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 leo_goddess
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 11
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?Page 3 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Porn addictions are real... and the internet has made it a bigger problem. It can ruin relationships and cause divorces. Porn isn't really the problem but it's a problem with people abuse it.

Try looking up information on sex addiction. There are lots of organizations but they have online checklists of things to be wary about and when u cross into the unhealthy. If you have too many warning signs you might need help for it.

On it's own... what you discribe could be both healthy and unhealthy... The frequency is alright, even not being as arrosed as a teen is ok too, not being attracted to strippers is ok.... I couldn't tell ya.
 alpineslide
Joined: 4/30/2005
Msg: 12
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Posted: 7/24/2006 4:22:07 PM
I think you could become somewhat desentized to regular sex when you see all the wild stuff that goes on in a porn movie. Then again if you find a good woman she might just do all that wild stuff in real life....then all those cool tricks you learned watching porn might come in handy.
 AtomicLove888
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 16
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Posted: 7/24/2006 6:18:21 PM
you might wanna switch hands sometimes before the other hand gets jelous and stabs u in the neck while u sleep
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 7/25/2006 12:10:57 AM
The thing is you are wasting all that sperm. I think that when you are with a woman they want to see how much she's satisfied by how much you can produce and if there's only a little she may feel bad and not be willing to try again. Hold off for a week and see if there's a difference.
HUH? What you see is semen ... not sperm.

I don't know any woman who would reject a gentleman for lack of ability to produce semen in any great amount ... unless she intends to bottle the stuff! What do you want this guy to do ... produce 1 pint at a time? I don't know any woman who wants to go put on a diaper after having sex!

Sheese! The mentality of some people!!!!!!
 Apples
Joined: 7/16/2004
Msg: 22
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 8/22/2006 10:40:21 AM
Hi there!
I am just now replying to this, because I was looking for info. on the net regarding this very subject. I have been in a relationship w/ a guy for the last year (well, it actually ended last night) and he has a problem w/ porn. I "found" his cable bills and he has been paying for the hard core stuff, only when he's not at my house. We did live together and moved into diff places in June. I am 14.5 yrs older than him (he's 22). I am a very attractive woman, with a decent body and I thought we had a good sex life, but it REALLY bothers me that he watches so much porn. WHY does he feel the need, when he has me? It makes me feel like crap about myself and starting to feel a little insecure. Is it his age? When we're having sex, sometimes, his penis will go limp in the middle of the act and he'll have to wack it to get it hard again...is this because of the porn images? I think he is starting to become desensitized to the act of sex, after watching all of the hard core images. I am a beautiful, tall white woman, w/ blond hair and green eyes and get lots of attention and had great self esteem, but after finding that he's watching stuff like "Black/white affair" and "Asian Bang", I'm starting to think "what the hell are you doing w/ me, when I can't arouse you like they can?" I used to not be an insecure person, but it's heading that direction.... Am I stupid to let this crap bother me so much or is it normal to feel like this? He does completely love me and shows me this in every way, but I found out about the porn a week and half ago and then "found" another bill last night and confronted him and he got pissed and told me we're over and I just don't understand.....Please tell me:::: am I stupid? am I insecure? is it normal? Any advice would be greatly appreciated....thank you for listening!
 nipoleon
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/22/2006 10:51:22 AM
Well Apples :
I think maby your boyfriend has issues which don't involve you.
Personally, my interest in porn decreases proportionatly the more I'm involved with a woman.
He's not desensitized to the act of sex, he's just desensitized to sex with real women.
Perhaps his fantasy world is a lot more interesting to him than the real world is. Which is no big sin and not unusual, but hardly conducive to healthy relationships.
If your as hot a babe as you say you are, maby you could find someone else who can appreciate you more than he can.
 addictedtoblackmen
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 29
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Posted: 8/29/2006 7:28:41 AM
I've heard that if a woman uses a vibrator too much,she can lose some sensation to sex with a man.It wont feel as good.She will get used to the vibrating feeling.
 Apples
Joined: 7/16/2004
Msg: 31
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/5/2006 4:37:46 PM
Hi Shyred!
Thank you for your input. It's good to know that one is not alone in the world!! I appreciate all of the feedback, but yours especially. Thank you again and best wishes to you!
 sparticuss
Joined: 5/9/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 9/5/2006 6:11:47 PM
Thousands of university studies of porn have been conducted into this.

Although mostly into if porn causes rape.

the one thing that have found of significance is ................. absoloutely nothing.

Their findings are that porn doesn't ccause any loss or gain in sex drive, or infidelity, or rape, or anything else.
 buck711
Joined: 5/15/2005
Msg: 36
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/5/2006 10:50:34 PM

i juust dont want my hand to EVER replace a woman.


