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 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
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I don't have a picture on my profile because I live in a small town, and anyone who knows or recognizes me would spot me immediately. I'm not so much ashamed of being on a dating site as I am of having my personal business so out in the open. I sort of agree with the notion that people should be meeting based on personality and not looks. I also don't happen to like my own looks, so I rarely have pictures taken. I was as honest as possible in my profile, though. I am overweight. I have 40 pounds to lose. I also am well muscled, so I'm not quite as "fat" as that would lead a person to believe. But mainly, I don't want to be as conspicuous as having my picture on full display. I think should I meet someone, a picture would eventually be involved. I actually signed up for this site after seeing several people I recognize. My mechanic and a tight pants wearing "kid" from town are both on here. I think it odd that so many people would NOT contact one of us pictureless types, because people who are only looking for those they're attracted to are usually the ones whining about how they can't find any decent "fill in the blanks". It's because you're shallow, miss/mr. I agree that there has to be some attraction involved in relationships, but when you're choosing someone off the bat based purely on their supposed pictures, you kind of get what you asked for. Which is usually disappointment. I also noticed most of the guys I pulled up to look at their pictures, seem to have several of different people. A guy with several pictures suddenly looks massively different in nearly all of them. How is that possible? I also know personally of someone who posted a picture of herself from high school, and the guy didn't even stop his car at the arranged meeting place. So, lying gets you nowhere. And, they have a whole TV show based on people pretending to be someone they aren't. Pictures are almost useless if you're actually looking for something real. If you're looking for cheap sex, I see plenty of people on (Guy's name)-list, some of whom are proudly trying to cheat on their wives.
 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/24/2017 8:35:32 PM
The two who fell in love without pictures is such a beautiful story! I actually teared up. How lovely.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 2717
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:05:51 PM
Nothing at all wrong with not having pics showing. I have met a "bunch" of women on this site with no pics posted because 1) they wrote to me, 2) had well written profiles AND 3) were a good match per our profiles. Some described their "looks" very well in their profile. MOST sent me a pic when I replied even though I never asked or even hinted for one. ALL of the "pictureless" ones that I met were "hot". I met at least a couple w/o even a phone call and/or a pic based simply on the quality of her profile and a couple of emails.

BUTTTTTTTTTTT.....OLD IS A COMPETITION. When competing against the majority, (who WILL have pics up) the odds of success go from extremely slim to "near impossible". It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all even if many of the pics people use are of poor quality for numerous reasons.
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 6/6/2016
Msg: 2718
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:06:11 PM
A lot of people use the internet as recreation and are not interested in actually meeting in person. I don't think it's an unreasonable expectation to want to know what someone looks like before you meet them. I mean, they're going to find out eventually, right?

I can spend days or months talking to you and then finally get a picture to find out I am not physically attracted to you. No, thanks. I just refuse to message or talk to anybody with no profile pic.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 2719
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Posted: 4/25/2017 11:08:21 AM
Switch this ......



It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all even if many of the pics people use are of poor quality for numerous reasons.


To this:

"It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all if many of the people are of poor quality for numerous reasons. "

.....and now we're talking.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 2720
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Posted: 4/25/2017 11:38:22 AM
if someone lives/works in a community so small, they will be recognized here, then maybe its safe to say such a small fishbowl has few singles inside it. Thus, other singles in that community have little choice but to try out the person with no photograph, should they want to date locally. However, if the fear is, "people will recognize me, what will they say?", I would also assume that during the dating process, there is also the opportunity that "people will see" and gossip. and certainly after the breakup, there is that possibility.
 MidWestAussie
Joined: 4/29/2017
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Posted: 5/12/2017 6:04:13 AM

"It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all if many of the people are of poor quality for numerous reasons. "


"It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all if the person is female."

