Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  >      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 Virbuis
Joined: 11/26/2006
Msg: 101
Nymphomania.Page 2 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
I want a nice young woman to settle down with and make love to at least once a day, preferably every morning and every night.

Does that make me a nymphomaniac?
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 117
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/26/2007 9:55:23 PM

Perhaps I'm not as aggressive as I thought I was, but I've only ever been with one woman this....ummmm.....bad. Yes, I said bad. I know a guy already posted about how he wants to have sex LITERALLY all day, but the truth is, not many of us can do that. In fact, I've discovered that most women cannot either.


Dude. Keep learning from this particular experience because not all women are like that. Also once you learn certain patterns you can apply them to other women. That is speaking if you break up, and move on.

What I have learned is that if you neg her a little you get more. Okay bash away here. But it's true. When ever you go digging and wanting sex, even a girl with a high libido starts the I am bored or not now routine. But if when they want sex you tell them, not now, then you become the challenge.

What happened to you was simple, her libido was bigger than yours. You began to resist. She found that irresistible. Most women do. Why? Because most men are drooling all over them and that is boring and predictable, while being neg means they have to think and figure a way out to get more of you.

I was with my girlfriend the other day and we kissed a little, then I pulled back and waited for her to do something. She did. I played with her and stopped. Talked a little. She rubbled me and made me hard, which was her way of saying I want a hell of a lot more than just talking. So I played with her and kept pulling back. She's so wet, by now she can't wait.

Now what I have discovered about this technique is that most women love it. Why? You took the pressure off. They don't have to resist you, they do have to however, come and get it.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 118
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:10:43 PM

All these drugs coming about today, they need to design one that can cut down the amount of time a man needs to recover. Even twice in a row can be a task. Three times is nearly impossible.


Dude, I know how you feel. And this has been my experience. You have this huge orgasm, you come out. And she starts playing with little brain right away. Wrong. If she does that, he doesn't get up. He needs a mental break. Register a lapse of nothing. Talk. Massage each other, lick each other but leave the c0ck alone. Give him a ten minute off the clock, then start easy. If she is pushy, she gets only two sessions. If she allows the break, now this is just me, I am an old fart, three maybe four. More than that in my opinion gets ridiculous. Personally I would then change the scenery, if this is morning, go out. Make it kinky. If this is night go to bed. Sleep and remember that many women love the early morning boner. They will ride you like a wild mustang. So if you take it easy, don't go nuts, you can end up doing it 6 times between evening and morning. But thank those 10 minutes.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 123
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 3/27/2008 3:37:43 PM
I have a very high sex drive...so my partner should too!!!!
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 131
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 4/1/2008 11:47:39 AM
I never tire of sex. That is just not ever gonna happen. Ever.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 136
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:21:41 AM
I was with someone who wanted sex 3-4 times a night, and, in my 40s, it got a bit tiring (I've got to reload the cannon, for God's sake--there's only so much seed!). Once every other day seems to be about right for me at this point, age 44.

When I was 21, the whole thing was fresh and new and I jerked off at least 4 times a day. But usually not to the same person-! I've never lived with a woman. Living with the same woman day-in and day-out, I imagine there'd be a familiarity factor that would lead to burnout...gotta mix it up, try on some new lingerie, do it outdoors in public places, changing rooms, restrooms, something different each time so it's not the same bedroom and the same light.

Now, even though I just date, the appeal does wane in time and there is a burn-out/exhaustion factor for me, sure, when we're doing it multiple times a day! There are only so many sensations and so many orifices you can enter, that, once you've done it all several times (including anal), familiarity sets in, I get desensitized/dulled and need a break. But, given 3-4 days break, the balls swell with that "deadly sperm buildup", I miss her and I miss the sex, and I'm ready to get it on again with that same woman-! So I guess I'm a "part-time lover" lol.

