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 Tomau
Joined: 5/9/2009
Msg: 176
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Lets see for my ex? the big deal was it is not his responsibility to prevent pregnancy it is the womans only. In his world condoms don't exist as only women are at risk for stds... (in that case how do they spread I asked him if only women get them?)
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 177
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 10/6/2009 1:57:45 PM
meh, all my friends thought I was crazy for getting one. It was the best birthday present I ever gave to myself. I was 18. Had to go to 4 diff doctors to get it, but it has saved a life time of headache.
Now that they are all 40-42 and divorced and paying child support... they dont think it was such a bad idea.
 TallBlondeSwan
Joined: 2/13/2010
Msg: 178
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/21/2010 11:18:36 AM
There are so many men who say they don't want any (or any more) kids yet they won't have a vasectomy. They don't want to spend the money. Yet, if they knock someone up, they will be spending a helluva lot more in child support for eighteen years -- around $150K -- not to mention having severe emotional stress.

I've dated many men who have had vasectomies and they said it was easier than having a root canal and it made sex more enjoyable, partly because they didn't have to worry whether a woman had a hidden agenda and was lying about being sterile or using birth control. Since it's no longer a disgrace to have a child out of wedlock and is often a meal ticket, women have no qualms about lying, so men need to be proactive. Women have been known to take a used condom out of the wastebasket and inseminate themselves. Why take chances, guys?

If you are a big baby, you will wind up having a baby.
 uc0339
Joined: 9/12/2008
Msg: 179
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Posted: 2/21/2010 11:38:13 PM
I had two of them. The worst part for me was the initial needle and shot in the scrotum. The rest was a breeze. After my first my scrotal sac was purple like an eggplant from being bruised. I sat around with an ice pack and a bag of frozen peas on my groin for the first day or so. It just ached a little unless they were supported.

When I was allowed to ejaculate I had to give it to the hospital lab to have a sperm count done (checking for swimmers still around). Some of my friends never did this step but I'm glad I did! The count got lower and lower until there were one or two near dead swimmers and the doctor told me I was sterile. Wooo Hooo went to Jamaica with my girlfriend, no condoms needed, no worries, no problems!!

Three weeks later I was still nervous about the one or two nearly dead swimmers and said I wanted another count. The doctor said I was being over worried but agreed.... I was nearly back to normal!!! My boys were smart and bypassed the titanium clips and burned off ends and re-connected!! Thank God my girlfriend did not get pregnant!! Doctor told me that the odds of this happening were like 1 in a 100,000 (should have played lotto!

I went back and told him this was the last time to cut it back far enough where there is no chance of them finding their way back together. Got it done the second time and all is good!! Very happy to have it done. No matter where it lands nobody gets pregnant!! Oh and I imagine the big deal for some guys is the fear of pain, maybe feeling less manly?
 Home_for_30
Joined: 2/6/2010
Msg: 180
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/21/2010 11:49:17 PM
Had one, but they knocked me out cold...hurt a little after. Actually more sexual now, maybe without the stress of getting someone preggos realxed me.
 Spoken For
Joined: 12/26/2007
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Posted: 2/22/2010 6:00:36 AM
Every guy I've ever known that has had it done says it's the best thing they've ever done! I mean, the worry ends, immediately. No more kids. A tubal ligation in women has a terrible rate of failure, a vasectomy is just about impossible to fail.

And for all you guys who think it'll hurt your sex drive? If anything, it'll rev it up a notch! See, being completely worry-free does something to loosen up inhibitions you didn't know you had!
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 182
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Posted: 2/22/2010 3:20:34 PM
Want to have some fun...do it and don't tell anybody...then let some women try to tell you she's pregnant with your baby...priceless
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 183
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/22/2010 3:33:20 PM
^^^Always the cynic!!! Actually there have been cases where the vasectomy hasn't worked and the woman did get pregnant............

At my age I'd be more than happy to meet a man who'd already had it done. I'm not interested in having any more babies.
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 184
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Posted: 2/22/2010 4:20:24 PM
OK, I haven't read all eight pages, just skimmed them to see if I'd already weighed in years ago.