I wouldn't worry too much unless your hand falls asleep in the middle of it.... now that is the ultimate rejection........
 FoxyFerret
Joined: 6/10/2004
Msg: 39
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 9/18/2006 11:25:03 PM

this is a very serious issue for me and i need some input.

its been awhile since i've had sexual intercourse. i've been masterbating to porn quite heavily. twice a day usually, even when im not in the mood. just recently i went to a strip club with a friend. when i went the first few times a couple years ago i would get aroused by the women on stage. but now they dont really do anything for me.

i fear that i have become dependent on the fantasy that porn potrays. i mean the camera angles, the positions and dramatizations of sex. i believe it was desenseitized me from the real world. i fear that when i finally start having sex again that i wont be able to enjoy it because its not porn.

is it normal for someone to not get aroused by strippers? how about women in public. i remember when i was in my late teens i would walk around with a boner almost all day. granted i still check out women like nobody's business but i find i have to "work" to get aroused(or it doesnt come up as eaily).

i've actually gone as far as deleting all the porn on my computer. that includes porn bookmarks. i havent even whacked it for a week now. i dont want porn/masterbating to "brainwash" me of actual physical sexual intercourse. im only 23. i want to be able to have tons of enjoyable sex with my partner(whenever i meet someone new). so what do you guys think? am i nuts?

*also keep in mind i have been under alot of stress over the past year, school, money, relationships. i hear this can affect sexual health*


Yes. Porn can ruin sex for you. I would know. I dated a guy who had that problem.
 Lil Red Riding Hood
Joined: 4/21/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 10/6/2006 6:36:30 PM
How often you masturbate isn't the problem so much as is getting so used to your own hands, your own ways of doing it, over a prolonged period of time, that someone else just can't do it right for you.

Does that make sense ?

Not sure if Im explaining it right.
 Thunderstruck29
Joined: 1/3/2010
Msg: 68
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Posted: 1/20/2010 12:27:14 PM
When I was your age I 'roughed up the suspect" about six times a day.

Even now I do it three times a day.

As you get older your drive will diminish, that's natural.

If I am going to meet somebody or go out with somebody I like to view porn that features performers who resemble the lady I am going to hook up with. I like to think of this as being programmed.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 74
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 3/1/2011 7:17:35 AM
^^^^I have no idea what they are putting in the water these days with you young boys???

23 and your sex drive is low? WTH???

can't you watch porn, jerk off 2-3 times a day and still go and screw your gf 2-3 times that night?



jerking off to porn is supposed to be a stop gap when you are in a rut.

its not supposed to be your full time sex partner...
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 3/1/2011 2:34:47 PM
I would say only temporarily just like having hours of sex it ruins your sex life for a few hours. Everyone is different. When I'm with someone and having regular sex I'm not interested in porn much. But if not having sex porn becomes more interesting.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 83
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Posted: 12/9/2011 3:27:20 PM
Much of the time someone turns to porn and masturbation because their sex life was already long dead and buried anyway

Although their partners still tend to blame those things on why it died, even when they werent excessive till afterwards
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 86
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/12/2012 1:22:16 PM
i know of a guy my age who beats off 5x a day so i would not worry if i were u
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 90
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/15/2012 8:27:31 AM
as a 52 yr old woman, i'm a bit shy about being naked in front of a new partner...but knowing the guy looks at porn alot would make me more timid...

i guess if u r in love, u would be turned on by all of that, not just fake humpin' & bumpin'
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 91
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Posted: 1/15/2012 11:01:47 AM
^^^Porn?.... what is porn?......never heard of it. .........................................................
 stonecastle
Joined: 2/14/2007
Msg: 92
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Posted: 1/16/2012 10:20:20 AM
By the way I think I read somewhere that regular masturbation is good for you as it drains the prostate gland of fluid and so gets rid of cancer causing toxins that build up in it which can cause prostate cancer. See this: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3072021.stm
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 97
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Posted: 5/29/2012 12:33:32 PM
Yes, plus the guy gets so used to his own hand it's the only way he can cum
 BigJ_78
Joined: 2/15/2011
Msg: 99
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Posted: 5/29/2012 12:42:09 PM
Porn can desensitize a guy to the real thing...Especially if he watches, and more importantly, JACKS OFF to too much of it..It can also dull his natural "sexual state", the state of mind that drives him to go out and pursue women in real life.

Porn overall is good,though. I like to watch it b/c it keeps me from sleeping around too much, but like most vices, its not a good idea to overdo it.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 100
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Posted: 5/29/2012 12:48:17 PM

I feel I have to compete with those woman, stop watching porn alone and watch it with a partner

That is not the porn that is the problem. That is called insecurity. Please, stop blaming your insecurity on something else. And yes, if you can't beat them, join them.
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I watch porn very regularly. My only issue with my partner is if I have already had porn session. While I could have sex everyday, I am not a multiple orgasm kind of guy and take about 4-5 hours to refill (just as I would if I had sex earlier). Being 45 and acting this way since I was in my teens, I have not noticed any lowered sex drive, desentization, or the like. My boy knows my hand, and he also knows a good set of lips too!!!!

In my years the biggest drain on my sex drive was stress.
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