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 JeepRennie
Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 126
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Maybe the "girls" the OP was speaking of just didn't like/want it with him?? And he assumed it was a general thing?? Who knows. We all have our own perspective on things.
 KatzzMeow
Joined: 12/3/2005
Msg: 127
why don't girls like sex as much as guys?
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:38:09 PM
Sex - get her done!!

Making Love - taking your time to explore each other's body, touching, kissing,caressing.

D*am ok turn down the heat in here guys it's getting a little warm in here, ohh wait I'm a lady and not suppose to be thinking like that right.

Screwed I say...haha

stilldreaming - Care to refresh my memory on how it's done?
 stilldreaming45
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 128
why don't girls like sex as much as guys?
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:41:54 PM
Sure....BOY'S..have sex ..MEN..make love Enuf said Katzz...(been awhile for you hasn't it?? )
 KatzzMeow
Joined: 12/3/2005
Msg: 129
why don't girls like sex as much as guys?
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:50:41 PM
Hmmm that is what I am doing wrong, will the MEN please stand up!! (that may have been the wrong choice of words..lol)

Oh wait before you do though don't believe what the OP wrote cause it is so far from the truth. Why do you think they make so many toys for us ladies, to entertain you guys? I don't think so. HEHE

Oh hey I know the solution, have a pump implant then you guys won't have to worry about all the blood going to the wrong head...giggling
 IdiotsAbound
Joined: 5/18/2005
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Posted: 1/7/2007 8:20:43 PM

Oh wait before you do though don't believe what the OP wrote cause it is so far from the truth. Why do you think they make so many toys for us ladies, to entertain you guys? I don't think so. HEHE


Gee, I always thought those toys were used a big hints for us guys. Either we perform or they take our place, lol.

As for the OP's post, the ladies love sex just as much as men. They're just way more discriminating than us guys are.
 raevyn32
Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 131
why don't girls like sex as much as guys?
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:13:15 AM
I agree, women definitely like sex just as much as men do.

But I'm with someone else on this thread who believes it's the quality of the sex, not the quantity. If all you want is sex, and you're not interested in devoting some of your time to establishing the emotional needs of your partners, they might be more likely to not want it. I know there's far more to what a woman wants/needs then just sex, they need to feel loved in other ways as well when in a LTR. If you do small things for her(write her a note just cause, or something like that) then the ones who aren't as interested or so it seems, might be more responsive. Just my opinion, but ya, women definitely like sex too!
 Soul_Mates
Joined: 1/2/2006
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Posted: 1/8/2007 10:17:11 AM
This topic kills me -- I've only dated one man in my life (up to this point) who could consistently keep up with my sex drive.

However, men - if you want more sex -- quality does factor into it. If I am dating someone who is not into foreplay, I can deal with that here and there but a woman appreciates a little warm up to get things flowing if you know what I mean.

And raevyn made a really good point above...
 Pauly54321
Joined: 8/31/2006
Msg: 133
why don't girls like sex as much as guys?
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:50:50 AM
Wait a minute Wait just a minute. Why is it we have to do chores to get numnums's hmmmm eh. Maybe the woman should get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich and run a bath and light candles for me then maybe ya just maybe she'll get some
 pitbullnoel
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 134
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Posted: 1/8/2007 11:22:40 AM
depends on the person, but anything short of a medical reason for low sex drive I would say women want sex just as much if not more than men, its just they are not always as obvious about it as men are (generally speaking, some are very obvious).

my ex had a low sex drive the last couple years due to medication she was taking, sex is important in a relationship but if you love someone you will accept that you cant always have sex as often as you would like.

my current girlfriend's sex drive is through the roof, I have a healthy sex drive myself so its great, but she wears me out sometimes (not that I am complaining lol)

she is 6 years younger than me (23) and they say women dont hit their sexual prime until much later. When that time comes its going to be scary, although I dont need viagra for a medical reason I just might have to invest in some just to keep up with her (no pun intended lol)

if the women you are talkign about dont have a high sex drive then either they are not into you or they might have some medical reason for a low sex drive and should maybe see a doctor and look into it
 WayTooNiceGirl
Joined: 12/6/2006
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Posted: 1/9/2007 6:40:17 AM
I find it interesting that almost without fail, the women posting to this thread all claim to have high sex drives, and the males are generally alluding to never having had this problem (of women not wanting much sex with them).