Depends on the company tho. If I find her red-hot, I will be a raging bull who won't be able to keep his hands or penis off her.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 137
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:38:58 AM
There's a huge difference between a woman who is always interested and one who always has to have it. The latter is probably nymphomania. The former is a woman with a high libido - she doesn't have to have sex all the time, but enjoys it almost anytime. I think I've got one of the almost always interested ones, but she's satisfied with once or twice a day, and can even skip a day here and there. There are also the days where we're both in top form, and then seven or even eight times in a day is possible. I doubt I would really enjoy more than twice a day for an extended period of time - it can get to be a bit much, even with all the variety and creativity! But once or twice a day seems optimum, with occasionally more or less.
 seafoodandeatit
Joined: 12/23/2011
Msg: 138
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 11/9/2013 4:02:53 PM
i cant see how these people have sex so many times a day?
buy the time i undress her kiss her from the head to the toes and back again, all the time touching and teasing. ( lots of teasing) there is 1/2 hour just there or sometimes longer.
then the sex can be had and fast or slow what ever the mood is, then say another 15 mins touching and teasing again as you lay together.
If these people are right i just cant see how they hold down a job.... you would never get to work!
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 139
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 11/9/2013 8:39:43 PM
I just LOVE how women, hiding behind a computer screen, talk so much smack about how they would love to have sex so often, but when it comes down to it, they flake.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 140
Nymphomania.
Posted: 11/9/2013 9:05:14 PM
the "trick" I "learned" with a nympho is simple:

remember that your penis is only one of many tools you can use to release a woman from the sexual desire built up from foreplay. Learn how to kiss her well, tease her don't torment her to build up the sexual tension, and instead of waiting for your "cannon to reload" in order to apply pressure to her assorted hot-spots, be a gentleman and use your tongue, fingers, her toys, whatever is present to apply that pressure. Make it about her, rather than always you or always the two of you.

It shows a sense of variety, it gets her off, you can keep up during those moments you can't keep it up. and obviously you don't need it just for nymphos :) I had one partner who didn't think of herself as one (maybe b/c her partner hadn't shown any interest in her body),but when we went past 3am she second guessed herself. By the end of the weekend, tho, she was back to what she felt was her normal schedule for sex.

as for women claiming they want it often, they do...with a guy they're hot for. that's the part they forget to mention :)
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 142
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 11/11/2013 3:30:58 PM

as for women claiming they want it often, they do...with a guy they're hot for. that's the part they forget to mention :)


Well, between the different threads and forums, I'm beginning to learn that I'm simply not hot or attractive.
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 143
Nymphomania.
Posted: 11/11/2013 4:29:54 PM
Well, between the different threads and forums, I'm beginning to learn that I'm simply not hot or attractive.

Now you’ve stopped blaming women and turned your attention to the only guy who can change your fate. And that’s huge. Keep it there.

As for hotness, I figure about 60-80% of us, including you, occupy the vast middle ground between totally hot and totally not. You’re fit, energetic, educated and persistent. There are women out there who would like to meet you. And you could use a little help.
 mygudnutz
Joined: 11/7/2013
Msg: 144
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 11/11/2013 6:10:36 PM
Yer my kinda girl!!!
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 145
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 11/12/2013 7:46:20 AM

Too much sex is boring, obsessive, repetitive and shallow. Yuck. Its a bad addiction.

I'm sorry you don't enjoy a lot of sex.

Sex addiction is more about the act, than the person you're sharing it with. That is definitely not a good thing.

However, as someone with a healthy and strong libido, I like and want a lot of sex with my partner because I'm incredibly attracted to him and part of how I show that is through my actions. Many men don't know what it is like to be wanted like that, so I do what I can.


As for hotness, I figure about 60-80% of us, including you, occupy the vast middle ground between totally hot and totally not.

Doing some mythbusting here... what I find attractive in a partner isn't necessarily what someone else will find attractive. There is no pre-determined set of things that we all need to fall into to be considered hot to someone else.

I'm short, fat, divorced, mother of two dating a younger man who likes me for all of me. Including my big fat a$$.. not because of, including it. There is a difference.

