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 BlasphemousBombshell
Joined: 9/27/2016
Msg: 2702
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My first thought when i see no picture or a main picture which does not show who the person is: "someone is hiding because they have a significant other". I have told this to some who wrote me, they try to argue that's not the case but its a wasted effort. Most women know plenty of men who lie about their status so we aren't about to fall for the BS, its an insult to the intelligence when they even try.
 halforhalfnot
Joined: 9/13/2016
Msg: 2703
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/20/2016 8:32:48 AM
There are legitimate reasons to not have a picture up. A local elected official was on here and didn't want to be recognized. Professionals who work with kids whose mothers have profiles up don't really want to deal with the real life approaches. I've seen women who are clear about sexual kinks in their profile and don't really want to advertise that to anyone who might see it and recognize them in real life.

The people that have pictureless profiles know they'll have less success, but don't want to surrender privacy.

On a funnier note, I did see a profile from a woman who was looking for a little something on the side. She had a partial photo of upper face only. But her eyes, freckles and red hair were unique enough that anyone who knew her could recognize her from that.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 2704
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/20/2016 9:08:39 AM

My first thought when i see no picture or a main picture which does not show who the person is: "someone is hiding because they have a significant other".


BB, food for thought on this one. If that truly is your "first thought", you may wanna rethink a bit. There are "legitmate" reasons for no pics, even if those reasons are in that user's head. If you can "think" what you do, those users should be allowed to the same, correct?
 BlasphemousBombshell
Joined: 9/27/2016
Msg: 2705
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/20/2016 1:37:04 PM
I don't buy the reasons, I'm a former educator with politician family members. There's no shame in being single and dating if you have a job working with children or are a noticable municipal figure. And if kinks were so important to one's dating life they should take it to fetlife or adult friend finder. I see PLENTY of educators on here and other people who have a public profile in my town.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 2706
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/20/2016 1:45:24 PM
^^^ Just pointing out it isn't really a problem you would question the profile without pics.

The problem I would have is that you already have the answer .
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 2707
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/20/2016 2:23:10 PM
I have to agree that running into clients on here would be super creepy.
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 2708
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/21/2016 8:39:21 AM
I have not ran in to any customers (I'm in sales), on here, that I know of. However I have seen: my ex husband, a friend of my cousin (who I made out with one time 20 years ago), an past coworker, my best friends ex husband, the car salesman that sold me my car and a friend from the local dog park.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 2709
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/21/2016 7:41:31 PM

There are legitimate reasons to not have a picture up.


A concept lost on the masses.


don't want to surrender privacy.


I wouldn't be surprised to see the word "privacy" removed from dictionaries, since people seem to have lost interest in it.


The people that have pictureless profiles know they'll have less success,


Yes, less success with people who are more closed-minded.

It's amusing that so many people who claim to believe in "free choice" want to take that free choice away from other people by forcing them to make the same choice they do.

Pic or no pic, I don't care.
If I don't like what I read about a person, I'm not interested anyway.
 moonbeamlover1
Joined: 11/10/2016
Msg: 2710
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/22/2016 1:30:26 AM
I would ( and have when on before) be way more likely to meet someone with no pic than meet someone that couldn't talk at night ever

the former have several times found the person actually very very nice looking and not wanting bombarded by s bunch of hunter women ( all but one were actually free) and wanted to initiate rather than fending off.

but I have found when people can't ever speak at night they have usually been on in secret and trying to either find some different flavors or s replacement.

So no pic yup . I would meet them if they were interesting and had things in common... . no voice? nope.
 BlasphemousBombshell
Joined: 9/27/2016
Msg: 2711
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/22/2016 8:47:52 AM

Yes, less success with people who are more closed-minded.
you could just as easily type less success with people who are more honest/less paranoid.

It's amusing that so many people who claim to believe in "free choice" want to take that free choice away from other people by forcing them to make the same choice they do.
no one is taking away your choice to not have a pic, they are merely choosing to not deal with people who dont have them.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 2712
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/22/2016 1:34:21 PM

Yes, less success with people who are more closed-minded.
you could just as easily type less success with people who are more honest/less paranoid.


There's nothing inherently dishonest about not posting a pic, just as there is nothing inherently honest about posting one just because you can.
That's part of the closed-mindedness.
Unable to see all sides.
Just their own.
Some pics are actually old, or even fake.
How is THAT "more honest or less paranoid"?
Open your mind.
Read the post just above yours.


