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 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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To be honest, no, I couldn't. I couldn't imagine sex being anythng more than an obligation to her, and it would not be enjoyable. Plus I imagine there would be a lot of unresolved issues that perhaps brought her in to the professionin the first place.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 1/2/2010 10:28:05 AM
i honestly think, you would have more of a risk of your woman cheating on you if she was your high school sweetheart then an ex prostitute, everybody deserves to be loved,and respected, everybody should get a second chance,a lot of women, even on this site are very clear about wanting a man that will provide financial stability, this is a given for most women, its also a priority in dating and landing a man, and with the devorce rate at over 50%, and the fact that now more women are cheating on there spouses then men( in north america 56% of married women cheat, only 36% of married men do),i think given these facts,i think an ex prostitute would be as good a choice as any, at least you will have a sexually experienced partner, and one that would love you very much for treating her with dignity and respect
 Nevet
Joined: 2/3/2009
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Posted: 1/2/2010 10:38:04 AM
Since the average life expectancy of an ex-prostitute is 55, I wouldn't take that chance. This is due in part to the wear and tear of her parts based on shelf-life standards.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
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Posted: 1/3/2010 9:32:32 AM
I would. They're no different than any other women, at the end of the day.

However, insulting my g/f has a way of bringing out the psychopathic anger in me. 99% of the time, you could knock me down with a feather. But put me in a mood like that, and Mengele looks rather tame in my eyes. Plus, for some reason, women seem to really get very catty and say nasty things about each other. So I'd only be worried that if I did, then I could be up for murder.
 taogca
Joined: 7/22/2007
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Posted: 1/3/2010 6:16:22 PM
How would a guy know you are a hooker in previous life if you dont tell him?

Seriously it doesnt matter unless you got some VD from practicing the profession.
But thats a VD issue, not a hooking issue.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Posted: 1/10/2010 3:26:39 AM
A Professional Prostitute is is a real human woman and yes, you take a relationship as real with her. What she does for her job is separate from a real relationship.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 11/8/2010 5:28:28 PM
After a full medical evaluation, criminal check, psych testing, background check, drug test, credit check, phone records disclosure for 12 months..... not a problem.... she could hold me to the same tests as well
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 11/8/2010 5:54:32 PM
I've been told, and I'm hoping to work in some actual field research...that ex prostitutes, (depending on their reason for leaving the profession) are actually the best type of woman to be with.

it also depends on her reasons for being with you.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 11/8/2010 10:00:34 PM

I'm not sure why that should be true. On the plus side, you'll know you're a secure individual, since no matter how good looking you are, what you're packing, etc., she will have seen it all. On the down side, a lot of escorts have problems with self-esteem and other issues. They aren't necessarily going to be any better in the sack than any other woman, nor more adventurous. My best friend is an escort and she's told me what she will and won't do in her personal (and professional) life and most of the women who post to the forums are less conservative than she is. She is certainly more conservative than what I would expect from a woman I would be willing to date.


that's the rub my friend.

not a girl you're rescuing, not a girl you're saving....but a girl who drops out to be with you.

you'll never know you aren't her best in bed and you'll be the guy that she decided she wants to be with and to make her life with.


I could divulge more, but I won't...lol
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 11/9/2010 7:24:13 PM

Having said that, how do we define prostitute? Anybody who has ever used sex to get something they wanted or needed? Anybody who ever, even just once, took money for sex? I think there's some wiggle room. You'd be surprised how many attractive women have worked discreetly for agencies who cater to high dollar customers, to help finance anything from their education to a nice vacation. Though most would deny it... Discretion demands denial.


yes of course- how does one define it?

most ladies would say that a prostitute is a street walker, rub and tug girl, call girl or the like.

but aren't the ladies who have a sugar daddy a prostitute as well? she is exchanging sex for money. its more of a slow play really.

I consider a prostitute to be a girl who has sex with a man soley for money. If she is only with him because of the money- then she is a prostitute...

Even a lady with a Sugar Daddy can fit into the "prostitute" title.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
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Posted: 12/5/2010 6:35:57 PM
Heck no i would not take prostitute EX or not. If she did hide it from me and i found out about it then out the door she goes. She also better move fast or that door would smack her on the back of the head, On the way out.
 The Saint 77
Joined: 6/22/2008
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Posted: 12/5/2010 10:01:19 PM
funny, the girl I just broke up with turned to escorting for a bit to get some cash. I found out she was using Craigslist and was looking at the other ads girls had up there. Lots of hotties you'd approach anywhere. I think alot of guys have dated ex hookers and had no idea. I know my ex's new guy doesn't.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 3/17/2011 6:38:51 AM
If she is done with the business (or at least the sex part), and she's been fully tested, and I know she's safe. Then yeah, sure.

I don't judge people on what they do. I've dated exotic dancers (ones who only dance, don't do "other things" for customers), one of the most important women in my life does porn (lesbian and solo work only).

Doesn't matter to me.
As long as I know that they aren't still doing things with random peopleā€¦ it's all good.
 sexyisback!
Joined: 9/14/2010
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Posted: 3/17/2011 1:45:08 PM

The girls you describe really aren't escorts. They're drug addicts who escort to support a drug habit.


LOL.. how are they "not really" escorts? if they do the job ?

maybe they are escorts who happen to have a drug addiction?

my answer would be "no" but that is probably unacceptable to many people, the "correct" PC answer is "yes, no problem"

probably don't have the right to decide for myself?

I know it's not the same but you seem to say that anything done for money is "good" i.e. a hitman would rather make $10,000/hour (or whatever they are paid) to kill someone rather than shovel shite for $10/hr. so it's all good?

he could also pay his kid's tuition, etc. I am sure with those earnings
 sexyisback!
Joined: 9/14/2010
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Posted: 3/17/2011 1:46:29 PM

The girls you describe really aren't escorts. They're drug addicts who escort to support a drug habit.