Fixed.
 flamingjune1960
Joined: 6/24/2014
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Posted: 5/14/2017 3:13:28 PM
Picture or no picture, does it matter? Most people don't believe the pictures that are posted anyway. If there is one thing I have learned from this venue, it is not to trust anyone. It really doesn't matter how many pictures you post if people don't think you are for real.
I had a guy send me a message a couple days ago that said "Do you have any more pictures?" No hello, how are you, nice smile. Oddly enough, he had no pictures posted at all. Go figure. I just told him nope, I weigh 350 pounds and I'm hoping my sparkling personality will drive you wild with desire...
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 5/14/2017 4:41:32 PM

Picture or no picture, does it matter?

Yes.

Most people don't believe the pictures that are posted anyway.

I think that's a pretty false statement. Otherwise folks wouldn't be frustrated or heartbroken upon meeting someone who looked very different than their pic(s). Certainly there are some very paranoid people out there due to bad experiences, but there's also some so naive that if you had a picture of a cat, they'd think a cat's Really talking to them (lol)... but most people are in the middle. It varies profile to profile, the believability is dependent on the # of pictures shown and how they're taken. I've met more than my fair share of gals online, and I pretty much know when one's pretty questionable, or pretty solid.

Of course pictures matter. A very high % of profiles that have numerous pictures at different angles of high quality -- tend to be pretty accurate. As long as you go with the least-best looking one as what they'll look like in person when it's a solidly laid out one -- you'll only get scarce surprises.
 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
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Posted: 6/5/2017 11:15:02 PM

lives/works in a community so small
not sure if this is in response to what I wrote, but I'm not looking locally. There are no available men here, I'm mainly looking about 30 miles away, in the nearest "real" city.
 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
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Posted: 6/5/2017 11:47:15 PM
So, it looks as though half of us are all for it, and half of us think it's a terrible idea. I don't personally have my picture up because I don't want to drive the fellas crazy seeing how ridiculously gorgeous I am. To encapsulate 115 pages of responses, it's both shallow to contact people based on their looks, and it's "suspicious" to not let us all see what you look like. Given that there are a frillion people on here, I don't see what the problem is. If you don't like it, leave us picture-less types alone. Given that one person apparently can do a stunning imitation of looking like several different people, it's proof that the pictures are virtually worthless, anyway. Most people with a normal amount of humbleness are our own worst critics. Just because we don't personally like our looks doesn't mean other people agree with that assessment. It's not a lack of self worth. Unless you think the shell you're walking around in is "you". I don't happen to think it is. I've been outside of mine at least twice as proof that we aren't our bodies. Sorry to get all metaphysical on your asses.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 6/6/2017 8:32:53 AM
it could be argued that we only think its shallow to contact people based on their looks...when its other people not contacting us based on OUR looks :)
 Blueyes4you
Joined: 11/8/2011
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Posted: 6/9/2017 7:46:20 PM
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 Nestaron
Joined: 3/22/2016
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Posted: 6/9/2017 8:46:03 PM
Just do what I do imagine every women is this one... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1l0xpkk0yaQ
 DarkjujuEmpath
Joined: 6/22/2016
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Posted: 8/29/2017 9:09:30 AM
AAAH No. Most of the men who do not have a picture would not contact women without a picture or they are married. I hate hunting down your wife to show her the emails you sent me.

I am in the forum because I have been stuck in the house since Thursday because the storm. I am dying here from boredom.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 8/30/2017 1:16:19 PM


I am in the forum because I have been stuck in the house since Thursday because the storm. I am dying here from boredom.


She posted a bunch over the last few days, and then disappeared? Maybe the flood waters got her? No, her profile would still show, she must have taken it down.

I don’t know why she was stuck in the house since Thursday. It didn’t start raining in Houston until late Friday night. I worked all day Friday in downtown Houston, and went to the gym after work.

Saturday night, I went out dancing with my Meetup group. Which probably wasn’t very wise, I did have to deal with some high water getting home. But it has been a long boring spell here in Houston, I’ll grant you that. Unless of course you are one of those who got flooded, in which case it has been TOO exciting, in a very negative way.

