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 Sefra
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 26
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Answer: Yes. I know this firsthand...cuz...I read about it in one of those pop psychology books written by hairy feminists.
 FitAussie
Joined: 12/25/2006
Msg: 27
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/9/2007 2:59:56 AM
I have a few mates who are considered very attractive,

they are definately not lonely. One long weekend, one of my mates had 3 different women for 3 nights. Another mate I hang out with, who women consider gorgeous, always has about 10 women texting him throughout the day. He can pick and choose and despite his shyness, he always has some date lined up. His looks carry him past his shyness.

On the other side, I have average looking mates, who haven't had a date in months or years. So I believe if an attractive person is lonely, it is their CHOICE. If an unattractive person is lonely, it isn't their CHOICE most of the time.
 Moontress
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 28
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/9/2007 3:13:15 AM
Patch, you made a really good point about confidence and co'ckiness. It's all about attitude and personality.

I personally don't think it's right to flat out call yourself hot even if you are (and in fact most of the people that say it, aren't really). It's ok to say 'yeah I'm think I'm fairly nice/ ok looking'. But to go straight out and act like your the hottest thing ever? That is just conceited.

Funny story. The other day a man on here sent me the message 'Want to talk to the hottest 34 year old?' His profile was basically all about how 'good looking' he was (and he wasn't. At least I didn't think so) and how all the girls say he's a Brad Pitt lookalike. But his egotistic demeanor as he talked only made look ugly. I told him not to be so arrogant if he hopes to find a good woman. He proceeded to call me 'lovely' names starting with the letters b and c. I left him with the message 'no wonder you're still single at 34'.
LOL some people. But you know, if you hit a nerve (especially with a stranger), you were usually right.
 Sid Valleyview
Joined: 9/4/2006
Msg: 29
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/9/2007 3:35:16 AM
By definition, the word "attractive", means likeable, desirable, having a gravitating force capable of pulling things toward it.

I think attractive people like to feel melancholy as much as lonely.

On the whole, I'd bet that there are vastly more lonely unattractive people in this superficial aesthetically stimulated world than there are lonely attractive people.

Also the definition of the word "lonely", may come under scrutiny here as well. Perhaps in some cases we could exchange it with "fussy" or having very discerning taste in members of the opposite sex.

Attractive women often complain of lack of attention from intimidated males. I think that is fair comment, but it would only relate to the fact that they never made a move on the guys either. Why? Only said attractive woman could answer that. Lets face it, if they consider themselves attractive they aren't short on confidence. So why no assertive action?
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/9/2007 5:26:42 AM
Eaglesfan7 - Hey - thanks for the compliment!! You live near me??!?!

I think your lady friend asks you about a girlfriend because seriously, sometimes
it is real hard to see why some of you are single - you are handsome and you have
tons to offer a Lady in a relationship, wether it be friendship or more.

I find myself asking guys the same thing - I just cant figure out why they are alone.

So, my advice to you and probably I should be taking my own advice - Get over it -
you are nice looking and you need to get on that confidence train!! Women find men
who are confident real, real sexy!!!! Get some -Fast!!!

Prettygrneyes37 - that flag - I think my flag broke off my mailbox!!! LOL!!
Your friend is a wise man.

Oh and Inner beauty - the most beautiful in the world - and If they cant see that - well then time to climb into that mailbox.
 WAGOOSH
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 31
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/9/2007 7:48:12 AM
In terms of loneliness, the only difference between attractive and unattractive (inside or out) is that being attractive means a person has more in the way of options. It doesn't mean that any greater percentage of those options is compatible and while those that aren't compatible might be available to offer the appearance of not being lonely, if it isn't a match you are still lonely on the inside.


Couldnt have put it any better myself ... story of my existence when it comes down to it ..... yes im attractive and have many options ,, but really havin the odds in your favor doesnt do much .. there just odds anyways .. being lonely is a strange thing one day its there and so erasable ,, a void it is ... but hey everyone faces it and has to endure .. its all about equality when it comes to this emotion .........
 papuse9
Joined: 9/30/2006
Msg: 32
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/9/2007 7:53:55 AM
Hello have you not seen all the gorgeous ladies in POF?
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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Posted: 1/10/2007 12:57:28 PM

OH COME ON BKRN2006 - YOU KNOW YOUR ATTRACTIVE - AT LEAST TO ME!!!LOL!!

thats Msg#15 LOL!!
 felicity168
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 34
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/10/2007 4:09:14 PM
Lonely...everyone might feel lonely sometimes and having a date doesn't mean you are not lonely.

Attractive or not attractive is not the issue. Key thing is whether you want a date or not. It all depends on you, you decide. There is always one there for everyone.

Of course dates won't come to your door. You have to make some efforts to make it happen. Prepare yourself. Be friendly, smile, humble, honest...for instance. Nice personality is way way more important than appearance as to get a date......seems like I am deviating from the topic...

 907daydreamer
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 35
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/10/2007 4:12:28 PM
Getting a date doesn't necessarily mean that you aren't lonely. Sure...you could spend your time with SOMEONE but if it isn't THE ONE what does it matter?
 Roamingsiris
Joined: 7/8/2006
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Posted: 1/10/2007 4:47:57 PM
Hell yes.

I belive that I am attractive.

Yet, again, tonight, im sitting at home, alone and bored.
 907daydreamer
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 37
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/10/2007 9:40:06 PM
dead on talista...

I was going to bring up the whole 'woe is me, I'm attractive' thing but that attitude isn't widely accepted on here. If you are attractive you have more people with more intentions to sift through. Not being lonely isn't as simple as being around people...it still requires being around people who understand you...people who honestly like you and don't just tolerate you so they can say they hang out with you.

