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 Mr Bain
Joined: 12/6/2004
Msg: 118
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Why are women so naively swept off their feet by men from other countries?

Why do women like men who drive a certain car that they actually don't own?

I don't ask these questions, because I cannot judge you for your taste.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 119
why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/13/2009 2:37:57 PM

Why are women so threatened by their man looking at other women?

I wonder that ALL the time. The usual answer? "It's disrespectful." Uhhh, OK! I don't agree, but then again, I'm one of those that's likely to point out beautiful/stunning/attractive women simply because as a woman ~ I find my gender peers interesting to a serious degree. And on the other side of this ongoing debate? I'd be a HUGE hypocrit to be upset if/when "he" looks ~ simply because I look at other men. As long as we're looking, not looking to find ~ it's all good with me. JMO
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
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Posted: 9/13/2009 3:03:14 PM

Men don't have to look they choose to disrespect who they are with and look.

Just like you choose to make a big deal about it.

I, for one, would rather remain alone than be in a relationship with someone who wants to make me feel guilty because I still find other women attractive. I have enough stress in my life to want to have someone add to it.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
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Posted: 9/13/2009 3:23:48 PM

What you have to realize is that all men look... even gays look! Someone was just telling me the other day about a gay man who likes Heather Locklear! Crazy!

Oh, I totally believe you on that one. I used to work at Disneyland where literally about half of the male employees are gay. One of them was talking to me about a Madonna concert he had been to recently and basically told me about how he was lusting over her.

I looked at him funny and said, "I didn't think you swung that way!"

He replied, "for her, I'll make an exception."
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
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Posted: 9/13/2009 3:28:00 PM

I'm a control freak for expecting respect?

You're a control freak for being the only one who gets to decide the definition of the word "respect." You're a control freak for expecting other people to change their behavior to suit your expectations.


That's just a cop out men use to justify them drooling over other women. So I'm supposed to just stay at his side, shut up, and tolerate him panting over other chicks?

The topic at hand is "looking." You are the one who is equating mere "looking" with "drooling" and "panting."


If I'm dating a guy who disrespects me like that he's dumped pronto.

I doubt his heart will be broken. No guy likes having to put up with that much stress.


That's not respect.

Nor is trying to punish a person for something that is 99% of the time little more than a knee-jerk reaction.


I won't be with someone who makes me feel uncomfortable for his own selfish pleasure.

Fine with me. Just realize that you are the one who is choosing to make a big deal about it, not him.
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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Posted: 9/13/2009 4:33:24 PM

Men don't have to look they choose to disrespect who they are with and look. Some of us women don't tolerate a partner doing that shit. He's confronted on it and if he refuses to stop he's history.
You've got to be fawking kidding me?

Hell... if a confident and attractive woman walks by, even I notice... what the hell is wrong with my s/o noticing too? He's with me... not her...

I think only an insecure, or immature woman would have issues with this...
 BigBee77
Joined: 4/14/2009
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Posted: 9/23/2009 10:57:46 AM
A man looks at other women and women look at other men. That's just the reality of life. Humans are taught to appreciate beautiful things so why should the opposite sex be any different. Even in spite of all that, if you are exclusively dating someone you should do it with taste and discreetly because it may be seen disrespectful by your mate. It boils down to whether you are secure or insecure in your relationship (how men looking at other women and vice versa, may affect you). If I'm with a woman, I don't worry about whether she looks at other men when I'm not around (or when I AM around in some cases). She'll probably do it whether I'm with her or not, so why should I trip. I wouldn't even trip if a man looks at my woman. I'll take it as a compliment. THE FACT THAT YOUR MATE WILL LOOK SHOULDN'T BE THE ISSUE. . THE ISSUE SHOULD BE, IF YOU KNOW DEEP IN YOUR HEART, WHETHER YOUR MATE WILL ACT ON IT OR NOT.
 sungoddness
Joined: 6/30/2008
Msg: 125
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Posted: 9/23/2009 3:18:43 PM
well hon look to and if he really stikes yr fancy talk to him ! what good for the gander is good for the goose!
 Walygatr
Joined: 8/25/2009
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Posted: 9/23/2009 3:23:37 PM
Looking at women in the company of another is a learned art.
 PiggyT
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 127
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Posted: 9/23/2009 3:59:42 PM
So you own a home.... you don't look at any of the other houses on the block? For that matter, no architecture of any kind?

Silly silly silly.
 PiggyT
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 128
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Posted: 9/23/2009 4:22:25 PM
^^^ Oh sweet Jesus Zeke.... I looked.... now I am clucking like a chicken... how did you do that?
 Quazi 100
Joined: 3/2/2008
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Posted: 9/26/2009 12:48:34 PM
Imagine walking in a crowded shopping mall, you and your boyfriend are talking, and as you look up, he's face to face with a gorgeous blond.

