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 ritzygypsy
Joined: 8/16/2006
Msg: 51
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Yumeryu what you have written here is wonderful and accurate. My question is what should a woman do when a man is not able to stimulate her on an emotional level? Is this justification for finding someone else based on what you are saying here?
 ritzygypsy
Joined: 8/16/2006
Msg: 52
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/26/2006 1:48:12 PM
Cedar77 does this mean a man should also pay for dinner if he is not able or willing to sexually satisfy his partner or is this just something a woman should do?
 Sadie415
Joined: 5/15/2006
Msg: 53
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/26/2006 6:49:54 PM
Keep being the one who decides when you want to have sex. Whether it's three months, three weeks, or three drinks later. Don't let anyone make you feel bad. Go for the one who chases after you the most, those guys are usually overlooked. You can pull it all together and when you do, the guys who said those things to you will feel like an ass.

 cabman86
Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 54
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/26/2006 7:05:45 PM
we're all different hon. i, myself like to get to know someone first and like to let the woman make the first move. (on me lol)

just keep trying. theres someone out there for ya thats not after sex only.
 enigma1972
Joined: 7/27/2006
Msg: 55
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/26/2006 9:19:39 PM
No, not all of them. Not all men are that shallow. I actually get offended when some woman tries to sleep with me on the first date. I personaly have a 1 month minimum rule.(I have broken this rule only twice and it didn't work out either time.) Basicly I have to have known you at least a month, sometimes two. I absolutley won't sleep with a woman until I'm ready to make an exclusive comitment to her as far as dating goes. I find women who have issues typicly tend to show their hands in this time frame. I watch like a hawk and pay attention to very minute details. (Do they do what they say they will, do they show interest, do I catch them lying, are they gold diggers, am I being played, etc) Usualy quietly though. I won't confront anybody over anything. I was unfrotunatley born with an exceptionaly good BS detector so I know when somebody is trying to dump a load of it on me. In this 1-2 month period I learn if it's going to be worth an exclusive comitment or not. And sex won't happen until after that occurs. I've been acused of "not being interested" enough, but honestly I'm in this looking for somebody for the long haul. So I figure if I loose a few like that they probalby wouldn't have worked out anyways. So no not every guy is only thinking of sex!
 singleguy64
Joined: 5/27/2006
Msg: 56
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 9:32:03 AM
^^ Well, I have to say, I have never, and probably never would, go for sex on the first date. I don't know as I'd find it "offensive", I could take it as flattering actually, but I wouldn't go there because I take the first date as a time to get to know the *person*. I certainly don't hold to that "one month minimum" though, I think that depends on the person, with the right 'chemistry', the 2nd date might be ok, or the 3rd... or maybe that month or two if she wanted to take the time. I'm not looking for sex, I'm looking for a relationship (although I do believe that sex is a part of a healthy relationship, its not *the* relationship). First date is off-limits for me, but after that I think it depends more on the two people involved, how well they 'hit it off' together, how comfortable they are with going there, etc.
 Jaime2830
Joined: 7/16/2006
Msg: 57
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 9:47:41 AM
"It is time for women to grow up and recognize that sex is life, and you are trying to deprive us of life"

Excuse me but women were not put here for a man's pleasure or to give you life as you say. I think maybe your the one who should grow up and learn to
 HiTechRedneck
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 58
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 11:56:56 AM
Here's everything you need to know....

The difference between men and women is that women are looking for one man to satisfy their every need, and Men are looking for every woman to satisfy their one need.

That's it in a nutshell!

S~
 OliviaBella
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 59
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 1:48:00 PM
not all men want action I know alot of girls who want action its a matter of respecting yoursef.


oliviabella
 enigma1972
Joined: 7/27/2006
Msg: 60
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 4:46:28 PM
"one month minimum? ^^??? do you ever get your junk wet?"

Yep. I go for quality, not quantity. Plus I don't have issues with VD's, illegitimate kids, and being "played" with sex as bait.

When it happens it's 5 times better than just some random lay.

