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 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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OK, I haven't read all eight pages, just skimmed them to see if I'd already weighed in years ago.

I had my vasectomy while still in my twenties and have never regretted it. The discomfort was minimal - I was out mowing the grass that afternoon - and I can't remember how long it was before I had sex afterwards, as I wasn't seeing anyone at the time, but do know I was fully functional in short order.

I was never opposed to being a parent, just opposed to not getting to decide when the time was right, and unwilling to stay celibate until that time came along. I figured I might someday connect with a single mother or adopt, although as life has played out neither happened. I just never felt a driving need to sire my own offspring, thought there were already plenty of humans on the planet, and doubted my unique DNA was essential to keep the species going.

A fringe benefit I hadn't anticipated was that women I met quickly sorted themselves into one of two camps: either they said "oh, goody!" or turned their back immediately, letting me know right away that they were shopping more for a sire than a mate, which was good information to have.

I would recommend a vasectomy to any man not bound and determined to father his own child, and that seems like the standard view for others who've gone the V route.

Dave
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/22/2010 4:35:33 PM
Spicynicy,why thank you for the compliment.....that may hve been the case at one time but it's not anymore...yes i would get a tremendous kick out of some women telling me i'm a daddy when she should be telling some other man.
 MamitaMorena
Joined: 11/6/2008
Msg: 146
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/23/2010 12:38:08 AM
As a woman who's dated a man with a vasectomy, it's like Christmas in July!!! IF you're both D&D free, no worries of pregnancy. You can literally make love anywhere.

To the men saying"why don't the women getg sterilized".. IT IS NOT EASIER FOR A WOMAN!! We have to go under GENERAL anestesia. Most doctors will not perform a radical hysterectomy or tubal ligation with cauterization on women under 40 years of age. Furthermore, the uterus is literally REMOVED out of the womb and placed on the abdomen to reach the Fallopian tubes, making this a VERY INVASIVE surgery. This procedure is similar in completion to a ceasarean section. Hospital stays are usually anywhere from 3 days to a week after surgery, to monitor bleeding and any infection risk. Sometimes a prolonged hospital stay is necessary.

As for a vasectomy, it's an OUTPATIENT procedure. Usually no hospital stay, and can be performed under either local or general anesthetic. A small labroscopic incision is made close to the vas defrens in the testes, and the active testicle is disconnected from the rest of the penis, but left to produce testosterone for the body. The incision is either tied off or cauterized to ensure embolism. The entire procedure usually takes no more than 3 hours and the patient can return home same day or following day with pain management.

soooo....In a nutshell (pun intended) A VASECTOMY IS WAAAAYYY EASIER!! JUST MAN UP ALREADY!!!
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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Posted: 2/23/2010 9:57:00 AM
They get absorbed into our bodies, and the testosterone keeps our voices deep, faces hairy, and brains logical. (I'll duck now....)

Dave
 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 149
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Posted: 2/23/2010 11:13:00 AM

One thing that puzzles me.

What happens to all the sperm that are still being produced? Surely they go somewhere or do they get broken down and end up as waste products?



the tooth fairy takes them.
 majortom60
Joined: 7/27/2009
Msg: 150
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Posted: 2/23/2010 11:50:26 AM
Actually, you are correct! I had my vasectomy when I was 25, after my ex-wife's having 4 children. I felt it was the gentlemanly thing to do. There are less complications with a vasectomy than tubal ligation anyway. I did have complications, but I would still do the same thing, if the situation arose. As for the sperm, they still get produced, they just can't swim down the vas deferens, and so, yes they break down into waste product.
 Super_Eve
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 151
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Posted: 2/23/2010 12:01:06 PM

What happens to all the sperm that are still being produced? Surely they go somewhere or do they get broken down and end up as waste products?

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the tooth fairy takes them


But I thought it was the pretty penii semen fairy! You mean she doesn't exist?
 thatusernameistaken
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 152
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Posted: 2/23/2010 12:04:08 PM
I was just talking about this today with a coworker. I had mine done after the birth of my two children. Sex with knowledge of no need for contraception is much much better imo.
 MamitaMorena
Joined: 11/6/2008
Msg: 153
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Posted: 2/23/2010 12:10:55 PM
hahah@ spicy.. My mom had ceasarean with me. I do NOT envy her at all!!

