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 NormWilson
Joined: 8/7/2011
Msg: 195
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This took a little thought, but I'm thinking it might be easier. I see it this way. Both people would have to work a little harder to communicate and would therefore try a little harder to "LISTEN." Since false positives happen ALOT in conversaion...You know, ASSUME you know what the other person is trying to communicate to you so you take off with you own thoughts and quit listening, it seems like it would be easier... Or perhaps it would be exactly the same... What I DO know is this, If the spark IS there, communication WILL happen in one form or another. A certain look combined with a certain smile speaks volumes. When that happens, words would just screw it up anyway.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 196
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 12/20/2011 3:01:32 PM
I see another problem that may arise with dating a deaf person. Learning sign language and being able to read her body gestures to have basic communication is fine between you two. But there might be settings when you gather with friends, co-workers, and/or family-especially this time of year-and will be with people who don't know sign language. Some people might be uncomfortable in that type of situation. If you're at a gathering where 3 or 4 people are talking at the same time, some people are cracking jokes, there's constant chatter, etc., how do you get the deaf friend involved in everything that's going on?
 livinon
Joined: 11/26/2009
Msg: 197
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/26/2012 4:49:27 AM
i would totaly date a deaf woman. I, for some reason I am not sure of have always wanted to learn ASL. What better motivation to study :) lol and if the chemistry's there im sure that communicating as i learn wouldnt be that difficult, thats what texting is for i guess.
 silentletters
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 198
why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/26/2012 5:48:20 AM
I think the real issue would be, a deaf girl dating a hearing guy. Men are all about the trophies and I am sorry to say but most would treat this as such. Like the Blonde or the one with an accent. Also it is hard enough to communicate for most of us, to put up such a boundary between two people would be huge.

I could see it if the other person actually even knew basic ASL, but if not I could see this turning out well not very well for either party. Being fluent in ASL, and growing up in deaf culture. I do know more than the average bear, I have watched people get interested in it. Stop and walk away and have seen how that hurts the other person.

I am in no way saying that it is impossible, I would just think more times than not it would come with to many problems.
 mysterioustallmn
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 199
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why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/28/2012 1:23:28 AM
Learning sign language is not that tough, the more you sign, the better you get at it. As with all people, there are many different types of deaf people. Some deaf spend their whole lives attempting to integrate into the hearing world, while others reject it and stay within the deaf community. People always say they'd rather be deaf than blind, but after having been around a lot of deaf people, I'd rather be blind. Neither are any good, but one thing about being deaf, you're always alone inside your head. You can sign, read lips, closed captioning, but when you're deaf you never really know if what you're feeling or what others are feeling about you is being expressed correctly, so much of communication is in the tone of what's said.
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