It just doesn't reflect what I know of the real world. Me, I posted that SOME GIRLS like sex as much/often as men. I know that MANY women don't. I know many women for whom it's almost a "chore", that they dread but they know they have to give up at least occasionally to their husbands.

So, I'm gonna try to give a rational answer to the original question...why don't (some) girls like sex as much as guys -

- not stimulated by the relationship. After the first 6 months (pornfest) people get comfortable, the novelty has worn off, the parties may be taking each other for granted and also be less worried about the r'ship ending.

- routine/life - people I know who have kids don't have the time/energy for the same sex life they had before kids, work, etc (PRIORITIZE sex!!)

- not stimulated by the partner. Could be psychologically or sexually. I've been with guys who are stunningly beautiful, but sex is "meh" - not that they are "bad" in bed, but maybe just unimaginative, very conservative/uninventive, too passive (biggy) or too naturally tame for me. Then, I'm not a believer in that "boys have sex, men make love" idea - "having sex" IMO is way underrated - making love can be great but IMO a good man knows how to "have sex" RIGHT - to me this is an essential ingredient of a good sex life. MENTAL stimulation is very important for many of us, something unfortunately some people just don't 'get'.

- emotional trauma - it's actually ridiculous how many women have been raped/molested, or grew up in abusive/dysfunctional homes

- repression - again crazy how many women have had it drilled into their heads that sex is dirty, wrong, disgusting...to REPRESS REPRESS REPRESS their sexuality...def much moreso than men...so they feel guilt about expressing preferences, desires, perhaps even just enjoyment. Or they just may have a conservative personality and have difficulty going after what they want. So, they are destined to take what they can get which may or may not be what they want/need.

- physiological/hormonal - any women who's ovulated knows the power of hormones, LOL! Progesterone, estrogen, HCG, LH, FSH all effect mood, sleep, appetite, drives, etc

- physical attraction - men listen up! Farting is NOT a turn-on, hair CAN be removed from backs, and when you smell good you cannot be ignored...and most important - HYGIENE, HYGIENE, HYGIENE...

- medication - sign of the times, depression/anxiety related disorders are so prevalent these days, and many anti-depressants, antipsychotics, etc have a distinct side effect of sexual disturbances.

- age - def true what they say about sex drive increasing past 30 for some women (!!!!!!) Great for guys who like maturity - not so great for those who want a 20-year-old. (nb - this is a TENDENCY not an across-the-board generalization)

Even though I have a crazy drive I have had periods where I have little to no desire, thus legit thought as to possible reasons why and the above speculations. Funny, I realize now my shy/conservative personality and VERY conservative upbringing has I think been integral, and it hasn't been long since I've become comfortable getting to know who I am and seeking out what I want...in the past there were times I could've been someone a partner could've asked this question about, which is just crazy since I was the same freak then I am now. Just undercover.

Me, I don't give any credence to talking a good game, because as we see above, we can all do that...I thiprefer to reserve judgement and see for myself...give me a guy who knows what he's doing AND what I want, and is a compliment to me, and I WILL be hot for him for a long time...and guys, girls talk too - see if she's still high drive after a year...talk about sex at the start and get an idea of whether it's going to be as priority down the road as it is now...(big hint - if you can get info on prev r'ships, valuable info - good predictor of future behavior is past behavior).

There's such a chemistry element too, what makes me crazy might repel someone else, and someone else's "thing" may have zero appeal to me. I do believe that a good sex life IS important enough to nurture and that it's one of the strongest ties that binds in a healthy sexual/romantic relationship. Even a marriage.
 Lady_hpm
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 136
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Posted: 1/9/2007 8:35:35 AM
^^^^^^^^^
Great Post, You're Right ......
as for HYGIENE, HYGIENE, HYGIENE... u took the words right out of my mouth some guys forget that first day u started dating how good you looked, smelled, i often wonder why men will take the time to look and smell good in the beginning, and ppl no matter what u need ur teeth please brush them, if you cant brush the scum off ur teeth plz dont expect the ladies to wanna have sex with ya at all thats just gross, get some false ones if u have to sorry ppl just had to say it
 ShakinNotStirred
Joined: 4/11/2006
Msg: 137
why don't girls like sex as much as guys?
Posted: 1/9/2007 9:27:32 AM

is it because guys have a higher sex drive?