And Major tom....Where were men like you when I was 25??? LOL "Fixed" men ROCK!!!!!
 MamitaMorena
Joined: 11/6/2008
Msg: 154
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Posted: 2/26/2010 6:36:36 AM

All you single guys on here that have had vasectomies you should put it in your profile... There are lots of women who don't want to be on the pill (or can't), but would love to be an exclusive sexual relationship with a guy where there are no condoms, no worries about pregnancies.


amen to that wasabi!!!!

I think men who are "fixed" should totally have that as a profile perk. I'd write a guy with a "V" first before the guy without one. Keping in mind all other variables are similar (age, body type, intellect, etc)
 NYRon1967
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 155
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Posted: 8/3/2010 1:26:49 PM
Hey, MamitaMorena, i had a vasectomy after my 2nd son was born about 10 years ago, and even though i believe most women like that, i dont think its a good idea for a guy to put that in their profile. Kinda implys hes expecting sex right away, IMO
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 156
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Posted: 8/4/2010 4:36:58 PM
Put it in the profile....
I suppose that would be an upgrade from
I have no children. I am not looking to have any. I am not looking to be a parent.
How much you enjoy your kids (------------------------------------------------------------------------------------)
How much I do/would/could (-)
* caveat, if you have had children and they have left the house, then we are on the way to getting along.
 sarniafairyboy
Joined: 6/19/2010
Msg: 157
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Posted: 8/5/2010 9:20:42 AM

Lots of men in my ex's family have had a vasectomy, all without complication.

I have 2 children with my ex, and I'm glad he didn't get a vasectomy, as he's now free to have more kids if he meets someone who'd like to have some.

I have never taken any form of contraceptive and never will - I refuse to put unnatural hormones into my body. I use a natural family planning method - which does work.
(If a child happens though, I'd be happy to accept the child.)

I will never get a tubal ligation and would never expect any man to get a vasectomy. But if a man wanted one, or already had one, I'd respect his choice.

(To the guy who said that nature intended men to father children until old age - are you nuts? The quality of sperm degrades the older a man becomes, and the risk of abnormalities goes up.)


most men have a quite natural aversion to the presence of razor-sharp instruments in close proximity to the 'family jewels'.
 FrogsSnailsAndPuppytails
Joined: 8/9/2009
Msg: 158
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Posted: 8/5/2010 1:49:04 PM
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?

Mastectomy - what's the big deal?








Both are pretty callous statements
 AintNoDeal
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 159
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Posted: 8/5/2010 6:35:37 PM

So you've already had your kids OR don't want any to begin with. You're over...let's say 40, why wouldn't you get a vasectomy?


Mayhaps the same reason women over 40 with grown kids don't have their breasts removed. Really, you won't be using them any more, so why have them?

Not funny, huh? Now do you understand?
 ~Azul Ojos~
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 160
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Posted: 8/5/2010 6:48:21 PM

Question: if you're done having kids, does it matter if you end up single again? You still don't want kids whether you stay in the relationship or not. Why would you have to change that decision or regret the surgery? I find that strange.

You'd just find someone who's ok with not having any/more kids...I would imagine.


My ex had a vasectomy while we were married. Now he is married to a very young Latino lady who is expressing a desire to have children. I don't think he has told her he can't have kids anymore. He certainly wasn't pleased when he became a grandfather a few months ago, it caused a little bit of friction with his child bride.

I have noticed that some men are totally happy with their decison to have a vasctomy and don't regret it. They feel they have taken care of something they don't want to deal with again. If a man feels he may still want to reproduce, then don't even consider it.
 nskains
Joined: 8/6/2008
Msg: 161
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Posted: 8/8/2010 10:19:08 AM
We recently had this conversation on the hanger deck at work.. All the guys that got it done, said it was the best thing ever... I got mine done at 26.. I have to say it is one of the best things ive done. The procedure was pretty painless, the recovery wasnt bad. Just sit there with frozen peas on in a jockstrap for a couple days, watching tv.. The peace of mind of not having any suprises is unmatched, the only issue i have had is when i meet someone new, and u find out they wanna have kids. Its pretty much an end game.. So how would u deal with telling someone hey, i made the decision to get snipped!!

-Nate
 Codeguru
Joined: 9/29/2009
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Posted: 8/15/2010 1:24:12 AM

So you've already had your kids OR don't want any to begin with. You're over...let's say 40, why wouldn't you get a vasectomy?

