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 sportsgirl7700
Joined: 5/22/2009
Msg: 119
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????Page 3 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
Cinsav- are you following me tonight?

Yeah- I'm crazy for sure. You know it all based on your experience with a few nut jobs. Guess you can sense us from a mile away.

I don't think it's age. I think it's mentality. I won't classify people by their age. I would never rule out an entire age group based on a few bad experiences. That's just me. People can be crazy at any age.
 sisterleigh
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 120
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/17/2011 8:55:58 PM
and why is it that all my cuss words were blured out. what are they afriad some kid is going to get on the pof fourm and see the cuss words and it will burn their eyes out. i though we was all adults on here. that's the christians trying to shover their ****ing religion up our ass.
 cinsav
Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 121
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/17/2011 8:58:48 PM
over 30 under 30 all ****es is crazy. ****es is crazy, that's why men love us. they love that we can trow a lamp at them and then have wild make up sex after wards. if you don't want a crazy **** then you need to learn how to suck a**** and love it. b.c all ****es are crazy./quote]

I disagree...

When I look at my dating past - this is what *I* have experienced (just as I said in my previous post).

If I date 20 twenty-somethings? 19 will be perfectly normal. 1 will be a complete flake.
If I date 20 forty-somethings? 19 will be perfectly normal. 1 will be a complete flake.

If I date 20 thirty-somethings? 20 will be complete nut jobs. Indecisive, overbearingly picky, flaky as hell, drama loaded, tons of emotional baggage, head games, lies... the list goes on.

I'm not speaking for every man out there - I am speaking for myself and MY personal experiences. But, you have to wonder - where there is smoke....
 sisterleigh
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 122
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/17/2011 9:00:37 PM
^ you be dateing a lot of ****es. maybe theirs just somethign wrong with you.
 cinsav
Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 123
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/17/2011 9:01:02 PM

Cinsav- are you following me tonight?

Yeah- I'm crazy for sure. You know it all based on your experience with a few nut jobs. Guess you can sense us from a mile away.

I don't think it's age. I think it's mentality. I won't classify people by their age. I would never rule out an entire age group based on a few bad experiences. That's just me. People can be crazy at any age.


I think you're following me there, Ryan Miller.
 Sisyphus76
Joined: 1/1/2011
Msg: 124
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/18/2011 11:05:16 AM

Oh no it IS her age. See my previous post. Single 30 something female.... ok? Single 30 something female usually means cuckoo, cuckoo, cuckoo..


This is a fairly stupid statement.

a.) everyone knows that all women are crazy
b.) women in their thirties really love them some sex so more power to them
 twelfth_dimension
Joined: 7/23/2011
Msg: 125
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/20/2011 3:36:40 PM
So let me get this straight ...

At the stroke of midnight on the eve of her 30th birthday, Cinderella's mind turns into a pumpkin until her fairy godmother returns 10 years later to give her back her sanity so that she is once again date-able in the eyes of men?

Fascinating. Are you sure you don't like drama?

The 30-something women you dated in the past may have gone "psycho" on you as an easy out from a relationship with a dull, narrow-minded, self-important clown with a huge sense of entitlement and nothing much to back it up. The 20-somethings just didn't notice yet because they were too busy picking up on younger guys whenever your back was turned and the 40-somethings didn't care, as they figured you'd at least be good for a free meal or two.

Just saying ...
 bravehart64
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 126
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/21/2011 11:39:09 AM
Thoughts on all your weird generalizations ? Dunno ? Personally I cant figure out how you compiled all these assumptions .

Wait till you get to be my age if you think it sucks now .One would think women in there forties and older would have fewer hang ups wouldn't one ?
 MrMuggles73
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 127
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Posted: 8/21/2011 3:13:36 PM
30's is certainly a dodgy time, unless your in a band :)

i'm 38 no kids etc Fact is most women just 'do the thing' and get pregnant to early
 cinsav
Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 128
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/25/2011 7:43:57 PM

So let me get this straight ...

At the stroke of midnight on the eve of her 30th birthday, Cinderella's mind turns into a pumpkin until her fairy godmother returns 10 years later to give her back her sanity so that she is once again date-able in the eyes of men?