The key to being attractive is liking/loving yourself. If you can't do that, no one else will be able to like or love you either.
 dave1942732
Joined: 11/9/2014
Msg: 146
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/29/2014 9:51:56 PM
I can deal with what ever you want to do all day all night me and you
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 147
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/30/2014 1:03:13 AM
Perhaps you are meeting too many British men. Have you tried the French that may inhabit your area in Canada?? Australians are supposed to be the lousiest lovers in the world and I wonder if it is the British blood. I have never had one and prefer Latins every time. I have found that those that talk the big game, cant walk it.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 148
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/30/2014 5:33:18 AM
Well sex addiction can take other forms really.
There is our standard definition of nympho, which is someone who MUST have sex all the time and doesn't care who it is with. Then there is an even more common sex addiction, porn addiction. The need to watch porn. Not to just get off, but because you just have to watch it.

It really is a psychology issue. I do feel sorry for the men and women who have nymphomania. Alot of them didn't have good childhoods and are always in emotional pain. Many of them form other addictions like drugs and alcohol.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 150
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/30/2014 6:54:31 AM

Too much sex is boring, obsessive, repetitive and shallow. Yuck. Its a bad addiction.

I'm sorry you don't enjoy a lot of sex.

Sex addiction is more about the act, than the person you're sharing it with. That is definitely not a good thing.

However, as someone with a healthy and strong libido, I like and want a lot of sex with my partner because I'm incredibly attracted to him and part of how I show that is through my actions. Many men don't know what it is like to be wanted like that, so I do what I can.



Great response No 1. Like you I enjoy a lot of sex. And if you are with a partner with the same libido, what happens is that you discover ways to make it absolutely fun so it's not shallow or repetitive or boring at all. Instead it takes you to new levels each time, pushing one small envelope a bit further. The interesting thing is that if I described what I do with my partner, people would think that I have been watching too much porn and that nobody in real life does those things. And yet, I don't watch any porn at all since I lust after all the times that we engage and do.

But since there's nothing wrong with not having a high libido. What I can say is, at least find someone with the same libido so you do not have to feel guilty every time you approach or initiate.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 151
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/30/2014 4:49:12 PM
"boring sex" has something to do with making love versus doing routine movements in bed. Y'gotta be doing what you're doing, "with the person", not with the body that's in your bed.
 taxman_61
Joined: 4/9/2006
Msg: 152
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/31/2014 6:15:07 PM
It's fun to dream about sex with a woman all the time because I know it will never happen in real life.
 britasian2015
Joined: 10/11/2015
Msg: 153
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 6/28/2016 5:50:34 AM
I have a high sex drive and girl seem not to understand this.My ex couldnt keep up and I almost get fed up because my drive was much more than hers.I think its natural that some people have high drive, its not going away so why not enjoy every bit of it with a nice person as much you can.I m definitely up for it..
Also I think sex has to fit into our busy lives as it doesnt affect the work -life balance.
 dameunbaso
Joined: 10/4/2011
Msg: 154
Nymphomania.
Posted: 6/28/2016 9:01:21 AM

So, what is it for you??? Think about it for a minute and then be honest. Cold you deal with a partner wanting sex all the time??? Would you get tired of it??? Would the appeal be lost in time???


Yes. I love it when my partner wants sex. We even write each other little stories about our fantasies and what we would like to do to each other. Also part of that sex drive is a little bit of abstinence, that way when you lust after each other again, the animal comes out and ravages with full intensity.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 155
view profile
History
Nymphomania.
Posted: 6/30/2016 8:20:38 AM

I have a high sex drive and girl seem not to understand this.My ex couldnt keep up and I almost get fed up because my drive was much more than hers.

Define "high". :) Like, you wanted to pork pretty much every time you saw each other, which would include the occasional truck-stop-quickie during the day? If you were wanting to pork her 2x a day every day, every week, etc. living together, I could see that as being too much.

I've not been in the mood, but fine porking a GF when she was. Wouldn't be some uber-rarity, either. But if we were living together and she was wanting to pork every day and I grew tiresome of it to the extent that it any sort of rift, then that would mean I wasn't that into her.

Also I think sex has to fit into our busy lives as it doesnt affect the work -life balance.

IMO, that's just about seeing each other. For the sex part when living apart, you have to schedule things a bit differently. Like, if you two go out and they have to go home at 10ish for work in the morning, and sleep over only a couple times a week -- that's fine and all. You could have it where you go out near where the one lives, and pork prior to going out instead of after. It doesn't have to get in the way of not hitting-the-town.
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  >