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 jheremya
Joined: 6/3/2005
Msg: 161
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im too fracking stupid to know what your talking about...what?
 JustCallMeMike
Joined: 5/29/2006
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:10:38 AM
This is one of my mottos, "Beauty can be feinted, but intelligence never lies." Perfect example (while it is just a commercial), this one Vonage commercial of the blond who thought a group of circling sharks were dolphins and she was going to play with them. Those are the kind of people you just have to pat on the head, give a cookie, and make sure your 3 year old warns them about running with scissors. Intelligence to me is a MUST! I can't handle thinking for me and her at the same time.
 Challenge
Joined: 6/3/2006
Msg: 187
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Posted: 1/7/2007 10:56:38 AM
I love an intelligent woman......it's not a question of academic proficiency.......nor is it required to be informed on a wide array of topics.......

As long as she's intelligent to "get" me.......and then all else falls into place......n'est ce pas....
 Challenge
Joined: 6/3/2006
Msg: 190
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Posted: 1/7/2007 11:40:19 AM
No disrespect intended........you spelled magna cum laude incorrectly........and the same with professional and intelligent.......

As I said.......academic proficiency isn't everything........
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Posted: 1/8/2007 9:04:33 PM
Unfortunately it is sometimes the case that really intelligent people are more messed up than regular folk .
There is something about the modern intelligent person that often makes them full of anxiety and never satisfied and driven toward's materialism,ego,"success" .... the wrong sort's of goal's.

Often it is the down to earth regular folk who are more in touch with what is deep and real and important.
 ace76
Joined: 11/13/2006
Msg: 221
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Posted: 1/11/2007 1:50:40 AM
IMO, intelligence hasn't meant squat to women, except the bookworm-types (and even then, to a slight degree).

Charm and looks pretty much are all of it.

I mean, this should be pretty obvious, considering the "players" that all of the geeks were, growing up, people... :P
 LIFES_GOOD
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 228
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Posted: 1/13/2007 1:29:26 AM
I couldn't fall in love with a girl who wasn't intelligent, just isn't possible for me. A girl that's beautiful physically means nothing to me if I can't have a conversation with her.

The phyiscal attraction I have towards someone has to be there, but it usually doesn't grab me until I've had an opportunity to talk to her. When you throw in intelligence and a great personality...a good looking girl, can easily turn into one of the most beautiful girls in the world.
 subtle_savage
Joined: 11/13/2006
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Posted: 1/13/2007 1:41:40 AM
The wonderful thing about intelligence is that everyone pretty much thinks they are.

One needs only hang out with people a few notches down on the iq score to feel brilliant, regardless of ones starting point.

I remember fondly one comment I had sent to me on this subject:

"Oh ya, eh. Day's is stupid. Kant even reed 'n rite. Like dar so stupid day's don't even nose it eh. Dam stupid fvckers ain't good for them nuffin."
 texerotic2
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 231
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Posted: 1/13/2007 8:42:20 PM
Intelligence is of the utmost importance, because without it, so many
other facets of a wonderful relationship are missing. One can not
have a truly enjoyable and meaningful conversation with someone who is
"intelligence-deficient". And a meaningful conversation is just as erotic
and intimate, on an intellectual level; as the most passionate love making
is, on a physical level. And without intelligence, a person really can not have
a charismatic personality.

But, intelligence by itself is not enough. There also has to be awareness
of the world around us, and knowledge of things such as current events,
history, world affairs, etc. If an intelligent person can't converse about
anything other than last night's episode of "American Idol", for example,
then any meaningful relationship is unlikely.
 Charm1ngMuse
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 235
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Posted: 1/19/2007 6:22:08 AM
I think you can discern intelligence immediately in a person unless they are purposefully dumbing down. Personally, I find that people with intelligence have a good grasp of the English language (usually pre-Tequila). Their ability to use it appropriately isn't necessarily a hallmark of their educational level, but more so of their experience and predisposition to absorb the lessons learned. Those who comprehend the difference between they're and their automatically deserve my respect : )

I choose the path of awareness by reading, watching and listening to resources for information about our world, local and global. I find it difficult to converse for long with someone who hasn't thought about the Iraq War, or the Christmas Typhoon in Southeast Asia or other events and people who affect us as humankind. Those who don't contain their lives to their own tiny corner of the universe usually intrigue and captivate me.

Remember kiddos... Use the English language, or any language for that matter, in a grammatically correct manner and you will always SOUND intelligent even if you feel that you aren't up to snuff.

P.S. Just don't dangle your participles in front of a hungry tiger for they are crunchy and taste like chicken!


 Tsinygosim
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 242
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Posted: 1/19/2007 1:20:04 PM
How to get women to think you're intelligent:

1) Be good-looking
2) Be attractive.
3) Pay lots of attention to her.
4) Say little enough to allow her to fill in the blanks with her own fantasies

If you're smart enough to sign your name in a checkbook and avoid wearing different shades of black at the same time, most women will think you are friggin' Steven Hawking.
 Richard_Corey
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 5/8/2008 7:38:28 PM
Intelligence is a curse.
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:12:45 AM
The type of intelligence that "does it" for me is a love of words and word-play, an inherent curiosity about people and life and appreciation for books and ideas. Toss in kindness, integrity and a quirky sense of humour and I'm a goner.

Intelligence does not guarantee being open-minded, but the most open-minded people I have known have also been intelligent. That willingness to try on ideas or approaches to life and love is almost as important as breathing to me.

Intelligence does not compensate for a lack in other character traits, but the man of solid character who is not also intelligent doesn't hold my interest for long.
 WesternRose
Joined: 1/14/2008
Msg: 276
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:49:38 PM
I am in no way an intellectual snob...but baby......give me an intelligent man and I am putty in his hands.

it's even in my profile I think...the man who stimulates me with intelligent conversation is the man who stimulates my mind and my body.
I am his. :

My profile states:
Seeking a lover who will seduce my mind, tease my body and make me laugh....and then a little bit more.
The man who stimulates my mind and captures my imagination is the man who has me in the palm of his hand.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:20:35 AM
Brains with a body to fill out that "hooters" uniform works well for me.......

OT.........Making love is but a short term exercise in pleasure.......being paired with another that can hold your interest mentally, is a long term reality.......

Just my opinion.......
 hootinholler
Joined: 6/10/2006
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:30:46 AM
Margo wrote:
The type of intelligence that "does it" for me is a love of words and word-play,


So, you're looking for a cunning linguist?

GDRFC (Grinning, ducking, running for cover)

I know, it's an ancient pun.
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 282
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:38:08 AM

Is Intelligence Captivating...............


it beats the hell out of stupidity.
 trinity818
Joined: 9/1/2006
Msg: 284
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Posted: 2/10/2011 5:39:09 AM

the most open-minded people I have known have also been intelligent.


I love your posts, Margo. You are always so gracious and eloquent.

I always thought that intelligent people would be open-minded, too...until I found the POF forums. OMG..I just cannot fathom how close-minded some of these so called intellects are. How can you possibly continue to learn anything if you already know it all?

I find intelligence to be very captivating as long as it is not arrogant or condescending. Unfortunately, it often seems like many highly intelligent people are quite lacking in things like humility, kindness and patience for the "less intelligent".
 thisisit11
Joined: 7/11/2010
Msg: 285
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Posted: 2/10/2011 10:01:25 AM
captivating...........
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