Fascinating. Are you sure you don't like drama?

The 30-something women you dated in the past may have gone "psycho" on you as an easy out from a relationship with a dull, narrow-minded, self-important clown with a huge sense of entitlement and nothing much to back it up. The 20-somethings just didn't notice yet because they were too busy picking up on younger guys whenever your back was turned and the 40-somethings didn't care, as they figured you'd at least be good for a free meal or two.

Just saying ...


And from your own profile...


Update: My profile is like the House of Leaves. I swear. It changes itself without any input from me


So says the flake who changes her profile on a daily basis because she doesn't have a clue as to what she wants.

30 something women ARE whack jobs for the most part.... well SINGLE 30 something.

1. They just got out of a marriage to the wrong man - because their "amazing" choice in men lead them to marry a complete ass that cheated on them, used them, or whatever - and THIS time they're going to get it right, by God!

2. They've never been married or in any type of long term committed relationship, which is a strong indicator that they're freaking flaky as hell..

3. They actually bought into the idea that when daddy told them they were a princess at the age six - they actually really believe they're a princess and it only took 30 years to completely fall for it.

Take your pick.

I don't need to prove myself to yet another 30 something flake - your post just proved my point.
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 129
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 8/26/2011 9:23:56 AM
um most like because you should not rely on some crappy dating site..
I do enjoy this forums though. Little bit totalitarian but no extreme censorship.
 Rockhound80
Joined: 5/11/2011
Msg: 130
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Posted: 8/27/2011 4:55:00 PM
I missed my timing in my twenties. I honestly really actually am beggining to see myself as being alone for this life time. It angers me in a way. I have alot to offer,,,,,but its all but done it seems. I have also noticed that I must not be good eneough for alot of girls out there for some reason or another. I know it ain true,,,but thats what guys like me get told, and its like,,,,bullshit!
 Luke_Mpls31
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 131
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Posted: 8/27/2011 6:04:35 PM
I'm starting to think maybe it really is a dead zone. This is the second time I've been on here since I turned 30 and haven't even had 1 date or found anyone worthwhile to talk to! In my 20's, I always had a date setup after the first week.
 domo30
Joined: 6/7/2010
Msg: 132
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Posted: 9/1/2011 8:32:33 AM
ok this is complete and under bs. Just because a woman is single and 30 or older doesnt mean shes crazy you morons. Ive been engaged at 20 but decided I was too young. Ive had a few relationships which didnt work because the guys were either douches or not ready to be serious or cheated. Id rather be single at my age than just settle with any old guy. I will pass on settling for whats not right for me. And guys in their 30s usually have multiple kids and divorces under their belt pass on that drama. See generalizing is dumb
 domo30
Joined: 6/7/2010
Msg: 134
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 9/1/2011 9:22:52 AM
We also are picky physically lol I know I am
 SweetofSerendipity
Joined: 8/1/2011
Msg: 135
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 9/1/2011 6:35:23 PM
This thread is funny.lol Dating in my 30's has been a great experience! Yes, there tends to be a trend of more unstable men in their 30's, but it is what it is. Can't date the men in their 20's because they don't have the life experiences. Can date the men much older because they don't have the energy to keep up. lol

