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 magikarp
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 323
When is flirting cheating?Page 13 of 18    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18)
Depends on what you call flirting. My idea of flirting can either be platonic or it can be sexual. Platonic flirting I don't see as cheating. Sexual flirting I see as cheating.
 jazz66
Joined: 5/17/2009
Msg: 324
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/28/2010 1:57:33 AM
"if your doing something that you wouldnt want your significant other doing .. then chances are it oughta be counted as cheating."

Thats the only answer
 RonnieB77
Joined: 8/1/2009
Msg: 325
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/28/2010 6:38:32 AM
Flirting is fishing. It is also playing with fire.

If I found my chick flirting on or off line, it would be over in my mind. Might be a few months breaking up but I would immediately not look at this person in the same way. If I dated someone who is openly a flirt, she would never be more than a date or a lay.

Flirting isn't cheating, but cheaters flirt.
 worldenergy
Joined: 1/25/2010
Msg: 327
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/28/2010 4:59:17 PM
Seems like you shouldn't be flirting with someone else if you're into who you are with. You are asking the wrong question here.
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 330
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/31/2010 10:12:48 PM
Flirting isn't cheating. But it can still be damaging to a relationship. So...yeah, I am not a flirt..and flirting in and of itself doesn't bother me as I'm not the jealous type either. But I do think that mutual courtesy and respect is important in a relationship. And what you pay attention to , flourishes. So that's my story and I'm stickin' to it ;-)
 kailania
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 331
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/31/2010 10:56:51 PM
i would not like my bf or husband flirting on line without me knowing it.
you are hiding it from her for a reason.
i dont think its cheating..
but i feel that you should quit. why do you do it?
there are lots of other on line things to do.
 SassySky
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 332
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/31/2010 11:14:59 PM
I term Cheating including flirting anything you would feel uncomfortable doing in front of your partner, and vice a versa.

Real easy and simple for me.

And I am an admitted flirt there is a huge difference between being a flirt and a tease. A flirt will never allude to nor promise something they can't or won't fulfill, a tease does all of those things for self gratification.
 Red Fish GF
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 333
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/31/2010 11:36:36 PM

Break the rules and there'll be consequences. If you don't know the boundaries involved with flirting and you allow it to become intimate, then it's no longer flirting now is it? Then it becomes cheating.


Intimate does NOT just mean sexual contact in person for it to be cheating. If you are continually talking with the same person and developing feelings hoping for more then it's crossed the line to cheating.


flirting with the same person consistently is when it can lead to cheating.




There is innocent flirting such as you do with friends or aquaintances but flirting with some one with sexual intentions then it would be cheating. If your SO would be hurt by the words you are saying/typing to this other person it is cheating. If you have to hide it from them it is wrong.
 Divorced, Broke, Bald
Joined: 7/9/2009
Msg: 334
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 10:13:49 AM

my ex gf was on the bus ... the proof is all above.


Your cheating girlfriend means all flirting is cheating? Thank god she wasn't eating at the time or all dining would be cheating. I guess all mass transit is cheating as well.

Heck, we don't even know if the guy was flirting. From all you've said, he was upfront about his intentions, for all we can tell.

Your girl was a cheat - that proves nothing about flirting.
 SBM4U2
Joined: 12/22/2009
Msg: 335
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 10:17:25 AM
If you have to sneak in order to do it (in your case, flirting), it's obviously wrong. If she found out and started flirting with guys guess what would happen? Either you'd get jealous and that would mess with your relationship or you would act like you don't care and that would mess with your relationship. So the question you should ask yourself is how important is your relationship to you?
 verityone
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 336
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 10:19:48 AM
IMO, when your intentions are to physically, mentally, spiritually, or emotionally arouse, someone (other than the person you are in a sexual relationship with), in order to 'test' whether or not the opportunity could exist, for a sexual relationship to occur.

There it is, in black and white.
 Divorced, Broke, Bald
Joined: 7/9/2009
Msg: 337
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 10:29:03 AM
Except then it is not flirting; the intention is different.

In other words, V1, you are saying that flirting is cheating when it isn't flirting. Cheating and flirting are two separate things. Therefore, you are saying that flirting is flirting when it's not flirting.