Trust me, it's something you mature into.
 jdh1256
Joined: 10/10/2006
Msg: 61
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 5:38:40 PM
I met a girl , had sex on the 2nd and 3rd date, Im still with her, cant get enough of her. Dont think men who are interested in sex aren't into anything else. I like having a conversation and being with her. Hell , she even wants to go fishing with me, how many of you women would do that?
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 62
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Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/27/2006 5:42:49 PM
Let's make it a bit simpler. First understand yourself, because at the most basic level, men and women aren't all that different. Then find a man that you're interested in and try to understand just him. Understanding a broad scope of humanity, well libraries are filled with books on the subject, so that's biting off a bit much. Understand your man, take the time, listen to him and be patient and understanding. Give him time and attention and let him know you think he's terrific. He'll be glad to help you figure out what makes him tick.
 Smjle
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 63
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/15/2007 7:01:45 PM
Why do men want sex so fast? And if the girl gives them it.. he is turned off! I don't get it.. makes no sense whats-so-ever!

Tango-shoes, it is very basic if you can understand natural selection during primitive times. Modern society is too recent to affect our makeup.

You problem is you are choosing to date Alpha males rather than Beta males. In order to get sex, Beta males must be faithful, dependable, and good providers. The very kind of guy you claim you want. However, you will not date them because you would rather have sex with the hot Alpha males.

Women [not all] are very easy for Alpha males. The Alpha male does not need to invest much time or energy for sex. Therefore, their winning strategy, to produce the most descendents, is to impregnate as many females as possible. This is not a conscience decision, it is part of their make up; therefore, birth control and other modern factors do not enter in to their actions.

Once an Alpha male has sex a few times, the female may be pregnant. Again that is not a conscience decision; it's part of their make up. The Alpha male cannot afford to waste valuable sperm on a pregnant woman so he drops her for new women.
 newlyBemused
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 64
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:24:29 AM

Once an Alpha male has sex a few times, the female may be pregnant. Again that is not a conscience decision; it's part of their make up. The Alpha male cannot afford to waste valuable sperm on a pregnant woman so he drops her for new women.




The dating world according to smjle
 blastkissed
Joined: 2/9/2007
Msg: 65
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 12:33:48 PM
Yes OP. There are many who haven' gotten over the fact that they have a penis yet.

Just hissss like a vicious cat when they bring up the sex before you are ready and before you've given any signals.

It will make them go away...

Oh, an especially nice touch is to froth at the mouth concomitantly. They run away even faster.

If that doesn't work, wear fake nails about 1/2 an inch long and gouge their eyes out.
 Found someone
Joined: 2/27/2007
Msg: 66
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:20:58 PM
Thats all men care about...getting it and moving on...Getting it and moving on again....Women take it harder because some are more emotional...or some just believe men too much when they tell you things.....I've learned not to care anymore...Can't get hurt when you don't care
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 67
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:43:24 PM
So smjle, you are comparing yourself and other men to canine pack behavior? No wonder men get called dogs!

What's really fun is when an 'alpha male' wannabe runs into a GENUINE alpha
female and leaves the encounter carrying his nuts in a brown paper bag. And guess what? You can't TELL an alpha female by looks. But she's smart enough to choose a so called "beta male", and again it has very little to do with looks.

Apparently smjle is interested in dating a b*tch wolf, not a human woman. I wish him all the best with that.
Cindy O
Smjle, understand I say all this with laughter and affection. Dude, you are SO screwed up, but we love ya anyway.
 blastkissed
Joined: 2/9/2007
Msg: 68
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:51:46 PM

What's really fun is when an 'alpha male' wannabe runs into a GENUINE alpha
female and leaves the encounter carrying his nuts in a brown paper bag. And guess what? You can't TELL an alpha female by looks. But she's smart enough to choose a so called "beta male", and again it has very little to do with looks.


Hahahahaha!!!!

Gotta luv them betas.
 Sirris
Joined: 7/21/2006
Msg: 69
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 4:17:43 PM
Dang, I would say this particular thread has more than it's fair share of "bitter with baggage" comments.

First off, ignore everyone who has said anything to the effect of "all men/women are ____" we all know that's just wrong. Otherwise, we'd all be the same!

Second, ignore anyone who says you can't hope to understand the opposite sex. You may not be able to understand them all, but you can learn to understand those who you encounter on a regular basis.

Third, american cowgirl, I hate to say it, but your profile is quite hostile. In short, you come off as very angry and because of that you are scaring away any good "fish" that might be out there. The approach of "you'd better not suck or you're GONE" never got anybody anywhere.

We all have our frustrations and disappointments. Believe me, you are not the only one who has felt cheated, used, lied to, etc. in relationships. But you have to try to learn from your experiences and try to have a more positive outlook. The common denominator in all of our relationships is ultimately ourselves.

