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 Altara
Joined: 9/7/2006
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when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?Page 2 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
As has already been said. Tell her now.
You just explain it to her, if she understands the risks and is willing to work around them, good.
If she is flat out "no way" you'll want to know NOW before you invest too much in to her, or she's invested a lot in you and you give her a good reason to be angry at you.
If she's scared off, it's just the way it has to be.
Shoot, link her to this thread!

*so he's left. Who has time to read every single post. lol
 starbrightoh
Joined: 10/9/2005
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when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 5/15/2008 5:50:56 PM
i HAVE RECENTLY DISCOVERED I HAVE HEP C . i GOT IT THREW A BLOOD TRANSFUSION WHEN I HAD MY SON IN 81 .i TELL MEN RIGHT WHEN I MEET THEM .iF THEY DSONT WANT TO HANDLE IT THEY CAN GO IN THE BEGINNING . I HAVE HAD SOME BAD REPLYS ,BUT I AM PREPARED FOR ALL KINDS .i AM TO SEE A SPECIALIST IN TWO WEEKS TO START TREWATMENT .cAN YOU TELL ME ABOUT TYREATMENT ./THE DOCTER SAID IT CAN MAKE ME REALLY SICK .hE SAID I MIGHT HAVE TO QUITE WORK FOR 3 MONTHS
 Hydracone
Joined: 5/4/2007
Msg: 99
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 2/6/2009 12:45:20 AM
You better tell her ASAP. If you think it can't be sexually transmitted you are wrong.
Your mucosa in the mouth and in vaginal area are far more loaded with blood vessel capillaries and exposure and exchange is very easy.

Besides this disease can be a nightmare. She deserves to be warned....just as if you had herpes or HIV and used a condom. This is someone's life you are dealing with.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 7/25/2009 9:27:29 PM
Before you put your penis into her the first time.
 tinainhouston39
Joined: 8/9/2009
Msg: 103
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 10/6/2010 7:51:08 AM
The "fact" is you have a terminal, sexually transmittable disease PERIOD. One could argue all day long the statistics of transmission however, having said that it is still a possibility. And although we are all terminal at one point, you have a disease which there is no cure for, that causes cirrhosis of the liver. You have a moral obligation to disclose this up front. You may make light of your condition having had it so long and clearly coming to terms with it, but you’re taking the rights of perspective mates to decide, on your terms alone. Interesting enough, when I worked for the Blood Center, we deferred perspective donors if they had even shared a bathroom with someone who had hepatitis for even one month.
If I were you, I would disclose this information on your profile so you could target a demographic of women who either have it or are ok with it. That will avoid any uncomfortable dealings after the meeting, and you know upfront that they are accepting of your condition. This will enable you to focus on the relationship outside of your "secret", and the anxiety you must feel every time you have to bridge this subject with each new perspective mate. Consider how freeing that might be.
 axl617
Joined: 9/3/2010
Msg: 104
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/23/2010 10:16:29 PM
Don't ever tell her. What a turnoff it will be.
 axl617
Joined: 9/3/2010
Msg: 105
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/23/2010 10:18:46 PM

Tina, you're an idiot. Just throwing that out there. Unlike some bloodborne diseases, like HIV, Hep is not sexually transmitted unless the sex involves open wounds on a penis and open wounds or ripping and tearing in whatever orafice it goes into. Even then, the chances are so neglible that it's not worth mention.

As for your blood bank tour, you must have worked there back in the day, when everyone in the medical community was much more ignorant about HCV.

Your suggestion to post it on his profile is insensitive and rude. Different people handle it different ways. Would it be ok for a white supremecist to tell a black man he should only advertise to his "kind?" I don't think so.

As to all the other smartass comments in here... I can't believe you people are adults functioning in society, some of you actually considering breeding so there will be more ignorant little ****s running around.


Just keep in mind that all penetrative sex involves micro-tears that are the reason for STI's occurring in the first place.
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 106
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/24/2010 8:02:41 AM
Hey Godless, you don't look smarter or more informed by throwing personal insults at people, just throwing that out there.

However, you're pretty much right.
From WebMD:
Blood-to-blood contact during sexual activity between an infected and uninfected partner. (In this context, menstrual blood should be treated as any other kind of blood.) The risk of transmission during sex is not precisely known but is thought to be quite low. The risk of transmission is less than 3% for partners of hepatitis C infected persons involved in a monogamous relationship.

