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 KAT4EVR
Joined: 1/23/2005
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It's Not Over at 45Page 8 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
Just relax and enjoy yourself. Learn something new, a new hobby or volunteer at some event. You will meet new people. You look like a nice person, let it shine through and don't sweat the small stuff.
I got pickier over the years, I will not settle for just anyone. I work hard for my pay and have my own home, a new truck and my motorcycle. I also have a small circle of friends and love my work. I meet men a lot but they do not fit what I want now. I am still looking but not anxiously doing it. Good luck and relax and enjoy yourself.

 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 6/30/2011 9:30:15 AM
Funny how this works......when you are not looking for anything......they all show up!! And when you are in need and constantly searching.......the well is very dry!!.......

I am better than ever, even if somewhat slower, and I can also enjoy the fruits of my investments, experience, and understanding of how it all works for me!!......

OT......I have been with women in their late 20's and early 30's that were already old thinking and acting, as well as sexually inhibited, and then I have been with women in their 40's and 50's that could knock your socks off in many many ways......

Living life and enjoy sex is all in the eye of the beholder, and how they have processed all of this long term, and how much they are happy with themselves!

cd..........
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 173
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It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/9/2011 8:07:14 PM
The first half may be over, but the second half has only just begun for me!
 mishelley101
Joined: 9/29/2010
Msg: 176
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/11/2011 1:03:28 PM
Rose-

I applaude because you put it all in words for me and "one must battle one's own cocoon" is a perfect metaphore!
 Floramac
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 177
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/13/2011 1:09:41 PM
...........nope , I'm still wanting to get a band together,,,,,,,,


 SunnyBlueSkies23
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 178
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 8/16/2011 6:48:01 PM
"Many life experiances await me,I'm sure...." I HAVE to admit....I LOVE that uplifting statement! I've heard it said,time and again,how"50 is the NEW 60!" (The first time I EVER heard it I thought"Exactly WHAT does that mean???") Well,if that's true,then I say "45 is the NEW 35!" I don't believe once you hit a "certain age'"you stop evolving,dreaming,,or becoming a better version of yourself. I have a friend who.upon turning 45, was despondant."I'm over the hill! she called me up,crying." Now,I'll never be able to go back to college,or write that play,or......" and I said "Um,excuse me? I'm a YEAR older.........WHEN did you pass me on "the hill?? I haven't even FOUND it,yet!!!!" She responded,dumbfounded, with "Wha.......huh??" "You just said you're too old to follow your dreams...." I reminded her gently. We both burst out laughing seeing how insane that whole conversation was. Personally,I believe the ONLY time you're ever "too old" for ANYTHING, is when you believe you are. It's NOT over at 45....or ANY age,for that matter! You're as young as you feel. My beloved Grandparents (Nana & Gran'pa,my Mom's parents) were still very active,into their late 80's and 90's....... they were still driving, delivering Meals on Wheels in Woodstock! My Dad's Mom ( my beloved Grammy) still drove AND bowled at 84! (THEY never found that elusive "hill",either!) Age is just a state of mind...nothing more,or less. Each day is a brand-new chance to make your dreams a reality. Go on.Go for it. You CAN do it! Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. We believe in you! Remember,"Life is not about the breaths we take,but the moments that take our breath away" We CAN (and should) have "those moments all the time,and at every age.
 SunnyBlueSkies23
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 179
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 8/16/2011 6:48:13 PM
"Many life experiances await me,I'm sure...." I HAVE to admit....I LOVE that uplifting statement! I've heard it said,time and again,how"50 is the NEW 60!" (The first time I EVER heard it I thought"Exactly WHAT does that mean???") Well,if that's true,then I say "45 is the NEW 35!" I don't believe once you hit a "certain age'"you stop evolving,dreaming,,or becoming a better version of yourself. I have a friend who.upon turning 45, was despondant."I'm over the hill! she called me up,crying." Now,I'll never be able to go back to college,or write that play,or......" and I said "Um,excuse me? I'm a YEAR older.........WHEN did you pass me on "the hill?? I haven't even FOUND it,yet!!!!" She responded,dumbfounded, with "Wha.......huh??" "You just said you're too old to follow your dreams...." I reminded her gently. We both burst out laughing seeing how insane that whole conversation was. Personally,I believe the ONLY time you're ever "too old" for ANYTHING, is when you believe you are. It's NOT over at 45....or ANY age,for that matter! You're as young as you feel. My beloved Grandparents (Nana & Gran'pa,my Mom's parents) were still very active,into their late 80's and 90's....... they were still driving, delivering Meals on Wheels in Woodstock! My Dad's Mom ( my beloved Grammy) still drove AND bowled at 84! (THEY never found that elusive "hill",either!) Age is just a state of mind...nothing more,or less. Each day is a brand-new chance to make your dreams a reality. Go on.Go for it. You CAN do it! Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. We believe in you! Remember,"Life is not about the breaths we take,but the moments that take our breath away" We CAN (and should) have "those moments all the time,and at every age.
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 180
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 8/18/2011 8:41:58 PM
When I was 45, I was in the middle of greiving for my wife....
We were planning for _Another_ 5 years of Honeymooning..!!!

