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 4ms4me
Joined: 4/24/2010
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I think male logic is a societal expectation and assumption. I often find men to be surprisingly illogical, their thought processes obviously corrupted by emotion they won't acknowledge even to themselves. I think when men stop assuming they're being logical and begin admitting to their feelings, they'll be happier overall.

I think females ability to acknowledge and express emotion is used against them by men, when in reality it makes women stronger and more able to cope with life, especially when things are difficult.
 tooborednow
Joined: 1/13/2013
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Male logic versus Female emotions..
Posted: 4/29/2013 12:33:47 PM

I think females ability to acknowledge and express emotion is used against them by men, when in reality it makes women stronger and more able to cope with life, especially when things are difficult.

Personally, I don't think either gender is stronger than the other, or more able to cope with life than the other.
At best each individual simply tries to in the only way they've come to understand how to, which is mostly based on the manner they've been socialized.

One thing necessary to social living is a me vs you or us vs them, our way is better, if it wasn't I'd be on the other side, mentality.
It's necessary simply because without it there would really be no glue to hold people together in cooperation within a group.
Without group cooperation there really is no civilization.
Cooperation breeds competition, competition breeds cooperation, when dealing with more than one person.

Other than that it's just picking apart specialized or socialized attributes as a means to differentiate between groups or self identity/image. That creates roles.
Roles people live up to in order to feel safe and secure in their group or purpose in life.
Which then leads to generalized observations in order to support a role or group like:

Male logic versus Female emotions..
 drinkthesunwithmyface
Joined: 3/27/2012
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Posted: 4/29/2013 1:07:00 PM
I want to offer what I think is a clarification of this type of subject:

Ultimately, we're talking about traits that are alledgedly intrinsic of gender. A trait or nature that you're very strongly predisposed towards simply as a result of being a particular gender, despite anything else about who you are or your upbringing or your cultural environment, etc.

On subjects of gender, it's usually about stuff like intelligence, emotion, multi-tasking, social adjustment, speed of maturity, etc.

There are always other variables and therefore many exceptions...but when we try to make claims like this, we are talking about an otherwise typical average nature for "most" men or women, because they are male or female genetically, not culturally or socially in any way. We can't confuse the particular cultural or social truths of males or females, in any given time or place, with what may be true about them simply because of what sexual organs they have.

There is still way too much misunderstanding, subjectivity, pseudo-science, cultural factors and bias, and "pop-myth" concerning what things like logic, emotion, maturity, etc, even are in the first place, such that these ideas about natures or traits intrinsic of male and female still amount to a bunch of inconsistent and unreliable jibber-jabber. Very often, when a man tries to say something along these lines about women or a woman about men...it really stems from some mild gender-war mindset, insecurity, chauvinism, or simply a miscomprehension of how to think critically about things in general.

There may be certain traits like this that are intrinsic of gender, but so far we haven't really been able to see it one way or the other.
 4ms4me
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Posted: 4/29/2013 1:36:59 PM

Personally, I don't think either gender is stronger than the other, or more able to cope with life than the other.
At best each individual simply tries to in the only way they've come to understand how to, which is mostly based on the manner they've been socialized.

Agreed, my remark was too general, perhaps. But I do think the ability to acknowledge and express feelings makes it easier to endure loss, and in our society men tend to have more difficulty in that area, especially when it comes to relationships.
 sigungq
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Posted: 4/29/2013 7:34:52 PM
I believe it was Confucius who once said: "A woman's advise may not always seem wise, but he who does not heed it is a fool."
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 135
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Posted: 5/1/2013 8:02:36 AM
Mr. drinkthesun...
Oh, I know all that...I was just being a smartmouth.
I do stand by my statement that I prefer a balance in both genders,but yeah, I'm enough of an ordinary person that I suppose I would be somewhat baffled if faced with an extremely emotional male or an extremely logical female.
CS-yes, I heard some rather odd scuttlebut about the decampment of Mr MouseEars...as for being bored-yeah right-like having a toothache quit hurting is boring.
Cindy O
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