If the topic of this thread is as it seems and we are talking about purely physically attractive people and how often they are lonely you may be surprised to learn that the numbers can't be far from those not considered physically attractive. My best guess is that it is the people of average physical appearance with other qualities that make them attractive that are the least lonely.
 Window 2 your Soul
Joined: 5/8/2006
Msg: 38
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/11/2007 7:11:15 PM
Yes, I think a lot of people are intimidated by me.
 newguyinventura
Joined: 5/18/2006
Msg: 39
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/11/2007 8:37:13 PM
Window, your picture intimidates me!
 eaglesfan7
Joined: 12/25/2006
Msg: 40
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/11/2007 8:58:26 PM
^^^^^Window 2 your Soul, i feel ya on that one. keep smiling and let people know whats on the inside-that's where it really counts anyway.
 markusmarkus
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 41
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/11/2007 9:07:41 PM
To be honest I think its harder for attractive people to find an date---first an attractive person see's themself and knows they are attractive so they are going to be fussy second an lot of attractive people use their looks to get things so they are used to using thirth an attractive person is accustom to being given gifts they are taught to take and forget to give forth they know they are desire and preyed on for the way they look and are seeking to be knowen so many do become lonely negative and miserable especailly when they have tooken it all for granted.
 romegaguy
Joined: 12/12/2006
Msg: 42
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:40:31 PM
I consider myself very nice looking but can't get any dates for some reason.
 Clematis
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 43
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/12/2007 1:27:03 AM
^^^^^^ That's not the point. Most of us could get lots of dates if we wanted to.

Yes, physically attractive people can be very lonely. For lots of different reasons. Perhaps they are depressed and life has been very nasty to them. Perhaps they have suffered from jealousy and betrayal from the ones whom they counted on to be there for them.

Pretty people are still just people and we all suffer sometimes. Right?

The best thing to do, is to get 'right' with the world and to be happy and to carry on and to be strong. Do what makes you feel good and strong. That's the only thing that matters. From that, everything else is 'born'.
 Window 2 your Soul
Joined: 5/8/2006
Msg: 44
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 1/31/2007 11:18:20 AM
PLZ....don't be scared of me I don't bite. Yes I am attractive..but... I am one of the most down to earth people that you could possiably meet. Why do people have to shy away? It really bothers me sometimes...Guess it doesn't help being a lawyer either.
 outkissingtoads
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 45
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 2/14/2007 12:26:47 PM
What do you mean by attractive...everyone is attractive to someone...and vesa versa. Do you mean...POP-attractive...Angelina Jolie types? I believe no matter who you are at one time or another you were or still get lonely. Believe it or not...it is more about personality type than looks.
 chclark521
Joined: 2/7/2007
Msg: 46
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 2/14/2007 4:22:40 PM
I think that lonelyness is a choice. some people may be to shy or just plain scared to socialize. Being married to a very attractive woman for more than ten year has tought me that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. She turned out to be a very bad person. Do not make the mistake of judging someone on there outword apperance it will and I say again it will leave you with a sence of what the hell was I thinking in the first place. look deeper into someone please. Trust me on this one. Attractive people want to be loved just as much as anyone else. They just dont know how to apreciate it.
 mern
Joined: 1/25/2007
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Posted: 2/15/2007 2:04:05 AM
Fear of rejection?? Typical Leo?? Hmm...I guess I can relate.

On that note, I've hardly had the courage to even attempt to find dates and such. Based on what I've been told, I'm at least above average looking, and I've probably had enough opportunity for more than a few chances for dates. Unfortunately I suck at picking up signals, as well as acting on the ones I do pick up. Friends have occasionally told me "Dude!! She totally wanted you!!" and slapped me upside the head for "screwing it up".

I suppose it has to do with me being on the lookout for a potential long term relationship rather than a fling. I feel lonely sometimes, but I take a little pride for not needing someone there all the time. Some people date just to be with someone, even if it's for a short time, just so they won't be alone. I'd rather be alone for 5 years than have a fling. I'm seriously looking for potential wife material, but that's just me.

What were we talking about?? I'm tired.....
 lilian76
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Posted: 2/15/2007 12:33:09 PM
if a normal man see a too beautiful woman he might be affraid to aproach her ,because he can be affraid to be refused.[that would be his mistake-too much pride]
But i must admit that the beautiful woman can have too much pride herself and behave unbeareble .Or she can be a beautyful "ice berg"...
ANY WAY,WHO DO NOT TRY CANNOT WIN...
 markusmarkus
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 49
is it possible for attractive people to be very lonely?
Posted: 2/15/2007 1:22:51 PM
I think as we go through life we all experience the same feelings but have a habit of making our's look worse than the next. I think life is a form of shock treatment preparing us for the next stage to stimulate growth within us. I think human-beings have been given such strong will that they will sit still right where they are as long as it feels good to them stagnanted. I think the reason it seems worse for some than others is because to stimulate growth it takes more that's why it's said "God will never give you more than you can handle" the stronger the will the more that is given. We are all on the same course being taught the same things to grow with nature free flowing letting it happen all is given as long as we flow with the gifts given inside of us. Lonilness is part of life that one must feel nomatter what they look like to get to the desired place they truly belong.
 AbstractAstra
Joined: 1/31/2007
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Posted: 2/15/2007 1:42:36 PM
I think it's more than possible; it's inevitable. Anyone can be lonely, and even if you're with someone you can still be lonely.
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