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 lucky2206
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 111
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girlPage 3 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
because girls are very clever and they are mostly frud.
 vespa chick
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 112
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/29/2005 1:34:06 PM
Being a deaf woman myself .. I find people are intimidated .. too worried about" what could I possibly say?" ... can she understand the english language .. If people would just take the time .. they soon would "SEE" .. it's easier than it seems!
 vespa chick
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 113
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/29/2005 1:40:15 PM
How about a tap on the shoulder to get her attention? .. sure it may a second out of your time .. but taking that very second could mean alot to that woman! .. speaking in a clear voice without exaggerating your words .. use body language..facial expressions .. she's not daft .. she just can't hear ... even hearing people use gestures on a daily basis .. they just don't apy attention to them... go ahead give it try ! .. you may end up with your soulmate!
 vespa chick
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 114
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/29/2005 1:58:25 PM
Not sure I want to see anyone get a new ***hole ripped for themselves ... but hey totally "hear" ya!
 vespa chick
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 115
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/29/2005 2:03:33 PM
Not sure I want to see anyone get a new ***hole ripped for themselves ... but hey totally "hear" ya!
 Absalom
Joined: 5/15/2005
Msg: 116
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/29/2005 7:04:46 PM
Well, I myself have perfect hearing and dated a deaf girl, We are still friends and keep in touch through email. My best friend married a deaf girl and has learned the language, they have 4 kids. I like deaf people, they are more honest than people who can hear for some reason. BTW, I myself learned sign language while in school and have been involved in efforts to help people with varying dis-abilities
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 119
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 10/14/2005 11:52:14 PM
I know a fair amount of sign language. Enough to carry a conversation.
I would date a deaf girl if I had the opportunity.
Never have, though.
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 120
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 10/14/2005 11:55:13 PM
>>" I like deaf people, they are more honest than people who can hear for some reason."

WAY true. Deaf people are disarmingly honest.
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 121
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:44:37 PM
I took ASL classes alongside interpreting students, so we studied Deaf culture a lot.
I always figured the brutally honest thing was just a culture issue.
At any rate, it is very true.
If a Deaf person sees you for the first time in a while, and you have gained weight, he or she will blithely tell you so. :P
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 123
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 11/26/2005 8:07:16 AM
Harley, if you have a cochlear implant, the Deaf people I know would tend to consider you deaf, not Deaf. The capital D is the culture, the little d just means you can't hear.
Do you consider yourself part of the Deaf community? If so, do they accept you?

I have encountered much bias against cochlear implants in the local Deaf community.
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 126
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 11/27/2005 3:54:30 PM
>>>The last hearing guy she dated took her to see the Sound of Music!!!! What a putz!!!!

Yes, that would be deaf with a little d.
Deaf are not the least bit embarrassed that they can't hear. They don't consider it a handicap. As long as the movie had subtitles, or was interpreted, they wouldn't mind watching it.

Harley--I understand why they want their kids to be Deaf. And why they don't like the CI.
It has to do with their culture, and their beautiful language--and would not both die, if deafness were "cured"?
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 127
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 11/27/2005 3:57:29 PM
I think everyone should learn ASL. Hearing and deaf.
 dceeeee
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 128
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 11/27/2005 10:08:55 PM
Okay, I guess it's time for me to have MY say....I'm also deaf, although I never really considered myself as such until speaking up at these forums...just 'hard of hearing', although it is considered 'profound'. I wear 2 aids, and lip read extremely well. I also took ASL in college, although since I had no one to practice it with, I forgot most of it. My parents fought in court over whether I would join the deaf community and sign, or learn lip reading in a public school system, and my mom won, and so I learned lip reading, and mingled with the normal hearing folks. I honestly have no regrets about it.

As for the bit about driving better, if you go to another thread about the deaf, you'll see my experience with that and you'll know that there is at least one cop who will disagree.. LOL!

@NBL #62...Boy, you are right about the having to concentrate to hear. Phone calls were always the worse...I love the internet...it has become my 'phone'. It's so nice to be able to 'hear' without all the concentration that tends to take all the fun out of it.

One thing that I've never heard from any of my deaf compadres, is how nervousness affects hearing, at least on the phone. Is it only me? If I'd meet someone on line here who is going to call me, most likely I'd have a hard time hearing, maybe because I WANT so bad to make sure I hear, but after I know someone better, it's much easier. Of course, that could also have to do with the fact that after someone knows you, they are willing to work with you and make sure you hear, and you KNOW that...(Uh oh, I see this going full circle, because at that point you are relaxed) ACK! Am I making any sense???

What is SEE? I'm lost.

@Gary msg 98, & LLS msg 113, (and others following along the same lines)..who signs/writes notes during sex? C'mon! Most of us can hear/make moans and sounds, and aside from that, hands can be used to show what works and what doesn't, and words aren't needed to shift someones position. Like I said in another post, the only thing lacking is that I can't hear those 'sweet nothings' whispered in my ear, but it's my loss, not yours. (You can still whisper them...they don't require a response, do they?) I've never heard a complaint in this dept, and my sexual encounters have all remained long term.