I wouldn't have lasted This long, if not for my son rescuing me from myself!!
Luckily, he showed me that s o m e o n e still cared about me....which helped me see that there may be something left in life to look forward to.
I'm not asking for much...just someone to care for...that cares for me, too...!!
 OpalescentCloud
Joined: 7/3/2010
Msg: 181
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 8/18/2011 10:54:37 PM
Very well said, thanks for not being a downer!
 Hudsonview10960
Joined: 8/10/2011
Msg: 182
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Posted: 8/20/2011 10:45:49 AM
I started my first company when I was 46. I'm a year into my 4th company. Kids are out of the house, one launched: through college and starting his first job, the other about to start college.

I am personally at age 57 the most happy, fulfilled, creative, active, that I've ever been. Just started kyacking on the hudson for the first time. I'm putting a band together to play locally. Love where I live, love what I do, I'm my own boss, I work from where ever I want.

For some people life doesn't really begin till they are way past 40: look at Henry Miller: a failure at everything until he wrote Tropic of Cancer at age 44.

I've been mulling over a publication I'd like to start that focuses on artists in their post 45 years, where they are probably most creative, but least paid attention to.

Bill
 Rain587
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 183
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 8/20/2011 8:00:01 PM
I present myself truthfully. No lies. I know it eliminates a lot of messages but I'd rather have them from someone who accepts me for who I am. My photos are current and yes that full shot is a bit lame but it's only a week old and I will do a better one in a couple days.

I have some physical issues but it does not stop me. I know some that are very healthy yet think because they are in their 50's they are washed up.

My 49th I skydived. My 50th I celebrated it at Disneyland and had a blast. 51 was Las Vegas. 52 was Alcatraz at night for the ghost. 53rd I'm thinking Europe to fish.

I'm flying to Kauai in three weeks by myself and will do the Sugarcane ditch tour and zip line.

I have a bucket list I check off and yet it still grows because there is so much life to live. Am I always on the go? No. There are other things to do too but I do not think I'm too old to do anything.
 bravehart64
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 184
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 8/22/2011 12:23:01 PM
Fourth quarter third down and time for a hail mary !
 realmofthought
Joined: 12/7/2011
Msg: 185
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 6/14/2012 3:48:15 PM
Wow...I hope the hell not! 54 and starting anew and have been giving myself pep talks about my re-entry into the dating world.
 circlewalk
Joined: 4/1/2011
Msg: 186
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 2:19:20 PM
t its me reese..hit me up..if u get this
 tbicon
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 187
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 5:14:57 PM
Women think you are a loser because you repeatedly admit to being a loser. Not hard to believe you are a troll because virtually everyone of your posts is about your being a loser. Who the heck does that on a dating forum but a troll? And a better question is why you waste your time as a troll. I'm almost willing to bet most women who have read any of your posts ignore you. Find a new game to play.
 Thornz2000
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 188
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 6:46:19 PM
It was over about age 32ish