Despite this, a partner should know before making the relationship sexual. It's just the right thing to do. 3% is NOT negligable and IS worth mention. It's a real risk.

I don't know how someone with herpes or Hep can sleep next to a partner they just had sex with that they haven't told about the condition. We all harp on and on in these fora about communication yet we have some who choose to hide conditions that can have real health effects on their partners.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/24/2010 7:13:15 PM
Your suggestion to post it on his profile is insensitive and rude.


You *do* know that OP deleted his profile after posting the question, right?

I do agree that a lot of the comments are unnecessarily harsh. They seemed to jump to conclusions that OP was having sex with partners without telling them. OP was asking *when* to tell a person. That's a responsible question.

In spite of information that transmission through sex is uncommon, it *does* occur. And although Hep C may not be common, it is the most serious of the Hepatitis viruses and needs to be taken very seriously. I have already known three people in my life who died of Hep C and *none* of them had any clue as to how they contracted it. No needles, no transfusions, no promiscuity. It happens.

My rule of thumb about such things is to tell someone at a point where there's a possibility of continuing seeing them. This is assuming that there has not been physical contact. If I'm meeting someone for the first or even second time, there's many things I don't tell them because if we don't continue seeing each other, what's the point? They don't need to know. However, if we meet for a third date, we've obviously gone past the initial interview stage and at that point, they need to know about things that might affect your decision to explore a relationship with them.

Definitely tell them *before* any real physical contact, and I include kissing. A person has a right to decide for themselves what sorts of risks they want to take. It would completely erode my trust in someone if we started kissing and *then* they told me something like that. Because it *is* a communicable disease and I should be able to decide for myself whether I want to potentially expose myself.

However, putting it on a profile or even bringing it up before meeting - I don't think that's necessary. That's my personal point of view. I would not encourage it.

If I met a guy I was seriously interested in and then found out they had Hep. C, I'd be making an appointment with my doctor or the Red Cross and educating myself in more detail so I could make some informed decisions.

BTW, one of the people I know who died of Hep C was married. There was no reason to believe he'd done any of the obvious things to contract it. Since diagnosis often occurs a good 10 years after infection, his wife was unknowingly exposed to it for all those years but she never got it.
 smalltowngirl0
Joined: 6/13/2008
Msg: 108
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/26/2010 5:43:48 PM
off topic just a bit..but w/ hep ''c'' you need to be aware of alchol intake.

tell your potential partner long before sex, because tho the chance of her getting it from you is very low, it a matter of honesty.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 11/27/2010 8:20:29 AM
When your relationship changes from a platonic to sexual, before the sexual acts, discuss it with him/her.

Aquiring Hep C from sexual actions is low risk, it is up to your partner to decide to take that risk,
They may decide to discontinue the relationship but you'll have more (self) respect.
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 110
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/27/2010 8:52:09 AM
Godless, it's not up to YOU to decide for others if the risk is negligible or not....it's up to each individual to decide for THEMSELVES if they want to take that risk. Even if the risk is small, there's still a CHANCE it can get passed on to the other person. Nothing gives anyone the right to make that decision for another person and saying, "well the chance is small" is irresponsible imo, because it provides a false sense of security about transmission.

FOR ME, I would never become sexually involved with someone I know to have Hep/HIV/ or any STD for that matter, simply because I'm too logical for it. I have a young child whose father is not involved in her life. If I were to contract something and die, then there isn't anyone else to raise her...this is why I am SOOOOO careful about who I'm with and making sure we use protection and get tested. My ex, after 4 years together decided to start "dating" another woman (without my knowledge), who he told me had 4 other "boyfriends" (he decided to enter the polyamorous community). I was furious at this because I saw this as him putting my life and my child's future at risk for a lay. No one has the right to make those decisions for other people.

