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 4ms4me
Joined: 4/24/2010
Msg: 780
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Gotta love a thread that goes on for 33 pages, and 7 years! Op, since you are still around (or at least the account is), has anything changed since your original post?
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 781
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 11/29/2012 4:40:39 PM
Fully realizing this thread is so old it has whiskers, but the OP is still in the room.

Being overweight is not the OP's problem, this is:

What am i fishing for is a woman who wants to be treated like a queen, with kindness, and respect. Who is not affraid of being treated right and who won't run away from a nice guy who wants to get to know her, because the first time they go to bed together I want us to be making love to each other. Not one having sex and the other making love, because love and sex don't mix.


The women I've been involved with in my life would just vomit if I came out with anything like that. They wanted to be engaged as people and meet me on equal terms. As soon as I got that when I was younger I got plenty of dates.

I think the OP has a fantasy of what his ideal woman should be and it's unrealistic.

I know plenty of blokes the OP's size who get plenty of dates, are in relationships or married and are pretty happy.
 Szaszaspasz
Joined: 11/13/2012
Msg: 782
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Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 11/30/2012 8:48:12 AM
People are attracted to whomever they are attracted to.

I read the profiles and finds what interests a person as well. Would we have anything in common?

If you have any pictures of yourself outside I'd put those up. I looked at your profile and thought that you didn't like to be outside very much. I love the sun and I did have a boyfriend that didn't like to be outdoors and resented it when I went on my own for a walk or a run. You're in Ottawa; that is a beautiful city with lots of paths and trails. Take advantage of them! Go out and see the Winterlude, but be careful where you park. I got two tickets on my car when I had accidentally let the meter run out. I agreed on the first one; but the second?! I managed to get out of the second one; but sheesh! Talk about a money grab! Thanks for letting me rant! Now where were we?

I'm short and stocky as well. At 5'4" and 215 lbs I'm difficult as heck to kidnap. I've helped people move, but I've never helped them move bodies. I've dropped 10 lbs recently, due to some simple lifestyle changes. As I've said before; it is a matter of preference and past experiences. I've had guys tell me I need to lose weight and one right out called me a "porker." So now I am hesitant to date a guy that I can bench-press.

Have confidence in your own self as an individual and being on your own. Improve your health for your own sake and things will look up much better. You want a woman that is attracted to the real you, so it is good that you aren't putting up a front.

PS: How do handle phone solicitors?
 Szaszaspasz
Joined: 11/13/2012
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Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 11/30/2012 8:54:30 AM

Do cigarettes count as veggies?
Because if they do, then I'm smoking my way to excellent health!


Grapes count as fruit; so I'm drinking my way to excellent health! (It is Natural Selection for my brain cells.)
 Szaszaspasz
Joined: 11/13/2012
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Posted: 11/30/2012 9:03:09 AM

I have lost 10 lbs since July and keep trying to lose more but seem to be stuck at 229 lbs.


You're taller and skinnier than me if you go by height ratio. Keep up the good work. You my feel like you're getting nowhere because the needle on the scale hasn't moved; but if your overall health and stamina are improving you're on the right track! :)
 daysleeper5
Joined: 11/6/2009
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Posted: 11/30/2012 1:51:38 PM
I have sort of a different take on this because I've read so many profiles where the women talk about wanting a guy with meat on their bones or someone they can feel safe with in their big arms. Us skinny guys can get lost in the mix, too. I'm sure I've been eliminated by a fair share of women because of my thin body type. What are you going to do? It's a preference. On the other hand, there are plenty of people that don't rule anyone out based on their weight. Women have certainly found other reasons to like me and I've seen lots of fat guys with girlfriends. Everything is harder on a dating site because it's all about filters and laundry lists.
 ana_karenina_
Joined: 11/8/2012
Msg: 786
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 11/30/2012 5:49:34 PM
I think this is a great opportunity for me to finally admit....

that I used to have a celeb crush on that guy who played Doug on King of Queens.lol

He's kinda chubby, but oh so funny. =)
 Frenchie6619
Joined: 8/6/2011
Msg: 787
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 11/30/2012 7:56:12 PM
I agree 100% being overweight would never stop me from dating someone. Like my men with something to hold onto.
 Daisysanddirt
Joined: 7/4/2012
Msg: 789
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 12/1/2012 10:18:07 AM
It's the same for women. I'm overweight (working on losing it) and sometimes feel like I should delete my profile until I'm at the weight I'd like to be. Then I come back to my senses and realize that this is essentially me regardless of my weight. The funny thing is that some men on here are either slightly or tremendously overweight but seem to feel that they are too attractive for women with the same issues. Go figure!!
 15111958
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 790
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 12/1/2012 9:48:08 PM

I agree 100% being overweight would never stop me from dating someone. Like my men with something to hold onto.


I got something you can hold onto.
 TomR43
Joined: 7/11/2012
Msg: 791
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 12/2/2012 3:30:46 AM
because women are fickle,,,,they want what they,when they want it
so when they cant find the right thin romantic,,,they switch to the nice beefy guy
hang in there,,,they are out there,,they will find you when you least expect it
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 792
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 12/2/2012 9:41:57 AM
I'm sure it was said a few times.. But most women wont date a nice romantic overweight guys. For the same reason guys won't date nice romantic overweight women..
I came across a profile a while ago. In the pic you can see what we would call a BBBWW and she is looking for a tall fit guy with the rest of the list of wants and expects that every woman is looking for. She also mentioned that she prefers to date only fit guys. Cause its just not sexy when two fat people are having sex so she prefer only one to be fat lol.. I had to read the profile a few times cause I couldn't stop laughing..
 SSC-SAF
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 794
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 12/2/2012 12:49:23 PM

i wish we could give profile names on here but thats a no-no, but the last 3 profiles ive went to they specifily said- if you dont workout dont bother messaging me, and women on here have the nerve to say they dont care about the body its all personality and confidence, what a joke!


Then go look for the profiles that DON'T say that, and message THOSE women instead. It ain't rocket science.

Personally I like men of all shapes and sizes - I go for a combination of decent looks, personality, common sense, manners and intelligence. I happen to think that Drew Carey was extremely hot as a chubby dude - same with Kevin James and John Goodman. I also go for slim, fit guys and guys in between...but it doesn't matter how good they may look on the outside if they are whiny, defensive, pessimistic, et cetera.
 CopernicusOfLove
Joined: 10/21/2012
Msg: 796
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 12/2/2012 3:45:31 PM
Nhra, aren't you forgetting to be optimistic and cite me as a reason to not do what you're doing?
 AquaLinda
Joined: 5/8/2012
Msg: 797
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 12/2/2012 8:14:13 PM
All I can say is this - when I gained weight after my two pregnancies, my husband was no longer attracted to me. I exercised like crazy even though I was VERY sleep deprived and exhausted most of the time. I had to squeeze in my workouts whenever I got a chance. I lost 70 pounds within six months - twice (after each pregnancy). The weight has been off for several years now and I can easily maintain it by just eating right and exercising for about 30 minutes every other day. If I can do it, a guy most certainly can do it, and they can't even blame having been pregnant for getting fat in the first place. Plus it is much easier for men to lose weight than women. So quit the whining and get into shape instead of blaming women for being "shallow" (as if men weren't - ha, yeah, right). I personally have no respect or feel attracted to guys like that at all.
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