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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 373
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?Page 10 of 21    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21)

Also, I found out with the one person who's personally initiated a chat that some people may just be asking their friends to write testimonies to make them look good. This particular girl acted nothing like what the two guys wrote on her profile about her...she was quite the opposite and couldn't even carry on a conversation via text. Why she asked me if I wanted to chat and then gave me her # if she wasn't going to respond to my polite questions half the time is beyond me. I can only assume she's an attention seeker. She definitely wasn't someone I'd be able to even build a friendship with. One-word text message responses absolutely annoy me!

Maybe she just didn't like to text. Did you try calling her instead?
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 375
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 4/4/2010 3:35:13 PM
I read testimonials from family members, but if there from past dates I am thinking hmmm.

Why didn't you continue if this person was so fabulous?
I love testimonials from kids though.
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 387
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/9/2010 10:44:15 PM
I pay good for the testimonies on my profile so they stay. However, I can agree that in some situations the testimonials are downright creepy. Some read as a warning because someone else has staked a claim. Next... the only drama I'm interested in is in the movie I'm watching or book I'm reading.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 389
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/10/2010 7:29:46 AM
Why is it so hard to understand that people who are mature enough to realize they have a lifestyle difference yet see that another person is a great catch? I had/have friends and FWB's who are great catches...just not for me...Sometimes it's because they have an activity that dominates their life others it's something like them smoking....it doesn't make them bad, just not for me. yet I can see that they would be a great catch for someone who was into the same stuff they were.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 392
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/10/2010 10:35:10 AM
They are there as an ego boost for the person who needs them---apparently any modicum of attention, even if it's dripping with sarcasm, is better than none at all.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 395
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/10/2010 3:38:07 PM
People don't want to see a prospective date's FWB pics plastered on the profile of the person they are considering meeting or dating!

Wow! there's a big assumption on YOUR part! But to me that would be GOOD....It gives me insight....and I wouldn't want to waste my time on someone who makes such assumptions.


I consider the men with testimonials something un-dateable. Because if I like him enough to date why would I write to everyone how good he is...I'd rather date him myself.


The point is...maybe you dated the person, maybe not...but you KNOW them and whatever the reason....you both KNOW you're not right for each other.


Have you people every come across a BIKER?, a TREKKIE, an AVID EXTREME SPORTS PERSON...etc.?

I have...I thought they where wonderful people in some cases...but their lifestyle didn't suit mine. On the other hand someone into or more accepting of those lifestyles might be perfectly fine with those people. In every walk of life, regardless of lifestyle, there are D-Bags....a testimonial is a way of someone who KNOWS the person to confirm that they don't think the person is a D-Bag.

It's no different than one of your friends significant others telling you about a guy/girl they know that is great but single....


....Grow up people! Geesh!

 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 398
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/10/2010 10:52:45 PM
No sanyoman, I don't really pay for testimonials. That
was me being a smarta$$.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 399
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/11/2010 12:36:39 PM
I'm not suggesting that there's anything wrong with your particular profile or that you have to change it up, but if even 1/4 of the female population find something about a profile that causes them to avoid it, is that a "good ad?"


Um, no...it would be a TERRIBLE ad......a GREAT ad would eliminate 99.9% of the population.....so only the type that have POTENTIAL for me are attracted to it!


Now, you're getting the picture....I DON'T WANT a lot of responses...I want the RIGHT responses....


I don't want to date a a lot of women to find out this or that doesn't fit....my profile is designed to ELIMINATE women with whom I won't get along with.


See everyone is looking for the needle in the haystack but they keep forking more and more hay onto the stack......if you want to find the needle, set the hay on fire....wait until the only thing left is the needle....a VERY HOT needle! lol!
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 400
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/11/2010 1:27:44 PM
For me testimonial look like another cheesy marketing ploy and are fairly easy to fabricate. I look at them as being as believable as the ads on tv. For me someone with testimonials on their profile looks like they are trying too hard. I prefer to come to my own conclusions about another person rather than rely on those of strangers. So I would have to say a turn off for me. Just my opinion for what its worth.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 402
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/11/2010 5:24:26 PM

Gotcha! You want a woman who is able to look past an endless stream of FWBs, and compare herself to them before she even writes.



He he....the RIGHT woman wouldn't be so insecure as to feel the need to compare herself to ANYBODY, she would be confident enough and secure enough to KNOW she's got them beat!
Ha! you tell so much of yourself....without even realizing it!

I won't date another insecure woman or a prude....been there, done that!
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 403
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/11/2010 6:53:50 PM


Gotcha! You want a woman who is able to look past an endless stream of FWBs, and compare herself to them before she even writes.




He he....the RIGHT woman wouldn't be so insecure as to feel the need to compare herself to ANYBODY, she would be confident enough and secure enough to KNOW she's got them beat!
Ha! you tell so much of yourself....without even realizing it!

I won't date another insecure woman or a prude....been there, done that!


It's human nature for both men and women to subconsciously compare themselves to the competition that's out there. Just because a woman does this doesn't mean that she's insecure or that she will conclude that she's lacking. If anything, the person who feels the need to collect testimonials for validation and as proof that others of the opposite sex find them desirable is the one who is insecure.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 405
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/11/2010 8:39:34 PM

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Ha! you tell so much of yourself....without even realizing it!