Seems to me like the smart thing to do yet so many men literally 'freak out' at the very thought of it.


If you don't get the concept, and want to go get one, congrats. Money can't buy some things once they are gone, and they are gone for good. I wouldn't destroy any part of my body or retard a bodily function for any reason, unless it involved my survival...

Codeguru
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 163
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Posted: 10/27/2010 8:26:09 AM
My friend won't neuter his dog because he thinks it will "deprive" him. Yeah, deprive him of wondering around getting lost while sniffing for b!tches...

I don't want kids, a vasectomy is on the way once the holidays are over. I'm not sure how it makes me less of a man, though...
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 164
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Posted: 10/27/2010 9:08:16 AM
Posted By: justaman72 on 10/4/2006 358 PM
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"What is Non-Surgical Vasectomy?...does anyone know about this?....is it Laser surgery?
I hear there is no incision with this surgery.

I don't know of any non-surgical vasectomy techniques but I do know of a non-surgical sterilization technique for women called The Essure Procedure. There are no incisions and it's so non-invasive that even anesthetic is not required. I would encourage anyone who is concerned about some of the risks of vasectomies to look into this option "
Karma posted:
Essure may not require anesthetic but believe me the patient gets medication, and lots of it.
Essure is a proceedure, where two tiny springs are placed into the beginning of the fallopian tubes, scar tissue grows around them and they obstruct the opening so no eggs can flow into the uterus.
It can not be reversed.
It is actually pretty amazing, it does require opening the cervix and entering the uterus which is sterile so there are some risks.
 som1spcl
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 165
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Posted: 10/27/2010 9:14:05 AM

Mayhaps the same reason women over 40 with grown kids don't have their breasts removed. Really, you won't be using them any more, so why have them?
Not funny, huh? Now do you understand?

Msg 207...what a jacka$$!

Of course a vasectomy is a big deal. Having said that, it is also the less invasive procedure when considering permanent birth control.
So guys, women take the hits most of the time. We usually deal with birth control when we become sexually active, we go through the pain of giving birth, not to mention the pain & discomfort of the pregnancy & yet so many 'men' [ i use that term loosely] expect women to be the ones to now have surgery to prevent pregnancy. Of course you can use a condom from then on but again it is the 'men' that tend to complain about this form of birth control the most. Now then, how about the whining about how much pain you will be in...are you serious? Oh wait, that would be better described as selfish & self~serving!
Now before I get slammed from all the guys out there, I really am not putting all guys in this category. I do realize that there are many MEN that are considerate of others & will step up to the plate to do what they think is best for their family. To those of you that do care & can put commonsense before selfishness...I stand &
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 166
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Posted: 10/27/2010 10:32:17 AM
Of course you can use a condom from then on but again it is the 'men' that tend to complain about this form of birth control the most.

Condoms are much less effective, even when used properly, than hormonal methods, which is why peole used them.
Trust me, if there were a birth control therapy for men, we'd be on the bandwagon in HUGE numbers, and vasectomists would be out of business.


But, it is each persons own choice & for many people, a rather hard choice to make.

That's right. If you're a woman who is 100% done having children and you're sure of that, tube removal is a good option, just like the vasectomy option for men. It's kind of unrealistic for someone, male or female, to enter a relationship and demand that the other have their respective surgery done to prevent childbirth. If you are sure you don't want kids, get your respective surgery and be done with it.
 MarriedMommy
Joined: 10/3/2010
Msg: 167
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Posted: 10/27/2010 1:44:06 PM
My husband is 49 and I am pregnant with our first child. He has 2 sons from previous relationship. I'm glad he didn't get a vasectomy at age 40.
 a_wiseguy67
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 168
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Posted: 10/27/2010 7:32:24 PM
It was pretty easy actually. I actually talked to the doctor and a med school student while he was doing the procedure. The only downside was the med student was a really cute 20 something Chinese girl and anesthesia doesn't stop some reactions. The upside to it was I knew it worked.

 JWG86
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 169
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Posted: 10/28/2010 12:08:19 AM
I am 24 and strongly considering it, but want to wait until I am 30 to make that call. I have a happily married co-worker who has had one, he his in his early 30's. No regrets on his part that I can tell. He told me for $75 with out insurance I could have it done as well. Like I said, not ready to make that call until 30, though.
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