He's looking at her...he has no choice....he's also crapping himself, because he knows that if he looks down, he's looking at her boobs....he doesn't know where to look, and he's trying to find a way out.....but he's still looking at her.....

There is more than one way of looking at a person....many more than one.

In this situation, this guy is face to face with a gorgeous blond, but is he really LOOKING at her? No....he's trying to get away from her.

Just because someone is looking at someone, it doesn't mean that they are LOOKING at them.

I do a double-take every now and then. Sometimes, it's because I think it might be someone I know.....sometimes I'm LOOKING.

And appreciating beauty is a natural instinct. I probably look at as many women, as I do men....I think a beautiful woman can be more pleasing to the eye, than a handsome man.....more variables to look at. Men get more interesting once their clothes are off.
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
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Posted: 11/15/2009 2:27:25 PM
Its human nature to make passes at women, everyone does it. I think what your issue is making passes in your presence, if it an obvious pass its sort of rude to be doing it with your date. But people will always make passes were human beings and find many others attractive, its not a problem, only if there rude and doing it your presence.
 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 131
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Posted: 11/15/2009 2:43:44 PM

Its human nature to make passes at women, everyone does it.


Huh? It is not human nature for a man or woman (in a relationship) to make a pass at the opposite gender. This thread is about LOOKING, not making a pass.
 TOMic bomb
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 132
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Posted: 11/16/2009 2:10:13 PM
i make it a point not to look at other women when i'm out with my date or my GF. it's ignorant. i'll look some other time if i must.
 Mr.Versatility
Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 133
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Posted: 11/16/2009 4:33:56 PM
Theres alot of eye candy in the world and both men and women do it, its just like a pretty flower people automatically want to look at something that looks nice, its innocent.

Now when they make comments constantly about other women than there may be a problem, but if hes just looking relax.....
 MasterFireWalker
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 134
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Posted: 12/2/2009 3:14:47 PM
Well, Horsey, you're no fun at the orgy.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 135
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Posted: 12/2/2009 3:20:03 PM
If you look at a boy, or a man, or a an old woman, or an ugly woman for any reason, even if it is just because your eyes happen to be facing their direction, then it is a non-issue. But if the person is an attractive woman then you only could have been looking at her because you are lusting after her. Am I getting this right?
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 136
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Posted: 12/2/2009 4:02:25 PM
Basically I think it's just manners. Hey I like looking at good looking men, doesn't mean I want to get them naked or even picture them naked. I can look at something to appreciate how it looks and be done with it. I like looking at lots of things that look good, big whoop that's just human nature.

If I'm out with someone, then they have my attention. Doesn't mean I may not notice someone walking by, but it doesn't divert my attention enough to detract from the conversation with the person I'm with.

I wouldn't want to be with a man that didn't look at other women, I'd think he'd be strange in some way. Now if he stopped talking to me and whipped his head around, well that'd be rude. I'm pretty easy to get along with, so a person has to do something fairly extreme to make me call them out for it, which I'll do.

I'm secure in myself, so it doesn't bother me if the man I'm with or even involved with looks at other women. For crap sake, I expect him to still be a man and visual. If he's with me it's because he wants to for whatever reason, and if he doesn't then it's his own free will to exercise.

Bottom line is, I don't make a big deal about it. I do not excuse or let pass behavior that's rude or offensive. Outside of that, it's all good.
 girlred228
Joined: 6/23/2008
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Posted: 12/3/2009 8:49:24 AM
Cause they have eyes... and that is what they are for.. I look at other guys.. who cares if he looks ... are women that insecure?... I guess so.. too bad.. glad I am not...
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 138
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Posted: 12/3/2009 11:07:44 AM
"If they wanted to be with the other woman they are just looking at, they would be. "

By that rational, the reason I am not with Marissa Miller right now is because I don't want to be, correct?

I think the REAL reason men are with the woman they are with is because that is the person they ended up with. Not because that person beat out all other comers and was the best in that man's eyes.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 139
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Posted: 12/3/2009 11:12:40 AM
Same reason I look at good looking men when they walk by, and yes I've done it on dates. I appreciate beauty. Doesn't mean I want to get up and follow all of them.

I'll dish with a guy about a hot woman walking by - I don't find it threatning. I don't have any interest in women but I can appreciate good looks just the same.
 MasterFireWalker
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 140
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Posted: 12/3/2009 3:17:35 PM
Margo, you had me until you said the "R" word.
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 141
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Posted: 12/3/2009 4:27:16 PM
same reason most women will scope what they thinka re hot guys:

because they are there

and nice to look at

simple enough?
 DIVISION77
Joined: 8/10/2009
Msg: 142
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Posted: 12/3/2009 5:00:15 PM
There's nothing wrong with looking.

It's "touching" that will get you in to trouble.



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