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 marshw
Joined: 8/9/2005
Msg: 26
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Ovaries do not cease estrogen production, they just slow down some (maybe a lot). Proper stimulation can re-light that fire. I've heard of post-menopausal women who have started having periods again and everything as a result of a particularly exciting lover entering their lives.
 Tarika
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 2/23/2007 7:49:28 PM
I'm over 45, and I think I've always had an healthy attitude and appreciation toward good sex. Yes, I know how to 'dance the dance.' However, men my age...now that's another story.
 Tarika
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 2/23/2007 7:55:11 PM
Yes, Nikos...each man is a different story....but in general men over 50 don't do anything for me.
 sex_artist
Joined: 1/25/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 9/26/2007 9:14:35 PM

the only problem that I see for sex and women over 40/50 is that the men over 40/50 can't keep up...shame.....



Ouch!!!!! I sort of resent that!!!! At the same time.... it depends... if I'm with a Pillow Queen and have to do all the "work" .... then yes I can't keep up but ....If I'm with someone who likes the back and forth of effort ... I don't have any problen keeping up ... thank you very much.....

Talk about not keeping up.... I find it rare to find a woman over 40 who can stay on top for more than 5 minutes without complaining about bad knees or something... Age does play a factor in some things I'm afraid!!!!!

As far as pillow queens who can go for hours..... thats why we have maturity.... in order to incorporate multiple partners with multiple Orgasms..... without the jealousy of youth....... Mmmmmmmm

Don aka Sex Artist
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 30
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Posted: 9/26/2007 9:19:06 PM
Great something more to worry about...*walks off shaking head*
 wodehousefan2
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 10/1/2007 2:54:53 PM
The lady does not understand that there is a purely chemical sex drive-from hormones-and there is a purely mental sex drive which comes from imagination. The horniest woman I ever knew was one who had had a complete hysterectomy, and also gone past the age of menopause, and so had no hormonal sex drive. After she met me, and decided to try having sex again-after many years of going without it-she had her first orgasms with a man, and found she liked them. From then on, she wanted sex all the time. The physical-emotional experience of multiple orgasms stimulated her imagination, and she could not stop thinking about doing me again. Her mental sex drive kicked into high gear. Many people do not realize that there is a non-hormonal sex drive, but those who know it enjoy it. HRT works for some women, and not for others, but is not needed to kick the mental sex drive up. Find younger women, or older women who are enlightened.
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 32
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Posted: 10/1/2007 3:37:10 PM
hmmmm....41, no where near menopause yet

But libido seems to go up after 35, not down....

now I just have to find the time!
 kotu1111
Joined: 7/26/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 10/2/2007 6:46:50 PM
well without sounding too much of a a "typical" male i would be willing to bet that 99% of most men with a normal sex drive would consider any relationship that doesn't involve some sex with a woman to be friendship...which is fine as long as both parties are quite aware of the friendship...and if whoever i am dating didn't want to have sex anymore than i wouldn't want to date them because sex is part of any relationship that isn't based on friendship
 redheadlady4
Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 10/2/2007 11:39:58 PM
RIGHT ON GIRLFRIEND !!!!! i couldnt have said it better myself. I have no problems what so ever....in fact, so much better than at any other point in my life..
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/12/2007 6:15:42 AM

The first poster's "friend" is mistaken. None of my post-menopausal women friends have any problems with their sex drive - and no one takes hormone replacements. It's the best time ever. The single women I know would just like to find a guy who is as interested as they are.

ROFL!!! That is so funny, and so sad! I'm 55, and the first signs of menopause are just beginning to appear. In fact, I told my doctor at this years check up that at 50, it was humorus, NOW it's more like a cruel joke! Anyhow....Last Christmas I was having lunch with 2 of my cousins (both younger) and the one asked me how to find a man!!! LOL! Well, I was a little shocked, she's 52, never married....in fact spent her entire life as a missionary, now a guidance counsilor at a Christian school. I jokingly told her not to worry about it....menopause would soon arrive and she'd lose interest! WOW, did I get an education! They BOTH told me that they'd been THROUGH menopause several years earlier and that their sex drives were in fact STRONGER than ever. No estrogen. LOL! so, and you can check my membership date here on POF...I came straight home and started looking at dating sites! LOL! I'd ended my last relationship almost a year earlier and mistakenly assumed that sooner or later menopause would kill my sex drive so I hadn't been interested in looking for a new relationship. LOL! talk about having your expectations crushed! All these men my age want nothing but someone to cook them dinner and be available to call the rescue squad if they have a chest pain! LOL! Life is Sooooo unfair!!!!
 Argentum Crinis Philogus
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/12/2007 6:48:36 AM
Nature has played a cruel joke on human beings and at the same time, makes sense. The male libido runs at full throttle between the ages of 16 to 28 on average and then begins a slow decline. The shift has been described as going from eight times a night to eight times as long, albeit it a myth in the latter and a truism in the former.

What does tend to happen is that the male while libido slowly diminishes with age as testosterone levels decline. Females who no longer have a fear of pregnancy become more free to pursue those desires that have become repressed. There is also something to be said around the different wiring between men and woman. While the male testosterone levels are at a peak in their young adult years, a female, especially one who is rearing children, has a lower libido and its likely a good thing as the children would suffer while both sexes our out sowing their wild oats.

Birth control methods and pharmaceuticals have somewhat altered this natural rhythm. In fact, a scientific study of this might be interesting.

It doesn't seem fair that when males are at their sexual peak, females are much much lower. At the same time, if they were equal, not much else would get done.

