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 TXMN
Joined: 8/27/2006
Msg: 51
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I thought I answered this?

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 wanttolicku69
Joined: 6/14/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2006 1:43:30 PM
100 % correct so many of you ladie's just delete our messages it gets tiring so thats why try repyling to your email sometime!
 Chris_kc
Joined: 8/5/2006
Msg: 53
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Posted: 10/21/2006 2:06:14 PM
This thread and the many similar ones that came before it are perfect examples of polarizing generalizations that do nothing to further the real purpose of this site; that is to help men and women connect.

Bigfish needs to install a filter to auto delete every new thread that starts like:

Why do men .....
Why do women ...
How come men .....
How come women ....

...on and on...

The existence of these threads seems to be at cross purpose with the reason we are all here. The purpose of such threads seem to be the airing of rants and frustrations, rather than real discussions of dating issues.

So that I'm not totally off-topic, people who resort to canned contact letters and canned responses are simply showing their general lack of creativity. The recipients of this "date-spam" should delete the rubbish the same way they do spam for viagra, work at home, ink-jet refills, or any of the 1000 other pieces of crap that clutter our regular inboxes each day.

I dont "play the numbers," and as a result, the very few first-contact emails I do send always seem to get responses.
 Rettam
Joined: 1/30/2005
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Posted: 10/21/2006 2:37:41 PM
I like being on the defence, so here goes (even though I personally don't cut an paste).

The general message on this thread is that if you son't cut and paste, you write more genuine letters and hence, get better or more responses.

But like I said in an earlier post, for some guys, they are driven to cut an paste because the genuine letters don't get read anyway, and after awhile of trying different writing styles, etc with no sucess, they are tempted to "play the numbers."

My question to the women was, as said above, would you not be tempted to do the same - if repeated individualized letters fail over a large period of time?
 pokerman40.2
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 55
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Posted: 10/21/2006 2:54:38 PM
Here is another thought (again, I'm not meaning to sound full of myself but it seems to read that way anyways). I mentioned earlier that I have a pretty high response rate. I don't send very many first contact letters. But I carefully read the profiles of the ladies I'm interested in writing to. I'm honest with myself about who I am and who I think might be interested. My letters take a casual approach and are sometimes funny and self-depreciating - I never mention anything about actually going out on a date. I mentioned something I enjoyed reading in their profile and suggest that they might enjoy reading mine. The letters usually run about four or five sentences. I almost always receive a response. So I guess my suggestion would be: take the time to read the profiles then write to the ladies most likely to respond to a person like you.
 kstuffff
Joined: 9/25/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:03:50 PM
Even more funny. Women who contact men and then ask questions that were answered in their profile. Something that even I, as a guy, would expect guys to do. I love the pictures but I read all the words. If the words aren't as sweet as the pic, I move on. Just as the ones that say looking for a long term relationship. The pic they post, is of them at a bar/club with a drink in their hand and an inebriated smile on their face. How appealling is that? Or the ones that say they drink 3 or more times a week, but their kids come first. Your not supposed to watch your children through the bottom of a****ail glass, duh! Just had to put my 2 cents in here. We can all find faults in one another. The trick is to weed them out early and find the right one for you. I am not just looking for the next woman, but the last woman I will ever have to look for. Good luck to us all, may we all get whom/what we deserve.
 kstuffff
Joined: 9/25/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:10:01 PM
With a user name like yours, your lucky anyone replies. They do have porn sites for people of your caliber.
 pokerman40.2
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 58
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:22:42 PM
^^^I'm assuming you meant me, but perhaps not. Until you mentioned that, I didn't see it in my user name. It refers to the card game. Maybe I should put a space between the "r" and the "m." Or perhaps the ladies who respond don't read it that way either. Anyway, thanks for pointing it out.
 lyn_2009
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 59
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:47:13 PM
Less effort

less expectation

less pain
 *mandrake*
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 60
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:58:44 PM
even at Canadian Thanksgiving, I sent individual messages to each of the people on my favs list that live in Canada. They deserve my effort. I can't imagine C&P to them.