It's amusing that so many people who claim to believe in "free choice" want to take that free choice away from other people by forcing them to make the same choice they do.
no one is taking away your choice to not have a pic, they are merely choosing to not deal with people who dont have them.


Choosing not to deal because of their closed-mindedness regarding someone else's free choice by making unproven assumptions.
 cookymaker
Joined: 6/28/2014
Msg: 2713
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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/22/2016 8:48:46 PM
I had encountered someone without a picture and had no problem getting to know him. We had a running joke about the gum wall girl (one of my pictures) and the man with no face.

I did see a picture eventually but it didn't matter at that point. I liked him for who he was. The funny part about the picture he posted as his main one was that he had a beard, was wearing a hat and had sunglasses on.
At the time, it was in a chat room where people were complaining about profiles with no pictures. I commented
"Never minded the ones with no pictures, it's those people with beards, hats and sunglasses you have to look out for " (obviously teasing him)

Another story -- a young couple I know were introduced via email through a common friend. They decided not to exchange pictures. By the time they met in person 6 months later -- they were in love. When he saw her for the first time - he told people "if I had know how beautiful she was, I would never have had the nerve to even talk to her"
They are married for about 6 years now
True story

A picture may be worth a thousand words... but not necessarily the ones you really need to hear
 ninjabuddha4life
Joined: 6/25/2016
Msg: 2714
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Posted: 11/23/2016 12:11:27 AM
I am one of those picless profiles. You can ask me anything about this subject. It's a pretty tough experience but well worth it. You learn alot from people and what they're really looking for real fast by not being fair with them. I'd like to protect my right to do so with the example of POF creator Markus. He is your first message and lays down the rules yet he doesn't follow them. So by that rationale, I can also fish on POF without a pic. Anyone who doesn't like it can do as they please but don't whine to me about it being unfair. Besides I don't take the cyber-public that seriously to post myself out there to be prejudged just for trying to make contact. Not to mention the ones who think they're above all and just block anyone who is picless after my simple salutation. I mean the ignorance is at an all time high. That's just how the game goes. So I don't blame any of you for acting that way. Ladies, please stop building walls and start upgrading your filters. If you don't know how, contact Melissa Leger at Gumball Love. I do understand there is alot of unwanted attention on the site. Once again, I don't blame you.
 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
Msg: 2715
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:26:59 PM
I don't have a picture on my profile because I live in a small town, and anyone who knows or recognizes me would spot me immediately. I'm not so much ashamed of being on a dating site as I am of having my personal business so out in the open. I sort of agree with the notion that people should be meeting based on personality and not looks. I also don't happen to like my own looks, so I rarely have pictures taken. I was as honest as possible in my profile, though. I am overweight. I have 40 pounds to lose. I also am well muscled, so I'm not quite as "fat" as that would lead a person to believe. But mainly, I don't want to be as conspicuous as having my picture on full display. I think should I meet someone, a picture would eventually be involved. I actually signed up for this site after seeing several people I recognize. My mechanic and a tight pants wearing "kid" from town are both on here. I think it odd that so many people would NOT contact one of us pictureless types, because people who are only looking for those they're attracted to are usually the ones whining about how they can't find any decent "fill in the blanks". It's because you're shallow, miss/mr. I agree that there has to be some attraction involved in relationships, but when you're choosing someone off the bat based purely on their supposed pictures, you kind of get what you asked for. Which is usually disappointment. I also noticed most of the guys I pulled up to look at their pictures, seem to have several of different people. A guy with several pictures suddenly looks massively different in nearly all of them. How is that possible? I also know personally of someone who posted a picture of herself from high school, and the guy didn't even stop his car at the arranged meeting place. So, lying gets you nowhere. And, they have a whole TV show based on people pretending to be someone they aren't. Pictures are almost useless if you're actually looking for something real. If you're looking for cheap sex, I see plenty of people on (Guy's name)-list, some of whom are proudly trying to cheat on their wives.
 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
Msg: 2716
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:35:32 PM
The two who fell in love without pictures is such a beautiful story! I actually teared up. How lovely.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 2717
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/24/2017 9:05:51 PM
Nothing at all wrong with not having pics showing. I have met a "bunch" of women on this site with no pics posted because 1) they wrote to me, 2) had well written profiles AND 3) were a good match per our profiles. Some described their "looks" very well in their profile. MOST sent me a pic when I replied even though I never asked or even hinted for one. ALL of the "pictureless" ones that I met were "hot". I met at least a couple w/o even a phone call and/or a pic based simply on the quality of her profile and a couple of emails.