Some guys do have a higher sex drive - the problem is this - they don't know how to start the engine, steer in the right direction, inflate the tires, change the oil, accelerate slowly, or use the right fuel. When and if they learn the basics, the driving becomes so much easier and mutually enjoyable.
 Lady_hpm
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 138
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:05:55 AM
^^^^^^^ i thought we were talking about sex ...lol
 foundmyfishee
Joined: 12/30/2006
Msg: 139
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:07:04 AM
How come girls don't like sex as much as guys?????????!!!!!

i have enough sex drive for an army but only my one soldier gets MY attention....
 Lady_hpm
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 140
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:09:36 AM
humm army men ... isnt that like a grunt hunt ... oops my bad ok i just need one that wants sex to and not tell me they r tired yes sooooooooo me to but i'm still horny

sorry biggydeeks ur way out of my age range

VVVVVVVV
 biggydeeks
Joined: 2/15/2006
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:12:40 AM
hey if all these girls like sex, hit me up a message and we'll talk rofl
 Ashley Danielle...
Joined: 9/11/2006
Msg: 142
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:12:58 AM
Girls want less sex????

Oook.....WRONG...I definitly want more sex then most of the guys Ive been with can handle......I love it and cant get enough......Maybe you need to learn a few things OP....you may just not be doin it right.....
 pearl13
Joined: 3/12/2006
Msg: 143
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:22:18 AM
QUESTION:

Wait a minute Wait just a minute. Why is it we have to do chores to get numnums's hmmmm eh. Maybe the woman should get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich and run a bath and light candles for me then maybe ya just maybe she'll get some



ANSWER:

not stimulated by the partner. Could be psychologically or sexually........... MENTAL stimulation is very important for many of us, something unfortunately some people just don't 'get'.


SO... is it "a chore" to help out?.... or is it helping out so that she has the energy for sex?... helping someone out is synonymous with showing you care..... actions speak louder than words maybe?

 biggydeeks
Joined: 2/15/2006
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:35:01 AM
^^^^^ this persons words couldnt b any more tru, i salute u
 Lady_hpm
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 145
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Posted: 1/9/2007 10:42:54 AM
hummmmmm torture y cant ppl just want sex and not have to earn it or make it a chore .. sex is sex romance is romance with some one u really want to be with y do some ppl have to make a big deal of just wanting to feel good sexualy
 WayTooNiceGirl
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Posted: 1/9/2007 12:05:42 PM

hey if all these girls like sex, hit me up a message and we'll talk rofl


And THIS is why some men have to ask why they aren't getting any.
 Danteslnferno
Joined: 12/12/2005
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Posted: 1/9/2007 12:17:41 PM
Why aren't they getting any???

This is a ridiculous question. Another generalization from the OP. The question probably should have read, why don't women like sex with ME as much as I would want to have sex with THEM???? along with the title the post should be accented with sniffles and cries and a sucky whiney voice of the OP wondering why he can't meet women who seem as interested in having sex with him as he is with them.

Here you go Shirlock. Everyone has a different sex drive. Some are very uninterested in sex, others are nympho's, and most fall somewhere in between. Even the most timid of sexual drives explodes into high gear when the person meets someone who is sexually attractive to them.

So pullease with the gender distinctions. I know women who have such high sex drives they would RUIN any man physically because they would wear them out. I know men who proclaim to have a high sex drive but in private, they admit they aren't as interested as they once were in sex. I also know the opposite as well. Men in their 60's who are constantly horny, and women in their sexual primes uninterested in sexual activities. It isn't a gender issue it's a personal issue.
 foundmyfishee
Joined: 12/30/2006
Msg: 148
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:21:24 PM
grunt hunt, I have no idea what that means but that is FUNNY!!!!
 WayTooNiceGirl
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:40:45 PM

SO... is it "a chore" to help out?.... or is it helping out so that she has the energy for sex?... helping someone out is synonymous with showing you care..... actions speak louder than words maybe?


re post 143:

That's actually not what I meant - by mental stimulation I was referring to the huge portion of sex that is mental as opposed to physical...specifically - TALK...DYNAMICS...adventure...understanding your partner...sexiness in day to day life...

