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 OxDrover
Joined: 7/20/2006
Msg: 101
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From my point of view, it isn't about "dressing dowdy"--some older women choose to do this, some don't--it is "age appropriate"--there are generalizations about what people wear to (1) different places (2) different events (3) day vs night etc. It is age appropriate for a baby/infant to wear visible diapers covered only by an over pants, but it is not "age appropriate" for a teenager or adult to do this--even if they have a "leaking" problem. It is "age appropriate" for a pre-teen or teen to wear "trendy, cute, 'flashy' outfits some places, but not appropriate at other places, for example at church or a wedding, etc. At work in some places it is age appropriate for a woman to appear in a business suit, but not a "pre-teen appropriate" outfit that is revealing or "flash"-- NO ONE, even an 80 year old dowger, has to "dress frumpy" but I think anyone with any "taste" or "good sense" isn't going to dress like a two-year old or a pre-teen just because their body shape is the approximation of a slim pre- or teenaged girl. To do so is definitely in my humble opinon "tacky." A woman of mature years should dress WELL and appropriately for the situation AND her age--there is nothing more pitiful to me, than to see a woman wh0 (whatever her shape or size) try to make herself appear "more youthful" by dressing in clothing much more appropriate to another situation or age.

I have several friends who are nicely shaped, and in their 50s and 60s and they dress very well--some more flamboyantly than others--but none dress dowdy, they all dress "with class" and in garments that are tasteful, classy, and "age appropriate." I also have some friends that age who are quite heavy, but also dress appropriately and with some "class" and express their selves in their dress in a way t hat is attractive, says they are intelligent and care how they look. Unfortunately, a walk down any street in any city or town will show you people of all ages who "dress inappropriately for place, body shape, and age." Some of these people who are "expressing their individuality" and supposedly trying to make themselves comfortable and pleasing to others will usually cause others to laugh, sneer, 0r just feel disgust that anyone could be so delusional in "what looks good" or what "expresses individuality."

By our dress, grooming and presentation to "the public" and our family and friends we express ourselves, but unfortunately, I think that what many people are trying to "express" is done so poorly that they don't present the image that they are trying for but actually appear pathetic. Sort of like the much older women who had dark hair in their youth and in their "old age" in an attempt to "appear younger" dye it jet black, which actually makes them appear much much older, and also make them appear to be "trying to make themselves look young"--sort of like a bad toupee on a man, or some ridiculous "comb over" where the man only has a few hairs on the side of his head and h e grows them 5 feet long so he can twirl those few hairs into a "cover" for his bald pate.

I'm 60 years old, and I have never dressed "dowdy" or "old" or worn clothing 3 sizes too small for my weight in an effort to say "I wear a size 8, I have always worn a size 8." If a 10 is what fits then I will wear a size 10--or a size 22W if that is what my size or shape is. But I don't think dressing like a pre-teen makes me look any "younger" and I am very comfortable with my salt and pepper hair--in fact, I am comfortable with ME. My clothing says this I think, without appearing "inappropriate" to age, situation, or place.
 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 102
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:08:36 PM
It's interesting how that clothing for a male of 25 isn't different than clothing for a male of 55. But department stores have clothing that is specifically sorted into Juniors, over 21, young professional, mature professional, etc. for women. But it's not interesting enough that I give a crap about whether or not I should shop in the junior department. The pants are cheaper than the professional women's. lol
 Scintillating_Angel
Joined: 5/2/2006
Msg: 103
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Posted: 4/16/2007 2:16:22 PM
Just because I *am* a little old lady does not mean I have to dress like one. Many of the clothing designed with older women in mind is shapeless and bland. I happen to have worked very hard to have a decent figure and I like to show it off. I give two hoots if it isn't considered "age appropriate." I know it's only rock n roll and I like it!

