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 Captain_Wayne
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 226
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"So knowing that, what difference would a vasectomy make if you are still using a condom anyways?"

I have a daughter because a condom broke a year before I got a vasectomy.
 FunkyMonkee
Joined: 4/7/2009
Msg: 227
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 11/15/2010 7:20:52 PM

My husband is 49 and I am pregnant with our first child. He has 2 sons from previous relationship. I'm glad he didn't get a vasectomy at age 40.


Your kids will be happy having an old woman for a mum too... Sorry .. kids at 49 is selfish .. we got plenty of humans already.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 228
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/4/2016 10:53:35 AM
The idea of something sharp coming anywhere near that area ????


Um no, just no
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 229
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/4/2016 11:25:59 AM
So men compare vasectomies to mastectomies (the balls don't get chopped off during a vasectomy - please educate yourselves), don't want anything "sharp" down there (yet they probably are circumcised and had their boys circumcised). They don't want to "alter" a natural function (nothing get's "altered", your hormones stay the same, you won't put on weight or have an increased stroke risk like women, who are supposed to swallow or implant hormones that alter their body chemistry are detrimental to their health ). Plus again, circumcisions are done on a regular basis and no-one bats and eye, but vasectomies are the devil. Oh boy.

My ex husband had it done and I was present during the procedure. Frankly, my two c-sections were more complicated and risky than a vasectomy. They can also be reversed, so it's not permanent. Some men are just cry babies and want to take no responsibility when it comes to THEIR part in preventing pregnancies. Don't complain if you knock someone up then.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 230
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Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/4/2016 3:58:41 PM
I agree with Thorn, as a woman I would still want to use protection whether the guy had the snip or not. What is the right age to get it done anyway?? After you have had the family you want??. You could divorce, meet a woman who wants a child and it could be a dealbreaker for her. You may also, heaven forbid, lose a child that you have and wish to have another. If you are adamant that you do not want children, ever, then sure I would consider it and I know those in their thirties that have had it done for that reason. Some of the procedures can be reversed but not all.
 8inscrew
Joined: 11/17/2014
Msg: 231
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/4/2016 5:44:50 PM
I had it done in mid Dec.
It was painless. Took about 20 minutes. I played angry birds while he was doing his thing.
He thought that a little odd. I was a little concerned for his safety and wanted my hands busy.

Sitting in a chair, slightly reclined. Starts on one side. Needle in the testicle. No pain.
Small cut, pulls out the tube, soldering iron, fold and clip. One stitch shut.
Repeat other side. The needle hit a nerve on that side. No pain but my leg twitched a little.
Out the door. Cost $963. But they are now saying it's $1043. Not paying the extra eighty.

No recovery pain, but he gave me a script just in case.
Made sure everything worked about 2 hours later.
I went running the following day.

Only problem I had was a week later.
Two guys jumped me on my late night run, and there was a quick 1-2 scuffle.
I was fine, but next few days my ejaculate turned pink, then red, then straight blood.
Probably from the quick movement.
Then went back to normal. Still no pain, just disconcerting.

Easier and safer then having her do it. Something like 1 in 4000 for guys.
42% for c sections, 4 out of 10.
25% for vaginal, 1 out of 4.
32% tubal ligations fail overall and end up with ectopic pregnancy. 1 out of 3.

Easy and safe for guys, just maybe mentally hard.
Imagine refusing and your woman has a severe infection or worse.
Resentment about sex and making her do that?
Better to become a monk then put your woman at risk because you are a coward.

Some women take to the different bc options.
Depo shot seemed the best to me.
I don't like iud's because the wires poke me, even after having them shortened or bent or whatever.
Great feeling, a needle prick to the ooooh. Or just rubbing a spot raw....
Not sure about the nuva ring.

Many bc dose the women with hormones to trick their bodies into stopping the ovation.
Dangerous. Raises cancer risk exponentially.

It was easy for me. Just make sure you are sure. Chances of going back are slim.
I notice no difference save the worry of unwanted pregnancy.
I can kinda dig around in there and feel the clipped ends, but doubt a woman would notice.

Sounds like too much information, but guys should know it's not bad.
It's all in their heads.

Edit.. karma, testicular circumcision? A vasectomy be reversed? Are you really a nurse?
If so.... your advice is not what they told me. Might want to check before giving out an opinion.
Being a professional and all....

Oh yeah... I was born after a tubal ligation.
 showboatsupreme
Joined: 1/25/2016
Msg: 232
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/5/2016 7:22:55 AM
Apparently some pet owners are opting to keep testosterone in their dogs by having vasectomies performed on them instead of neutering.

Kudos to these owners for being sensitive their pets male needs...
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 233
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/5/2016 7:48:38 AM
TEsticular cirumcision? WTH? I never said that? But the foreskin is a very NATURAL and delicate part of the male anatomy and people here have no qualms chopping it off their newborn sons who can't give consent. But vasectomy is "altering with a natural thing". Well, so is circumcision. A little hypocrisy there.

And yes, vasectomies can be reversed. Sometimes they reverse themselves, nature finds a way, you should know, you said you were conceived after your mom had her tubes tied. I've met several parents who conceived decades after the dad had his vasectomy. A coworker of mine's husband had his reversed and they are trying to get pregnant (this is his second marriage, she has no kids and wants them).
 meetme28269
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 234
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Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/5/2016 7:49:19 AM
Had mine when I was 27,now over forty years ago.
Have never regretted it ,in fact ,I found it to be very freeing in my sex life .No worries about anymore kids.
Why did I have it done,well, my wife had put up with pills,the coil etc. it really felt like it was my turn to
Take some of the responsibility.
 8inscrew
Joined: 11/17/2014
Msg: 235
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/5/2016 1:31:39 PM
Aha! Had their children circumcised.... not the "boys". My mistake.

I am well aware it can reverse it's self spontaneously, and you can get reconstructive surgery.
I was advised by the Doctor.... it's a small chance of success.

Your words sounded to me, very sure it was a no problem/no doubt deal to reverse. Quite the opposite
of what my medical staff advised me.

I apologize for my misunderstanding.
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