I had my vasectomy while still in my twenties and have never regretted it. The discomfort was minimal - I was out mowing the grass that afternoon - and I can't remember how long it was before I had sex afterwards, as I wasn't seeing anyone at the time, but do know I was fully functional in short order.

I was never opposed to being a parent, just opposed to not getting to decide when the time was right, and unwilling to stay celibate until that time came along. I figured I might someday connect with a single mother or adopt, although as life has played out neither happened. I just never felt a driving need to sire my own offspring, thought there were already plenty of humans on the planet, and doubted my unique DNA was essential to keep the species going.

A fringe benefit I hadn't anticipated was that women I met quickly sorted themselves into one of two camps: either they said "oh, goody!" or turned their back immediately, letting me know right away that they were shopping more for a sire than a mate, which was good information to have.

I would recommend a vasectomy to any man not bound and determined to father his own child, and that seems like the standard view for others who've gone the V route.

Dave
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Posted: 2/22/2010 4:35:33 PM
Spicynicy,why thank you for the compliment.....that may hve been the case at one time but it's not anymore...yes i would get a tremendous kick out of some women telling me i'm a daddy when she should be telling some other man.
 MamitaMorena
Joined: 11/6/2008
Msg: 186
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Posted: 2/23/2010 12:38:08 AM
As a woman who's dated a man with a vasectomy, it's like Christmas in July!!! IF you're both D&D free, no worries of pregnancy. You can literally make love anywhere.

To the men saying"why don't the women getg sterilized".. IT IS NOT EASIER FOR A WOMAN!! We have to go under GENERAL anestesia. Most doctors will not perform a radical hysterectomy or tubal ligation with cauterization on women under 40 years of age. Furthermore, the uterus is literally REMOVED out of the womb and placed on the abdomen to reach the Fallopian tubes, making this a VERY INVASIVE surgery. This procedure is similar in completion to a ceasarean section. Hospital stays are usually anywhere from 3 days to a week after surgery, to monitor bleeding and any infection risk. Sometimes a prolonged hospital stay is necessary.

As for a vasectomy, it's an OUTPATIENT procedure. Usually no hospital stay, and can be performed under either local or general anesthetic. A small labroscopic incision is made close to the vas defrens in the testes, and the active testicle is disconnected from the rest of the penis, but left to produce testosterone for the body. The incision is either tied off or cauterized to ensure embolism. The entire procedure usually takes no more than 3 hours and the patient can return home same day or following day with pain management.

soooo....In a nutshell (pun intended) A VASECTOMY IS WAAAAYYY EASIER!! JUST MAN UP ALREADY!!!
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 187
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Posted: 2/23/2010 4:50:06 AM
^^^Men are just wimps............LOL

I've had 3 caesarians and I'm not about to undergo anything else unless I have cancer or something serious...................
 _batman
Joined: 8/22/2009
Msg: 188
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Posted: 2/23/2010 6:14:28 AM
One thing that puzzles me.

What happens to all the sperm that are still being produced? Surely they go somewhere or do they get broken down and end up as waste products?
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 189
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Posted: 2/23/2010 9:57:00 AM
They get absorbed into our bodies, and the testosterone keeps our voices deep, faces hairy, and brains logical. (I'll duck now....)

Dave
 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 190
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/23/2010 11:13:00 AM

One thing that puzzles me.

What happens to all the sperm that are still being produced? Surely they go somewhere or do they get broken down and end up as waste products?



the tooth fairy takes them.
 majortom60
Joined: 7/27/2009
Msg: 191
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Posted: 2/23/2010 11:50:26 AM
Actually, you are correct! I had my vasectomy when I was 25, after my ex-wife's having 4 children. I felt it was the gentlemanly thing to do. There are less complications with a vasectomy than tubal ligation anyway. I did have complications, but I would still do the same thing, if the situation arose. As for the sperm, they still get produced, they just can't swim down the vas deferens, and so, yes they break down into waste product.
 Super_Eve
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 192
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/23/2010 12:01:06 PM

What happens to all the sperm that are still being produced? Surely they go somewhere or do they get broken down and end up as waste products?