So, I'll be 40 soon. I wonder if that means I'll be mature enough to set aside the crazy, nutjob 30's status that you men so eloquently relate us to.
 WildAndFree3
Joined: 6/24/2011
Msg: 136
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 9/5/2011 7:18:21 AM
I'm in my mid 30s and definitely don't want a young whipper snapper. They might be alright as a boy toy, but then they start to act like children and get on your nerves... The problem is most of the men in their 30s are married and in serious relationships. I've thought about maybe trying the 40s crowd.
 saspice
Joined: 3/4/2010
Msg: 137
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Posted: 9/8/2011 2:08:30 PM
i agree with ya, im now in mid 30s and im a woman whos not materialistic, never have been just would like to find someone i can enjoy and visa versa, had a husband who gave me everything except what i wanted which is honesty and values. It seems like now the only guys i meet, want to be some kind of hero and rescue, and the woman be dependent on them. Your a guy, can u tell me why guys dont like a chic who wants and needs to be selfsufficent and just enjoy each other and what both people can bring to the table
 smokingcoffedrinker73
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 138
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 9/14/2011 8:12:05 PM
I am curious, how many people have heard that phrase? everything happens for a reason.....furthermore how many people actually buy it? I honestly believe it is a statement written by a kindergarden teacher to explain where babies come from or how the world was created. My point is its a stupid statement, common sense tells us that. if things didn`t have a reason then they couldn`t happen! No offense is meant to the poster just really tired of hearing that dumb phrase, it is not an answer!we look for the reason because we are hard wired to find logic in purpose and reasons.
 jkdjm
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 139
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 9/16/2011 12:35:21 PM
man you are so right about that! if you don't have a job that makes X amount of $, most women don't even want to know you....as if material things matter most to them than a relationship. i've had better luck with foreign women and plan to make a trip to south america just for kicks. i figured, if i'm single, why stay in the city i live in for vacation, when there's a bigger world out there. the best thing to do is just have fun with your life....don't hold back for anybody!
 morta1ez
Joined: 9/3/2009
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Posted: 9/26/2011 3:01:46 PM
It is a dead zone, because unlike in your 20's you are nolonger working with a clean slate, like the other poster said, "at our age you are nolonger starting life with someone, they are trying to fit you into their existing life without breaking anything".

And that's why dating past 30 is so much harder than it was at 20 when life was just starting.
 Philhelm
Joined: 6/25/2007
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Posted: 9/26/2011 5:00:03 PM

man you are so right about that! if you don't have a job that makes X amount of $, most women don't even want to know you....as if material things matter most to them than a relationship. i've had better luck with foreign women and plan to make a trip to south america just for kicks. i figured, if i'm single, why stay in the city i live in for vacation, when there's a bigger world out there. the best thing to do is just have fun with your life....don't hold back for anybody!


I think there's some truth there. This older soldier that I had known in the Army had said there's a reason why GI's get married to foreign women. They tend to be less materialistic and more family-oriented than American women. I'm considering going for foreign women as well; more attractive, more educated, and more virtuous.
 modivin
Joined: 8/21/2011
Msg: 142
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 9/28/2011 10:55:14 PM
Interesting...it depends on the specifics for me. I recently moved from Chicago to Davenport, Iowa. Yup...from a big city to what people from Iowa call the armpit of Iowa. I moved here for school...a lovely 3.5 years later I will be a Chiropractor. What I've noticed here however...
Guys approach me asking to be their sugardaddy. Some just got out of jail. And these are random people on the street....yup, that is Davenport.
Personally, I don't care how much a guy is making since I've met guys who make a ton or a little and are the biggest d-bags out there. And some guys I know who make a good amount and are as sweet as can be. Money changes people but most of the time they start off a certain way to begin with.

So, to you guys who have girls looking at you because they are gold diggers, because they are materialistic and don't want to work for their own way...I get it. Its a two way street. Foreign people aren't always the option however. Having been married to a Navy guy, I met many from Asia or Latin countries and there are just the same amount of people who are gold diggers looking for a sugar daddy.

In the end it comes down to what you are putting out there. If you don't want something...guess what, you will attract exactly what you don't want. Universal law.
 jarodsecomb1
Joined: 2/2/2006
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Posted: 9/28/2011 11:30:55 PM
Yes, yes I firmly believe that dating after thirty is done. I've never been married, no kids and it seems impossible to find a date let alone a girlfriend.
 jkdjm
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 144
Is dating in your 30's a DEAD ZONE????
Posted: 9/30/2011 4:47:29 PM
"In the end it comes down to what you are putting out there. If you don't want something...guess what, you will attract exactly what you don't want. Universal law."

either way, i won't settle for "whatever" and try to be happy about it. if it takes an eternity to find my type of woman, so be it. in my 30's it's been more "quality" vs. "quantity" in my 20's. as far as foreign women, i too have been to a some countries and yes there are some golddiggers, but not as bad as i see it back home. for the most part, i've seen that most foreign women take care of themselves, are down to earth and less materialistic......and that's what attracts me.
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