from her. She does not sound like much of a friend!
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 7/8/2018 8:10:11 PM
^^^ Note the following:


The betrayal was over 13 years ago.
 lulz567
Joined: 7/6/2018
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Posted: 7/9/2018 5:05:07 PM
See now I’d find a friend like that pretty handy for me. Say I was getting to have some potential feeling for a guy and needed to check out his level of interest and trustworthiness. I’d find her a great asset knowing she would be flirting like mad with him. I’d even book myself a weekend trip away or for longer eventually so they could have as much of an opportunity to get it on as possible. Then eventually I’d be like spill the beans? and she’d tell you all about it. Most don’t get those opportunities and can be stuck with a cheat for years. You played it wrong by cutting in when you did and blowing the whole plan for yourself. You also alerted your male friend to her plot so he could back out in time.

Are people not curious these days . Prefer blind faith and being Rose coloured .
I hope I find a girlfriend to add to my list like her okay she’s not great friend but very useful.
 BLONDE_ANGEL_1
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 37
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Posted: 7/9/2018 6:01:14 PM

Keep your private life private from her.


Best to do this in many cases.
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