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 carol636
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Will a non smoker date a smoker ?Page 14 of 16    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16)
Nope. It's a deal-breaker for me. Been around too many smokers in my family (3p/day step-grandad...ew!) and step-dad died of lung cancer, in addtion to how the smoker's clothes, breath, hands, home, car - EVERYTHING smells (and tastes). No thanks. No way.
 ~JustSimplyMe~
Joined: 8/18/2006
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Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:27:13 PM
After dating a non smoker, I'd be hesitant to do it again. I really really missed the awesome kisses you get from someone who isn't holding their breath and refusing to open their mouth even a tiny bit.
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 78
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/25/2009 7:52:35 AM
Most men I date smoke. I only met very few non-smokers. I even married a smoker years back.

I just don't want a drinker. I don't want to hear "I was drunk when I met/married you". Come on I may not be supermodel material, but I am not that ugly. Oh anyway I'm not an airhead like those supermodels.
 Bootaholic21
Joined: 12/2/2011
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Posted: 3/7/2013 1:21:47 PM
I've always been a non-smoker but would love to date a woman who smokes. I find a female smoker very sexy and sensual. Some women are okay with knowing you like them smoking, others think it's an unusual fetish and shy away. It's ironic really, considering they have actually found a guy who would accept their smoking fully.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 84
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 3/7/2013 5:07:40 PM

MsMaureenw
Emotion/physical reasons for not quitting. I cannot understand why someone cannot quit.


You don't know, what you don't know. I quit in '86, just stopped, though my late Wife still smoked for another year. I could even light one for her and not want to smoke one myself. I started smoking again 11 years later and can say with certainty that the Cigarettes today are more addictive than they were before.

As for smoker/non-smokers my SIL smokes and her husband never did. My MIL smoked and my FIL never did. Some people can deal with it, others can't. But for the most part, the most hard core antis are former smokers, much more than those who never smoked in their lives. This is true for most addictions.

The people who get me, are the ones who smoke weed, but won't date a smoker.


VVVVVVV I've heard some guys say, "If she'll put a cig in her mouth, she'll put anything there". I'd be surprised, as a guy, if you hadn't heard that comment, from other guys too. VVVVV
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 3/7/2013 5:18:47 PM
I don't know if there is any studies to back this up but in my findings I have found women smokers tend to be a bit more wild on average than non-smokers. This is not fool proof nor an exact science but just from my gut. So in answer to your question, while I don't smoke I would consider an in frequent smoker...that is if she was wild...but if she's a dud, pass the Nicolette.
 FSU9144
Joined: 11/12/2012
Msg: 88
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 3/7/2013 6:10:55 PM
Yes, I would date someone who smokes.
 AvailableinIndy
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 89
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 3/7/2013 6:11:14 PM
I have tried twice to date smokers...I just couldn't do it. I don't like kissing an ashtray. sorry.

Usually it will say on someones profile if they perfer a non smoker or not...
 hoopsnhikes
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 90
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Posted: 3/7/2013 6:53:49 PM

Will a non smoker date a smoker ?

I would say that it would depend entirely on who the non-smoker and the smoker is, as the answer would vary.

As for this non-smoker personally, I probably would never date a smoker. Unless she was really smoking.
 AstroCat505
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 91
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 3/7/2013 7:11:42 PM
No! One of my biggest pet peeves is smoking. I hate the smell, I hate the taste, and I hate the sight. Even the hottest woman can be downgraded to a passcard just by putting a cigarette to her lips.
 ImReadyForUnow
Joined: 11/11/2012
Msg: 93
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 3/7/2013 9:04:34 PM
I will not date a smoker.
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 95
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 3/7/2013 9:09:57 PM
Generally, neither will I. Back in high school, I once kissed a friend who smoked. I was gagging for a minute after that. I also find the smell offensive and the smoke bothers my eyes.

Since then, I dated a smoker once, but I made it clear to her that I would not kiss her because she smoked. That didn't last long.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 97
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 3/8/2013 8:24:47 AM
I won't but some will. Depends on how annoyed they are by the smoking. Some will say they will at first and then try to get you to quit. I've gone that route before. Didn't work.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 3/8/2013 9:26:52 AM
Never.

I never even dated ex smokers. I'm just not attracted to the type of individual who doesn't have something inside of themselves to have a certain discipline in life. I suppose some may have experimented as a teen (I never did) but I'm baffled why anyone with a brain ever smoked after trying it a couple of times. The habit is bad enough but it also says volumes about one's character.
 Walking_Contradiction
Joined: 8/10/2012
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Posted: 3/8/2013 9:33:11 AM
As long as she's courteous about it (i.e., not in the car, or at least pop open the window), doesn't bother me.