 Behindthescenes
Joined: 6/20/2007
Msg: 104
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 9/25/2007 12:02:55 PM
My sons ( 20 & 13 ) and I have a saying that sure fits this topic...." Just because they make it in your size , does NOT necissarily ..mean YOU should be wearing it !! " Use some taste ladies, just because you can fit into things from the Jr. department does not mean it looks approperiate on you. I have worked in a number of high end stores and you might be surprized at the things " adult " ladies try and fit into or think look good on them . There have been times I have wanted to phone the clothes abuse hot line on some of them, trying to stuff their size 12 + size into jr. size 6 things. Nope no matter how much you try that zipper ain't going to the top lady..lol. Then they have the nerve to bring the stuff to the sales people and say ..I want a discount on this cause the zipper ,seams, buttons are broken..hmmmm go figure out that happened eh..lol. Everyone should be able to dress in what makes them feel good but pleaseeeeeeee show a little taste approperate for your size and ages.
 breadpudding
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 105
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Posted: 9/27/2007 9:50:08 AM
Age appropriate? As far as I'm concerned, there's no such standard. I believe it is appropriate to dress for the occasion, weather condition and the culture regardless of age or dress size. With that in mind, my attire is more reflective of my weight and height, rather than my age or what department in the store the clothes were found. Age appropriate, ........... Or dressing contemporary? Appealing sexy clothes are not just for younger women. Sexy, trendy, attire is all I'm comfortable wearing. It will be a while, if ever, that I’ll select drab polyester, or elastic waistbands.
 prof48
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 106
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Posted: 9/27/2007 12:45:59 PM
You know, if you look at pictures on dating sites there are women in their forties who look much younger and women in their twenties who look much older. I assume the same is true for men. I would argue that dress should be appropriate to your lifestyle and goals and if your body is such that you can still handle "junior" clothing, more power to you. I personally love long hair, but as my hair thinned it no longer was professionally acceptable--in my own mind anyway. Dress should be appropriate to your lifestyle and social environment. That has little to do with age. It may limit your dating to men who can accomodate that lifestyle dress as well, though. Nothing worse than having your bf or SO's associates asking if your their daughter/neice.
 MaG_RET
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 107
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Posted: 9/27/2007 1:35:09 PM
Seems to me that you ladies should wear what you're comfortable with and what suits your body. Other than that statement, I'll throw in that I really enjoy seeing a lady in a dress occasionally. Slacks and jeans are fine, but not ALL THE TIME. 2cw
 Wherefore Art Thou?
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 108
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 9/27/2007 8:27:00 PM

I always try to buy stylish and up-to-date underwear as I want to look and feel good when I'm home posting on the forums. Maybe I need to get out more.
Thank you, Coug! Couldn't have said it better myself!
 BULLSPIDER
Joined: 9/20/2007
Msg: 109
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Posted: 9/27/2007 8:43:13 PM
Ninki if it fits,you fell comfortable in the outfit then go for it.
 shipoker
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 110
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 9/27/2007 9:20:46 PM
If you like it, wear it. Screw what other people think! If you look good in it or not....be you!............................................................JMO
 beadlady
Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 111
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 9/28/2007 4:13:12 AM
My children threatened to send me to that show,
What Not To Wear! As you can see in my pic
I wear long skirts, yes, stuck in the hippie days, lol.
My daughter - in - law and my daughter both took me
out shopping having me try on things that I thought
were just not me but to my surprise I actually liked them
and bought a few things.
When my b/f walked into the kitchen after work and saw
me his eyes popped out, lol. It was just a knee length skirt
with a little tank top but good grief, he made me feel like
I was a million dollars. Still have all the long skirts and
my jeans but hey, wear what you like, we are not here
to live our lives as others see fit. If I like it and it
doesn`t look totally stupid on me, I`m gonna wear it.
 jeeprennie
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 112
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 9/28/2007 8:59:55 AM
People put too much emphasis on age. Dress what you feel good and look good in. If someone else doesn't like it, ignore them.
 hotlipzz07
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 113
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 10/18/2007 9:32:14 PM
i agree,i`m 47 and still wear the cute jeans and tops,and i`m not a size 2,so if you feel comfortable in it,wear it
 pegasus_lady_1
Joined: 6/2/2006
Msg: 114
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:55:33 AM
Hi y'all. I know I'm getting a late start on this thread. But I just wanted to say that I feel as the majority of the rest of you do. Wear whatever is comfortable for yourself...and "body appropriate".

As a youth...I was extremely heavy. So, now that I'm older and have a better body. I LOVE showing it off. As the saying goes....if you got it...FLAUNT IT!!!! If someone doesn't like the way you look.....they don't have to look at ya!!!

