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 Tinman2009
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 75
3rd date/5th date rulePage 2 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
Why not just have sex on the first date? That way you get the sexual tension out of the way. If he doiesn't call the next day then you'll know for sure that's all he wanted and you don't have to waste any more time trying to figure it out.
 kelly0690
Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 80
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:03:36 PM
I love that theoretical question. Personally I think I does depend on the actual meeting of the people. If there's chemistry? Then there's no going back or putting the brakes on, so to speak. These days, if it takes up to five dates? Why bother. Some body should take a hint. The other person is just being curtious and possibly going for the free meal/entertainment. Guys bring your raincoats either way. Don't leave it up to us.
 Foster1
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 82
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3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:24:19 PM
I've never heard of those rules. I do think there should be a time frame in which you decide. However your decision will proably only aid you. This is how things start to get out of whack and a perfect parallel universe gets turned upside down. If it's the 1st 5 seconds or the last 5 seconds of the relationship be sure to inform your date of your decision.


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 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 85
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/12/2008 3:23:42 PM

I don't care if you're on the 1st or 50th date, if you have to "cave in" to sex, then you shouldn't be having it. Having respect for yourself should be more important that if he respects you.


At least once more.
 AceOfSpace
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 86
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 9:07:33 AM

I don't care if you're on the 1st or 50th date, if you have to "cave in" to sex, then you shouldn't be having it. Having respect for yourself should be more important that if he respects you.


Let me echo that as well and add this:

If you're doing something with me that you're ratehr not be doing, I'd just-as-soon skip it too. Really.

There are worse things in life than a case of blue balls. A grown man understands wha t"no" means. He also understands what "stop" means. Me? I'll stop on a dime at any time. If it doesn't feel right to you, who needs it--or the dreadful aftermath? I might check in to be sure that "no" or "stop" is what you really mean, but if it is, I'd rather you tell me so we can figure out what you'll be content with in that moment. Believe it or not, whether we're in a committed relationship or not, I want you to be happy and to have a truly good time with me whether it's 1 date or a 50+ year marriage.

I have never lost respect for a woman who has sex with me. I am grateful to each one!

I have lost interest in women who attach hidden meanings to it, use it as bait for whatever other agenda they might have, or otherwise do things that indicate they don't actually respect me. In most cases, I don't think they even realize it when they are disrespecting of me--a mere male.

Why would I want to have sex with someone who doesn't respect me, and especially someone who lacks the self-awareness to realize that she really doesn't?

If a woman doesn't respect herself, she can't possibly respect me. She might fear me because I'm male and therefore might hurt her feelings, but that's not respect.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 87
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 9:18:30 AM

If you're doing something with me that you're ratehr not be doing, I'd just-as-soon skip it too. Really.


(I assume you meant "rather" rather than "rate/hr" ) - But yeah... count me in on this. I don't care if I'm in the middle of my third orgasm, if a woman says "no" it's NO (or if we have a safety word). And pressuring a woman for sex, to me, is kind of a weenie thing to do... (I think of it as first-degree rape).

And ladies, whenever you give in to these pushy guys (when you don't really want to) it reinforces that this is a successful way for them to score with women (I know you already knew that. ). Next time, kick them in the nuts... just to mix things up a bit.
 The Minister of Dudeness
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 88
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 11:29:24 AM
3rd Date: you’re both over at your place in your Mom’s basement with a bottle of Boones Farm: ... BoOm cHiKA BoW bOW…..... ohhhhhhhh yeeeeeeaaaaahhhhhh….

5th Date: Stalking her in front of her condo: “I have the police on their way and they are going to enforce my new restraining order, so you’d better get off from my porch, you miserable loser…”
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 89
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 12:14:25 PM
^^^ Sock, who you been talkin' to?

(pssst... Janet!!! You know restraining orders are for sissy's right?)
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 90
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 12:37:19 PM
My guy is a nice Christian Boy...
(I am not religious...)

"...didn't want to be a fling," he said... "wanted it to last," he said...
..."didn't want to be just some guy," he said...

He made ME wait three whole weeks!!!

As THE planned date (he set) approached, he started getting really antsy!
We saw each other practically every day up until the date (he lives almost across the street from me),
and our mutual friends kept telling us, "get a a room!" and "are you two still here?" "
It was good to have A LOT of making-out with the heat turned WAY up
because by the time we got there, we were both VERY ready.