By the way....when is American Thanksgiving?
 eon001
Joined: 10/16/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:01:35 PM
lol SoulReaver, I hear what your saying.
Ladies if your really honest with yourselve's, it's all about your egos. You just want a personal heartfelt email just so you can feel special. If the guy looks like shrek (or me :P) You wont bother replying.

Question to the ladies: If a guy sent you what you thought was a generic email, but he had a good profile, and looked like a greek god, or your ideal match at least, would you still ignore him?
 Seanr70
Joined: 8/20/2006
Msg: 62
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:03:25 PM
some men .... not myself .... have it set up to automatically attach their profile to an email.
 WindsofChange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:19:41 PM
Time management? LMAO! Thats funny!

C/C/P...Isn't this considered "netting"? Ya know...as in ???

Not me! I send an email based on spontaneity feelings about the photo an profile.Usually a simple compliment.

Never CCP! BAD! BAD! Disrespectful!

**Dang! I gotta get out of these forums, so educational yet can't keep my trap shut!**

 marshlyn
Joined: 10/9/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:29:19 PM
HEY JERRY,
Where are those "Tons of a lot more men" than woman?
they sure aren't in my area..
 Rettam
Joined: 1/30/2005
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:58:19 PM
That's an interesting question: how many men would respond to a cut and paste message from a woman they were attracted to?

- remember, cut and paste need not be done in a slopply manner. This can mean a very generic intial first contact with a few details peppered in for authenticity.

How many men here would respond if you were attracted to the profile anyway?
 A MUZEing..
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 66
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:15:04 PM
First, I apologize if this entry might go off on a bit of a tangent. I do receive many c/p emails.
More often than not, however, my situation has been that I'd read a message from a guy who may or may not have copy-pasted it BUT, when I see his profile (saying 'non-religious') he clearly didn't take the time to carefully read my profile, which says I'm Christian and that it's important to me to share a faith. Why, if he says 'non-religious', is he writing to me? I don't say I'm superior or 'holier than thou', it's just that I want to have that in common and not have tension in that area.. besides, it's so essential to who I am, I could never become emotionally intimate with him, let alone physically, if we can't encourage each other within a mutual deep belief in God.
I'm not preaching here. I'm trying to say please READ before sending me email in an effort to hook up with me, as it'll save you time and frustration... the answer is NO.
...............ESPECIALLY when it's cut/paste!

I'll respond to thank him & wish him well in his search because I don't want to date him, but the other item is that I'm here only for friendships (whether or not they have potential for more is beside the point).. and I get asked for sex. GO FIGURE.
.. one guy actually said in an IM chat that, since I'm Christian, he wouldn't use a condom because he assumed all Christians never use them. LOL. I thanked him, said I didn't want to waste his time, and said goodbye.
.......Block!!
 Gotapulse
Joined: 3/21/2005
Msg: 67
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:37:23 PM
I don't do it because I read the profiles of the women I contact and only those that actually interest me with what's in their full profile get an e-mail. Having said that, well yeah, look, it's silly to go about putting alot of effort into crafting a tailor-made letter just to have it thrown in the e-garbage without even a glance. I mean really, what the heck for ? Somebody explain to me the value of putting all that effort into something just to see it (repeatedly I might add) tossed aside without so much as a "thanks for stopping by" ? Sure, some people say "Well I wouldn't do that !" Okay, and I believe you but YOU aren't the other one hundred women who DO do that.

