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 Jean Bean
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 21
HapinessPage 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
I hope that's irony there Thorn! LOL

Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 22
Posted: 1/9/2007 12:20:50 PM
I think not only should we be happy with ourselves and grateful for having the bare necessities in life (a job, shelter, food, and family and friends) but I believe that who you attract is a direct result of your attitude and contentment (or lack of it).

If you're looking for someone to fill a void, then you can be taken advantage of by someone who sees that in you. If you are balanced, content, at peace and enjoy life no matter what - and then stay open to something if it happens, then you'll attract people who recognize that in you and are drawn to it.
 Jean Bean
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 23
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:58:30 PM
Wow everybody. I haven't been on POF for quite some time. But today, a friend of mine was asking some questions about hapiness, so I directed them to this post because i remembered there were so many great responses!!

In the meantime, I had a reread through everything. And I know I am repeating myself here...but kudos to all of you. I really appreciate the growth and learning we can gain simple from just listening to each other's responses on things, which often comes from our own experiences.

Thanks again for all of your insights....and Alifeofserenity...I am glad I could be an inspiration to you

Take care all and may you continue to be HAPPY

Jean Bean
 Jean Bean
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 24
Posted: 6/19/2007 3:15:00 PM
Let me rephrase for I am glad that I was able to start a post, which became an inspiration to you because of all the wonderful responses. :)

There now I took the foot out of my mouth....because I sounded a little conceeded there a second ago...

Chow all...looking forward to more intruiging responses.

Jean Bean
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 25
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Posted: 7/18/2009 9:13:14 AM
Because I can stand me and my own company for only so long-! Then I require additional social stimulation.

We humans are social creatures. We need a sounding board for our thoughts, feelings and desires. We need to feel as though whatever we're thinking and feeling is "normal". We have a need to "belong" to something greater than ourselves, fit in, be part of a couple, a "team".

But, I agree, we've got to find some comfort in our own skin, because, even in a relationship, we're still stuck in that black void of ourselves, so we better learn to enjoy our oneness, our individuality, our solitude too.
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 26
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Posted: 7/18/2009 10:50:37 AM
Because many of the moments when we are happiest are associated with people. When something awesome happens in my life, my first reaction is to tell someone about it, and we re-experience it through sharing.

The moments I have had the greatest happiness were when I was genuinely in the moment; totally absorbed with whatever it was.
 Jean Bean
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 27
Posted: 8/6/2009 10:46:53 AM
Hey lovemygirlie. I as well agree with you. Glad people are still looking at this post. I started it so long's been great to see all the though provoking responses.

What I get from your message too is this idea of wants versus needs. We often want what we don't need and need what we often don't want. When we discover what we really need to be fulfilled I think is when true happiness can begin.

Thanks for sharing.

Jean Bean
Joined: 7/24/2009
Msg: 28
Posted: 10/16/2009 10:43:17 PM
I think true happiness comes from, first understanding the nature of the world we live in, its complexities and even though not necessarily understanding the whole purpose of it, just having an idea. The second important ingredient of happiness, is, having understood the world we live in, to find the role that we play as individuals (this could also be an abstraction). Happiness comes from a sense of 'security' and this to me is the realest sense of security. Of course there are other pseudo forms of happiness that can be derived from abberations of the fundamental paradigm of what it means to be alive - some people construct life as accumulating material possessions and to such an abstraction, happiness would entail being able to have financial and material security etc etc.
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