Now, I have had more long-term relationships in my life than not, but there
have been those couple of times when I had wished I had been more patient in my youth.
--Not that every situation merits specific rules to me,
just believing some prospective boyfriend (I thought, anyway) was a nicer guy than he was.

I think the 3rd or 5th date is only becomes a RULE in hind-sight, for a lot of us.
...I think I had to not shave my legs to keep that one a couple of times!
lol!
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 91
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 12:40:32 PM

I think I had to not shave my legs to keep that one a couple of times!


So, if we're messing around and your legs aren't shaved... I'll know you're being BAD?
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 92
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 12:52:52 PM
^^^No, it would mean that I decided NOT to sleep with you before I got ready for our date! lol
Convenient hearing, that Pete!
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 93
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 12:59:17 PM

^^^No, it would mean that I decided NOT to sleep with you before I got ready for our date! lol


Yes, but if we're messing around... wouldn't that mean you changed your mind?
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 94
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 1:07:31 PM
HAHA! Nice eyebrows!lol
I see....Yes, the chase makes it a sweeter victory for most of you guys!
If we like you, I think Barbe said it, we just won't run very fast!
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 95
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/13/2008 1:11:55 PM
Well yeah... especially with those unshaven legs.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 98
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:31:30 PM

I hate those rules, they make a diservice to us all, specially women!


Whaddaya mean? They hold off guys for three dates. Geez... what more do you want?
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 101
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/15/2008 4:18:35 PM

I want sex between two consenting adults whenever we want, with no regards to rules...if a relationship develops, great, if not, great! is that asking too much?


I think most guys are on board with that.
 mrsaint75
Joined: 5/4/2007
Msg: 102
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/17/2008 10:35:40 AM
I have heard about the rules. I have also been told don’t call after two to three days after the first date. It has been my experiences that there are no rules when it comes to dating. I have dated women who want to get it on after the second date and I have dated woman who wanted to wait until the tenth date. It all depends on the type of woman you are dating.

I have also been told not to wait two to three days to call. I had one woman who got upset because I didn’t call her back right away. I decided to wait. Luckily, I called her and told her that I had a busy weekend and she bought it and we did go out again. Unfortunately, she wasn’t looking for a relationship.

Thanks to text massaging you can send a quick massage the next day saying you had a fun time. When it comes to dating, I believe there are no rules. That’s my two cents on the subject.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 103
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/17/2008 12:10:19 PM

I have dated woman who wanted to wait until the tenth date.


Damn! And here I've been working under a "dump them if no sex after the 9th date" rule...


Thanks to text massaging you can send a quick massage the next day


Wow. You can do that now? Is that feature on those new i-Phones? Hope they don't drop the call during the happy ending.
 fra59e
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 105
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/19/2008 6:45:49 PM


Posted By: pete73052 on 8/15/2008 435 PM
Subject: 3rd date/5th date rule
Message:
I want sex between two consenting adults whenever we want, with no regards to rules...if a relationship develops, great, if not, great! is that asking too much?


I think most guys are on board with that.



If any woman chooses to decide on sex because of counting the number of dates, then I don't want it. The ONLY basis on which I want sex with her is desire, not accounting or bookkeeping.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 107
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:42:11 PM
^^^ Needs to check my balance sheets...
 kittybiscuit
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 109
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:13:46 PM
The 3rd/5th date rule is for people who want sex. If they don't get sex within that specified time, then they know the person is looking for something more than sex and they do not continue to waste their time getting involved. They move on to the next one to bang, then the next, etc.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 110
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:26:24 PM

Where'd that wooden ruler go .....


Sweetie, a tape measure might be required. And don't forget the holding costs.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 112
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:38:25 PM
Oh no!!! My assets are vulnerable - and I'm struggling with my bonds.

(don't go there... I'm warning you... LOL)
 The Minister of Dudeness
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 113
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/19/2008 11:03:44 PM
Why don't you two little investors use the night depository for your seed capital, and remember there is a penalty for early withdrawal if you use the first in-first out method since there will be no credits for any debits (unless you employ the double-entry technique)... And something about your receivables aging 30-60-90, or more like thirty 69'y.

(Okay, who said accountants are button-down boring? So, Pete, put on that green eye shade and start fingering those touch keys.)
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 115
3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/20/2008 9:35:44 AM

compromise and make it the 4th


OK... but does it work like a slot machine? If you dated somebody else three times, and I come along - do I hit the jackpot?
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