In any case, the truth is that while I understand why people who copy/paste do this, I don't really see the value in it. If you want to better your odds, you need to get creative and appeal to her in some way that the other 99 guys don't. I don't see how you can do this in any particularly unique fashion without getting specific and talking about things that appeal to her (as elaborated on in her profile) The other thing I want to mention is that it says something about your motivation if you simply copy/paste and fire it off. I'm not implying that there is anything sinister about people who do this . I just think that it says a little bit about desperation. I mean, if you're sending out that many e-mails, what exactly is it that you want anyway ? Maybe a good idea would be to be somewhat more selective with what apparently interests you. If that many women seem to have wife-potential, then perhaps you should re-evaluate what it is that you want in a wife. I would hope that her simply being female isn't your only pre-requisite. If you're writing to two or even three women a day, I would think that spending five minutes composing a letter to each is hardly that taxing an effort.
 Rettam
Joined: 1/30/2005
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:44:24 PM
This is from waaaay back but, I appreciate the plug, bucsgirl

I think I may have tarnished my image by palying devil's advocate haha.

But concerning the previous post about religion - sometimes people put Christian or other religion simply because they that was their upbringing or culture. They don't always practice it.

The other thing is, lots of non-religious people have no problem getting into relationships with people that are religious adn vice versa. So don't be too surprised when you get messages from guys that are agnostic or atheist or simply non-religious.

Some people put weight on the issue, and other simply play by ear.
 not high maintenance
Joined: 9/27/2005
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:54:57 PM
Yes, a major pet peeve of mine. The copy/paste from the same men numerous times, stating the same things that are in their profiles and then to top it off they will throw in a comment about me being a blonde, hello I'm a redhead.
 A MUZEing..
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 70
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Posted: 10/22/2006 12:12:32 AM
greyymatter ~

The other thing is, lots of non-religious people have no problem getting into relationships with people that are religious adn vice versa.

Thanks for the input and viewpoint, and I can see how some might not regard it as an issue for themselves and would therefore not put that much weight into it for their prospects, but when my profile says I do put weight on it, that's when I don't understand their writing to me since it seems they don't really care.
 angeleyeso1
Joined: 10/13/2005
Msg: 71
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Posted: 10/22/2006 12:24:07 AM
Sometimes i feel that guys who copy and paste are not only lazy but probably are or players trying to find as many women as they can cause they don't have to time to sit and write individual letters to each women to make it more personal and to show that they are genuinely interested in the lady or they may have another alterior motive if you know what i mean.getting as many notches on his bedpost as possible. i have had emails like this before and it is a real turn off and i agree with the women that if a man writes and just says love your pic or let's meet right off the bat is a red flag for women just as it would be for a man. if i get an email from a gentleman that writes a long email telling me about himself and what he liked about my profile instead of just my pic usually shows me this guy is possibly for real.
 IWontTellYou
Joined: 7/19/2006
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Posted: 10/22/2006 12:33:39 AM
I was watching "Fast Times at Ridgemont High" last week, and a line from that movie now occurs to me: (not perfectly quoted)"If you put out the 'vibe' to hundreds of women, of COURSE your going to get a response" "That's the whole idea".

Anyone who copy/pastes, isn't likely to meet the one person they jibe with, because that person is going to require a REAL response, not a form letter!
 eon001
Joined: 10/16/2006
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Posted: 10/22/2006 2:18:11 AM
Where just going around in circles here.
The generic email is like an ice breaker for me, a "hello how you doing fancy a chat."
Imagine your in a club. Its the difference between, me giving you a simple greeting, and me buying a lady a bottle of champagne and telling her my life story. only for her to say "not interested, thanks for the champagne"
Surely theres at least ONE lady that can understand, not ONE lady can relate?

If I get a reply, I know that the lady is interested and I will take my time and care with my responses, I only send out emails to ladies with profiles I think match mine, It's not as random as women might think.
 Spagooch
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 74
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Posted: 10/22/2006 5:41:26 AM
Amen Brother... This site is sort of an electronic icebreaker. First impressions are everything. I think being genuine and a little original is the first step to showing a little respect to the person you are hoping to make a connection with. If a guy can't take the time to be original, he should switch to Hallmark.
 loneshoreman
Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 75
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Posted: 10/26/2006 2:51:53 PM
Again, Amen! You don't have to write a lady a book but you should take a few minutes and say something original.
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