MSG 177- "swirling abyss" you mean the toilet right?
 Wonder5750
Joined: 1/30/2012
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It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 6:59:32 PM
every time of life has its ups... and its downs. But I have to say, life is what you make it. I love being over 54, and I will love 55 and the rest too! The world is full of new and wonderous things, if you just open your door and step into it all. Keep your chin up, look forward to simple things, learn lessons, and give all you can. we are all just here helping each other home. :)
 tbicon
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 190
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 7:12:07 PM
Yea, you have a photo, but you admit to having no money or looks. Why would she choose you again?
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 191
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 9:22:23 PM

is there hope for us now? Now, that we can have what we want from life when we are over 45? Can we have the "It"....sex, romance and a new passion for life, even though life might have handed us some crap?
Muskoka


Yes!! There is not only hope of it, there is the reality of it. I got my degree in my 40's...have travelled to places and done the sort of things I would never have dreamed of doing when I was married. I have also had more romance, sex and love than I ever had as a married person...and WITHOUT compromising my values and morals. As long as you see every "mistake" as a lesson and every "challenge" as an adventure, you will find your strength, happiness and passion for life. And if life hands you cr*p, use it to fertilize your garden and grow, grow, GROW! =))
 raicor
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 192
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 9:43:19 PM
live on my friend. life is that belongs to each one. it does not ask what we want, or, want to do. it waits for no one and simply discards those who pay no attention. with the sword, well honed, of life beside us, we stand at the top of the hill. ready to, not only walk down, but to see and feel everything once only in thought. across the hill we are many. and, we will not simply follow life, but let it show us everything we dreamed.

be well... for you are not alone. :)
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 193
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/27/2012 11:07:12 PM
disclaimer: this is not a pity post its just how i see it and my opinion, at 45 im newly divorced ( final next month) after being left from my wife of 17 years at first i was devastated, but now getting used to the single life so i come on pof to try to find a nice woman, im not a bar guy or dance guy so internet dating seems all the rage now, well 9 months later- not 1 date, 200 plus messages, probably close to 250 now, only a few responses, been blown off for 2 coffeee dates, ive had women in messages call me ugly, undateable, broke, a troll, a looser ect ect ect. which made my lack of self confidence even worse. but being 45 makes it even tougher to find a woman. 99% are divorced and only want a guy with a lot of money. same women also want a guy who looks like a model, its impossible to get a down to earth girl whos funny and no drama and doesnt care if a guy doesnt have a lot of money, just the wrong age for me, im now convinced ill be alone forever. just wish i was 10 yrs younger. again please dont attack me, thats all i get on here this is just how i feel, might sound wrong but its the way i feel, instead of attacking how about ideas to get me out of this funk, thanks as always. nhra1966



...*Big sigh* Please, please, please SOMEBODY, ANYBODY....send this guy a nice e-mail.


Someone sent this to me....I think it's appropriate to this threas and bears repeating...

As we grow up we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down, probably will.
You will probably have your heart broken more than once and its harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You'll fight with your best friend, you'll blame a new love for things that an old one did
You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love
So take too many pictures, laugh too much and love like you've never been hurt, because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid your life will end..... be afraid that it will never begin......



anonymous


...mae
 JAXDiver
Joined: 6/4/2011
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Posted: 7/28/2012 8:05:59 AM

Someone sent this to me....I think it's appropriate to this threa[d] and bears repeating...

As we grow up we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down, probably will.
You will probably have your heart broken more than once and its harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You'll fight with your best friend, you'll blame a new love for things that an old one did
You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love
So take too many pictures, laugh too much and love like you've never been hurt, because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid your life will end..... be afraid that it will never begin......



anonymous


Thank you Mae. It does bear repeating.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 195
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/28/2012 8:13:38 AM

Don't be afraid your life will end..... be afraid that it will never begin......


That's a gooder Mae!!!!!
 SONNI100
Joined: 12/24/2010
Msg: 196
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/28/2012 9:59:29 AM
Thank you, Mae.....needed that.
 missmermaid4u
Joined: 6/23/2012
Msg: 197
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/29/2012 10:15:02 AM
k well way ahead of you..had children in my my 40s..some ppl say way too late, I say my tiny house is full of love> I feel beautiful, sexy and alive.
Age(the number), once I moved past that, I hit Nirvana (not dead yet) & everyone is heaven sent~look around
Lot of nice ppl out there~and I said it b4~we still got it!
~life is good
B patient, relax and believe
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