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Joined: 7/13/2006
Msg: 3
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Men don't waist time. If they are interested they would break all the rules just to talk to you, let alone be with you kids or not. Since he hasn't shown any desire in keeping in touch i would drop him and move on. When you find the right person, there wont be any question in your mind.
Joined: 3/25/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 8/28/2006 5:50:20 PM
WOW I do believe you are jumping the gun on this guy, way too quickly!! you know life gets in the way sometimes!! and you know what guys need a down time to!! just like women, we all need our space.

I would have to say that if you are ready to cut him out of your life so quickly and over what you described above, then damn girl you are never going to be happy!! give the guy some breathing room!!

Of course all if this is IMHO (in my humble opinion)

Joined: 8/7/2006
Msg: 21
When do you stop calling, when do you give up?
Posted: 8/29/2006 11:31:10 AM
Your relationship is far from normal. What you have there is a one sided interest relationship. You are more into him than he you. You should have called it quits long ago. Continue with no commitment if you like but you are just setting your self up for disappointment later.
Joined: 9/29/2005
Msg: 29
When do you stop calling, when do you give up?
Posted: 8/30/2006 10:27:51 AM
Dear CarlaDaisy,

This very situation is exactly why I added the following to my profile:

"Communication is very important to me, as are personal integrity, accountability, and respect for others. It is not unreasonable to expect you to take 60 seconds out of your day to phone or message and say "I can't chat but I do want to see you." or "I don't know if I can make it but I will let you know by COB today." In return, I am very good about responding promptly to email and phone messages."

In your shoes, I would have sent a message (email or phone) saying "Please reply so I know that you are all right. If you have decided to break things off, I would appreciate knowing. I hate being in limbo." I am not saying this would have been the "right" response. Just the sort of up front communication I tend to use.
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 31
When do you stop calling, when do you give up?
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:10:47 AM
A week is when I'd start to wonder. Or whenever you have a gut feeling. Then again, I'm pretty independent and non-clingy.
Joined: 7/7/2006
Msg: 32
When do you stop calling, when do you give up?
Posted: 8/31/2006 1:05:37 PM
This is long, but after 40 years I started dating and my daughter gave this to me, don't know who wrote it or anything but I think it could hit home for alot of people.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Joined: 8/25/2006
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/31/2006 4:31:58 PM
i think i give up when i get rejected so many times
Joined: 4/5/2005
Msg: 42
When do you stop calling, when do you give up?
Posted: 9/1/2006 2:19:50 PM
Hi Carladaisy,
I'm not sure how much time passed between when you left the first message and when he got back to you, however - regardless of what is going on, or how bagged someone is - its only common courtesy to return the call - even if it's a 'everything's fine - will catch up with you later'...

As far as him telling you, that you should have just called back later cause he was crashed - that touches on the where he feels it's your duty to get in touch with him.

As you said, another thing you've learned about him and if your good with it that's all that matters, however I think it was inconsiderate on his part.
Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 45
When do you stop calling, when do you give up?
Posted: 10/2/2006 11:20:48 AM
Well, I was supposed to have a date with one girl who was coming in from out of town to meet with me and spend a day or more with me. She did not show at the appointed time 9AM so I figured I misunderstood, and that she was coming in at 9 PM, well lomg story made a bit shorter. I tried to contact her to no avail, and about 3 weeks later I moved on.. a week or so after she came online.. it turned out that she was carjacked, shot 3 times, and left for dead.. she is still recovering.
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