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 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 76
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?Page 5 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Would this question be about watching porn or starring in in porn?
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 77
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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 3/1/2011 2:34:47 PM
I would say only temporarily just like having hours of sex it ruins your sex life for a few hours. Everyone is different. When I'm with someone and having regular sex I'm not interested in porn much. But if not having sex porn becomes more interesting.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 78
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 7:35:26 AM
Sure it can. While making love how would you feel if your SO / Wife / Husband used a porn magazine or porn every night just to get off to enjoy sex with you, instead of getting off of you?

Masturbation is like a smoking addiction. The more you keep doing it, the more your getting more messed up.

The only time will I ever justify in masturbation is if the so/wife/husband doesn't want to make love anymore and it's all over. Time to pack it up, live single life and heal, then get back into dating.
 BountyHunterMike
Joined: 10/5/2011
Msg: 79
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 8:18:00 AM
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
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I hope not!!! LMAO
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 80
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 11:11:26 AM
Sure it can. While making love how would you feel if your SO / Wife / Husband used a porn magazine or porn every night just to get off to enjoy sex with you, instead of getting off of you?

It wouldn't bother me if my fiancee watched porn. If anything, I think it's a little strange that it doesn't interest her. I can't see that watching porn implies not getting off to me, although sometimes that would be so bad either. At least I could just lay back, relax and get used as a mindless sex toy for a change. How bad could that be? I'd probably rather she fantasized about another girl, but what the heck? Whatever turns her on. I already know that I do and that she's not going to run off with anyone, so I don't really care if a little fantasy and imagination gets her hot and bothered, too. If she got hot and bothered enough, guess where she'd be headed to scratch the itch?

Masturbation is like a smoking addiction. The more you keep doing it, the more your getting more messed up.

Especially if you overshoot the kleenex. However, you left out the part about going blind.

The only time will I ever justify in masturbation is if the so/wife/husband doesn't want to make love anymore and it's all over.

Well, then there's a good chance that you'll be as boring in the sack as some of the women I've dated and it will probably be all over, anyway.

Time to pack it up, live single life and heal, then get back into dating.

And be born again as virgin.
 Xc0de
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 81
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 12:57:52 PM
Sure it can. While making love how would you feel if your SO / Wife / Husband used a porn magazine or porn every night just to get off to enjoy sex with you, instead of getting off of you?


Masturbation is like a smoking addiction. The more you keep doing it, the more your getting more messed up.


Yet you think it's ok for a guy to be obsessed with men's magazine's full of half naked women. He choose pictures of women over a real one. I wonder who he was thinking of while having sex.


I didn't look back but I think all I really said was him maybe being a masturbation addict and he may not be able to be satisfied or whatever when he decides to be with a woman.


Man there's plenty of women who sucked in bed. One woman only lasted less than 5 minutes. Other it's like they are laying there dead. I had to finish myself. It got to a point it's just easier and better. Sure masturbation is addictive but food is addictive also, are you going to stop eating? lol
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 82
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 3:11:22 PM
Yet you think it's ok for a guy to be obsessed with men's magazine's full of half naked women. He choose pictures of women over a real one. I wonder who he was thinking of while having sex.

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Xcode,
this is exactly the bs I'm talking about you bring up old shit that's not even mentioned in this thread. Oh yes since you want to bring up old shit I also said that thread if I was on a date with a woman I DID mention that my focus would be on her not on a magazine which you failed to bring up just now. Already ready to fight me again on this. Seriously -_- give it a rest.

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Well, then there's a good chance that you'll be as boring in the sack as some of the women I've dated and it will probably be all over, anyway.
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Unless your a female that I had sex with, you have no clue that I'd be boring in the sack. Never make assumptions
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 83
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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 3:27:20 PM
Much of the time someone turns to porn and masturbation because their sex life was already long dead and buried anyway

Although their partners still tend to blame those things on why it died, even when they werent excessive till afterwards
 Xc0de
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 84
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 5:58:04 PM
Oh yes since you want to bring up old shit I also said that thread if I was on a date with a woman I DID mention that my focus would be on her not on a magazine which you failed to bring up just now.



Funny because you said you would ditch a woman who tell you or ask to throw the men magazine. I said I wouldn't mind really, because a woman in real life than pictures. You sided with OP condoning his behavior and I wasn't. I felt it was lack of respect. Now if you're going to tell the story at least tell the whole story.
I thought you were "done" with me and you were yawning but you continue. I guess you don't like the truth that's why you're upset.


*real yawn*
 AintNoDeal
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 85
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/9/2011 6:11:20 PM

Twice a day does not seem to be much. However, one can become addicted to porn and lose interest in "real" women.


I doubt any man would lose interest in real women no matter how much he looked at porn. Real women are more exciting - and all porn addict know this. What happens is that porn is EASY.

OP hasn't lost any interest in real woman, he's just taking the easy way out instead of making that effort to be around real women. Because porn doesn't talk back and insult you and tell you to get lost. That's not an issue of "interest", it's more about embarrassment, or reward for effort. Porn give quick reward for effort - click a button, or flip a page and you're there. Chasing real women is a very tough endeavor which usually leads to little or no reward at a substantial cost in TIME or sometimes MONEY.