BUTTTTTTTTTTT.....OLD IS A COMPETITION. When competing against the majority, (who WILL have pics up) the odds of success go from extremely slim to "near impossible". It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all even if many of the pics people use are of poor quality for numerous reasons.
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 6/6/2016
Msg: 2718
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/24/2017 9:06:11 PM
A lot of people use the internet as recreation and are not interested in actually meeting in person. I don't think it's an unreasonable expectation to want to know what someone looks like before you meet them. I mean, they're going to find out eventually, right?

I can spend days or months talking to you and then finally get a picture to find out I am not physically attracted to you. No, thanks. I just refuse to message or talk to anybody with no profile pic.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 2719
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/25/2017 11:08:21 AM
Switch this ......



It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all even if many of the pics people use are of poor quality for numerous reasons.


To this:

"It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all if many of the people are of poor quality for numerous reasons. "

.....and now we're talking.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 2720
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/25/2017 11:38:22 AM
if someone lives/works in a community so small, they will be recognized here, then maybe its safe to say such a small fishbowl has few singles inside it. Thus, other singles in that community have little choice but to try out the person with no photograph, should they want to date locally. However, if the fear is, "people will recognize me, what will they say?", I would also assume that during the dating process, there is also the opportunity that "people will see" and gossip. and certainly after the breakup, there is that possibility.
 MidWestAussie
Joined: 4/29/2017
Msg: 2721
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Posted: 5/12/2017 6:04:13 AM

"It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all if many of the people are of poor quality for numerous reasons. "


"It's simply not R E A L I S T I C to think one has much chance at all if the person is female."

Fixed.
 flamingjune1960
Joined: 6/24/2014
Msg: 2722
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Posted: 5/14/2017 3:13:28 PM
Picture or no picture, does it matter? Most people don't believe the pictures that are posted anyway. If there is one thing I have learned from this venue, it is not to trust anyone. It really doesn't matter how many pictures you post if people don't think you are for real.
I had a guy send me a message a couple days ago that said "Do you have any more pictures?" No hello, how are you, nice smile. Oddly enough, he had no pictures posted at all. Go figure. I just told him nope, I weigh 350 pounds and I'm hoping my sparkling personality will drive you wild with desire...
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 2723
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Posted: 5/14/2017 4:41:32 PM

Picture or no picture, does it matter?

Yes.

Most people don't believe the pictures that are posted anyway.

I think that's a pretty false statement. Otherwise folks wouldn't be frustrated or heartbroken upon meeting someone who looked very different than their pic(s). Certainly there are some very paranoid people out there due to bad experiences, but there's also some so naive that if you had a picture of a cat, they'd think a cat's Really talking to them (lol)... but most people are in the middle. It varies profile to profile, the believability is dependent on the # of pictures shown and how they're taken. I've met more than my fair share of gals online, and I pretty much know when one's pretty questionable, or pretty solid.

Of course pictures matter. A very high % of profiles that have numerous pictures at different angles of high quality -- tend to be pretty accurate. As long as you go with the least-best looking one as what they'll look like in person when it's a solidly laid out one -- you'll only get scarce surprises.
 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
Msg: 2724
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Posted: 6/5/2017 11:15:02 PM

lives/works in a community so small
not sure if this is in response to what I wrote, but I'm not looking locally. There are no available men here, I'm mainly looking about 30 miles away, in the nearest "real" city.
 boozyshamrockshake
Joined: 4/19/2017
Msg: 2725
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Posted: 6/5/2017 11:47:15 PM
So, it looks as though half of us are all for it, and half of us think it's a terrible idea. I don't personally have my picture up because I don't want to drive the fellas crazy seeing how ridiculously gorgeous I am. To encapsulate 115 pages of responses, it's both shallow to contact people based on their looks, and it's "suspicious" to not let us all see what you look like. Given that there are a frillion people on here, I don't see what the problem is. If you don't like it, leave us picture-less types alone. Given that one person apparently can do a stunning imitation of looking like several different people, it's proof that the pictures are virtually worthless, anyway. Most people with a normal amount of humbleness are our own worst critics. Just because we don't personally like our looks doesn't mean other people agree with that assessment. It's not a lack of self worth. Unless you think the shell you're walking around in is "you". I don't happen to think it is. I've been outside of mine at least twice as proof that we aren't our bodies. Sorry to get all metaphysical on your asses.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 2726
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/6/2017 8:32:53 AM
it could be argued that we only think its shallow to contact people based on their looks...when its other people not contacting us based on OUR looks :)
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