Good luck to you.
 Smjle
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 70
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:20:50 PM

So smjle, you are comparing yourself and other men to canine pack behavior? No wonder men get called dogs!


It is for the Stone Age that our brains seem to be built; the agricultural and industrial revolutions are flashes in the geological pan, far too recent in evolutionary terms to have fundamentally changed the way we experience emotions or sex.

Behavioral ecologists have noted that female animals, from scorpion flies to barn swallows, prefer males with high degrees of bilateral body symmetry, called developmental stability in the parlance of science. Males whose immune systems are strong, and who forage well, develop with high symmetry, so females choose symmetrical suitors to secure good genes for their offspring.

Studies show that symmetrical men have the shortest courtships before having sexual intercourse with the women they date. They invest the least money and time in them. And they cheat on their mates more often than guys with less well-balanced bodies. Women are no more built for monogamy than men are. They are designed to keep their options open.
 Sirris
Joined: 7/21/2006
Msg: 71
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:43:45 PM
cowgirl, along the lines of my earlier comments of a hostile profile, you might try posting a picture where you actually smile in it. Just a thought.

Good luck
 sensualhandsforu
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 72
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:20:32 PM
Well first off that guy was stupid for saying that he was doing you a favor for sleeping with you because you had "meat on my bones". Because frankly your gorgeous and I know that if you wanted to you could get any guy you wanted in a heart beat. If having sex were any body's favor it would be his...because he sounds like a loser!

Now I know that your curious about understanding men and why all men are just after sex? Well in a short answer we are not. You see many years ago I was wondering why all girls were shallow, insecure, and after the dumb rude guys. And then it hit me...MOST girls AREN'T after that it is just that the ones that are noticed are like that. I would say that 10% of the girls are like that and 10% of the guys are after sex. But a vast majority of people (male and female) are decent, human beings.

You see the problem with dating is that nobody is upfront with what they want and both parties have high expectations of what a relationship should be. I have noticed that the reason a lot of girls are alone on Friday nights is because of their high expectations. Since in this culture men have to make the first move, while women sit around and wait, men have to gather a lot of guts to ask the girl they like on a date. And believe me, when you see the girl you REALLY like smiling and looking AMAZING men choke up. So what happens is that women don't realize that they are being "asked out" or "flirted" and/or they expect men to ask them out on a date in a romantic and witty fashion.

So what happens is that the 10% of guys end up asking out the 90% of girls on a date and ruining the reputation of the other 90% of the guys since the 10% of the guys know how to romantically ask a girl out. So if you want to meet a nice guy here our my suggestions:
1) Change the picture, your giving the wrong message
2) Go to places where nice guys go to. Like my dad said "if you want a bad wife go to a bar. If you want a good wife go to church." not saying that women in bars are bad or that women in church are good...but you got to go where your target audience is at.
3) Have your friends set you up with nice men that meet your requirements.
4) Ask a good friend out. What would be a better date than a friend.
and ...
5) Be patient. If a guy isn't responding to your advances he is either shocked that your into him, excited and doesn't know what to do with him self, or is shy.

PS If you like the way I think and analyze things, feel free to contact me. I am always up for a new friend.
 randomstoic
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 73
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 12:06:56 AM
I think everyone who stated that men are more biologically predisposed to spill seed are correct. I think the more important question would be what are the emotional implications of sex. For some sex might be a far more pleasant, interactive, and extenuated form of masturbation, but for others it might signify emotional commitment. If men want something of you and you desire more than pleasure, make sure that they have committed something in turn.

I cannot imaging making love to someone without having begun to fall in love with them. This may sound odd, but my own short-lived experience with a physical relationship left me feeling terribly empty.
 harleybabe2003
Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 74
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 4:38:55 AM
You are right about that !! When i look at other womans profile they show more then they should and what about when they say willing to try new things?? I would think they mean sex with just about anybody.I am not on here for sex and wont lower my self for that. or settle for a man that is into that. I want to find a life time partner not aids. So ladies if you want to find a real guy that wants a real woman clean up your act! As my dad would say lay down with dogs wake up with fleas
 exuberant1
Joined: 3/13/2007
Msg: 75
Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 3/17/2007 8:40:54 AM
That a man brings up sex early is not a turn off --- what is depends on how he responds to your response to the subject......everyone should exchange their thoughts and then respect each other's position.
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