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 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 76
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I just don't get why you (or anyone on here) finds the way someone dresses disgusting or foolish. I don't even think about it. Well, I actually think "you go girl" when I see someone in their 70s or older dressed in a skintight pair of leopard pants and spike heels. :) GOOD for them! I sure don't dress the way I do to look younger. I wear what I like. Whenever one of these threads come up, I feel like all you nay sayers are suggesting those of us who are in our 40s should put on granny panties and shapeless shifts.

Regardless, I'll still put on the bikini, and refuse to wear shorts that are 12 inches long, as long as I'm comfortable and happy wearing them. And if someone looks at me and is disgusted? LOL, that's all about them, and not me.
 Jeff_Md
Joined: 4/1/2007
Msg: 77
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/11/2007 2:45:54 PM
Clothes can be a form of self expression, wear what you want to wear. Either means you want to project yourself a certain way, or you just don't care what anyone thinks. I've seen very attractive women in their 40s, 50s and 60s dress provacatively. And I've seen much younger women who were not as successful. Who am I to judge what is appropriate? We have laws on indencency and dress codes for work and some restaurants. That's plenty, we don't need fashion police. If I don't like what I'm seeing, I am free to turn my head. But I don't see the point in enjoying the show.

One example comes to mind is an woman I know who is 66. She goes to dances at least weekly dressed in the most over the top gowns you can imagine in every color under the rainbow. She'll have on matching hat, gloves, parosel and is accompanied by a 79 year old man who proudly pimps with a matching tux. Be it bright yellow, purple or fire engine red. Not what I would wear it, but I love the fact that they will waltz into the country buffet dressed like that and just don't care if you approve or not.
 cdn_guy
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 78
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/11/2007 3:01:17 PM
I'm sorry, but age-appropriate or not, there'll be no more 'dresses' for me. Since the sex-change operation, people would just look at me too strangely when I go out in public.

cdn guy
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 79
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/11/2007 9:34:53 PM
...I try not to follow trends, instead I choose clothes that are becoming to my body shape and in colours that look good on me. I have developed my own personal style over the years and wear what I like, not what I think others might like. I love wearing skirts and dresses, even the way they fell against my skin when I move....As the above poster stated.... wear the clothes that make me feel good about yourself, I do.


...maeflowers
 sassyredhead
Joined: 8/14/2005
Msg: 80
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:51:29 PM
wear clothing that says who you are! we are what we wear, satin & lace = soft & sexy, t's & jeans mean we're not afraid to get dirty etc...


If you can still pull off junior's clothing why the heck not! anyone who disagrees with me is probably 50+ lbs overweight anyway

 sassyredhead
Joined: 8/14/2005
Msg: 81
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:57:57 PM
moon fish...pulling it off means it looks good on someone. I personally never meant that anyone 50 lbs overweight should wear a tube top and daisy dukes

then again...before you judge me or my sisters over 40 perhaps you should shower and wash your hair---and try smiling
 sassyredhead
Joined: 8/14/2005
Msg: 82
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:09:11 PM
maybe not in context with the subject at hand...
but as for the couple in country buffet....

Life is too short to spoil OUR happiness because YOU think we look foolish!

I just love that they feel young enough and alive enough to live!!

Clothing is supposed to be an expression of who we are, what we like, what makes us happy. Some may find happiness in dressing and acting exactly like everyone else---but not me! i wear what I like, I do as i like and I live while I'm alive!!

I once wore a pretty silk nightgown to a formal wedding, I added stylish accessories, proper foundations, ( as in the right bra and slip etc) and pretty shoes! nobody actually knew it was a nightie except for the few people I told before we went! and I had the best time too

Why are we spending our lives worrying what others think when it's OUR life that is being wasted and our own happiness is being denied because of what others think!!??

to heck with that! Im only gonna live once and I'm gonna LIVE while I'm here!
 moon_fish
Joined: 10/8/2006
Msg: 83
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/12/2007 7:29:49 AM
msg 96, how you live is up to you. All I am saying is I have no interest in a gal who dresses like a teenager. I like women who dress classy, not ho trampy, if they are 20 or 40... its all the same.
Not my concern to accept what you like... but know plenty of guys will pass a gal by when they see she is wearing a nightgown in public.

 NeonGloom
Joined: 2/24/2007
Msg: 84
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/12/2007 7:32:47 AM

One example comes to mind is an woman I know who is 66. She goes to dances at least weekly dressed in the most over the top gowns you can imagine in every color under the rainbow. She'll have on matching hat, gloves, parosel and is accompanied by a 79 year old man who proudly pimps with a matching tux. Be it bright yellow, purple or fire engine red.


I want to be her when I grow up... any guys out there with purple tuxes?

Is my wardrobe age appropriate? Not likely! My style is *me*appropriate.