I realize you may not have contracted the disease through any fault of your own, but it's still not up to you to make that decision for anyone else. ANYONE you hope to have any romantic future with has a right to know AS EARLY as possible in the relationship (and most certainly before sex occurs)..this means, even though it is heavy stuff for a first date, THAT is when it should be brought up...so that someone isn't wasting their time with you if they don't want to take that risk. Think about it: how would you feel if you spent several dates getting to know someone and only THEN do they tell you they have a disease they can possibly transmit to you that will kill you?! Date one is the "getting to know you" date...any disease you have is part of who you are, and by not telling someone then, you are lying about yourself. I tell men upfront I have a child because IT COULD AFFECT THEM, and they have a right to make an INFORMED decision as to whether or not they want to get involved with me.
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 111
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/27/2010 8:56:00 AM
^^^ I agree with barefoot here.
It's my right to know if I'm getting involved with someone who has an STD. I would not do it for any reason, the person with or without an STD has no right to decide for ME, whether or not I should fvck them.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 11/27/2010 9:04:10 AM
thats what I said.
you don't have to blab you are Hep C positive to everyone, just the people at risk so they know and can decide for themselves whether to take the risk or not.

For those going on about knowing to choose the risk of being infected :- use condoms! before you stop using condoms go with your LT partner together to a GP doctor and get tested. thats it!
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 113
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/27/2010 9:24:59 AM

For those going on about knowing to choose the risk of being infected :- use condoms! before you stop using condoms go with your LT partner together to a GP doctor and get tested. thats it!


Condoms don't protect against everything bilby. I got pregnant while using condoms (and spermicide). If they don't work 100% to keep sperm out, they certainly don't for keeping viruses out (which are A LOT smaller than sperm).

EVERYONE still has the right to know the risk BEFORE entering a sexual relationship with someone simply BECAUSE condoms can't always offer that 100% protection.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 11/27/2010 10:14:35 AM
I totally agree:-
EVERYONE still has the right to know the risk BEFORE entering a sexual relationship

point is:-
but one should still wear a condom know or not until you have health certificates.
not everyone tells you they have STDs some don't even know.
the little lump in the pubic area was it really a pimple? ingrown hair?for sure! really?????

mary mother of ...got pregnant without sex at all!

the point is, until mutually tested safe I will use a condom or not have sex or take a risk there you are! you can't control others but you can control yourself.

with my ex we agreed after using condoms + spermicide + pill all together that if she still had a baby we'd call it Houdini or if it wasn't mine call it Jesus.

later we both tested safe we stopped using condoms but I started the male contraceptive trials
 Banic
Joined: 10/21/2009
Msg: 115
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/27/2010 12:39:38 PM
tell her right now and good luck wish you the best
 mihope
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 116
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 4/1/2011 5:28:42 PM
Hep C is not an STD disease!!
 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 117
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 4/2/2011 8:23:07 AM
Someone is in need of some health and or sex ed classes!
"Hep C is not an STD disease"
Do you think condoms and the pill are 100% effective too?
 northwoods57
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 118
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 4/27/2011 5:10:22 PM
tell him before you have sex. its only fair. she should not have to get HEP C, just because your too stupid to tell her.
its also against the law, for what its worth
 northwoods57
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 119
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 4/27/2011 5:10:46 PM
nice cleavage by the way! your a hottie.
 bloodhound79
Joined: 5/10/2011
Msg: 120
when do u tell her u have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/6/2012 11:27:19 PM
One would have to question your integrity and morals if you don't tell immediately For you to even ask "when" makes me question who else has been exposed unaware Or how many timesyou e pulled something over on others. I understand having hep c isnt your fault. But continuing to treat it as anything other than a deadly weapon would be highly irresponsible
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 3/8/2012 10:18:04 AM
Hi! how ya doin? fine thats good I'm fine too!
I'm fine for someone who suffers from transmissible allergic reactions to space cabbage.

of course you should tell the person you're about to engage in sex if you know you have STDs or anything else thats transmissible.

at the other side of the fence.... SAFE SEX SAFE SEX SAFE SEX! condoms dams or just jacking/whacking off!!
(there! the safe sex NAZIs should be satisfied.)
 damsel19
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 122
when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/8/2012 11:34:42 AM
So you have had sex with men??? How is it contracted otherwise?
It would scare me off, sorry. Too many to choose from to risk that sort of thing.
If you do not mention it, you are being remiss.
 damsel19
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 123
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Posted: 3/8/2012 11:37:15 AM
majyk1

He has contracted it through having sex with a guy more than likely so in that way it is an STD. Correct me if I am wrong. Condoms do not protect against herpes for sure.
Do you like the offtopic remark about your cleavage??
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