@Smith msg 140, As for the honesty issue, I, too, am very honest...I've always described myself as "Probably the most honest person you've ever met". However, I DO have tact, and would not mention a weight gain. I wouldn't lie..I just wouldn't say something that would make someone feel bad.
........And msg 147, Are you kidding me? People actually WISH for their children to be deaf, so that sign language won't die? That has got to be the most selfish thing I ever heard of!!! If people want to keep ASL alive, do it by sign-singing...it is so beautiful, and you don't have to be deaf to appreciate it!!! Lots of things are kept alive for the Historical value, but to wish this on your kids, just isn't right!! (That's my opinion, anyway) My mom has always said that if she could have one wish before she dies, it would be for me to hear. (This is really more of an issue for her, than me). This is what unselfish love is about...
My daughter was born with hearing that is 'better' than most..(she can 'hear' lights in a parking lot!), and I'm so happy for her!!

@HarleyKat...good to see you again. I read this thread from the beginning, and kept thinking, "I wonder why HarleyKat isn't on here?" Then at the last page, there you are, and as usual, I'm in total agreement with everything you have to say.
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 130
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 11/28/2005 7:23:38 AM
I didn't say I agreed with the Deaf, Harley---I just understand their point of view.
 dceeeee
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 132
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 11/30/2005 5:33:17 AM
Kat, the appt went well, and I'm on my way to step2!! YEA!! I sent you an email with some more questions I have about the CI.
 smith2267
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 134
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 11/30/2005 7:25:56 PM
All the deaf girls reading this thread and I can't get a date...man, I almost feel contempt for myself.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 141
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why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/18/2009 9:03:04 PM
I wonder if a girl being deaf cuts down on the jacka$$es trying to date her?
May work out since the players can't use the usual tricks...
And no jerk may want to learn sign language to talk to her properly... hmm...

 fedup1964
Joined: 6/18/2009
Msg: 160
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why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 1/12/2010 4:37:55 PM
Give us some credit there!! I had a cousin who was not deaf,but taught me some,I would not think less of a woman,and It would make communication a little more difficult at first, but if you care for someone,there would be no obstacle high enough to stop you from being there for them,and treating them as if there were no disability to contend with in the first place.
 fedup1964
Joined: 6/18/2009
Msg: 161
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why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 1/12/2010 4:53:49 PM
It would mean communicating with your heart!! And you have already shown that you are not willing to go the extra mile for someone.In a relationship you express your feelings in different ways.So if she can't hear your feelings,then you show her with your heart.You find ways to tell her how you feel.If you feel for someone who hears,do you not also buy flowers,cards,write little notes for her to find daily.Look at her and communicate your love with your eyes,They are the window to your soul. I'm just saying...
 ChadC29
Joined: 9/15/2011
Msg: 166
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 10/6/2011 6:11:19 PM
I agree I would love to date a def girl. For me this would also be kind of exotic. It's really a turn on. I know some signs (about 200) and would love to continue my learning experince, she could help.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 168
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 12/19/2011 12:16:36 PM
I would be too lazy to try and learn sign language.
 NormWilson
Joined: 8/7/2011
Msg: 170
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 12/20/2011 4:55:28 AM
This took a little thought, but I'm thinking it might be easier. I see it this way. Both people would have to work a little harder to communicate and would therefore try a little harder to "LISTEN." Since false positives happen ALOT in conversaion...You know, ASSUME you know what the other person is trying to communicate to you so you take off with you own thoughts and quit listening, it seems like it would be easier... Or perhaps it would be exactly the same... What I DO know is this, If the spark IS there, communication WILL happen in one form or another. A certain look combined with a certain smile speaks volumes. When that happens, words would just screw it up anyway.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 171
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 12/20/2011 3:01:32 PM
I see another problem that may arise with dating a deaf person. Learning sign language and being able to read her body gestures to have basic communication is fine between you two. But there might be settings when you gather with friends, co-workers, and/or family-especially this time of year-and will be with people who don't know sign language. Some people might be uncomfortable in that type of situation. If you're at a gathering where 3 or 4 people are talking at the same time, some people are cracking jokes, there's constant chatter, etc., how do you get the deaf friend involved in everything that's going on?
 livinon
Joined: 11/26/2009
Msg: 172
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/26/2012 4:49:27 AM
i would totaly date a deaf woman. I, for some reason I am not sure of have always wanted to learn ASL. What better motivation to study :) lol and if the chemistry's there im sure that communicating as i learn wouldnt be that difficult, thats what texting is for i guess.
 silentletters
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 173
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/26/2012 5:48:20 AM
I think the real issue would be, a deaf girl dating a hearing guy. Men are all about the trophies and I am sorry to say but most would treat this as such. Like the Blonde or the one with an accent. Also it is hard enough to communicate for most of us, to put up such a boundary between two people would be huge.

I could see it if the other person actually even knew basic ASL, but if not I could see this turning out well not very well for either party. Being fluent in ASL, and growing up in deaf culture. I do know more than the average bear, I have watched people get interested in it. Stop and walk away and have seen how that hurts the other person.

I am in no way saying that it is impossible, I would just think more times than not it would come with to many problems.
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