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 favod
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 86
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Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?Page 6 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
I believe the odds are not in your favor to match up with a human being to exactly meet your needs and vice-versa. It can happen but if you only wait for that person your whole life, will you have wasted a lot of time just waiting. Maybe we are not supposed to matched with a perfect match. If we meet someone who meets 8 out of 10 of our major critieria in a relationship, should they be turned away ! Or 7 out of 10 or 9 out of 10. We each somehow sense what would make us happy but there are no guarantees. Life is well of experience that we should drink from. The more experience we have with life, the more wise we are.
 engine51
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 87
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/26/2007 6:17:44 PM
"Ok, I'll bite. What's your definition of a real man? I sure hope it doesn't involve wearing boots and funny hats while walking in used horse food."

Good one! No, it has nothing to do with clothes or where you walk. If you can treat a woman right... and put men who abuse women, in their place, you havea good shot at true man hood. Also, putting down another guy to try to impress a woman is pretty sad.
 RANDYS72
Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 89
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/26/2007 9:27:05 PM
for me the reason is simple. I'm not like most folks .You might say I'm different . odd maybe.
You see , I'm Filipino , born and raised here in California . That don't sound too strange for most folks but I was not raised like most . I did not grow up in an environment that everyone would consider typical of California. I'm intelligent and can communicate in real American English.I will not give out too many details but I grew up in a very isolated area and loved the country life and old traditions . I joined the military for a few years and when I got back I did my best to live in the remote place that was home . There was hardly any work so I did the next best thing and moved to the Central Valley to work at a feed lot. loved the work and all but hated the boss so I moved my things back to the hills after 4 years . I drive old Chevys and play and listen to old country music and go to bluegrass festivals . Most of my friends now are either 60 and older or 18 and younger . I've lived in town now for a few years and
have had several relationships with women . They've been great ones but the the one thing that kept getting in the way was a lack of trust in me .I seem to find women who can't seem to tell me what I'm doing wrong but they want you to know that whatever it is , it's wrong.
another thing about me is that I don't wear sweats , shorts , t-shirts , sandals, sneakers,long hair, bald head, don't do drugs ,don't wear baggy pants, no tattoos, I'm not liberal, no ear rings, no piercings, not gay, I'm stubborn , and these are some of the things that I am aware of . I know there are many more but I don't want to bore you . Trust me , I don't have an inferiority complex, but you can see what could get in the way of most relationships . I'm sure that most of you out there can do better than me because you relate to the popular culture of today . So take heart , your soulmates are out there somewhere. Good luck.
 fra59e
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 91
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/27/2007 4:18:41 PM
Why is it so hard to find a "soul mate"? The reason it is so hard is that there is no such thing as a "soul mate". There is no perfect person out there. There are just lots of potential mates you can match up with and enjoy and you can build a relationship by working on it and accepting the reality that people are what they are. The "soul mate" is just an ideal, a quaint concept invented by Plato.

People who think there is some "soul mate" out there waiting for them delude themselves and doom themselves constant disappointment. Every person you meet can in fact be part of what you want in your life and it is a good idea to look for that and enjoy it and be responsive to it and just blow off the fantasy of the perfect "soul mate" which is somewhere out there in space with the elves and unicorns, just an amusing idea, not a reality.
 Paddy O Furniture
Joined: 9/15/2006
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Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/27/2007 6:07:08 PM
but when looking for a true soul mate you really need to do it doggy style


I might agree to that up tp a certain point.

But when it comes to the sniffing of each others butts part....I'm gone.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 102
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 9:37:55 AM
I think that finding a soul mate has more to do with preparing ourselves for finding someone. When our soul is ready, we will be ready for that special mate.
 Paddy O Furniture
Joined: 9/15/2006
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Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 10:55:50 AM
I hate the term "Soul Mate" For some reason, whenever I hear it, I always associate it with Don Cornelious
 Paddy O Furniture
Joined: 9/15/2006
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Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:39:31 AM
personally do not want a kitchen full of junk food, or watch someone drink themselves into a stupor, or need to purchase viagra because he does not work out... call me shallow


They have to take Viagra. It reverses the effects of the steroids.

If you don't believe me, just ask Arnold & Maria
 Paddy O Furniture
Joined: 9/15/2006
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Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:51:22 AM
Truth of the matter is that all of this is well and good, but it does'nt really address the heart of the music that some people need to find their own soul before they can find its mate.
 Paddy O Furniture
Joined: 9/15/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 12:45:29 PM
Thats the price we pay for looking for a custom fit in an off the rack world.
 Paddy O Furniture
Joined: 9/15/2006
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Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 12:56:11 PM

I'm with ya, brother. True on so many levels. You'd think we'd be more advanced. Where is the progress?


Yes, just look how far we've come.

Like Henley said "Glory Hallelujah! We're building the perfect beast"
 Paddy O Furniture
Joined: 9/15/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 4:05:16 PM
One thing is for certain. This business of finding love, soul-mates, companionship or whatever it is to be called is niether for the easily defeated or the quickly disillusioned.
 RANDYS72
Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 124
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 10:23:19 PM
I know why. I'm not like most guys . I don't go with the flow . I am different and have interests that are different than most .I have other faults but won't mention them here.
 Tinman2009
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 125
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:23:58 PM
It's a mathematical improbability that you can find a "soulmate" among the billions of people in the world (or the number of people that you meet over your life time). What are the odds of pulling the gold marble out of a jar full of red marbles? I'm not being negative, pesimistic or bitter about it, so don't try to psycho analyze this. I just like to deal with logic and reality.

