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 subtle_savage
Joined: 11/13/2006
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Honestly how small can your mouth really be?? You can eat can't you??




Op... I don't know what clysdales you've been dating, but if you can eat a banana, you can handle most men. Ok, I'm slightly more than the average banana, but not by much

Ever had your head squeezed between two legs so hard you began to have pre-infant flash backs?

Ever discovered that you have this strange numb floppy thing in your mouth that used to be a tongue?

Ever drank about half a cup of fluids up your nose?

Ever found yourself in the position of having your nose next to an @ss when it suddenly lets off steam during orgasm?

Ever had your mouth and nose suddenly squished into a mound of steaming wet flesh and know that if you stop you'll be flayed with whatever comes to hand?

Ever had your hair pulled out from someone getting too excited? (I swear that's how men go bald).

No?

Well, it's cool. I wouldn't trade it for the world, though :)

Good luck finding a guy who suits your tastes. There's bound to be a few out there.

Be kind of rough for an average guy though if he and you get to the point where that fact is suddenly revealed after a lot of courting. Might consider having that conversation early on.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 12/23/2006 7:14:25 AM
Whether you are a big girl or not does not determine if you can go down on a man or make him feel good when giving him "oral". If you don't like to do it, then you just don't like to do it ... for whatever reason. No one is saying you have to do "deep throat" on your man. One does what one is comfortable doing.

A lot of men would totally enjoy you just playing with them with your tongue or just even taking the very tip of their penis in your mouth. Just by giving him that kind of attention is very arrousing and I don't know a man who would turn that down much less complain.

If a man leaves you because you're not a "pro" at giving him "oral" sex ... then you don't want him anyways.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 12/23/2006 1:27:28 PM


If a man leaves you because you're not a "pro" at giving him "oral" sex ... then you don't want him anyways.


Either that or he was trying to give you pointers on what he likes and you wouldn't listen.

OR ... he was trying to give you pointers on what he likes and you were listening and you just were uncomfortable with that or his expectations.

I've run into that ... guys who have this idea that we just have to be willing to do "deep throat" stuff no matter how uncomfortable that is for us ... they want to "teach" us to do that. Maybe some of us already know that isn't something we're comfortable with and they just can't take any "gentle hints" that we aren't into that.

There are also guys who absolutely want a woman to "swallow" ... no matter if she says she doesn't find that "pleasing".

So if that has happened to the OP ... then I can understand that after a while, it's just a total "turn off" to even try. Trying could give her the feeling as if she is "suffocating" and while she might not be truly "suffocating" ... she's trying to "stifle" the feeling of it not being a pleasant experience.
 Chiwrtr72
Joined: 6/15/2006
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When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 12/24/2006 6:51:29 PM

The point is, that if you insist that a woman do something she doesn't like or WANT to do simply because YOU like it, you're a selfish man and not worth the effort. Women don't like selfish men.


Why isn't the women selfish for not giving the guy pleasure that she knows he desires? That being said, a guy should always try and do everything possible to put the woman at ease so they get crazy in the bedroom :)

OP- I dated a girl with a small mouth once. She used her hand a lot and seemed to be able to do it pretty well. As to why guys like it? Well I can't speak for every guy but it definitely feels great to me and gets my "attention" (or should I say to attention) every time

Based on some responses I've seen on these forums, there are guys who don't like oral. Perhaps you just need to look a little harder and be up front about it.
 gentlegiant127
Joined: 8/10/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/20/2007 3:37:36 AM
Myself, I could not handle giving up oral sex forever(recieving or giving), so I could not marry a woman who was not into it. It's that simple. I could be good friends with her, but that is about it.
On the other side of the issue, I have heard women leaving guys because the guy would not do oral sex on them for whatever reason, and I can totally understand women who did that. To some people, oral sex is very important.
 Roamingsiris
Joined: 7/8/2006
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When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 1/20/2007 11:58:31 AM
1) Your not willing to please.
2) See #1.

Im out. See ya.
(I have had 1 too many selfish girls to want another)
 adventure415
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 1/31/2007 7:24:52 PM
Plain and simple and I have studdied male female relations. Guys leave because they can get it from someone else. See the thing is a women or girlfriend asks for commitment all that then she wants to set limitations; is that really fair? The idea is if a women asks a man to be with her alone she should at least try to please him otherwise accept what happends..when you use the loose term of if you dont put out...then well you get the drill!


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 MDB78
Joined: 12/17/2005
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Posted: 2/17/2007 11:10:19 PM
Because guys love oral sex.

You know why?

Because it's pretty much the only time it's all about us. We can just lay there and relax while the woman does her thing, no pressure on us to last long or pleasure her, we just lay there and enjoy the amazingness of it.

And as far as myself, I love going down on women, and I want one that loves going down on me. I think I'd give up intercourse before I get up getting bj's. It's that good.
 tricki60
Joined: 2/2/2007
Msg: 35
When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 3/7/2007 7:26:33 PM
i can send you a photo if you like
you were kinda harsh last time
my kids calll me tricki thats all
oral is the best
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 3/8/2007 4:44:30 PM
OP ... you should not have to give a man "head". If it's something you're not comfortable with ... then you aren't comfortable with it. If a man would not want you because of something like that ... he's not worth wasting a minute of your time on him.

