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 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 252
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The key is to ditch the fairytale, and instead look for true and genuine magic. By that I don't mean a card rick or a disappearing act - I mean that certain feeling you get when life happens and makes you smile. The little things in life. Think about it like this - if you came across a huge gaping hole in the Earth, you'd know enough to steer clear because you saw that thing from a mile away. So you kept your distance and didn't end up hurt.

But while looking at that huge gaping hole, you missed the smaller holes along the way and subsequently rolled your ankle...twisted the other one...and sprained your finger when you fell on your face and smashed in all your teeth.


Sounds like that little thing put a hurtin' on you.



I used to believe in fairytales, and then I turned 8.


I know...right? All those lost teeth and the tooth fairy is a sham. :(
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 253
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 7/17/2015 3:24:05 PM

It's like a knight in shining armor
From a long time ago
Just in time I will save the day
Take you to my castle far away

I am the man who will fight for your honor
I'll be the hero that your dreaming of
We're gonna live for ever
Knowing together
That we did it all for the glory of love
 loveisatemple
Joined: 3/28/2014
Msg: 254
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 7/18/2015 2:41:35 AM
I was talking friendly to a man which happens fair enough times, people with whom I share common interests. I always get enthusiastic and tend to enjoy that process with people but got an uncomfortable feeling he might have thought I was interested in more than friends, which I wasn't. Sometimes the guy dates a lot and just wants another hookup, sometimes they are more ltr types and I couldn't help absorbing some of that " hopeless romantic" energy junk from them...sensing how lonely they are, looking for that half to complete them, etc, assuming everything will be normal after that "puzzle piece" is found.

I just do not think that way, anymore. I believe people can possibly be a great influence, possibly magical, though ime, they are usually looking for gain vs giving or just sharing.

They aren't all that concerned about YOU in all your realism, but what ideal projections they can create in their heads.

It is revisionist and makes one a minor character in some template. It is tiresome. And then they say I am a jaded wicked witchy poo for not liking fairy tales.

I have a habit of liking truth and authentically knowing a person, stripped of any illusions. That is really more of a compliment.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 255
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/20/2015 4:54:25 AM
Two people meeting and having an intense connection should never have been considered a fairytale in the first place. Not at any age. It's not complicated or difficult, in fact at the start it's no more difficult than falling off a log.

This is more true for me the older I got. At a young age many of us don't appreciate the value of that deep sort of connection.

It's only a fairytale to expect never to have any disagreements with your mate.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 256
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/20/2015 6:53:49 AM
The word "fairytale" makes me sick.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 257
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/20/2015 7:09:04 AM

This is more true for me the older I got. At a young age many of us don't appreciate the value of that deep sort of connection.


I completely understand this statement. I am right now living that fairytale relationship with an awesome woman. But it took a life time to get me there. I have matured, I have changed, I have evolved into being a better partner. And so has she.

So I do believe is very possible.
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 258
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Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/20/2015 9:02:53 AM
Don't know much about fairy tales, but one girl once told me she couldn't meet up because she was delivering porridge to grandma!
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 259
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/20/2015 11:21:50 AM

Don't know much about fairy tales, but one girl once told me she couldn't meet up because she was delivering porridge to grandma!


And she met with a big bad wolf.
Well, you know you can just make a deal with the big bad wolf so the bad wolf won't bite no more.
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 260
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/21/2015 2:31:56 PM

Don't know much about fairy tales

Says the man who has a pic with a Disney princess.



Sorry. I couldn't resist.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 261
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/21/2015 6:51:55 PM
Something I'm sincerely curious about that maybe someone can explain is - where do people get the idea that fairy tale relationship means never fighting or disagreeing?

It just doesn't make sense to me from any direction I think about it.

For example, anyone who's read Grimm's or Anderson Fairy Tales knows "fairy tale" does not mean happy happy joy joy. I grew up with Disney like the rest of Americans my age range but do people actually think Cinderella, Snow White, Mary Poppins, etc are REAL?

And anyone who has witnessed a long, happy, successful marriage knows that disagreements are part of the deal. The key to it being a long and happy marriage is the ability of the people to work through those disagreements.
 Witnesstomythoughts
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 262
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/21/2015 7:09:02 PM

And anyone who has witnessed a long, happy, successful marriage knows that disagreements are part of the deal. The key to it being a long and happy marriage is the ability of the people to work through those disagreements.


[eye roll }

Like...OMG...you're so like....old school...if it isn't like .... perfact then , like OMG....its so like....over !
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 263
Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/21/2015 7:17:39 PM
^^^^^

Lol.


Is the fairytale impossible after 30?


To hear tell in these forums about the only thing that's possible at any time is a black and white version of King Kong vs Gozilla. :/
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