Of course I do, because I don't ask peeps to write testimonials for me! I could always ask my BF to write one for me, but wouldn't that be redundant? Also begs the question - if your BF writes you a testimonial on PoF, shouldn't you wonder why?

Tootles.........


....makes no sense!

Neither does being on a dating site if you have a BF/GF....Oh, yeah....it's for the FORUMS.......and just in case.....
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 407
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/13/2010 2:49:58 PM
I consider the testimonies I write a civic duty to warn others about the people I have met!!!


OR to warn others about the people you DON'T want to meet! Most users delete unflattering testimonials, but I had one stubborn user who wouldn't do it. Instead, he continued to make negative retaliatory remarks against me in his profile---until I changed my testimonial to a more sarcastic, albeit less confrontational one.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 410
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/15/2010 7:57:37 PM

Epic failure if this “sarcastic, albeit less confrontation one......” isn’t also accompanied by the little emoticons so many use online---those supposedly showing all this sarcasm etc etc. Oh wait---those don’t exist do they? LOL Anyone foolish enough to leave an unflattering testimonial that also allows others to see their profiles too leave themselves open to the same ridicule they hope to convey. Can’t see how an unflattering testimonial could be anything but counterproductive! IF someone leaves a bad testimonial I’d ask both parties about it---compare the different stories etc---wonder what tales we’d hear then huh? Would someone who gives any credence to a "bad testimonial" left displayed on purpose be anything more than greatly amused by it? Nawh----not hardly!

Also, can’t testimonials be deleted by either the profile owner or the testimonial author? If it remains yet who’s the stubborn one then? Another epic failure I sense..............


Feh. (smirk)
 HeyJenny
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 412
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/10/2010 9:39:20 PM
The only ones that I've seen remind me of the tacky photos where sleazy men love to show that they can put their arms around some either drunk or half-naked women who are usually getting paid to be nice to the customers for some promotion. I HATE photos like that but at the same time it's good to know who to avoid.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 414
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/4/2010 9:46:00 PM
Why do people insist on wearing out the tired line of: "If the person is so great, why aren't you with them?"
That is the most childish logic ever...let's see...maybe:

The OTHER person didn't feel the same.
There are lifestyle differences that prevent a moving forward.
They're good friends but not botanically compatible.
One is taken now.

There are a myriad of reasons you can think someone is great but not for YOU.

Geesh!


Successful profile? Hell yes! When you can downgrade your response rate to 0.01%, you’ll know you’ve had a successful ad campaign too. Good luck with that.......



Facepalm! I guess MY strategy works since I'm now seeing someONE! ...NOT someNINETYNINE!

LOL... designing a profile to eliminate is the secure persons way of finding the RIGHT one rather than being able to brag about getting tons of contacts!
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 417
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/5/2010 3:13:20 PM

I don't see any relevance to testimonials because everyone will have a different opinion, and I don't want to hear that other persons opinion

Look past the testimonial itself and maybe consider the quantity of testimonials..... I think it's a good testament when a lot of people post testimonials on a person's profile. It kinda suggests the person spoken about has, at the least, a good understanding of communicating with others.

Everything else may be subjective but I think this is a case where quantity does mean more than quality
 Captain_Wayne
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 418
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/5/2010 7:56:59 PM
I agree. It is sorta like a guy telling you that he test-drove a Mercury and liked it. Gee, that is what I want to know, who laid her before I got there.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 419
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/5/2010 9:47:39 PM

I agree. It is sorta like a guy telling you that he test-drove a Mercury and liked it. Gee, that is what I want to know, who laid her before I got there

I guess you're looking for a virgin.
Unfortunately due to the nature of dating sites many people look at testimonials and interpret them as a sexual innuendo. I learned rather quickly that we soometimes fool ourselves
 Captain_Wayne
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 420
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/6/2010 7:06:43 AM
"I guess you're looking for a virgin."

Nope, not even. Just not interested in knowing who gave her a test drive. When you were in high school did you have your mom call girls you were interested in and tell them what a great choice you would be? Not trying to be smartass here, but it is an apt analogy.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 422
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/6/2010 6:41:25 PM
Not necessarily. I like going on forumites profiles, and reading testimonials about how "great," "wonderful" and "amazing" they are. These people must be 10x the person I am.
 JAD2011
Joined: 1/9/2011
Msg: 427
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2011 8:17:46 PM
Personally I see testimonials as a turn-off.

If the person has testimonals from past dates on their profile I pass them on by. I don't want someone who either can't commit, or needs to have someone sing their praises in hopes of getting dates or whatever.

Just my humble opinion though.

JAD
 SpringsDiver
Joined: 7/2/2011
Msg: 430
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/21/2011 8:54:44 AM

Vchuksor - Hi I need to know how u can read your own testimonial.....How can I see these so I have a chance to take back my honor .


Your post was extremely difficult to decipher. If I understand it correctly, you want to delete a testimonial you left for someone else. If you click on Favorites, then Find out who has selected you as a favorite, find the person who's testimonial you want to remove and click Remove to remove YOU from their list of Favorites, i think it will also remove the testimonial you wrote.

If you want to check before doing this, go to the link below and ask your question.

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingForum4.aspx
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