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 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 172
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Well, since you asked, I dated her b/c people were telling me to lower my expectations. She had been in a bad car accident, woke from a coma to hear the doc saying she wouldn't walk again, taught herself to walk, and still gives lectures to docs who claim someone with her level of injury shouldn't be able to handle marriage, step children, a job, etc. the point she tries to make is, don't tell us patients what we can't do, ask what we want to do and help us find a way we can get there.

great personality, but I learned that yes indeed, looks matter. Which is why I harp on it, from experience. personality is great, lots of sex is great, but you can't deny the importance of appearance, if you're honest. you can be good friends with someone and not want to have sex with them, but still share every other part of you with them.
 Dan6308
Joined: 10/23/2013
Msg: 173
Nymphomania.
Posted: 7/25/2016 5:55:23 PM

This is simply not matching libidos. There are people in relationships with plenty of depth and for them two days is plenty of time away from sex.


Yes, but the op talked about wanting sex all the time, that sounds like too much to me.

As if sex was the primary focus.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 175
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Posted: 7/26/2016 6:27:31 AM

I dated her b/c people were telling me to lower my expectations. She had been in a bad car accident

Yeah, I've gone thru this -- and every once in a while when in a big dating rut or end up dating a total mismatch gal for a while where it was only driven by sexual attraction in the first place.

So when sampling the "lower expectations", what I've found though was that my desire (with the help of the gal herself being an active motivator) would dissipate instantly after the feelings of "fresh fish" wiltered away... meaning the feelings would go away after getting to 2nd base (or more), or by going out on a handful of dates where her expressed desire to go steady would crop up -- whichever would happen first. In other words, I could never start datING said gals -- because they'd end right after giving it a short 'test run' because the opportunity was there presenting itself, and seemed "on paper" to be a "proper choice" (and no other competitors at the time).

great personality, but I learned that yes indeed, looks matter.

Yes, looks matter A Lot. I think they matter less when one is wanting to settle down for the sake of settling down in and of itself. But if that's a 'bug' they're feeling, it'll come back to bite them. If how they're sculpted at the core is to make babies and settle in in life for family photos and live life with stability in and of itself, it won't so much. But also, that's not just about looks -- but also compatibility that can be overlooked as well.

IMO, if one's in a certain state where they can't get someone they're Actually sexually/physically attracted to -- "don't go there". Even if it means giving up a yearning to settle down and to fit in amongst family members having kids and such ("Look 'ma, I made it!"). That's still just another form of peer-pressure... and in the end, if one does "go there" when they can't get someone they're Actually physically attracted to -- it's highly likely not going to be worth it. Especially if they're outgoing social beings. Definitely not, then.

Every once in a while going out on a date or two with someone you have little attraction to (=one night hookup would be OK but that's about it) -- for dating practice can be okay. But doing that even semi-routinely will only put a bad taste in one's mouth about dating. A good thought experiment would be when mingling with a gal would be "If I got a date out of her and hooked up, and it 'merely' going decent, would I truly *want* to see her again without motivation out of obligation, even when I could whip up plans with some friends at any point? No? Okay, don't chase her."
 U21984
Joined: 4/7/2016
Msg: 176
Nymphomania.
Posted: 7/26/2016 10:16:24 AM
If she's actually a NYMPHO, you don't want her. They be nasty.
What you want is turn her into a NYMPHO...but for an audience of one.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 177
Nymphomania.
Posted: 7/26/2016 2:30:47 PM
"Cold you deal with a partner wanting sex all the time??? "




Only in the wintertime and in between meals.
 U21984
Joined: 4/7/2016
Msg: 178
Nymphomania.
Posted: 7/26/2016 2:36:32 PM
"COLD you deal with a partner wanting sex all the time?!?!? "

Wowser! The question contains the answer!
 boatbob2q
Joined: 3/7/2012
Msg: 179
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Posted: 8/31/2016 12:23:14 PM
Actually,a man Nympho,is called a SATYR,I have been accused of being a SATYR many times,also have been called a sex addict, Im married,to a lady,that loves to make love,as much as I do,sometimes 3 or 4 times a day,almost every day.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 180
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Posted: 8/31/2016 9:09:04 PM
If someone is wanting sex all the time, it is just satisfying an urge and not really about love in that case. You can have too much of a good thing and that includes sex. I would get tired of a demanding partner wanting sex just as a release and after all no one is in the mood all the time.
 revoskeepnus
Joined: 8/4/2015
Msg: 182
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Posted: 9/8/2016 7:52:54 PM
i am in a miserable relationship where I get it once a week and am so looking forward to finding someone else.

I have been masturbating daily since age 2 or 3, I think some people are just born h0rny.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 183
Nymphomania.
Posted: 9/9/2016 6:54:36 AM

i am in a miserable relationship where I get it once a week and am so looking forward to finding someone else.


That is horrible.

I was in a once a week relationship. What was worse was that it was not really 7 days, but 10, so to create a cycle of doing it on Saturdays, or Friday nights didn't work because it would be off by three days.

I then dated a woman that liked it a lot. She would wear me out completely. But she was great giving massages. Now I am in a relationship with a person with a very high libido. In the beginning we would have sex 3 times a night and then twice in the morning. We could do this for 3 days in a row, but then had to take a couple days break from being too sore in her end and me getting chaffing. That highly sexual relationship evolved into full love, care, and long term commitment. We still have incredible sex. We still have our marathon times. But we have also realized that having too much sex, turn it into monotonous sex and part of what we like is that intense desire, that animal instinct that want to ravage. So we both impose days off. Or where we start a quickly but do not finish it and will be consumed by desire the whole day. So we are forced to send each other text messages indicating what she wants me to do to her, or what I want to do.