LOL.. how are they "not really" escorts? if they do the job ?

maybe they are escorts who happen to have a drug addiction?

my answer would be "no" but that is probably unacceptable to many people, the "correct" PC answer is "yes, no problem"

probably don't have the right to decide for myself?

I know it's not the same but you seem to say that anything done for money is "good" i.e. a hitman would rather make $10,000/hour (or whatever they are paid) to kill someone rather than shovel shite for $10/hr. so it's all good?

he could also pay his kid's tuition, etc. I am sure with those earnings.

I'm sure there are SOME women who have done this who are sane, cool, fine, etc. I just think the PROBABILITY is too high that they are likely psychologically fuct up, so why take unnecessary chances?
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 3/17/2011 2:55:20 PM

I've been dating a working escort now for 7 weeks, and boy has it been the ride of my life.

Mostly her drug addiction.

I've met a lot of her friends, and talked with a lot of girls who are escorts.

1. They do not like selling their body for money
2. 90% of the girls have to be on some type of drug(s) to turn a trick
3. They are caught up in a drug haze not knowing if they actually have any other options
4. They rationalize hookin' because they can work whenever they want and the money is good.
5. They want to feel free and not tied down
6. They're afraid to make decisions so they let the drugs make decisions for them.

Being a former opiate/heroin user I see through her lies quiet easily, and I don't fall for the persona she puts up.

For that she tells me she loves me, and shows me, but me being me I want more, and have high expectations for her. And I'm working on accepting who she is for who she is, and when she's ready to get help I'll be there.


so you date 1 prostitute and suddenly you know about why all the others do what they do?

interesting.

I dated an almost one for a couple months briefly after my separation...I was her first, yet she couldn't go thru with it, so I took her out that night and then we had fun for a little while.

no drugs, etc- just a girl who needed to pay her bills....
 romancemann
Joined: 3/12/2011
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Posted: 3/18/2011 11:58:10 AM
i would say most of them did it for HARD DRUGS. i don't want someone who has done crack or heroin.

if you're hard up you might say yes but i'm not hard up. i say no thanks.
 itechman63
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Posted: 3/21/2011 1:38:24 PM
I sure have no experience by not knowing any prostitutes... ex or current... so I can't make any assumptions of their circumstance.

I do believe in second chances and redemption.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2011 12:24:02 PM

I note that 'prostitute' is not listed as a synonym for escort... nor the reverse...
Nor is there any mention of 'sex' in the definition of 'escort'...
So shall we continue to use 'prostitute' or would you prefer continuing to sanitise it....

Note that if one wishes to argue their own opinion only, it's very likely others can find the a disagreeing definition:

Main Entry: call girl
Part of Speech: noun
Definition: female prostitute
Synonyms: B-girl, harlot, hooker, hustler, lady of the evening, prostitute, scarlet woman, streetwalker, whore, working girl

http://thesaurus.com/browse/prostitute?page=2&qsrc=121
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 4/7/2011 11:34:21 AM

Yeah, that's kinda my take on a woman who believes that abstinence is the high road, and has lived accordingly.

**whimper** It's a sad state of affairs, but the issues aren't mine. I can't find a man I want to be un-abstinent with. Screwed if we do (our numbers are too high) and apparently even screwed when we don't. There's just no winning.

~OT~ I recently had a conversation with a man that's been spending his time "servicing" others. It's quite interesting to hear the other side of this coin. Women are naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasty about his endeavors. I actually felt the need to apologize for my gender-peers and their vile/disgusting comments to him. Not much surprises me anymore, but the things he told me that came out of the fairer-sex's mouths? Boggles my mind. I don't know that I'd date him, but I certainly don't have a problem looking at him. Guess I could take care of my abstinence issues if I had $500.00 just laying around with nothing better to spend it on. **shrugs** JMO
 LoneScottishBoy
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Posted: 4/16/2013 8:10:31 AM
I'm thinking I would have to pass on this.
The hooker with a heart of gold thing is pretty mythological in my book.
 Beminetonight
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Posted: 4/18/2013 5:56:04 AM
I think it's a question of how long ago, and what she thinks about it now. As a middle-aged person, there's a lot of past life to look over, and maybe a few mistakes or things that "happened back then". If I met a woman now, who had been a prostitute years ago--whether she says "I must have been crazy" or "Awful awful awful experience, never again" or "It wasn't as bad as you might think, but I'm out of that game now"--I'm sure I wouldn't walk out on her.

I'm not sure if I'd want to hear her stories, or prefer it if she pretended to have forgotten everything! One thing I'm certain of, a prostitute gets to see men at their worst. So would she despise all men forever, or know what she's looking for?
 dishearteneddave
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Posted: 4/18/2013 1:54:41 PM

(Msg.#417. Deerdog1) In one word ...YES ..I know many women that have found themselves in the dire position where their sexual services was all the marketable assets they had between their and their children's starvation..I know One in particular and she is no more a prostitute at heart than any of the fine women on here ..however the fact remains that she did sell her body in order to feed her children after her no good husband was killed by the police during a robbery... Actually I admire her and women like her who used what assets they had and then pulled themselves up out of the gutter ...Still she considers herself an ex prostitute ..I consider her close to a saint .. dont judge till you have walked a mile in someones moccasins


Amen!!

Besides, I would think a relationship with an ex-prostitute would have a much greater chance of working out as she would know what qualities to look for in a man.
 ToughMudderRacer
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Posted: 4/28/2013 11:03:57 AM
the key thing here is "ex" so yes
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