This is also what I meant responding to dude who said "hey all these girls who like sex, hit me up!" Now how many women here reacted like this: "oh wow! A young yoot who is inviting any horney women to approach him for sex! What are the chances - woohoo, party!" and how many went "ya right I'm all over that, young 'un", rolled their eyes and made a mental note to only read future posts from dude if they feel like hating on men. :P

This is what's happening when dudes who read my forum posts, incessantly chime me on MSN/POF IM, and try desperately to get me talking about sex...cuz I'm an admitted freak...they have no clue that I may be just that, but that doesn't mean I have any desire to freak with them, or that I'm gonna talk dirty to them or tell them about my sex life or what I like in bed, while they keep their credit card in their wallet and their left hand on the keyboard. Any sexually together dude will realize that any together and self-respecting woman - freak or not - is DISCRIMINATING, and her sexual activity is reserved for behind closed doors (figuratively, so as not to exclude those who like an audience LOL) and is shared with those she chooses to share with. And only those. Freak, high sex drive, or a bit crazy sexually speaking are completely different and unrelated traits to sluttiness or naivety (on the contrary I'd say that they may actually be correlated with above average intelligence. And, that when they try to get their rocks off via people like me we know EXACTLY what's going on.). BAD mental game there.

(I digress, this has been an over-the-top issue lately for me - now nicely vented.) :P

I suppose the issue in question, the whole 'foreplay begins when the laundry needs to be folded' idea, could be applicable but I woulda lumped it in the first 2 points before that one...I dunno, maybe that's why the idea of marriage isn't all that appealing to me, cuz the trend I've seen among married friends and acquaintances has been lots of husbands being not allowed to do xyz by their wives; unhappy wives spending all day raising kids and keeping homes and having no support/company when husband comes home; no sex life together but often, with others; wives betching and nagging and husbands tuning out and ignoring; ongoing winless battles about things like dishes, laundry, not listening, not shutting up, etc etc etc. I've been affected I guess by hearing too many coworkers married for say 5+ yrs, talk about their spouses like a ball and chain and PITA, not a best friend, partner, company, lover, sexy, etc...that is NOT what I want. IF I do end up married it would only be with someone who like me, wants an equal, respectful relationship, where you are each other's best friend and unwavering support. Where it never ends up in couples counselling discussions about how he needs to listen more and help around the house and she needs to nag less and learn to let him have space - cuz neither of you would EVER let it get to that or even head in that direction. Men and women ARE different, no doubt - but my best relationships have been where we love our differences and it actually draws us closer, and where there is just an inherent respect for each other which comes out in every area, including sex. I don't want to be unhappy with his not folding the laundry without being asked...I want to have hot sex on the dryer then fold it together LOL - after 10 yrs of marriage to boot. :P

Holy crap, sorry folks for a long rambling post - guess this is what happens when I'm trying to get out of catching up on housecleaning, LOL. :P
 Danteslnferno
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Posted: 1/10/2007 6:27:48 AM
Yeeeaaaaaaaaaa now there's a post worth applauding!!!! Way to go waytoonice!!!!

The sexiness of day to day life. I love that line. It's in the little things. The nibbling on her neck as you BOTH fold the laundry, the giggling and teasing as she watches you vacuum the house while she dusts, the spontaneous combustion into a wet writhing mass of passion as you wash the dishes together in the kitchen, the simplest of looks that signifies the mischeif being planned in your partners mind as you eat breakfast/lunch/dinner, the tenderness of sharing that snack you just made with the one you love. Yeah that's what it's about. That is what the passion and sensuality of a relationship should be about after years of being together. To never lose that spark. Yea I agree with you waytoo!!! Thank you for your post.
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