There it is: in uppper and lower case.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 338
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 11:29:34 AM
op,
you're treading dangerous waters. it's easy to slide a little further into it...then just a little further yet into it...and then even just a little further...and eventually there's a good possibility it'll lead to an affair. if it's something done strictly for an ego boost, you need to find that ego and also the excitement in other ways. i know it's hard with a long-time partner...it's gets old & dull, but if you were to spend the time focusing on your current relationship, you might be surprised at how much better it can be...may never be quite as exciting as when new, but there are other ways that you can feel truly bonded and increase that bond with your current partner. also, consider this: if it ever leads to an affair, the next one will be easier...and you'll find yourself drifting further and further from your current partner. it's a recipe for disaster if you have any hope of anything closer with your current partner. you're not only cheating her, you're cheating yourself. in addition, if you ever end up with someone else, i don't care how thrilling and exciting it seems, it too, will eventually grow stale. if you ever get to that point, you'll find yourself in a position where you're going to have to live a life of serial monogamy (or polygamy) to keep the endorphins flowing. it's just not really an answer. for now, i would recommend to quit the flirting...don't tempt fate...and really try for at least the next few yrs to grow your current relationship. you're courting disaster...for the relationship, her, and for yourself. it's not a permanent solution to a possibly dull situation...it'll just keep repeating itself...it'll never be enough with anyone. think about it...
 cuban delite
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 339
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 1:05:58 PM
When you start hiding your behavior from your SO....thats when its cheating
 cuban delite
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 340
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 1:10:44 PM
seems to me everyone on these posts seems to lump' flirting' and 'coming on' into the same pile.

I flirt all the time, it makes people feel good...that is not to be confused with coming onto someone..
.babies naturally flirt,and I am pretty sure when they bat their eyes at you , there is no alternative motive..they are just letting your know they enjoy you being you!!
 verityone
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 342
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 1:55:16 PM

In other words, V1, you are saying that flirting is cheating when it isn't flirting.

Ya.
No.
Wait...
That's right.
No.
Wait....
I mean, ya...

Cheating and flirting are two separate things.

Ya.
No.
Wait....
Kinda.

Therefore, you are saying that flirting is flirting when it's not flirting.

Ya.
Wait....
No.
I mean, flirting is cheating when it's not flirting.

If you don't stop, I'm telling Margo on you...
 Commonsens
Joined: 4/6/2009
Msg: 343
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 2:51:47 PM
OMG.

some people are simply trying to atone what they are doing!


Definition of flirting:

"a common form of social interaction whereby one person obliquely indicates a romantic or sexual interest towards another. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated (encouraged) with intentions of getting to know that person on a higher level."

No need to super analyze that one:

Flirting IS cheating.


Will you Buy all the ingredients, prepare a fine meal, cook it to perfection....and then throw it to the garbage because you never been hungry in the first place??

Dhu!

It's easy: someone flirt with you and you are in a relationship: Simply say "am Flattered but no thank you, am in a relationship and it is disrespectful and inappropriate for you to continue on this line." or simply end the conversation.

If ou indulge yourself into it, then you are cheating big time.
 Pixy Dust
Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 344
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 2:53:21 PM
I really think that when you can't tell someone what your doing, for fear that they will get upset, especially when it comes down to how they would see it, than I think you know the answer. People flirt all the time, and in person, how it's interpreted is fairly easy to figure out. When you are spending time on the internet, engaging people to flirt with, doesn't matter one iota if you say up front that you are married or with girlfriend, whatever.. that disclaimer is for you in my opinion. Because where ever this flirting takes you, it always falls back on the disclaimer now doesn't it? Doesn't matter that someone might start liking you, or if the girlfriend would be upset, this after all is about your own desires. No flirting isn't cheating, but it certainly is allowing a door to open, I guess my next question would be, should you NEVER meet the one you flirt with, and you start cybering with them, does that not constitute cheating? After all you didn't touch them?

Where do you draw the line INDEED...
 mx979
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 346
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 9:18:33 PM
You need to ask yourself if it would bother you if she was flirting with guys on line for fun, if it does you just answer your own question, in a sense it's cheating, plus your doing it behind her back.
 Blk_Archangel7
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 347
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 10:03:54 PM
if you can't be straight out honest with your partner, shes not going to be straight out honest with you. If you have to hide things from your partner I'd say yes you are cheating. If you are open with her, she'll be more open with you.
 Pondering the Circle.....
Joined: 1/18/2010
Msg: 348
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/1/2010 10:22:57 PM
Necro Post.
Flirting is looking for something you don't have but want...this post is a way of trying to 'legitimatize' your feelings...if you want to F someone go F 'em.
 caf55
Joined: 3/25/2009
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/2/2010 12:26:32 AM
Yes I have been there . Flirting is cheating when you have a partner in life and you feel the need to flirt and seek the attention of other women. You can be friendly and cordial, there is no need to encourage the other woman or disrespect the woman you say is permanent partner. Just shows you have no respect for them and you have no feelings. You don't care about who you hurt.
 caf55
Joined: 3/25/2009
Msg: 350
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/2/2010 12:29:41 AM
Sorry didn't finish that .
You only care about what you want and the purse strings. And of course if Momming agrees with your choice.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/2/2010 6:12:42 AM
my ex was a total flirt,she was very pretty , in a mass media sort of way, tall blond, boobs ext.... but she never ever cheated on me, she never made me feel humiliated, she would always come to me and make it clear who she was with, some women(men) just like the attention, no harm done
 Thunderstruck29
Joined: 1/3/2010
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When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/2/2010 7:25:19 AM
Well, if you find your mate doing some flirting behind your back and you feel hurt by it, it's cheating.

Same thing if you do the same way by your mate.....

Respect and love are two way streets.
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