Anyone that takes the time to get to know you....no matter how you dress....will find the real you anyways.
 happycat444
Joined: 12/15/2006
Msg: 115
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Posted: 5/4/2008 5:51:36 PM
dress in what you like, not to someone else's tastes.........if someone dumps you for what you wear, they aren't looking deep enough..............comfort firsT!!!
 Blithe_Spirit
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 116
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 5/4/2008 6:02:21 PM
There are certain styles that I find unappealing, but you can forgive teenagers for wearing them because "everybody else is." Examples are those jeans that are cut too low so underwear (or worse) shows out the top of them - and bare midriffs showing off a belly-button piercing. Also those pants that are tight around the hip almost forcing a "muffin top" (wad of fat) to balloon out over the waistband.

So what about the person who can't use the excuse "everybody else is"? In other words, someone old enough to be the teenager's parent or even grandparent.

I ain't sayin' nothin'. I'm just shaking my head, and that's what I do when I encounter a ripe old avocado dressed like a kid. Just my two cents' worth.
 Beaugrand®™©
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 117
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Posted: 5/4/2008 6:14:27 PM
I can't think of an age where t-shirts aren't appropriate, and they make jeans to fit anybody. I just can't decide whether to wear the cross-trainers or the "walking" shoes...
 Chocolatebrowne
Joined: 1/19/2006
Msg: 118
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:57:07 AM
I believe in age, profession, and body appropriate dress. Just because I'm petite, and VERY young-looking for my age, doesn't mean (my opinion for me, only), that I should dress like a teenager, nor does it mean that I should dress like an old lady,. There is a middle ground, and it's called "good taste."

One earlier poster talked about her disgust in seeing a thong and the "crack of someone's ass", and I AGREE with that assessment! I DON'T WANT TO SEE YOUR UNDERWEAR, YOUR FAT ASS, YOUR FLAT ASS, THE CRACK OF YOUR ASS, YOUR WRINKLED BREASTS, OR ANY OF YOUR BODY PARTS! Please cover them up when you are in public. Dress any way you want in private, but please, whatever happened to common sense and good taste.
 Rhonda 2
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 119
Age appropriate dress
Posted: 5/5/2008 8:59:44 AM
entirely Cholatebrowne. I don't care to see that either, although to be fair- I don't want to see some man's big belly protruding from his undershirt, or his ass bulging from his sagging pants. Honestly I think women are worse about this- maybe because they have shown their stuff all their life- and now that its saggy and fat- they don't know to cover it up.

For me- I wear classic styles- tweeds, skirts, heels, mostly dressy shirtwaists in the summer. These have always been around- probably always will- because they look good.

Rhonda
 Chocolatebrowne
Joined: 1/19/2006
Msg: 120
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Posted: 5/5/2008 9:09:46 AM
That's how I like to dress, too, Rhonda2. Classic! You can never make a mistake, or I suppose they are now called fashion faux pas.....

Also, I agree, I hate those "pregnant man-bellies", and "plumbers crack" pants....I am neither an obstetrician or a proctologist, and am not practicing to be either....
 MelloDLyn
Joined: 10/25/2004
Msg: 121
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Posted: 5/5/2008 9:27:37 AM
I only shop in the jrs also. I don't like older women clothing. I say u can wear what ever u look good in. I look younger than my age also. If u look good u will get hit on by younger guys.
 winterwarrior
Joined: 4/1/2008
Msg: 122
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Posted: 5/5/2008 10:59:19 AM
just wear what you like if someone doesnt like what i wear just go on down the road,im at a age where it doesnt really matter just as long as its comfortable
 Rhonda 2
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 123
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Posted: 5/5/2008 11:57:17 AM
well I don't agree with "wear what you like". Nothing looks sillier that a 50 year old woman wearing teenager clothes.
 AgelessWonder
Joined: 4/12/2006
Msg: 124
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Posted: 5/5/2008 12:25:08 PM
well I don't agree with "wear what you like". Nothing looks sillier that a 50 year old woman wearing teenager clothes.

That is up to who is wearing the clothes. If you don't like them, don't wear them. What looks silly to some may not to others, JMO
 Luv_2_Ski
Joined: 8/16/2007
Msg: 125
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Posted: 5/5/2008 12:47:07 PM

well I don't agree with "wear what you like". Nothing looks sillier that a 50 year old woman wearing teenager clothes.


Are there any more "rules" you believe someone should conform to in order to not "look silly" ??

Where what you like, do what you like, go where you like, be what you like. The ONLY rule is don't harm others with your choices but for god's sake don't limit yourself to a world where you won't "look silly". In fact - go out of your way to "look silly" - it's good for the ego!

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