Stop looking for her and you'll find her when you least expect it. My best relationships have happened when I wasn't looking.
 fra59e
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 126
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:20:07 AM
Swordfish sez:
Stop looking for her and you'll find her when you least expect it. My best relationships have happened when I wasn't looking.
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... to which I say: Yup. Absolutely. You meet great people when you stop seeking and just get out and be visible. And lose the fallacy of a "soulmate" and the absurd notion that you really, really should be "paired off" or "hooked up" or married. When you give your love freely to many, many persons, you soon find that love comes back to you because you become an attractive loving person. Google on the song "Magic Penny" by Malvina Reynolds and you will get the idea. The more you give, the more you have.
 cali-firefighter
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 130
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/19/2007 3:39:34 PM
well for one, most who say they cant find anything good, are just rejecting everyone they THINK isnt good enough. if you give the people who message you a chance, you may just find what youve been missing out on.
 cali-firefighter
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 132
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Posted: 3/19/2007 3:52:26 PM
well pink, too bad a guy whos 36 isnt allowed to seak to you, you may have never had to worry about that, again.
 Baba_Ganoosh
Joined: 6/27/2006
Msg: 135
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Posted: 3/19/2007 5:15:36 PM
I think a lot of the times we don't really know ourselves well enough to recognize when a soul mate has entered our lives...it's sorta like Maslow's theory of needs:

1 - Physiological needs are biological needs, such as the need for air, food, and water.
2 - Safety and security, including the need for order, limits, and protection.
3 - Social interaction and approval.
4 - Esteem needs, including the need for the respect of and recognition by others, and the need for self-respect.
5 - Self-actualization - the need of a human being to make the most of his or her abilities by growing and learning.

most people never reach that 5th state. i believe that is analagous to finding a soul-mate.

Maslow determined that people work to use their skills and add value to the team. in a relationship, both must contribute - so a team, therefore, is bigger than one person. A couple must learn to add value to the team - not an easy task. and sadly, 'teams' in America today have hit an all time low (~50% divorce rate)...

/Baba Out/
 aKeyPr
Joined: 9/17/2006
Msg: 138
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/19/2007 9:07:14 PM
the reason is because everybody is affraid to meet anyone from the internet dating, they just use the computer to show off what they really are not ! so if they were to meet they would have to live up to the bull crap they write down about them selves, its only text dreams of what they hope to be, i have nothing to hide and what i say of me is true and if there is any woman that not physicho or full of them selves wants to find out im all for it , and thats how it starts if you want a soul mate at least give yourself a chance and meet some of the people that give you the oppertunity to help you find that soul mate, thats the main reason online dating doesnt work its due to no one wants to ever meet, its all crap and a waste of time, im new to computers and date sites and if i would have known it was this fantasy land of lie and crap i would have never bought a computer , and that was my main reason is to find a good honest woman, and they say ya its safe and bla bla bla.... hahaha of coarse its safe cause NO ONE EVER WANTS TO MEET.......i was married for 18 years the only reason im single is my wife passed in 2005 and i didnt know where to find a woman that is honest kind and wants a good man , i never thought i would ever have to look cause i was planning to grow old with my wife, and here i am on the freakin computer wasting my time with all these fantasy want to be's, you will never find a soul mate if you dont give your self the chance, it has to start somewhere???????????
 fra59e
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 140
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Posted: 3/20/2007 9:27:49 PM
Maybe people who think there is such a thing as a "soul mate" are so focused on looking for that non-existent person that they miss seeing the reality of the fine people who cross their paths every day.

The concept of that mythical "soul mate" comes from Plato, who taught that you are not complete until you find your missing half. Well, phooey to that. I am interested in people who are already complete. My life is not about making up for anybody's deficiencies. The people I find most interesting are those who are not driven by neediness but recognize that they are already complete and fully human just as they are.
 Wreckless1
Joined: 2/22/2007
Msg: 142
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 6/26/2007 11:08:00 PM
Oh boy ... here is the million dollar question!!! Well, how many people on this planet??? .........then you have that many reasons. We are not made from molds, and were not run through an assembly line.... and yet at some places there is something close to a catalog, that charge you an enormous amount of $$$$ to help you in finding your mate across the country and across the oceans....

What is it this difficult when Mom and Dad were dating??? I do not think so!

But with technology, we expect...yeah EXPECT to locate what the heart desires, yet the key part of this arrangement.... is not getting north and north magnets. or is it North and South that attract?? Any way you look at it.... Most of us have been burnt, hurt, and used... so NOW we will no longer settle. WHat a world we live in!

Chances are if we just live our lives as full as possible, love will happen someplace along the way...... but we want love NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Wreckless1
Joined: 2/22/2007
Msg: 147
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 7/18/2007 11:00:45 PM
.....lookin to put a square peg in a round hole. Hmmmmmmmmmm
Someone has to change alil.
 Wreckless2
Joined: 9/13/2007
Msg: 150
Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 11/20/2007 5:48:11 PM
Hmmmm let me see.... still believe in what Wreckless1 stated!
But even if time is not on our side what exactly is?? Who has not crossed the path of "The one I want does not want me!!" ...and the colored girls go ..do, da do, da do.. do do do.!!!


When did we get so fockin picky!!! Is is so frustrating most will agree, but hey would you rather be paired up with someone you never met, to marry...as some other countries still practice today???

I mean for some it is as easy as using a website to weed out all the weirdos, creeps, jerks, Aholes, and perverts!! While others are just as happy to find them at there local church, school, or Home Depot... (can you find love there... for real??!) I think I will try this Saturday!!! JK....

Seriously folks... When will we allow others to cross our barriers, When they have proven themselves... you say!! Well I know from experience.... you cannot Win at love, if you do not participate!! Spectators keep dreamin, while the particpants may make it to the 4th quarter... so to speak... or maybe even a Grand Slam... well I like Dennys!! TTFN W2
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