Could I LIVE with/be in a long term relationship with a smoker? Seeing as how the smell of smoke pervades everything the smoker touches (bedsheets, clothing, frequently occupied rooms), probably not.
 L,A, Woman
Joined: 7/4/2006
Msg: 104
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Posted: 7/1/2013 1:35:49 PM
The last guy I was extremely attracted to and had a long thing with smoked. I don't smoke. I loved to kiss him when he just finished one. The taste was so soothing and then I thought more. My father smoked. So some women have a nostalgic connection to the smell of cigarette smoke. They say we like men like our fathers. So, he was the strong silent type like my dad who also smoked. However, when I thought about should I deny smokers my answer was yes. I decided that I did not want to be with someone I would have to watch go through lung cancer or emphyzema. This could be very heart breaking as have seen people hooked to various machines in my life. I also thought that because my dad smoked I had enough second hand smoke in my system to cause future problems for me. Self preservation my friend that is what I am talking about.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 7/1/2013 5:46:42 PM
No, no exceptions.

As an RN no desire to hook up with a walking cancer time bomb. See the effects every day. Also, just says something about an individual's lack of self discipline.

One guy wanted to date me and said he was trying to quit. WTF...why would anyone with a brain smoke at all. Zero intelligence? No discipline? A sheep influenced by peers? If you are over 16 and hadn't quit yet...duh!!

Fortunately in Seattle smoking has just disappeared among educated professionals. None of my colleagues or friends smoke. Probably it's more prevalent in the south and southeastern states that have low education levels.
 ImpassionedAdventure
Joined: 9/22/2012
Msg: 106
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/2/2013 8:35:11 AM
To all the traditional smokers, move out of the dark side and go to the light, with E-Cigarettes.

I have already had a couple friends that are heavy smokers move over to E-Cigs and they are extremely happy as are the rest of us because we don't have to be around the smoke. Also, one of them is using it to break his habit and seems to be working quit well.
 meetme28269
Joined: 4/11/2011
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Posted: 7/4/2013 1:17:58 PM
I Realize active Melanie is no longer with us,believe she discovered the error of her ways and eloped with a smoker.
Exactly what does smoking have to do with character? I can see the connection to discipline but not to character.
Perhaps FDR, JFK,and more recently Pres Obama as smokers all lack character.
Find another reason for your bias.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 7/4/2013 6:32:33 PM
^^^^
Ya sure. Lack of discipline, and destructive lifestyle are sure signs of good character.(not) . Unlike yourself, I don't worship politicians or other celebrities as paradigms of positive role models. If an individual doesn't have the wherewithal to yakE care of their own health then they are not in a position to take care of their partner. They have a warped perception of priorities in life....good health or another cigarette. A no brainier.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 109
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/4/2013 7:03:07 PM
I had two LDR with women who smoked--tobacco and 420. They just didn't do it around me during the weekends we were together. If I could find a smoker w/ killer personality who could give me that level of respect and looked hawt, I'd give her a chance.

otherwise, its rare to find a smoker who can wash her hair before the date and not wear smoky clothing, apparently (one of the two mentioned above simply bought something new to wear--win win for both of us, I guess :) ). I'm always amazed at the amount of smokers I see trying to bum one of those expensive killers off a stranger. Geez, buy your own, dude. do you ask complete strangers to buy you gasoline, too? :)
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 110
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/4/2013 7:14:59 PM
Simply put...
no.
 browneyesseeking
Joined: 1/12/2013
Msg: 111
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/4/2013 7:50:43 PM
Absolutely NOT!
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
Msg: 112
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/4/2013 9:05:23 PM
I would never date a SMOKER!!! ....Even though I smoke cigarettes,...wait are we talking about gay pole smoking, or are we labelling people with a strange term...If you eat beef are you a beefer,lmao...Ahhh, people never cease to amaze me...
BUT SERIOUSLY...I would not date a (person) that smokes, I mean a SMOKER!!!, as long as it is not popular, and I then have an outlet to release some aggression onto people, because really it is not socially acceptable to bash gayies anymore :(...

Though in the future, if I am told through media, that smoking is socially acceptable again, I would defiantly date a SMOKER!!!, it would be alright again :)...
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 114
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Posted: 7/5/2013 9:18:19 AM
There are non-smokers who are willing to date smokers. You just have to ask them. Many choose not to because the effects of smoking follow you throughout your day and life. Some people are willing to live with the inconvenience...others aren't. Potentially shorter lifespan, increased chance of a long and painful death, as well as having a unique odor and flavor every day. I'll pass, but there are people who don't find the effects repugnant. It doesn't hurt to ask.
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