So I have no doubt in my mind that you will find a guy that fits your parameters and allows you to live your fantasies.
 revoskeepnus
Joined: 8/4/2015
Msg: 184
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Posted: 9/9/2016 8:00:54 AM
Well, I like to be plum worn out and then maybe rest a day or two, but this just aint cutting it.

I haven't ever been one to wear a guy down, and I've always had kids interrupting playtime, so...

but yeah. this current situation sucks and I guarantee you I will find something more compatible in the very near future.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 185
Nymphomania.
Posted: 9/11/2016 4:01:00 PM
sunnovagun, a guy called the advice guy is right :) Its the feeling of connection that is the drug for them, while ironically for some of us guys, its the feeling of achievement.
 LJane_6
Joined: 6/10/2015
Msg: 186
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Posted: 9/11/2016 10:49:27 PM

Women can get sex anytime they want. But they want it MORE with men they're crazy about. That desire to jump on them is intensified.


Yes. I literally have no desire to hook up with anyone unless I'm really really into them. Then, I want to be with them constantly. I have female friends who do one night stands with strangers...never could get on board with that, and whenever I've had offers, the idea of it did nothing for me.
 hearton64
Joined: 6/9/2016
Msg: 187
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Posted: 9/12/2016 4:14:17 AM

Actually,a man Nympho,is called a SATYR,I have been accused of being a SATYR many times,also have been called a sex addict, Im married,to a lady,that loves to make love,as much as I do,sometimes 3 or 4 times a day,almost every day.


Uggg 3-4 times a day!!??

That's one itchy itch that just can't seem to be satisfied!

That's sounds awful to me! I'm good with once a day at most
and most of the time content being accommodating for my guys
pleasure.(I'm good with quality over quantity!)

Nympho/satyr are both just glorified terms for sex addiction in my book.

But at least you found your sexual counterpart!

It all comes down to sexual compatibility where both people
are happy with the quantity and quality of the sex.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 188
Nymphomania.
Posted: 9/12/2016 7:04:04 AM

Uggg 3-4 times a day!!??


In defense of the multiple times a day activity.

Twice in the morning. Then one time or two at night. This could be a lot of fun, but this does not mean every single day. It means Friday night, Saturday morning, Saturday night, Sunday morning, skip, then maybe again once on Tuesday, and a couple of mornings there after. At the center of such activity is mutual desire for such frequency. If my partner is in the mood and I am not, I oblige for her. I know that after we start, I will be well into the mood. There are times that we are both exhausted, and have created non verbal codes to let go. If it feels like a chore is not fun. We also love verbal sex. We may text each other describing what we want to do to each other. Or during sex we talk to each other.
 hearton64
Joined: 6/9/2016
Msg: 189
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Posted: 9/12/2016 5:16:57 PM
I was referring to boatbob and not judging anyone IG
so no need to defend yourself. : )

Git it man!

To each their own. Seriously!

I have a lower sex drive than my guy and "oblige" him too
but I couldn't do that 3/4 times a day. Sorry not sorry.

Like I said sexual compatibility is all too important.
Im just not walking around horny all the time is all,
As I've aged I find it hurts my body more than an orgasm is worth
But I'd never flat out refuse my guy once a day!

And he's good with that! :)

Now my marriage?

We went for 9 month stretches without any intimacy of any kind!

I'm all for a happy medium.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 190
Nymphomania.
Posted: 9/13/2016 11:43:51 AM

I was referring to boatbob and not judging anyone IG
so no need to defend yourself. : )


I know you were not. I just wanted to elaborate.
In the end...it's like you said. It's all about compatibility. There's always going to be one partner that wants it more than the other. Yet within what both partners find enjoyable and comfortable... a happy medium.

What I find commendable is that you and your dude are still getting it on after all these years. You give me hope in my relationship. We may slow down here or there, but we're going strong.
 Shewymacfee
Joined: 4/2/2016
Msg: 191
Nymphomania.
Posted: 9/19/2016 1:36:20 PM
How do you know you've been on this site too long?
When a nympho tells you "let's just be friends."
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 192
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Posted: 10/16/2016 10:30:28 AM
Been single so long not sure what sex is.
I do know when in a committed relationship....making love in the morning is like a coffee to me. Making love at night is like a sleeping pill. Anything inbetween is like icing on the cake....
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 193
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Posted: 10/16/2016 7:21:35 PM
Take it from a life long single person, it really sucks being single and unable to attract anyone. On a positive note though is the fact that asking permission for anything is irrelevant. Good luck finding someone for all those "coffee" sessions. I like that term, I am gonna steal it if you don't mind. lol
 Psisgd
Joined: 9/22/2015
Msg: 194
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Posted: 10/21/2016 6:02:24 AM
Luv to experience someone like this
 Psisgd
Joined: 9/22/2015
Msg: 195
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Posted: 10/21/2016 6:05:15 AM
I agree I could skip the coffee
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 196
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Posted: 10/30/2016 6:00:54 AM
Have had talks to some woman who say they are sex addicts but when it came to it...Naaa.....or they are good at first then its like a light switch.....people are to much into looking good at first then they back down once they get what they want...this pertains to both sexes not just one...lol
 cj959
Joined: 5/28/2017
Msg: 197
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Posted: 7/11/2017 11:18:05 PM
Sadly in my experience, women who say they never get tired of it often do...and in some respects I blame myself for this by not bringing up the topic of this earlier in convos due to not wanting to come across like some creep!
...sometimes...it's a hard balance! :-)
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
Msg: 198
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Posted: 7/12/2017 8:06:10 AM
^^^
You are the common denominator.

Sometimes no matter how much you want it if the partner isn't who you thought they would be sort of makes you not want it as much. You have to cut your losses an keep looking for the one who can not only match your libido but match your needs and desires.
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