So men who still have a great interest in real women don't seek them out and pursue them because they expect to FAIL, and don't want to extend the effort. On the flip side, woman stay at home and watch movies or do FACEBOOK all weekend instead of going out in public because its' easier to chat to friends than to risk the disappointment of being rejected or IGNORED by men they find attractive.

PEOPLE ALWAYS HAVE INTEREST IN MEETING PEOPLE.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 86
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/12/2012 1:22:16 PM
i know of a guy my age who beats off 5x a day so i would not worry if i were u
 Remired007
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 87
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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/13/2012 4:34:54 PM
Maybe a strategy you can use is too watch less hardcore porn, gradually reducing your drive for a bigger high, just like drugs it might be a way to get you to see sex as an intimate act again.
 twothousand12
Joined: 1/8/2012
Msg: 88
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/13/2012 10:10:56 PM
i found that looking at unrealistically perfect looking beauties just gave me false standards and that when i abstained from porn completely, i started craving "real" women and if anything my interest in real life sex went up. more regular looking women became more enjoyable to look at/date in real life.

i still masturbate, but don't do so to any kind of porn/pics of naked women or anything. just use my imagination and usually think of women i've seen in real life.
 rising122458
Joined: 6/12/2011
Msg: 89
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/15/2012 7:22:05 AM
"Afterall when you do eventually have sex again whoever you are with will be doing the same things to you that are in the porn movies "

Really? I can think of ONE girl that I've ever been with that did the same things to me that are in porn movies....right down to some of the outfits. lol. PLenty of incredible sex with many wonderful ladies....but the same as porn? Ummm....nope.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 90
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/15/2012 8:27:31 AM
as a 52 yr old woman, i'm a bit shy about being naked in front of a new partner...but knowing the guy looks at porn alot would make me more timid...

i guess if u r in love, u would be turned on by all of that, not just fake humpin' & bumpin'
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 91
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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/15/2012 11:01:47 AM
^^^Porn?.... what is porn?......never heard of it. .........................................................
 stonecastle
Joined: 2/14/2007
Msg: 92
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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/16/2012 10:20:20 AM
By the way I think I read somewhere that regular masturbation is good for you as it drains the prostate gland of fluid and so gets rid of cancer causing toxins that build up in it which can cause prostate cancer. See this: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3072021.stm
 lucky2beme
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 93
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 1/19/2012 7:04:51 AM
well it depends on the circumstance....if a person is unattractive and knows that the person can never be with a partner,then that is the only way to seek gratification is through masturbation and porn...on the other hand(PUN INTENDED)if that person does have a partner there are many reasons why that person masturbates too to much porn....no interest in sex,medical reason,if it is a female...that time of the month...the list goes on and on
 survivor37
Joined: 4/12/2012
Msg: 94
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 5/28/2012 2:00:50 PM
I agree, I think too much porn can lead to problems, especially in relationships.
I feel I have to compete with those woman, stop watching porn alone and watch it with a partner.
 jessexdustin
Joined: 9/10/2010
Msg: 95
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 5/28/2012 5:35:00 PM
doesnt really ruin you it just makes it better knowing a girl that is comfortable with her sex life and that masterbates to porn is not such a bad thing guys love it and from my experiences i heard that theres different stuff you could use to play with... as of vapor rub but you have to use very little , also i tried using ice and stuff like that and i have to say it works wonders well also i know you find out how rough you like it most girls do and find out new poses.. its nothing bad
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 96
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 5/28/2012 7:51:02 PM
I have no problem with my man watching porn and masterbating, but from experiance it can "dull" intercourse. As in, making it harder for him to ejaculate. He can stay hard for a long time(which is good for me in a way), but I want it ALL.....him not finishing frustrates me a bit.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 97
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 5/29/2012 12:33:32 PM
Yes, plus the guy gets so used to his own hand it's the only way he can cum
 bigcalm
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 98
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 5/29/2012 12:37:50 PM
Yes it can be a problem. When having sex you will cum faster.
 BigJ_78
Joined: 2/15/2011
Msg: 99
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 5/29/2012 12:42:09 PM
Porn can desensitize a guy to the real thing...Especially if he watches, and more importantly, JACKS OFF to too much of it..It can also dull his natural "sexual state", the state of mind that drives him to go out and pursue women in real life.

Porn overall is good,though. I like to watch it b/c it keeps me from sleeping around too much, but like most vices, its not a good idea to overdo it.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 100
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 5/29/2012 12:48:17 PM

I feel I have to compete with those woman, stop watching porn alone and watch it with a partner

That is not the porn that is the problem. That is called insecurity. Please, stop blaming your insecurity on something else. And yes, if you can't beat them, join them.
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I watch porn very regularly. My only issue with my partner is if I have already had porn session. While I could have sex everyday, I am not a multiple orgasm kind of guy and take about 4-5 hours to refill (just as I would if I had sex earlier). Being 45 and acting this way since I was in my teens, I have not noticed any lowered sex drive, desentization, or the like. My boy knows my hand, and he also knows a good set of lips too!!!!

In my years the biggest drain on my sex drive was stress.
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