It occurs to me that there are a lot of other nice things you could do for him and to him in the way of intimacy. There are other threads in here where the gentlemen are saying that they are not all that interested in that aspect of intimacy ... and certainly not so dead set on having it done to them if it means they'll lose their lady.

There's more to life than getting "head" ... but for sure you'll have to find a man who sees it that way. In spite of what you may read in this thread ... I do believe there are men out there who are more than capable of loving a woman ... even if she finds it difficult to give "head".

Also, if your partner knows how uncomfortable it makes you ... how in the world could he get any pleasure out of it ... knowing that it does make you so uncomfortable? Seems to me that would just be a thoughtless and cruel man who would do something like that.
 Seavoyage
Joined: 1/18/2007
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Posted: 3/8/2007 8:11:59 PM
That is the stupidest reason to dump a girl. These guys are kind of trashy. A woman is more important than giving head or not giving it. That sounds so dumb. Probably 100 years ago very few people did that. That is when people were encouraged including the men to have something called character. Why don't you get to know better quality guys. An understanding guy would say "It's okay, honey" and forget about that. After all, a guy is supposed to about pleasing you, too. They are selfish to the max and just look at women as objects.
 blondago56
Joined: 8/21/2004
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When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 3/10/2007 9:49:56 AM
~ i can't imagine NOT doing oral/giving head/enjoying dessert on/for the man in my life...~
 blondago56
Joined: 8/21/2004
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When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 3/10/2007 9:50:33 AM
~ i can't imagine NOT doing oral/giving head/enjoying dessert on/for the man in my life...~
OOPS! hit the "Enter' Key 2x Sorry!
 tips2toes
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 40
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Posted: 3/14/2007 8:55:53 AM
Please, whoever gives and receives oral sex, they should brush their teeth and cleanse their mouth BEFORE doing it. The mouth is the most bacteria laden part of the body.

I always wondered this little fact. Guys expect a girl to give them head... yet any time after a man takes a piss, what does he do... He washes his hands! What's that telling her? I know there are reasons behind it. I just thought the contrast was cute.

Tory
 tips2toes
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 41
When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2007 6:32:47 AM
Hey girls! If you have no desire to give your guy oral sex, here's a neat way to bow out gracefully.

Just tell him "Ok, I'll do it, but I'm not sure how. Do it to yourself first and show me how it's done". Hey, he'll strain a back muscle trying to bend that far, but rest assured, he can't (I tried)
 WokkaWokka
Joined: 12/5/2005
Msg: 42
When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 5/25/2007 9:01:21 AM
tell her best of luck and send her on her way
 MONEMPERER
Joined: 6/26/2006
Msg: 43
When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:54:27 AM
Simple ever here of bill clinton and millions of other men and women if you aint taking care of your business someone else will.

I know if a women wont give head I am like you still exist good bye you are worthless to me.

see sometimes head is just head for both sexes sometimes its not about the other partner its about self and sometimes its not about self but the other partner.
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 44
When she won't do oral sex
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:16:17 AM
Some women on this thread were criticizing men that would leave a woman that doesn't give BJs. Yet on another thread, many women were saying that they would leave a man that refuses to eat her out. Double standard. Also there are some women who would rather give then receive oral sex.
 acgoat
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 45
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Posted: 6/14/2007 8:12:48 PM
OP

as long as you will shut up and spread your legs while I'm eating, dont really care if you suck or not
 SmellOfPoop
Joined: 6/8/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 6/15/2007 2:08:48 PM
This again? lol.
Here's the condensed version.

A relationship works when there's compatibility.
If you give great head, but you are a ****, then you're no good for me as a girlfriend or wife.
If you treat me extremely well, but don't fulfill my oral need in the bedroom, then you're no good for me as a girlfriend or wife.

Just as you have the right to not give head, the men in question have the right to want it. Knowing that you won't give it means they have to give that part of sex up forever, if they want to be with you. Unless someone is not sexual, most guys will not stick around (or won't stick around long once they realize you're serious).
 Martini1
Joined: 5/26/2007
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Posted: 6/15/2007 7:47:22 PM

I couldn't even breathe the few times I have given oral sex

You cant breathe when you have something in your mouth? How the hell do you eat then?
You are unwilling to do something I want but still want me to do the stuff you like? You don't demand men to go down on you but still would allow it? I would put my clothes back on if you told me that leave or kick you out if you told me that. Just plain selfish it seems.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 6/15/2007 7:57:51 PM
This one is a real no brainer........

She doesn't, then I do not either........we both pack our bags and find others who will.....

Just my opinion.......
 dpd22
Joined: 11/9/2006
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Posted: 6/15/2007 8:41:13 PM
If she doesn't do oral sex, she better not expect me to give her oral sex. Otherwise the relationship is over or I'll get a second woman just for the purpose of giving me some head. LOL.
 Steve_Sandy
Joined: 3/19/2006
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Posted: 1/30/2008 4:52:54 PM
To the OP

Got some married friends, he has made it very clear he won't muff dive, then his step son overheard and he tried to explain it away :) she is happy to give him BJ....

Personally would not be that worried, maybe offer them to suck on a dildo to get the same idea, then muffle their nose and ask if can breathe ok :)
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