From what I've seen, age appropriate for us larger ladies is supposed to be polyester tents in loud flower prints. My friends have instructions to shoot me if I ever wear anything like that.
 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 85
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/12/2007 8:23:51 AM
^^^NeonGloom....I always think "go girl!" when I see a larger lady at the beach in a revealing suit, who is clearly comfortable that way (not tugging or covering). To me, that says she likes herself just the way she is. And isn't that what we're all striving for? What we tell people to do all the time? It pisses me off to hear someone saying negative things about how anyone dresses.
 ryn48
Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 86
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/12/2007 4:56:53 PM
I enjoy dressing young. I hate the "old" look. However, having said that, my own criteria for myself, is that ...is it classy? I like someone wearing young and sexy with class....not the slutty stuff...unless, of course, that is the "look" you are going for. I agree with above posts, wear stuff that is suitable to your body type. There was a woman I met as a young lady, who was very robust in figure. The clothes she wore and the "I love myself" attitude she had....made her very attractive. I have found the older I get, the less I look at the flash, I look for class and fun....in men and women of any size.
 Tarika
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 87
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/12/2007 8:59:56 PM
I wear what I feel comfortable in.........also, it depends on my mood when I wake up in the morning and don't care if it is 'age appropriate' or not.
 damselinnodistress
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 88
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/12/2007 9:15:42 PM
Does this post really have anything to do with dress? It seems to have veered back to looking younger and shopping to look younger. You will get over that eventually. haha. I don't get it as I shop at stores that are hip and cheap :) Who's blowing who's horn? If you feel good, you feel good and that's all I have to say about that :) Dress for yourself and you will never be embarassed.
 Little Miss 51
Joined: 12/1/2006
Msg: 89
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/13/2007 7:34:44 PM
I shop in the Junior dept also. I wear low cut jeans and I dress like the younger generation does. Its not really about style, I like to be comfortable and look nice. Nobody complains about what I wear also. I listen to the same music as most of the young generation and dance it too, so I can blend! Clothing is not really about AGE, its about how comfortable you feel wearing it!

I once had a large woman come up to me wearing a halter top and she was really large. She made the comment, I can wear anything I want that the skinner women wear! I agreed, she was too large for the shirt, but she was comfortable so who was going to argue with her?

 Peaceful Spirit
Joined: 3/5/2007
Msg: 90
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:45:36 PM
I'm petite too and look younger than my years ---- my advise wear what makes you feel fabulous, comfortable and sexy on weekends and in the evenings ----- wear what is appropriate and respectable for a middle aged woman at work ----- I have a few discreet tattoos and love my toe ring and ankle bracelet ---- comfy jeans and T-shirts when I'm relaxing ---- for work its usually suits and heels ---- I work for myself and always have to be keenly aware that part of my job is to sell myself ----- (not literally mind you)------NOT that kind of business (wink)........
 Peaceful Spirit
Joined: 3/5/2007
Msg: 91
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/14/2007 8:22:14 AM
I wear what I choose to as well but I sure have seen some women my age and older look like fruitloops ---- my 21 year old daughter is my critique ---- I tell her...."let me know if I look foolish or like a tart" -------- and she does ------- sometimes we don't see ourselves as clearly as others ---- I would LOVE to wear peasant skirts and gypy blouses again !!! ------ they would SO suit my character and personality !! ----- But my daugter tells me ------- "Mom the 60's were "a happening----ummmmm...... HAPPENED about 40 years ago ----- its bad enough to smell you burning patchoulioil when I come over to visit !!"---- I still have nice legs too but would NOT be caught dead in one of those micro minis we used to wear either OR hot pants ---- do YOU remember hot pants? ------- BUT behind closed doors I WILL wear whatever my hunny finds stimulating and attractive ------ Bottom line is we ALL have to dress and behave in a manner that "feel right" for us ---- thats the 2 cent 1.875 opinion for today