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the tooth fairy takes them


But I thought it was the pretty penii semen fairy! You mean she doesn't exist?
 thatusernameistaken
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 193
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Posted: 2/23/2010 12:04:08 PM
I was just talking about this today with a coworker. I had mine done after the birth of my two children. Sex with knowledge of no need for contraception is much much better imo.
 MamitaMorena
Joined: 11/6/2008
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Posted: 2/23/2010 12:10:55 PM
hahah@ spicy.. My mom had ceasarean with me. I do NOT envy her at all!!

And Major tom....Where were men like you when I was 25??? LOL "Fixed" men ROCK!!!!!
 WasabiGal2
Joined: 1/21/2010
Msg: 195
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Posted: 2/23/2010 4:11:15 PM

"Fixed" men ROCK!!!!!


I love that my guy had a vasectomy ---- it's fabulous..... All you single guys on here that have had vasectomies you should put it in your profile... There are lots of women who don't want to be on the pill (or can't), but would love to be an exclusive sexual relationship with a guy where there are no condoms, no worries about pregnancies.
 MamitaMorena
Joined: 11/6/2008
Msg: 196
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Posted: 2/26/2010 6:36:36 AM

All you single guys on here that have had vasectomies you should put it in your profile... There are lots of women who don't want to be on the pill (or can't), but would love to be an exclusive sexual relationship with a guy where there are no condoms, no worries about pregnancies.


amen to that wasabi!!!!

I think men who are "fixed" should totally have that as a profile perk. I'd write a guy with a "V" first before the guy without one. Keping in mind all other variables are similar (age, body type, intellect, etc)
 NYRon1967
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 197
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Posted: 8/3/2010 1:26:49 PM
Hey, MamitaMorena, i had a vasectomy after my 2nd son was born about 10 years ago, and even though i believe most women like that, i dont think its a good idea for a guy to put that in their profile. Kinda implys hes expecting sex right away, IMO
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 198
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Posted: 8/4/2010 4:36:58 PM
Put it in the profile....
I suppose that would be an upgrade from
I have no children. I am not looking to have any. I am not looking to be a parent.
How much you enjoy your kids (------------------------------------------------------------------------------------)
How much I do/would/could (-)
* caveat, if you have had children and they have left the house, then we are on the way to getting along.
 FavouriteDreamsOfYou
Joined: 5/14/2010
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Posted: 8/4/2010 5:19:26 PM
Lots of men in my ex's family have had a vasectomy, all without complication.

I have 2 children with my ex, and I'm glad he didn't get a vasectomy, as he's now free to have more kids if he meets someone who'd like to have some.

I have never taken any form of contraceptive and never will - I refuse to put unnatural hormones into my body. I use a natural family planning method - which does work.
(If a child happens though, I'd be happy to accept the child.)

I will never get a tubal ligation and would never expect any man to get a vasectomy. But if a man wanted one, or already had one, I'd respect his choice.

(To the guy who said that nature intended men to father children until old age - are you nuts? The quality of sperm degrades the older a man becomes, and the risk of abnormalities goes up.)
 sarniafairyboy
Joined: 6/19/2010
Msg: 200
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Posted: 8/5/2010 9:20:42 AM

Lots of men in my ex's family have had a vasectomy, all without complication.

I have 2 children with my ex, and I'm glad he didn't get a vasectomy, as he's now free to have more kids if he meets someone who'd like to have some.

I have never taken any form of contraceptive and never will - I refuse to put unnatural hormones into my body. I use a natural family planning method - which does work.
(If a child happens though, I'd be happy to accept the child.)

I will never get a tubal ligation and would never expect any man to get a vasectomy. But if a man wanted one, or already had one, I'd respect his choice.

(To the guy who said that nature intended men to father children until old age - are you nuts? The quality of sperm degrades the older a man becomes, and the risk of abnormalities goes up.)


most men have a quite natural aversion to the presence of razor-sharp instruments in close proximity to the 'family jewels'.
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