Back on topic, many years ago I tried meeting a few women with no picture. My experiences were 100% negative, so I quit doing that. I will answer and talk online, but I will not meet until I see pictures.
 hey_suze
Joined: 8/28/2017
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Posted: 4/8/2018 4:59:39 AM
I won’t even chat without a picture
I have to have some physical attraction to want someone, and would find it too awkward to chat, they then send a pic and you say..oh sorry, I’m afraid you do nothing for me...how awful would that be for both of us 😢
 I_Am_Con_S_Tip_ated
Joined: 4/4/2018
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Posted: 4/8/2018 8:54:55 AM
I send a picture and get a reply every time. It usually is something like this:

"Oh great butt wipe, thanks for your mug shot, I just vomited up my entire dinner looking at it."

The Bulimics are much kinder and appreciative, however.
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
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Posted: 4/8/2018 10:12:42 AM
I met both my (ex)wives through ads they had placed with no photo. My first wife had a penpal ad in Kerrang Magazine in 1987(she lived in Japan) and my 2nd wife I met in 2002 through an ad she had placed in Yahoo Personals.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 4/8/2018 11:23:45 AM

hey_suze
I won’t even chat without a picture
I have to have some physical attraction to want someone, and would find it too awkward to chat, they then send a pic and you say..oh sorry, I’m afraid you do nothing for me...how awful would that be for both of us 😢

I don't usually approach women who do not have a picture posted. But over the years a number of women with no picture have contacted me. If I don't see anything horrible in their profile, I will reply and converse with them. I will not meet before seeing a picture, and if the picture is that bad, I just say, "Sorry, we are not a match."

It was they who choose to go online without a picture, and they just have to take the consequences of their own actions. Sorry, just how it is here in the real world.
 I_Am_Con_S_Tip_ated
Joined: 4/4/2018
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Posted: 4/8/2018 12:19:56 PM
How many people here have talked with someone on line, seen their photos and found them very attractive/to their liking, then met them in person and the person looks nothing like their photo(s), or the pic was of them 50 pounds and 10 years ago (not to be rude, but I went through this) ?

It happened to me not too long ago - and now I always feel compelled to ask anyone I am going to talk to if their pic is real or recent.

Looks are not the most important draw for me, but I do feel I have the right to know if I am being jerked around or not. I was really freaked out by that and I really do not like the thought of it happening again...any similar stories or opinions??

I'd love those who are doing it to admit to it as well...because I'd love to know why you'd do that...and please don't say that the photo from 1998 is the most recent photo on line you have.


Sorry, just how it is here in the real world.


You forgot to add: in your experience(s) or in your world.
 fullmoonguy2
Joined: 6/14/2017
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Posted: 4/9/2018 6:34:42 PM

How many people here have talked with someone on line, seen their photos and found them very attractive/to their liking, then met them in person and the person looks nothing like their photo(s), or the pic was of them 50 pounds and 10 years ago


I LOVE those stories !

"Foolproof" formulas that aren't so foolproof after all.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 2737
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Posted: 4/10/2018 5:44:54 AM
^^^That's why it's best to meet in person sooner rather than later-instead of playing text tag for eons, and building up a fantasy image of the person hiding behind a screen. The first meet doesn't have to be a grandiose event. Spending 20 minutes or half an hour meeting face-to-face will tell you more about a person than exchanging a zillion texts with a stranger.
 Tech30
Joined: 8/11/2017
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Posted: 4/10/2018 7:38:41 AM
True, I dont understand why some people text back and forth for weeks without meeting.
I tend to try to meet within a week. Then we can find out if we actually click and not waste a ton of time.
 KPOL52
Joined: 3/14/2018
Msg: 2739
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Posted: 4/13/2018 10:24:45 PM
Yea OK. This thread was started in 05.

So what. That's NOT why It has almost 3K responses. A couple or 3 of those are mine over the years.

Both quality of pics as well as lack of pics are w/o question the biggest downfall of people utilizing OLD.

This includes people on BOTH sides of the pic fence.

People expecting "good" results who have no pictures or nothing but crummy ones.

And the ones on the other side of the fence, those folks one million percent sure ANYONE on an OLD site w/o pics SHOWING is positively absolutely a scumbag or criminal of some sort. Up to no good.

Forum history shows that folks with this mindset ^^^ invariably have very poor "luck" with their "meets" if they have any at all.
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