Peace Out
 CelticButterfly
Joined: 11/13/2006
Msg: 92
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:51:41 AM
I wear what makes me feel comfortable and confident. I've gone into some shops and I just can't see myself wearing the 'more mature' outfits. I'm a jeans type of woman. Or miniskirts if the weather is nice.
 MapleSweet
Joined: 10/6/2006
Msg: 93
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/15/2007 9:56:47 AM
Age appropriate...by who's standards? The fashion industry, or the real people that wear them? I think we all develop our own stule over the years, and we pretty much know if something looks good on us or not. It shouldn't be dictated by what other people think. If we dressed age appropriate half of us would be wearing dusters and muuumuus, like our grandmas, lol. (And don't get me started on polyester....yuk!!!!) Good fit and proper style for body type is what matters. As long as we're comfortable in our clothes, and dress for the occasion, I think it's all good. Dress for who you are, your own comfort zone, and your personality. We don't have to be frumpy and matronly just because we're older! When you feel fabulous in what you wear, it translates to how we feel, inside, about ourselves (just like a bad hair day.)
 ryn48
Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 94
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:59:23 AM
There is a woman I work with that is closer to 60 than 50. All her clothes are classy and young. I had one of the security guys as me why she "dresses like a kid". Well! The look I gave him would have shrivelled anyone. I asked him what exactly should an "older" woman be wearing? She looks great in the outfits, she is happy and a pleasure to be around. Geeez!
 mj824
Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 95
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Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/16/2007 9:26:33 AM
As long as you're in pretty good shape why confine yourself to dressing dowdy. I feel I don't look my age so a pair of tight jeans with boots or heels works for me.
 marg_mh_ab
Joined: 9/25/2006
Msg: 96
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/16/2007 9:33:54 AM
I find at my age (47) it has become difficult to always find appealing clothing....Either it's made for my mothers age group or my daughters age group and nothing for me...then add in being on the shorter side of 5 foot 2....We'll it's not easy.
 OxDrover
Joined: 7/20/2006
Msg: 97
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/16/2007 1:46:23 PM
From my point of view, it isn't about "dressing dowdy"--some older women choose to do this, some don't--it is "age appropriate"--there are generalizations about what people wear to (1) different places (2) different events (3) day vs night etc. It is age appropriate for a baby/infant to wear visible diapers covered only by an over pants, but it is not "age appropriate" for a teenager or adult to do this--even if they have a "leaking" problem. It is "age appropriate" for a pre-teen or teen to wear "trendy, cute, 'flashy' outfits some places, but not appropriate at other places, for example at church or a wedding, etc. At work in some places it is age appropriate for a woman to appear in a business suit, but not a "pre-teen appropriate" outfit that is revealing or "flash"-- NO ONE, even an 80 year old dowger, has to "dress frumpy" but I think anyone with any "taste" or "good sense" isn't going to dress like a two-year old or a pre-teen just because their body shape is the approximation of a slim pre- or teenaged girl. To do so is definitely in my humble opinon "tacky." A woman of mature years should dress WELL and appropriately for the situation AND her age--there is nothing more pitiful to me, than to see a woman wh0 (whatever her shape or size) try to make herself appear "more youthful" by dressing in clothing much more appropriate to another situation or age.

I have several friends who are nicely shaped, and in their 50s and 60s and they dress very well--some more flamboyantly than others--but none dress dowdy, they all dress "with class" and in garments that are tasteful, classy, and "age appropriate." I also have some friends that age who are quite heavy, but also dress appropriately and with some "class" and express their selves in their dress in a way t hat is attractive, says they are intelligent and care how they look. Unfortunately, a walk down any street in any city or town will show you people of all ages who "dress inappropriately for place, body shape, and age." Some of these people who are "expressing their individuality" and supposedly trying to make themselves comfortable and pleasing to others will usually cause others to laugh, sneer, 0r just feel disgust that anyone could be so delusional in "what looks good" or what "expresses individuality."

By our dress, grooming and presentation to "the public" and our family and friends we express ourselves, but unfortunately, I think that what many people are trying to "express" is done so poorly that they don't present the image that they are trying for but actually appear pathetic. Sort of like the much older women who had dark hair in their youth and in their "old age" in an attempt to "appear younger" dye it jet black, which actually makes them appear much much older, and also make them appear to be "trying to make themselves look young"--sort of like a bad toupee on a man, or some ridiculous "comb over" where the man only has a few hairs on the side of his head and h e grows them 5 feet long so he can twirl those few hairs into a "cover" for his bald pate.

I'm 60 years old, and I have never dressed "dowdy" or "old" or worn clothing 3 sizes too small for my weight in an effort to say "I wear a size 8, I have always worn a size 8." If a 10 is what fits then I will wear a size 10--or a size 22W if that is what my size or shape is. But I don't think dressing like a pre-teen makes me look any "younger" and I am very comfortable with my salt and pepper hair--in fact, I am comfortable with ME. My clothing says this I think, without appearing "inappropriate" to age, situation, or place.
 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 98
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:08:36 PM
It's interesting how that clothing for a male of 25 isn't different than clothing for a male of 55. But department stores have clothing that is specifically sorted into Juniors, over 21, young professional, mature professional, etc. for women. But it's not interesting enough that I give a crap about whether or not I should shop in the junior department. The pants are cheaper than the professional women's. lol
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:16:22 PM
Just because I *am* a little old lady does not mean I have to dress like one. Many of the clothing designed with older women in mind is shapeless and bland. I happen to have worked very hard to have a decent figure and I like to show it off. I give two hoots if it isn't considered "age appropriate." I know it's only rock n roll and I like it!

 Behindthescenes
Joined: 6/20/2007
Msg: 100
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 9/25/2007 12:02:55 PM
My sons ( 20 & 13 ) and I have a saying that sure fits this topic...." Just because they make it in your size , does NOT necissarily ..mean YOU should be wearing it !! " Use some taste ladies, just because you can fit into things from the Jr. department does not mean it looks approperiate on you. I have worked in a number of high end stores and you might be surprized at the things " adult " ladies try and fit into or think look good on them . There have been times I have wanted to phone the clothes abuse hot line on some of them, trying to stuff their size 12 + size into jr. size 6 things. Nope no matter how much you try that zipper ain't going to the top lady..lol. Then they have the nerve to bring the stuff to the sales people and say ..I want a discount on this cause the zipper ,seams, buttons are broken..hmmmm go figure out that happened eh..lol. Everyone should be able to dress in what makes them feel good but pleaseeeeeeee show a little taste approperate for your size and ages.
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