As a male who was privileged to experience the full throttle libido of older women when I was a mere 18 year-old, I often utter a thanksgivings for for that privilege and receiving the corresponding benefits of knowledge and skill (The Mrs. Robinson Effect). The old country song and axiom is a truism from my experiences that "Older women make good lovers".

While I eventually met and married in my age range for love and child-rearing. I've always preferred older women and now that I've entered the range and realm in which women are the sexiest and most skilled, I feel like a kid in a candy store. The negative part about being a male in the mid 40s is the growing battle with the loss of testosterone and having to rely on chemistry (thankful though) to help generate what the body is not manufacturing on its own.

As an aside, the female hormones are not source of low sex drive in women, it is also a lowering of testosterone levels that can easily be addressed through a gel or cream available by prescription from a physician.

Women who have entered their sexual peaks are not insatiable so much as they desire to be satisfied and that requires a skillful lover. While an older woman with a younger man can certainly have a larger quantity of sexual activity, it is typically less satisfying than less quantity that is fully satisfying. The former is a product of nature and the latter a product of skill.

Both are great and yet my former experience suggests that while the sex is great, the mental stimulation is lacking since the younger male is not the intellectual equal of the older female who becomes somewhat dismayed at having to explain everything to the younger male and loses that sharing of common frames of reference that she will share with a male in her age range.

When a woman finds both intellectual stimulation along with profound sexual skill in a male lover, she will not feel insatiable, she will feel satisfied as both elements will be present. Add the additional emotional piece of being head-over-heels in-love and fully invested, and you have relational bliss. The next step is maintaining all of these parts--which is always challenging and why I keep very busy helping others who have lost their way in these areas.

Whenever I recall intimate moments with older women and those of the present, I often hear the song in my head, "She's got skills". LOL





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 dcbilttime
Joined: 10/4/2006
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Posted: 11/12/2007 12:12:56 PM
Guys If you want to find your self some excitement. Then go find your self a female in her late 30s or old and if she has just gotten divorced, big plus. Not only will you have the time of your life but I bet you will learn something. I have found that the over 40s are more open and enjoy experimenting more. The younger ladies are still looking to have the white picket fence, 2.4 kids, a cat and a dog. The over 40s, well go find out for your self.

PS. You might want to get in shape first
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/12/2007 8:07:14 PM
Yup, and I'm gonna stop telling all my little 20 something admirers that they have to bring permission slips from their Mommys!!!! LOL!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/13/2007 4:15:07 AM

I have been told I was insatiable.. Here I had always thought having a high sex drive was a good thing.
LOL! Sassy! I KNOW....and you just have to look at them and think...."Are you out of your freaking mind??? You're seriously whining about THIS?"
 Desi1955
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/13/2007 5:39:57 AM
I'm 51 and my sex drive is higher than it's been in many years . The problem is finding a man my age who is as interested as I am. I understand why older women look for younger men
 WilmNurse
Joined: 10/17/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/13/2007 4:37:46 PM
I am not certain how others feel, sex at 44 is wonderful!!! Can't wait until 45!!!
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 11/27/2007 3:29:46 PM
I am 52 and sex has never been better!!!! And I don't take anything!!!
 homerchey
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/27/2007 4:04:02 PM
i am 50, and i m not intrested in younger women. sure there hot but give me someone who knows what there doing , and isnt shy in the bed room.
personaly i think the main factor of a healty sex drive is the way
you think about it.

i dont have anyproblem going all night just like i did when i was youger
but quanity is not as improtant as quality

i had rather do it once right , then three times wrong .

people have the wrong idea , at least some do . sex is not about taking

its all about giving , if you give all you have , and all you can do

and your partner does the same .

that is a night to remeber

hugs everone
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 44
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Posted: 11/28/2007 7:28:38 AM
my sexual appetite has increased with age..

i fully expect to self-combust at 50

(and no, that wasn't a metaphor for... uh.. *anything*.. )
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 45
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Posted: 11/28/2007 1:07:03 PM
I've never seen any sign of age affecting anybodys sex drive , male or fmeale.

I have seen ONE thing though.
Young men are prepared to jump through hoops for sex.

Older men are not prepared to jump through hoops for anybody. As men age they bome incrreasingly intolerant of relatinships with strings attached, while the women persist with trying to give the men a hard time.
Thats why older women run out of men.
 _countrygirl
Joined: 11/21/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/28/2007 2:06:12 PM
I am turning 40 on friday and all I can say is bring it on I am feeling just fine in that department........other than finding a willing partner who wants a realtionship.It has been a long dry spell.LOL
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 11/28/2007 2:10:23 PM
Sex is great at any time and even better when with someone mature enough to understand not only your needs, but theirs as well......makes it that much better for the both of us........

Just my opinion.......
 cookinggal111
Joined: 11/1/2007
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/28/2007 2:14:51 PM
I mentioned this in another thread about sex and age and it also applies here.


When you get older, you usually have more sexual experience and you have a better idea of what you like and don't like. Yet I still think the biggest factor in having great sex is my partner. An athletic/fit man who knows how to use his "tool" and satisfy me would obviously produce much better sex than unattractive man who doesn't know how to please a woman.
 BOIT
Joined: 11/21/2007
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Posted: 11/29/2007 8:23:05 PM
.....uh my experience is that I now believe 40-50 yr. old women think more about sex than 40-50 yr old guys.....am I wrong?
 fingerman075
Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 50
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Posted: 12/13/2007 6:03:19 PM
ill tell you it dose efeck some in driffent way, talking menopause, some get turned on in high gear other lose it all to gether, there systems work but they no longer want too play, more like a lump on a log, turn very subsivie,wanting the guy too
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